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lots of you have slated me saying my posts
are too negative well hell some of you
dont know the shit ive had to deal with,
i said men on here are idiots well as ive had no meets and liars how the hell am i supposed to figure who out who is real and who is not ,and btw i havent met anybody cos how can i ever trust men not to do the same to me if you can find any answers let me know cos i can,t so stop judging me !!! |
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"Have a break.
Remember the meets you have had. Find a way to address your trust issues and think about your expectations of meeting someone here.
Have a break.
Good luck.
One can't help saying ..............
Havea Kit Kat
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To be honest I've had my fair share of idiots, liars, fakes, hassle on here too but I've found moaning about it doesn't make a blind bit of difference so I just ignore it and concentrate on the good stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have a break.
Remember the meets you have had. Find a way to address your trust issues and think about your expectations of meeting someone here.
Have a break.
Good luck.
One can't help saying ..............
Havea Kit Kat
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I always end up thinking have a quick crap  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people on here are like that. Just try to be careful what you say. ..... or "they" will turn on you and then their friends get in on it and before you know what's going on you will be blocked and hated. I've seen it a few times. It's not nice to be called names and I don't do it myself. Hope you feel better soon
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the positive side. I'm just having a lovely cup of tea with cookies.
China cup poppet ?
And a saucer?
Goes without saying silly Legs.. I hope theirs choccy chips in the cookies"
 sorry Granny! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On the positive side. I'm just having a lovely cup of tea with cookies.
I had foxes cookies the other day and every mouthful made me think of you
That's a bit forward isn't it......?
How rude. "
I'm not backwards in coming forwards me  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"On the positive side. I'm just having a lovely cup of tea with cookies.
I had foxes cookies the other day and every mouthful made me think of you "
Moody Moo  anyone could be drooling over this thread. Stop spilling crumbs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what are you doing on this site if you think men all men are arseholes and you cannot trust them?  "
Attempting to get sympathy and attention methinks. Obviously life has dealt her a poor hand, while the rest of us wake every morning to sunshine & singing birds with Mary Poppins in the living room. No one else could possibly understand, she is the ONLY one shit has ever happened to! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Look at me look at me everybody!!!11!!
Which one of you? Shouldn't you be posting in the plural?
Nice Nudies by the way."
Was pretending to be OP I am the male version. |
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"On the positive side. I'm just having a lovely cup of tea with cookies.
I had foxes cookies the other day and every mouthful made me think of you
Moody Moo anyone could be drooling over this thread. Stop spilling crumbs "
It's all going a bit Mills N Boon!! |
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"I've read some of the things you have posted about what you've gone through. Not sure what you mean about being slated ?
Anyway deep breath  "
i got slated yesterday for saying all men on this site are idiots ,
why am i on this site ,just to keep in touch with those i have met already and to read the forums ,so i can laugh at the funny stuff !! |
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"I've read some of the things you have posted about what you've gone through. Not sure what you mean about being slated ?
Anyway deep breath i got slated yesterday for saying all men on this site are idiots ,
why am i on this site ,just to keep in touch with those i have met already and to read the forums ,so i can laugh at the funny stuff !!"
You deserve to be slated. There are some sound blokes on this site. How can you generalise so much? |
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"I've read some of the things you have posted about what you've gone through. Not sure what you mean about being slated ?
Anyway deep breath i got slated yesterday for saying all men on this site are idiots ,
why am i on this site ,just to keep in touch with those i have met already and to read the forums ,so i can laugh at the funny stuff !!"
That's cos all men on this site are not idiots |
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"I've read some of the things you have posted about what you've gone through. Not sure what you mean about being slated ?
Anyway deep breath i got slated yesterday for saying all men on this site are idiots ,
why am i on this site ,just to keep in touch with those i have met already and to read the forums ,so i can laugh at the funny stuff !!"
Don't justify what you said.
Don't justify why you are here.
Just enjoy ....... |
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"I've read some of the things you have posted about what you've gone through. Not sure what you mean about being slated ?
