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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So i met a hot cpl, had a good few hours of hot sex and fun! All great on leaving the promises of verifications and meeting again blah blah!! They accept and post my verification but then dont verify my in return and now ignore messages! If they didnt enjoy why post my verification?? Seem very very rude to me!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe they just haven't got round to it"
Been a week and they are on all the time! Had time to accept and post my verification but haven't even read the message saying about enjoying the night sent the next day!!
Seems very rude can a verification be recalled ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have 5 meeting in person verifications so don't see what the need is for anymore really. They may have been busy. We wait till we both have time to sit down and do it together. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yep! When was the meet?
Hoping it wasn't recent and they don't read this or you may have blown your chance of getting one.
Some people take their time - there's no rush!!
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Im not worried about meeting again i can accept that bit, its posting mine but not having the decency to return the kindness! Just seems like a rude thing to do! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have 5 meeting in person verifications so don't see what the need is for anymore really. They may have been busy. We wait till we both have time to sit down and do it together. "
Its not a "need" thing its a curtesy thing i am questioning??
I choose to show 5 i have others but if others think its acceptable to be happy enough to post a verification from someone but not provide them a verification then maybe i am just too nice and expect others to be just as nice in mistake  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"So i met a hot cpl, had a good few hours of hot sex and fun! All great on leaving the promises of verifications and meeting again blah blah!! They accept and post my verification but then dont verify my in return and now ignore messages! If they didnt enjoy why post my verification?? Seem very very rude to me!!
Thoughts??? "
Same thing has happened to me. If someone doesn't want to verify or they just don't do them I think that is just fine. Their choice. There is no obligation whatsoever and they don't owe anyone a verification.
However, to accept and display one without a reciprocation is a little rude.
When it happened to me I chose not to block him as my veri was the only one he had. Single guys perhaps need them more to show they are genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So i met a hot cpl, had a good few hours of hot sex and fun! All great on leaving the promises of verifications and meeting again blah blah!! They accept and post my verification but then dont verify my in return and now ignore messages! If they didnt enjoy why post my verification?? Seem very very rude to me!!
Thoughts???
Same thing has happened to me. If someone doesn't want to verify or they just don't do them I think that is just fine. Their choice. There is no obligation whatsoever and they don't owe anyone a verification.
However, to accept and display one without a reciprocation is a little rude.
When it happened to me I chose not to block him as my veri was the only one he had. Single guys perhaps need them more to show they are genuine. "
So if i block them my verification is removed from their profile??
I find the "blanking" most rude if they didn't enjoy then hey ho they could say so or not accept/display the verification! They were happily saying they definitely would as i was leaving it was a long session and a good one as far as i believed then silence??? Chalk one for experience but was just after the wider _iews!!  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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This irritates me when it happens but it's not a big deal all things considered.
I do wonder what I did wrong though and why they wouldn't want to associate themselves with me, or even verify I turned up. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"This irritates me when it happens but it's not a big deal all things considered.
I do wonder what I did wrong though and why they wouldn't want to associate themselves with me, or even verify I turned up."
The fact that they both accept and display yours is more irritating. |
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"So i met a hot cpl, had a good few hours of hot sex and fun! All great on leaving the promises of verifications and meeting again blah blah!! They accept and post my verification but then dont verify my in return and now ignore messages! If they didnt enjoy why post my verification?? Seem very very rude to me!!
Thoughts???
Same thing has happened to me. If someone doesn't want to verify or they just don't do them I think that is just fine. Their choice. There is no obligation whatsoever and they don't owe anyone a verification.
However, to accept and display one without a reciprocation is a little rude.
When it happened to me I chose not to block him as my veri was the only one he had. Single guys perhaps need them more to show they are genuine.
So if i block them my verification is removed from their profile??
