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over a year ago
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Why am I worries about sleeping with someone else? I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years and have been devoted to him. But I'm worried about sleeping with someone else.. How do I overcome that :-/ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You don't have to simple 
Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with x"
Thanks Hun. I actually want to though, always think about it and he really wants me to do it too. He has slept with other women but I just get really worried about it. Doing me head in |
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"Why am I worries about sleeping with someone else? I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years and have been devoted to him. But I'm worried about sleeping with someone else.. How do I overcome that :-/"
What are you worried about? Keep love emotions out of it, it's physical sex. Hugely intense feelings at times but don't mistake sex feelings for anything else. |
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"So if you want to , which part do you think is stopping you ? What's your fear ? "
I think because I've always been a one women man so to speak I feel as though if I do I'm cheating. I know it sounds funny it's just gut Instinct and something I need to get over |
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"So if you want to , which part do you think is stopping you ? What's your fear ?
I think because I've always been a one women man so to speak I feel as though if I do I'm cheating. I know it sounds funny it's just gut Instinct and something I need to get over "
You'll get over it once you get your leg over and if hubby is there encouraging you, then all to the good! Have fun!  |
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ok, have to ask, you dont meet separate, so you have seen him have sex with someone else in front of you, yes?
how did that feel for you?
would you not feel you would get the same pleasure from doing it yourself in front of him?
im with notts on this, if you are worried, dont do it until you are 100000000000% happy and comfortable it is exactly what you want to do, not a fantasy, not a pleasurable thought, but steadfastly, something you are actually ready, and prepared to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if you want to , which part do you think is stopping you ? What's your fear ?
I think because I've always been a one women man so to speak I feel as though if I do I'm cheating. I know it sounds funny it's just gut Instinct and something I need to get over "
see, im with you on this.
V has expressed an interest in watching me have sex with someone, but i really dont want to for the same reason as you have expressed, so you arent alone |
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I think perhaps this swinging world we dip into makes some feel like everyone is doing everything
That's not true - there are many soft swing people who will never go further and why should they, if that's what makes them happy.
That said, if you really are sure you want to I think _rightonsteves comment above rings true.
Just be sure it's what you want though as there's no going back  |
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when we started out i felt exactly the same but once i bit the bullet and did the deed and saw how horny it made hubby then i knew it was ok to enjoy other cocks and have been doing so for over 10 years now
what your feeling is normal, don't rush yourself it took years for me to make that final step i had to be certain i was comfortable with it and when i was i loved it |
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"In my experience nerves and worrying go out the window once you start fucking.
Lol hmm I think you're right. I momentarily forget I have a fat tummy  "
And i forget the guys who's wife i'm doing has gotta a cock 2 inches bigger then mine lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hey I have spoken with your profile a few times, if you wish to take a look at my profile I would be interested in meeting you when you was really for no pressure relaxed sexual fun
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience nerves and worrying go out the window once you start fucking.
Lol hmm I think you're right. I momentarily forget I have a fat tummy And i forget the guys who's wife i'm doing has gotta a cock 2 inches bigger then mine lol"
 I think they call it "in the zone"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my experience nerves and worrying go out the window once you start fucking.
Lol hmm I think you're right. I momentarily forget I have a fat tummy And i forget the guys who's wife i'm doing has gotta a cock 2 inches bigger then mine lol
I think they call it "in the zone" "
yep, in the horny zone lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get stupidly nervous before every new meet, so for that reason I always do a social first, if we click and it goes well, the nerves disappear and the rest just follows |
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as others have said it'll happen organically when your ready theres no need to jump straight in at the deep end
meet a single guy for a drink, or to just watch yourselves together then progress to touching, soft swap, full swap on different occassions, you will know what you want to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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meet more couples and maybe it will happen more organically.
nothing better than everyone doing something rather than feeling you are putting on a show, as it were |
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I felt like this for a long time before I began to play.
I have always been completely devoted and faithful to my man,and I have always loved sex,so when my hubby asked me about playing we fantasized about it first and discussed it for a long time. I would randomly blurt out a question to him at the oddest moments, but it is what we needed to do.
We discussed anything and everything that bothered us, scared us and even excited us. any concerns I had about him feeling different about me afterwards (this was my main concern) he was honest and said he wouldn't and if he did in the slightest we would deal with it.
We were honest and thorough and set our own rules and boundaries and did it when I was ready.
I decided when the time was right, with no pressure and I decided on the people, I was very comfortable and relaxed and very turned on at how horny it made the hubby, now I get the best of both worlds, a loving caring sexy honest grounded relationship and I also get to have pussy and/or cock whenever I like, whilst pleasing the other half. The only advice I will offer is just be honest, take your time, discuss any concerns and do it when you are ready to, I will say this though if your doubting it don't do it. You need to be 100% sure you are both happy about it.
But I am sure you will enjoy it as much as I do. |
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"Why am I worries about sleeping with someone else? I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years and have been devoted to him. But I'm worried about sleeping with someone else.. How do I overcome that :-/"
It's not mandatory...is it?!!  |
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Sounds likes confidence thing, just take your time and try and focus on what you want, and how it'll feel.
If you can't overcome that worry then don't it could be your body trying to warn you that a fantasy is just that and nothing more. |
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"Why am I worries about sleeping with someone else? I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years and have been devoted to him. But I'm worried about sleeping with someone else.. How do I overcome that :-/
It's not mandatory...is it?!! "
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"Why am I worries about sleeping with someone else? I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years and have been devoted to him. But I'm worried about sleeping with someone else.. How do I overcome that :-/"
I'm a single on here so different situation but I do get nervous each time, body issues mainly because I don't rate myself. But once I'm with the guy nerves go. Find the right one, maybe have a drink with them beforehand. Good luck |
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"Why am I worries about sleeping with someone else? I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years and have been devoted to him. But I'm worried about sleeping with someone else.. How do I overcome that :-/"
Sounds to me like swinging isn't really your thing and your only doing it to please your partner. I'd say stop and take a good long think about if this is a road you want to go down!, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think because I've always been a one women man so to speak I feel as though if I do I'm cheating. I know it sounds funny it's just gut Instinct and something I need to get over "
The best advice would probably come from other couples because they are more likely to have shared those feelings, but I'd ask myself if swinging was something I wanted to do independently of my partner. I don't mean swing seperately, I mean that if your partner didn't swing, or was in any way uncomfortable participating, is it something you'd still want to do? Or if you were single would you be comfortable with nsa in the swinging scene? |
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