Anyway deep breath i got slated yesterday for saying all men on this site are idiots ,
why am i on this site ,just to keep in touch with those i have met already and to read the forums ,so i can laugh at the funny stuff !!"
It's not really fair to generalise like that.
I've met some lovely, funny, genuine guys off here and plan to meet many more. Just because some are dickheads doesn't mean they all are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lots of you have slated me saying my posts
are too negative well hell some of you
dont know the shit ive had to deal with,
i said men on here are idiots well as ive had no meets and liars how the hell am i supposed to figure who out who is real and who is not ,and btw i havent met anybody cos how can i ever trust men not to do the same to me if you can find any answers let me know cos i can,t so stop judging me !!!"
Obviously you are not happy but unfortunately posts like this will not help you, many people are after nsa and that means without issues or baggage. Sympathy posts be it from single males, females or couples are rarely received well.
If your getting your time wasted you need to look at yourself first and your selection process, only when you fix that will you truely be able to enjoy fabswingers
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry you feel that way.
On a site that is essentially about sex you are going to quite a few idiots purely interested in getting their disks wet and will say and do anything for it.
I think I've missed your posts personally so can't really comment. |
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I have said you are negative ill hold my hands up to it....However you can't allow the actions of others to make you bitter and negative..I have been destroyed financially, mentally and physically by the actions of other but never allowed them to win by becoming bitter and negative it would only mean they destroyed me a second time. I dont know what you have been through the same as you don't know what others have been through |
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"I'm sorry you feel that way.
On a site that is essentially about sex you are going to quite a few idiots purely interested in getting their disks wet and will say and do anything for it.
I think I've missed your posts personally so can't really comment. "
Hhhaaaaaaaaaa ! Ha ..... you said disks..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've read some of the things you have posted about what you've gone through. Not sure what you mean about being slated ?
Anyway deep breath i got slated yesterday for saying all men on this site are idiots ,
why am i on this site ,just to keep in touch with those i have met already and to read the forums ,so i can laugh at the funny stuff !!"
Maybe they never liked being all lumped together .. As you said all ......... And not all are just some let the site down . So like everyone here you can to them out and that takes time I know. You say you have had meets so you must know there are some lovely people here too. |
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"I'm sorry you feel that way.
On a site that is essentially about sex you are going to quite a few idiots purely interested in getting their disks wet and will say and do anything for it.
I think I've missed your posts personally so can't really comment.
Hhhaaaaaaaaaa ! Ha ..... you said disks..... "
AND I'M STICKING WITH IT! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry you feel that way.
On a site that is essentially about sex you are going to quite a few idiots purely interested in getting their disks wet and will say and do anything for it.
I think I've missed your posts personally so can't really comment.
Hhhaaaaaaaaaa ! Ha ..... you said disks..... "
its not nice to laught he was talking about porn for geeks
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all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating . |
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"all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating ."
You know, if I'm feeling low / upset / depressed about something I stay away from certain posts. If I felt like you, I'd have a break from fab altogether until I felt ready to handle it again. You might benefit from spending the time in the real world and not the virtual world for a while. |
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"all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating ."
I knew some men (and women) that aren't getting any at home go and look elsewhere long before I found fab! |
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"all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating .
You know, if I'm feeling low / upset / depressed about something I stay away from certain posts. If I felt like you, I'd have a break from fab altogether until I felt ready to handle it again. You might benefit from spending the time in the real world and not the virtual world for a while. "
And I agree with this. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating ."
You will be unable to move forward until you get rid of this "all men are idiots and are out to hurt me attitude", I seem to recall a thread that you put up saying you were no longer meeting, Its clear from posts that you have some demons to deal with, you cannot possibly take Fab for what it is until you start to deal with your feelings about yourself.
"No one knows the shit I have been through", If I had a pound for everytime I have heard this, I would be rich, trust me on that!
