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The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.
My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.
Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx |
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"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.
My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.
Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx"
I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much |
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"Yeah 30 weeks 2lb 3 lovely x
Wow! I was a 1lb smaller at 23 week's and don't know how I survived! Very sorry to hear  x
My son was 27 weeks and also 2lb 3 "
This is why my chosen charity is tommy's, they specialise in research into the causes of premature births, I'm in the process of making dozens of hats for neonatal wards across the country |
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"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.
My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.
Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx
I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much"
I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x
Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit. |
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"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.
My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.
Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx
I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much
I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x
Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit."
Ooh thank you for that! I crochet so I can make tiny hats in 10 minutes so I'll definitely see about doing that! X |
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"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.
My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.
Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx
I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much
I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x
Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit.
Ooh thank you for that! I crochet so I can make tiny hats in 10 minutes so I'll definitely see about doing that! X"
I tried to learn how to knit but its so hard |
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Sending big hugs to you and your family. Its an absolutely devastating time for you all. I lost my first son 10 years ago and it still hurts now. Then my niece...
In fact, big hugs to anyone who has suffered the loss of a child. Its the most painful thing to go through and live with.
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My great condolences to you and your family. Loss of someone never really goes it just eases as you try to move forward.
I lost my best friend and grandfather during the Christmas holidays. Hardest time of my life. |
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Losing a baby is heart breaking. I lost five babies. Not a day goes by when I dont think of them. Youneed to grieve the loss. The pain eases and you learn to cope with it.
So sorry to you and all your family at this sad time. |
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Im sorry to hear this, havent been through it myself but have a friend who has lost babies during pregnancy, still cant begin to imagine how you and your family feel. sending a hug to you all x |
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There are no words that can take away pain only time and there is no set time for it, it takes as long as it takes for it to get easier. Its important to grieve and go through the process for the heart to heal, and it does eventually. My thoughts go out to you and your family. |
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Times a great healer,stay possitive 
JMO but Id rather them die than suffer. I lost a 14 month old nephew to cancer,I even carried the little white coffin. I try not to mourn deaths,bein optimistic I celebrate their lives. PMA and chin up dude  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Take time and accept what you are feeling. Be aware of what the parents and grandparents are feeling. You all grieve but some will take longer to move through the stages. There is no right or wrong and time does work its healing powers.
This time of year I feel the loss of all of my babies. My very prem son was the only one born alive and 22 years on I still see his little face when I wake.
Yeats' The Cloths of Heaven is the poem that I turn to as it speaks of my grief that my hopes of losing the potential my son had was such a delicate thing. |
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"The pain never goes away, you just slowly learn to deal with it better.
My daughter died 3 years ago, she was 2 weeks old. I kept it bottled up and developed bad anxiety issues. You will all learn to smile again one day but for now just take each day at it comes, remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve and try to find an outlet, where it be writing, talking or doing some proactive.
Things will get better, just be kind to yourself and those around you xx
I took up fire staff. 1. Because it's dangerous and 2. It was the only way to vent my anger after having an abortion due to no growth. I stopped washing myself, changing my clothes, going out, but I snapped out of it when I started my new job a month later, I still feel depressed but not as much
I was the same, I had a hellish year and a bit, I got a job and 'snapped out of it' but then quit that (due to the hours) and I've started sinking again, I couldn't even leave the house full stop before and I'm determined not to let it get to that this time, I need to keep myself busy x
Lisa Stars is a fab charity that needs people knitting clothing, tiny moses baskets and tiny teddies etc if anyone has some spare time and can knit.
Ooh thank you for that! I crochet so I can make tiny hats in 10 minutes so I'll definitely see about doing that! X
I tried to learn how to knit but its so hard "
Try crocheting, much easier and faster and I taught myself through YouTube |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well hasn't this thread brought things into perspective.
It's so sad reading all your stories, and experiences, I can't come close to imagining how you all feel. I don't and god forbid, hope I never will. It's gut wrenching.
Sending much love x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"SANDS is another great organisation who give advice and help...
Thanks for mentioning them. They are fantastic and don't have as high a profile."
one of my friends lost her girl at 13 days old... She fundraises for them now...
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I never saw my baby I had a miscarriage but it's heart breaking one day you are pregnant the next day you are not but still having to deal with the side effects of being pregnant until the pregnancy hormones disappear...I've not been the same person since then but it's got easier |
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By *inky pWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry for ur whole family's loss.my boy was 11wks early 2lb 12.survived but was a very scary time for me.things happen for a
Reason .maybe his quality of life would have been limited.some prem babies suffer so much it's heart breAking.at least ur niece has a loving family to help her through this.think of him with angel wings,alwAys there to watch over his mum.big heartfelt hug to all who met him xx |
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