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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at giving compliments too, am I alone?  |
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I don't accept compliments well either, I get very flippant and think people are taking the pee, this does upset some of them 
As for giving a compliment I always feel a bit silly thinking they will cringe because its me giving the praise  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at giving compliments too, am I alone? "
I would say you are far from alone especially on here. I have come to the conclusion many swing for the confidence boost and when you give complements on here I was surprised at the initial reaction I got as many couldn't take them so have moved to less blush worthy complements. I still think it is better to be as you say you are rather than a complement sponge as some are modesty isn't a bad thing but don't fall into the trap of playing yourself down too much either as there is a lot to appreciate in others besides the obvious. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It makes me really sad when people don't like themselves. 
I don't mean that people should be all "ooh I'm fantastic". Just be happy in your own skin. x"
I'm happy with myself as a person, but very body conscious x |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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If work related... I appreciate them alongside feedback of a constructive nature
In non work and from people I know well and trust.. I laugh it off.
In swinging.... I distance myself from it. 
Good luck OP, enjoy the moment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Compliments on this site are fairly empty. After all people are only here to fuck you. People may find you fairly attractive but are likely to say you're a real stunner just for some action. Remember when I say 'you' I mean all women on here. I've seen some real hags get bombarded with compliments in cam rooms as much as the supermodelesque ones. Confidence comes from within. Smile and take a compliment with a pinch of salt but the real compliments come from those who gain nothing from telling you so, like family and friends, not some bloke on a sex site.
sorry if that was kinda demotivational. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at giving compliments too, am I alone? "
No your not alone ,years of put downs by someone has left Thier mark on me its one thing I'm always getting told off for but I'm getting my confidence back slowly x |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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OP. You are not alone in this. Most people shrug of compliments. I believe it's a very British thing to do.
Like you I am body conscious. I know my belly is rather big. But my partner makes appreciative noises as I walk away naked. I'd take that kind of compliment every time.
Try just saying thank you the next time you are complimented. Nothing more. Remember not everyone gives compliments easily. So you immediately shrugging them off can be very insensitive to the other person as well.  |
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Depends complimenting me. I know someone who trust to compliment everyone because she thinks it makes people like her, I take no notice of any complimentary remark she makes or any that someone who wants to meet us in five minutes  .
Genuine compliments I try and accept with a smile and a thank you. I also try to compliment people myself but it's very easy to think someone looks great ir whatever and not say anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at giving compliments too, am I alone? "
I am exactly the same, Jet disagrees with me all the time  |
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"Compliments on this site are fairly empty. After all people are only here to fuck you. People may find you fairly attractive but are likely to say you're a real stunner just for some action. Remember when I say 'you' I mean all women on here. I've seen some real hags get bombarded with compliments in cam rooms as much as the supermodelesque ones. Confidence comes from within. Smile and take a compliment with a pinch of salt but the real compliments come from those who gain nothing from telling you so, like family and friends, not some bloke on a sex site.
sorry if that was kinda demotivational. X"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at giving compliments too, am I alone? "
Im the same I always struggle to accept compliments. If its about work, appearance or something Ive done I just struggle lol
I also find it hard to make a complimebt sound genuine.
Dont worry you arent alone! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to give and receive compliments from genuine people. Sometimes its not always words but actions as well
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yes actions speak louder than words.
Nette |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see complimentary comments on here as some lame attempt to convince me they are genuine. I strongly belive that most men that tell me that im stunning are just taking the piss.
I have blocked people for commenting on some aspects of me. |
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If I receive a compliment, I say Thank you but depending on who gives it I may believe it or not. I do not generally return the compliment immediately as I feel it would sound forced and untrue. I'll wait until there is something really special about the person that I like, their outfit, the way they've done their hair etc...to compliment them.
Less is often more in this case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think compliments are an important way of showing appreciation for another person. In a society that is so quick to criticise and erode self esteem. Compliments are a way of helping build self esteem. However using them manipulatively compromises their power. I like giving sincere compliments and receiving them
I think our own sense of self worth can affect how well we give and take compliments. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"If I receive a compliment, I say Thank you but depending on who gives it I may believe it or not. I do not generally return the compliment immediately as I feel it would sound forced and untrue. I'll wait until there is something really special about the person that I like, their outfit, the way they've done their hair etc...to compliment them.
Less is often more in this case."
Bambi you have a gorgeous bum x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I receive a compliment, I say Thank you but depending on who gives it I may believe it or not. I do not generally return the compliment immediately as I feel it would sound forced and untrue. I'll wait until there is something really special about the person that I like, their outfit, the way they've done their hair etc...to compliment them.
Less is often more in this case.