Get yourself away from Fab, maybe get some counselling,with respect, stop wallowing in self pity, there are people worse off than you, and start dealing with those demons you seem to carry, you may find its difficult at first, but you may coping strategies that will help you. Good luck OP. xx |
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I took a four month break from Fab back in the Summer. I deleted my profile completely and only had contact with two friend Id made on her. OP you're obviously not happy on Fab and haven't been for a long time as I remember posting something similar last time I was here. Why not take a break for a while and then if you feel like it, come back when you've got over your issues and more refreshed. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The virtual world can be just a escape from real World .. people can be who ever they like here , Why you get some telling you all sorts of lies and play game mind games . I have come across this too in my time .. You live and learn I did .. not to take everything to heart see things for what they are not what you wish them to be . |
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"lots of you have slated me saying my posts
are too negative well hell some of you
dont know the shit ive had to deal with,
i said men on here are idiots well as ive had no meets and liars how the hell am i supposed to figure who out who is real and who is not ,and btw i havent met anybody cos how can i ever trust men not to do the same to me if you can find any answers let me know cos i can,t so stop judging me !!!"
go off verifications & how public they display themselves to how much you can trust them.
you cant ever get past someone whos a good liar - if they are attached and dont give any clues or say then hard to know.
But i reckon someone with public face pictures showing on their profile and a decent length list of verifications shows they got nothing to hide.
it at least gives you something to go on, rather than a an account thats unverified or that darent show their face for some reason.
other clues are they can never accomodate, or can only play at strange times (daytime onlym, during work hours, just after work, specific few hours time slot every week)
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating ."
That's true for some women on here too. Men get hurt as well and have been cheated on. If we all operate on the assumption that everyone has some baggage of some sort and that we don't know what they have been through but treat the moment and the person with respect anyway it might be simpler.
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ye i have some demons to deal with so that
why i not meet anyone new on here now and just come on here to read the forums ,
i only do it when im at home tho ,when not doing much else ,but am trying to spend less time on here ,
maybe time to say goodbye folks .
and thankyou all xx |
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"ye i have some demons to deal with so that
why i not meet anyone new on here now and just come on here to read the forums ,
i only do it when im at home tho ,when not doing much else ,but am trying to spend less time on here ,
maybe time to say goodbye folks .
and thankyou all xx"
mmaybe it is.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"lots of you have slated me saying my posts
are too negative well hell some of you
dont know the shit ive had to deal with,
i said men on here are idiots well as ive had no meets and liars how the hell am i supposed to figure who out who is real and who is not ,and btw i havent met anybody cos how can i ever trust men not to do the same to me if you can find any answers let me know cos i can,t so stop judging me !!!"
Alright, we've all had a coffee... |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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People who bare their souls to random strangers on the internet make themselves vulnerable to those who like to take advantage of any vulnerability.
As a result they can often attract even more attention from the very people that they are trying to avoid.
How you present yourself influences the type of person you are likely to attract. |
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"lots of you have slated me saying my posts
are too negative well hell some of you
dont know the shit ive had to deal with,
i said men on here are idiots well as ive had no meets and liars how the hell am i supposed to figure who out who is real and who is not ,and btw i havent met anybody cos how can i ever trust men not to do the same to me if you can find any answers let me know cos i can,t so stop judging me !!!"
I believe the correct term in this situation is.......... get a grip! |
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"all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating ."
Not all married men who arent getting enough sex cheat on their wives though, they might like to but they dont.
they find other things to do that they enjoy. some men on here are idiots so are some women too.
just think yourself lucky you arent married to them.
most people i meet are ok, in small doses. |
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"People who bare their souls to random strangers on the internet make themselves vulnerable to those who like to take advantage of any vulnerability.
As a result they can often attract even more attention from the very people that they are trying to avoid.
How you present yourself influences the type of person you are likely to attract."
well said a lot of truth in this . |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"lots of you have slated me saying my posts
are too negative well hell some of you
dont know the shit ive had to deal with,
i said men on here are idiots well as ive had no meets and liars how the hell am i supposed to figure who out who is real and who is not ,and btw i havent met anybody cos how can i ever trust men not to do the same to me if you can find any answers let me know cos i can,t so stop judging me !!!"