I find the "blanking" most rude if they didn't enjoy then hey ho they could say so or not accept/display the verification! They were happily saying they definitely would as i was leaving it was a long session and a good one as far as i believed then silence??? Chalk one for experience but was just after the wider _iews!! "
Blocking them just so your veri disappears seems a bit petty. As has already been said, maybe they're just taking their time. Maybe only one of them has been logged on at a time and they want to write it together. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"You shouldn't really give to receive it's true ... but it is a tad annoying and yes not quite the done thing !!!  "
I don't. If they leave one (which is invariably the case) fine. But when they say they had a good time and they will do a veri (before I have even mentioned it), then accept and display yours, then message you to say thank you and that they will do you one 'later' yet still don't. Well that's a little bit rude. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You shouldn't really give to receive it's true ... but it is a tad annoying and yes not quite the done thing !!!
I don't. If they leave one (which is invariably the case) fine. But when they say they had a good time and they will do a veri (before I have even mentioned it), then accept and display yours, then message you to say thank you and that they will do you one 'later' yet still don't. Well that's a little bit rude. "
They said they would leave one as i was leaving their house!! Then posted mine! and although have been on loads in the last week not even read the message to say thanks for a good time i sent the day after!! Seems they got their fix so thats that?? Not complaining about the sex though it was a horny night lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Blocking them just so your veri disappears seems a bit petty. As has already been said, maybe they're just taking their time. Maybe only one of them has been logged on at a time and they want to write it together. "
Seems more petty to accept and post but not to verify back?? But hey thats just my _iew!! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"You shouldn't really give to receive it's true ... but it is a tad annoying and yes not quite the done thing !!!
I don't. If they leave one (which is invariably the case) fine. But when they say they had a good time and they will do a veri (before I have even mentioned it), then accept and display yours, then message you to say thank you and that they will do you one 'later' yet still don't. Well that's a little bit rude.
They said they would leave one as i was leaving their house!! Then posted mine! and although have been on loads in the last week not even read the message to say thanks for a good time i sent the day after!! Seems they got their fix so thats that?? Not complaining about the sex though it was a horny night lol "
It's their problem not yours. Block them so you're not tempted to message them and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You shouldn't really give to receive it's true ... but it is a tad annoying and yes not quite the done thing !!!
I don't. If they leave one (which is invariably the case) fine. But when they say they had a good time and they will do a veri (before I have even mentioned it), then accept and display yours, then message you to say thank you and that they will do you one 'later' yet still don't. Well that's a little bit rude.
They said they would leave one as i was leaving their house!! Then posted mine! and although have been on loads in the last week not even read the message to say thanks for a good time i sent the day after!! Seems they got their fix so thats that?? Not complaining about the sex though it was a horny night lol
It's their problem not yours. Block them so you're not tempted to message them and move on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i met a hot cpl, had a good few hours of hot sex and fun! All great on leaving the promises of verifications and meeting again blah blah!! They accept and post my verification but then dont verify my in return and now ignore messages! If they didnt enjoy why post my verification?? Seem very very rude
Thoughts???
Same thing has happened to me. If someone doesn't want to verify or they just don't do them I think that is just fine. Their choice. There is no obligation whatsoever and they don't owe anyone a verification.
However, to accept and display one without a reciprocation is a little rude.
When it happened to me I chose not to block him as my veri was the only one he had. Single guys perhaps need them more to show they are genuine.
So if i block them my verification is removed from their profile??
I find the "blanking" most rude if they didn't enjoy then hey ho they could say so or not accept/display the verification! They were happily saying they definitely would as i was leaving it was a long session and a good one as far as i believed then silence??? Chalk one for experience but was just after the wider _iews!!
Blocking them just so your veri disappears seems a bit petty. As has already been said, maybe they're just taking their time. Maybe only one of them has been logged on at a time and they want to write it together. "
How is that petty ? After they have accepted his and shown it plus they are a couple so will get meets a lot easier than a single male on here. Also they are ignoring his messages which is rude especially after they have met they should atleast reply and say sorry not interested or waiting for both of us to be on here to leave you a veri then he knows where he stands. |
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"So i met a hot cpl, had a good few hours of hot sex and fun! All great on leaving the promises of verifications and meeting again blah blah!! They accept and post my verification but then dont verify my in return and now ignore messages! If they didnt enjoy why post my verification?? Seem very very rude
Thoughts???
Same thing has happened to me. If someone doesn't want to verify or they just don't do them I think that is just fine. Their choice. There is no obligation whatsoever and they don't owe anyone a verification.
