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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes
no shrinking violet ere and certainly not afraid of rejection i take it on the chin like i do spunk  Good for you, nice to see you around again btw. "
thankyou hunny
break did us good all need a breather now n then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would let him know, any hard work I dry up lol
Nette   How would you let him know? "
I don't flirt, I don't shout from the roof tops, I'm hard work that way, if the op, has an interest they will see.
If they don't I lose out, as I won't throw myself, if that makes sense lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm very shy I.find it hard to make the first move in case I've got things very wrong lol "
look at the eyes tells a thousand words, unfortunatly we can't online lol
Nette |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A couple of yeara ago I had no qualms in walking over to a guy I fancied and telling him, now, however, I get all shy and blush then walk away. But I regret it every time so just walk over and take what you want! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am really happy when a woman makes the first move. I like that it is a reversal of what is expected in life outside Fab. It also saves a huge amount of time finding a woman that fancies you by other methods.
In each of the cases a woman has contacted me it has led to meeting. A much more successful approach than the reverse. |
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I can make the first move online, no problem at all.
But face to face I can't.
I can't read men or take hints!! I like told be told straight!!!
Have missed opportunities recently, where I have come away, kicking myself.
I do think it's a rejection thing and I also need a tiny bit more confidence. |
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"I can make the first move online, no problem at all.
But face to face I can't.
I can't read men or take hints!! I like told be told straight!!!
Have missed opportunities recently, where I have come away, kicking myself.
I do think it's a rejection thing and I also need a tiny bit more confidence."
I understand the rejection part I've been rejected on a few occasions I give myself a kick in the bollocks and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move? "
Most of my friends list made the first move... that could just mean my messages are awful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can make the first move online, no problem at all.
But face to face I can't.
I can't read men or take hints!! I like told be told straight!!!
Have missed opportunities recently, where I have come away, kicking myself.
I do think it's a rejection thing and I also need a tiny bit more confidence.
I understand the rejection part I've been rejected on a few occasions I give myself a kick in the bollocks and move on "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it  "
Nothing ventured nothing gained |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it Ask? "
I don't have confidence too after having it knocked a week ago x |
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it "
Just ask! What do you have to lose? If he says no there's plenty more lovely guys on here that will be happy to go with you |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it Ask?
I don't have confidence too after having it knocked a week ago x"
Someone turned you down? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes... I am a confident woman and have asked most of my previous men in life if they wanted to go out... I have no patience and can't be doing with waiting around to be asked!
I'm pretty much the same when meeting/playing... I'm normally the one to get things going!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it
Just ask! What do you have to lose? If he says no there's plenty more lovely guys on here that will be happy to go with you "
Lovely Bambi sure you know who  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it Ask?
I don't have confidence too after having it knocked a week ago xSomeone turned you down? "
Yeah they did and really knocked me as thought we was getting on x |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes... I am a confident woman and have asked most of my previous men in life if they wanted to go out... I have no patience and can't be doing with waiting around to be asked!
I'm pretty much the same when meeting/playing... I'm normally the one to get things going! "
Go girl! |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
dirtybigbadsgirlville |
"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it Ask?
I don't have confidence too after having it knocked a week ago xSomeone turned you down?
Yeah they did and really knocked me as thought we was getting on x"
You can still be friends, find someone else, there are lots of very sexy guys around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it Ask?
I don't have confidence too after having it knocked a week ago xSomeone turned you down?
Yeah they did and really knocked me as thought we was getting on xYou can still be friends, find someone else, there are lots of very sexy guys around. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it "
Is he down on the list to attend?
If so how about a casual 'seen you on the list, will be fun, are u going on your own' type message....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move? "
Never had a lady make a first move on me. But I am no oil painting, so it was never likely really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move?
Never had a lady make a first move on me. But I am no oil painting, so it was never likely really."
It's never about looks, mannerisms and respect is what cuts it.
Nette |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it
Is he down on the list to attend?
If so how about a casual 'seen you on the list, will be fun, are u going on your own' type message....? "
Well the message has gone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it
Is he down on the list to attend?
If so how about a casual 'seen you on the list, will be fun, are u going on your own' type message....?
Well the message has gone "
Good luck |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
dirtybigbadsgirlville |
"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it
Is he down on the list to attend?
If so how about a casual 'seen you on the list, will be fun, are u going on your own' type message....?
Well the message has gone "
I will keep my legs and fingers crossed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as they make me breakfast too... "
Nah they dont have to do that.I don't mind making breakfast.... or dinner the night before
All that's needed is a wink |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really wish I had the confidence to make the first move, got my eye on a fine gentleman to accompany me in June but not sure how to approach it
Is he down on the list to attend?
If so how about a casual 'seen you on the list, will be fun, are u going on your own' type message....?
Well the message has gone "
Well done for sending, fingers crossed for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you feel that was, make the first move. Most guys will thank you for it.
I certainly don't mind a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it.
The worst that can happen is you will be rebuffed, but then you just dust yourself off and move onto the next candidate lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would normally say yes I'd let him know how I feel with no problem, but now being on this site I'm going to say it depends on the guy lol I've learned that a lot of guys want to know how you feel about them but when asked to reciprocate they are at a loss for words!! Never had to deal with this before, so it's taken some getting used to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I send a fancy a fuck message
When Hope you have had a shower now, cant be expecting ladies to send you a message like that without being nice and clean. "
Who said I'm a lady  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I send a fancy a fuck message
When Hope you have had a shower now, cant be expecting ladies to send you a message like that without being nice and clean.
Who said I'm a lady "
A mere technicality |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I would normally say yes I'd let him know how I feel with no problem, but now being on this site I'm going to say it depends on the guy lol I've learned that a lot of guys want to know how you feel about them but when asked to reciprocate they are at a loss for words!! Never had to deal with this before, so it's taken some getting used to."
