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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is coming off from a post on another thread,
It shocks me how many OH do things that they don't enjoy to please their OH!
Surely all the boundaries and do's and don'ts are discussed before entering the world of swinging?
So why would one half of a partnership do something they didn't want to do or even enjoy just to please the other half?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I've done things that I didn't think I would enjoy. My motivation was because to see my partner pleasured I would get pleasure. Ironically some of my best times ever have been during those times.
However if we tried something and I hated it... We wouldn't do it again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have seen this many times ( not yet on this site)
But it was some woman going along with things, no mind of their own.
Just made them look a bit needy and desparate to me.
Proberly frightened of losing the other one.
Beyond me if you have no mind of your own , well its just needy in my book. |
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"Sometimes I've done things that I didn't think I would enjoy. My motivation was because to see my partner pleasured I would get pleasure. Ironically some of my best times ever have been during those times.
However if we tried something and I hated it... We wouldn't do it again x"
If he knew how you felt would he feel pleasured I'm not sure I would feel pleasured if I knew my partner was doing something they disliked |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok I get the trying something once just to see if you like it, but if you tried it once or you know in your head that you really don't want to do it or that you don't like it, why do it again? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't feel pleasures at all at anyone going along with the sake of keeping me happy its not natural.
Things should be spoken about at the start, and ok if things crop up along the way they should be discussed.
If each do not like certain things it should be respected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I've done things that I didn't think I would enjoy. My motivation was because to see my partner pleasured I would get pleasure. Ironically some of my best times ever have been during those times.
However if we tried something and I hated it... We wouldn't do it again x
If he knew how you felt would he feel pleasured I'm not sure I would feel pleasured if I knew my partner was doing something they disliked "
I guess it depends if the dislike is experientially based or based on assumptions that I won't like something. I've been gobsmacked to find out what I actually enjoy that I never would have found out, without being willing to experiment and explore. 
However I would never do it if I felt coerced.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok I get the trying something once just to see if you like it, but if you tried it once or you know in your head that you really don't want to do it or that you don't like it, why do it again? "
I didn't like sex the first time I did it. I am seriously glad I did it again  |
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