However, to accept and display one without a reciprocation is a little rude.
When it happened to me I chose not to block him as my veri was the only one he had. Single guys perhaps need them more to show they are genuine.
So if i block them my verification is removed from their profile??
I find the "blanking" most rude if they didn't enjoy then hey ho they could say so or not accept/display the verification! They were happily saying they definitely would as i was leaving it was a long session and a good one as far as i believed then silence??? Chalk one for experience but was just after the wider _iews!!
Blocking them just so your veri disappears seems a bit petty. As has already been said, maybe they're just taking their time. Maybe only one of them has been logged on at a time and they want to write it together.
How is that petty ? After they have accepted his and shown it plus they are a couple so will get meets a lot easier than a single male on here. Also they are ignoring his messages which is rude especially after they have met they should atleast reply and say sorry not interested or waiting for both of us to be on here to leave you a veri then he knows where he stands. "
It's only been a week! That's hardly long enough to decide that they are ignoring his messages and won't write him a veri in return. As you've just pointed out, they're a couple, perhaps only one of them has been using the site and doesn't want to write the veri before discussing it with the other partner. As for ignoring his message(s), the whole read/unread/deleted debate has been played over and over, people read far too much into the state of their sent box. In my opinion it's the sites worst feature and there would be a lot less moaning on the forums about rudeness and single guys getting ignored if it was gotten rid of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i met a hot cpl, had a good few hours of hot sex and fun! All great on leaving the promises of verifications and meeting again blah blah!! They accept and post my verification but then dont verify my in return and now ignore messages! If they didnt enjoy why post my verification?? Seem very very rude to me!!
Thoughts??? "
If they are ignoring you send a message saying...."Errr the johnny split" They WILL reply then 
Then reply Early April Fool!
Reality though its probably better not to have a verification from someone who is funny in not a ha ha way. I would probably give it a week and block them if you want your verification off their profile. And.....Smile they don't really mean much after the first few. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"This irritates me when it happens but it's not a big deal all things considered.
I do wonder what I did wrong though and why they wouldn't want to associate themselves with me, or even verify I turned up.
The fact that they both accept and display yours is more irritating. "
Agreed.
It ticked me off even more when I had a social with someone and wrote a well considered veri that he messaged to thank me for and compliment me on, and then not only didn't write one in return but also messaged me and asked for a play meet.
He didn't get the play meet on the grounds of not being interested enough to write me a veri. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people just don't like writing verifications...I've met a few guys who haven't left me a veri and it's just one of those things really. Most I've remained in contact with and met again afterwards, including a guy I was meeting pretty regularly for about 18mths. I guess I can see why some see it as rude if they display the veri you've left, but I can't honestly say it bothers me. Think some assume that once you have a few veris you won't be as bothered about getting more...or they're just lazy?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some ppl r quite happy to show a verification from sumone but not return the favour. Block them, then they lose yours on their profile "
But why would you do that? Are they any less genuinely what they say they are because of this? Any less a couple? Did they turn up as arranged? Did he fuck them any less? Veris are there to say that people are what they purport to be not some kind of character reference and what happened between them didn't suddenly not happen because of a sense of aggrievement on the part of the op... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well its interesting to see the many different _iews! Some think rudeness is ok, some people are rude too, some think its not rude, some dont care either way! Some like myself think its rude to accept and display a verification without taking a minute to provide the same curtesy! All in all its not the end of the world. And as for the odd person who has stated that its only a week! They are online everyday, have not replied since the meet and so i think its hardly due to not getting a chance, its a seemingly deliberate lack of contact! If they didn't accept my verification in the same time and post it on their profile in the time, then i wouldn't have thought anything of it to be honest!
Anyway thanks all for the feedback and input, its always good to see the rest of the sites _iews!!
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I look at like giving Christmas cards. Some people send them and some don't.
I leave verifications for people and I like receiving them but I never expect them, even if I have given one.
I also know couples that wait until they are both together to write the verifications. Just because they appear to be online doesn't mean they both are and are together.
Did you enjoy the meet? Would you meet them again? If the answer is no then go ahead and block them and put it down to experience.
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