I hadn't thought of that, maybe some guys like to play hard to get? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then I send a fancy a fuck message
When Hope you have had a shower now, cant be expecting ladies to send you a message like that without being nice and clean.
Who said I'm a lady I specifically didn't mention you. "
Lubs you too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move? "
So how about you femme?
Do you make the first moves? |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
dirtybigbadsgirlville |
"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move?
So how about you femme?
Do you make the first moves? "
Of course, I hate faffing about.....its the only way I can be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move?
So how about you femme?
Do you make the first moves? Of course, I hate faffing about.....its the only way I can be. "
I kinda thought that was going to be your answer lol!! |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
dirtybigbadsgirlville |
"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move?
So how about you femme?
Do you make the first moves? Of course, I hate faffing about.....its the only way I can be.
I kinda thought that was going to be your answer lol!! "
Life is too short to wonder, and my time is usually precious. |
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move? "
We've 'met' already - who instigated that then?? I let the guys come find me on here, but if I am interested I will certainly let them know straight! |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move?
We've 'met' already - who instigated that then?? I let the guys come find me on here, but if I am interested I will certainly let them know straight!"
First meet, possible sexual shenanigans......would you make the first move? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Life's too short not to grab it by the horns. Yes. I'd make the first move.Especially if you have the horn. "
I would say pun intended....but I never even noticed....damn. Must be nearly bedtime!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You know. Honestly speaking i think i'm not the best at showing my interest. Usually, i think to myself that i hope they do know that i'm interested in them because of the messages and the amount of times i stay in contact with them.
Maybe i have the short straw but when i do ask someone if they're free to meet, i may suggest a certain week or month to see if they are free. If not, i usually ask them to get back to me as to when they are free to meet and take it from there.
But, then you wouldn't really hear back from them and you might see a status update complaining or moaning that they can't arrange a meet.
So, i don't know. How do i tell someone that i do want to meet them (be it social or otherwise)?. I think my humour and all the joking around kind of has been my downfall.
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move? "
People of both sexes like to portray confidence and a "go get" attitude but when it comes to it the majority do the go bit not the get bit. People don't like rejection its natural and women in general will wait to see what's offered to them rather than take the risk of rejection and go seek and possibly get knocked back. I will read this thread with interest as we have had similar ones before when people have stated they don't seek and see if people have changed stance or changed what they say they do. Saying that there is nothing wrong with not making the first move if that's not within your comfort level. |
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We've 'met' already - who instigated that then?? I let the guys come find me on here, but if I am interested I will certainly let them know straight!
First meet, possible sexual shenanigans......would you make the first move?"
I think my feelings must be apparent as I have never had to!
Mind you, I have been lunged at totally uninvited saying goodbye in pub carparks and had to repel a few times, haha!
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"This is a question for the ladies of the forums, but gents please feel free to add your comments....
You have met, you fancy the pants of this guy...you want him every which way possible....Do you make the first move?
People of both sexes like to portray confidence and a "go get" attitude but when it comes to it the majority do the go bit not the get bit. People don't like rejection its natural and women in general will wait to see what's offered to them rather than take the risk of rejection and go seek and possibly get knocked back. I will read this thread with interest as we have had similar ones before when people have stated they don't seek and see if people have changed stance or changed what they say they do. Saying that there is nothing wrong with not making the first move if that's not within your comfort level. "
Being rejected is crap but you get used to it, it happens.
I don't understand why some people don't have empathy/ sympathy/ politeness for the person they are rejecting. Some seem to see it as sport. 
Especially aimed at single guys for some reason. Usually by people that don't go looking and can't bear rejection themselves. |
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I can honestly say I have made the first contact with two guys only and that took me days and days of typing out a message then deleting it, retyping then deleting again and finally just being brave and sending it.
I did think to myself what is the worst that can happen, they can say "no thank you" or just delete it, however they didn't and it turned out rather well on both occasions.
In the words of Delboy "He who dares wins Rodney you plonka" |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I can honestly say I have made the first contact with two guys only and that took me days and days of typing out a message then deleting it, retyping then deleting again and finally just being brave and sending it.
I did think to myself what is the worst that can happen, they can say "no thank you" or just delete it, however they didn't and it turned out rather well on both occasions.
In the words of Delboy "He who dares wins Rodney you plonka" "
What about when you meet, do you make the first move sexually? |
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"I can honestly say I have made the first contact with two guys only and that took me days and days of typing out a message then deleting it, retyping then deleting again and finally just being brave and sending it.
I did think to myself what is the worst that can happen, they can say "no thank you" or just delete it, however they didn't and it turned out rather well on both occasions.
In the words of Delboy "He who dares wins Rodney you plonka" What about when you meet, do you make the first move sexually?"
No I don't but I think you can lead them into making the first move so that it looks like it was their idea |
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"I can honestly say I have made the first contact with two guys only and that took me days and days of typing out a message then deleting it, retyping then deleting again and finally just being brave and sending it.
I did think to myself what is the worst that can happen, they can say "no thank you" or just delete it, however they didn't and it turned out rather well on both occasions.
In the words of Delboy "He who dares wins Rodney you plonka" What about when you meet, do you make the first move sexually?
No I don't but I think you can lead them into making the first move so that it looks like it was their idea "
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"I would normally say yes I'd let him know how I feel with no problem, but now being on this site I'm going to say it depends on the guy lol I've learned that a lot of guys want to know how you feel about them but when asked to reciprocate they are at a loss for words!! Never had to deal with this before, so it's taken some getting used to.I hadn't thought of that, maybe some guys like to play hard to get? "
I guess that could be the case, but could they work with me a bit lol |
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