Can't comment on your other posts as I either haven't read them or I don't remember reading them.
This one does comes across as very negative and angry.
There are some lovely men (and women and couples) on this site along with some total arseholes. But that is the same as in real life.....just a case of putting in a bit of leg work and sorting through them. They are not that hard to find.....
My advice would be if you are really finding Fab to that hard work and unenjoyable, take a break and some time to yourself.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"People who bare their souls to random strangers on the internet make themselves vulnerable to those who like to take advantage of any vulnerability.
As a result they can often attract even more attention from the very people that they are trying to avoid.
How you present yourself influences the type of person you are likely to attract. well said a lot of truth in this ."
Agrees, yes there is! |
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"ye i have some demons to deal with so that
why i not meet anyone new on here now and just come on here to read the forums ,
i only do it when im at home tho ,when not doing much else ,but am trying to spend less time on here ,
maybe time to say goodbye folks .
and thankyou all xx"
Maybe you need to take a different approch to meeting men on here? You could try attending one or 2 of the organised social events and just concentrate on having a good night out there?
I have heard there are some nice men who attend these socials so we're not all idiots.  |
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"all thats happened to me is only recent so its all a bit raw ,so trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move forward .i only meant some guys are idiots cos they spoil it ,cos you cant decide who is good and who isnt ,and no this isnt an attention seeking thread .but some of the threads from married guys that are cheating not sit too well with me im afraid ,cheating cos they not get sex .so how can i live again with a man ,cos as soon as they not get sex they are on here cheating ."
I know some things are hard but you must get a grip.
Lots of men do cheat when they don't get sex. Women cheat when they don't feel loved. You can't blame either. We are just wired differently.
If you want to keep a man happy, you need to give him sex and visa versa... If you want to keep a woman happy, you have to spend time with her and love her. Ideally both parties give both freely. It works both ways.
Saying that all men are idiots is stupid. You don't know me, you don't know what its like to be male, and you don't know my situation.
I guess you were just annoyed.
Good luck anyway xxx |
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"People who bare their souls to random strangers on the internet make themselves vulnerable to those who like to take advantage of any vulnerability.
As a result they can often attract even more attention from the very people that they are trying to avoid.
How you present yourself influences the type of person you are likely to attract."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have had some bad hands dealt to me in the past, however, it is down to me to cry my eyes out and ask "Why me?", or to say "To hell with you!" along with an one-finger salute and walk on.
I chose the latter, every time. My choice, my life, my ways.
And if I think and believe other people are being negative, then it is my prerogative, as it is my brain that is doing the thinking and believing.
My advice to anyone who cannot take the heat is to get out of the kitchen. It is really not that difficult!
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how can you have to give a man sex in order to keep him happy ffs sake i spent 22yrs giving a man sex .he never went without ever still wanted it even when i was i on a period and he still cheated on me i not say all men on here are idiots just some spoil ,and like ive said im not meeting like you have all pointed out i'm way too vulnerable for all this x |
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"People who bare their souls to random strangers on the internet make themselves vulnerable to those who like to take advantage of any vulnerability.
As a result they can often attract even more attention from the very people that they are trying to avoid.
How you present yourself influences the type of person you are likely to attract."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"how can you have to give a man sex in order to keep him happy ffs sake i spent 22yrs giving a man sex .he never went without ever still wanted it even when i was i on a period and he still cheated on me i not say all men on here are idiots just some spoil ,and like ive said im not meeting like you have all pointed out i'm way too vulnerable for all this x"
I suppose at least you didnt go without, not if you were having sex with him for 22 years. some men have big appetites i guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"how can you have to give a man sex in order to keep him happy ffs sake i spent 22yrs giving a man sex .he never went without ever still wanted it even when i was i on a period and he still cheated on me i not say all men on here are idiots just some spoil ,and like ive said im not meeting like you have all pointed out i'm way too vulnerable for all this x"
Some guys cheat, some women cheat some guys are idiots some women are idiots its not gender specific. |
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