Bambi you have a gorgeous bum x"
Yo ho ho - your tongue is tantalising...TR |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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I am better at giving compliments than receiving them. But I only give them when I actually mean it....
I never really know what to say other than to blush and say thanks or make a silly joke and shrug it off.....even if I know they are being genuine.
Mr B easily accepts them but can't give them...his are usually back handed!
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
"I accept all compliments as absolutely true on the grounds I've been told I am gorgeous and stunning on here so many times that it must be true.
I'm a goddess.
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Well,
I like giving people compliments as long as you are honest and not looking for anything I think it's nice to say something good about people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at givin
g compliments too, am I alone? "
That's lucky then cos your as rough as old boots and have a face like a plasterers radio!
Your welcome  ..................fancy a fuck ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at giving compliments too, am I alone? "
I can give compliments but only when sincere, I'm not very good at receiving them though x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at givin
g compliments too, am I alone?
That's lucky then cos your as rough as old boots and have a face like a plasterers radio!
Your welcome ..................fancy a fuck ?"
Just as well I like ya innit  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at givin
g compliments too, am I alone?
That's lucky then cos your as rough as old boots and have a face like a plasterers radio!
Your welcome ..................fancy a fuck ?
Daft as it might sound, but I love that. Those are the sorts of 'compliments' I like. It means that you like each other and are comfortable enough to joke like that. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think i'm the same. When people give me compliments i think to myself its either they're taking the piss or their blind!
...and you better not have been taking all my cpmpliments with a pinch of salt! Or i'd send more compliments to you lol
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"I think compliments are an important way of showing appreciation for another person. In a society that is so quick to criticise and erode self esteem. Compliments are a way of helping build self esteem. However using them manipulatively compromises their power. I like giving sincere compliments and receiving them
I think our own sense of self worth can affect how well we give and take compliments."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm getting better at accepting them, but still not good at giving them out (especially to people I don't know very well).
It always seems quite awkward and uncomfortable and I have to fight the urge not to point out that a compliment doesn't mean I fancy them or want in their pants (thus undoing the good work of complimenting in the first place) |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"I accept all compliments as absolutely true on the grounds I've been told I am gorgeous and stunning on here so many times that it must be true.
I'm a goddess.
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You do however have the most perfect boots. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I give lots of genuine compliments to men and women, and I'm very comfortable receiving them too...but I know when to take them with a pinch of salt!
I actually like myself and do have a lot of confidence - and despite occasional 'does my bum looks big in this' moments I don't have any body hang ups. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I give lots of genuine compliments to men and women, and I'm very comfortable receiving them too...but I know when to take them with a pinch of salt!
I actually like myself and do have a lot of confidence - and despite occasional 'does my bum looks big in this' moments I don't have any body hang ups. "
Miss Dee Vine you look and sound Dee Lightful x TR |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I give lots of genuine compliments to men and women, and I'm very comfortable receiving them too...but I know when to take them with a pinch of salt!
I actually like myself and do have a lot of confidence - and despite occasional 'does my bum looks big in this' moments I don't have any body hang ups.
Miss Dee Vine you look and sound Dee Lightful x TR"
Mwah |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I accept all compliments as absolutely true on the grounds I've been told I am gorgeous and stunning on here so many times that it must be true.
I'm a goddess.
You do however have the most perfect boots. "
You have only seen one pair. I have lots and lots of totally awesome boots and shoes!!! |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"I accept all compliments as absolutely true on the grounds I've been told I am gorgeous and stunning on here so many times that it must be true.
I'm a goddess.
You do however have the most perfect boots.
You have only seen one pair. I have lots and lots of totally awesome boots and shoes!!!"
So jealous |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am exactly the same. All squirming and embarrassed, not knowing what to say. But somebody gave me some advice that helped year's ago. If somebody compliments you then just say thank you with a big smile. It's hard at first but I now use it all the time and things are not awkward like they used to be.
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc |
"I find it really difficult to accept compliments, I think it's a confidence thing. I have never ever had a high opinion of myself, in fact quite the opposite so when someone gives me a compliment I just laugh it off or disagree which can often be offensive. I don't intentionally do it to offend, it just seems to be second nature now when really I should just be gracious and say thankyou. I'm also pretty lame at giving compliments too, am I alone? "
Nope. I never believe a compliment unless it is from a very close friend.
On here, it's like "Yeah yeah. Whatever" but in real life I squirm even though I am totally genuine with any compliments I give, I never believe any given to me. Especially on the whole 'Show your face' threads x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have no problem accepting a compliment but am also very able to see right through the transparent ones
i do love paying compliments too but i'm always honest with them, i just feel its healthy to be positive in life and why not pay it forward its good to makes others feel positive when you can too |
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