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is swinging normal?
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over a year ago
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By the numbers, no it isn't if normal means majority we did some calculations ages ago people on here against population of various areas swingers are less than 1% so even if some are not clever enough to be on fab it is still a minority pastime.
Is it natural? Very different question  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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of course it aint normal otherwise everyone would be doing it, and there would be dark dingy little corners of the internet with sites dedicated to people that are happy being in monogamous relationships lol.
and, you think of a definition of swinging, as i have been trying to since we started, and by christ it certainly aint a one size fits all type hobby |
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"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm"
We only have to look up to a superior species; Dolphins have it sussed! |
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What is normal? Swinging definitely isn't what the status who find acceptable or in many cases understand, however in nature it's rare that sex is strictly with one partner. So in that sense swinging is following natures instinct.
Plus at times it's great fun lol |
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Swinging is not normal because it is not "standard" behaviour. But who wants to be "normal"?
Many studies have shown swingers are happier than the general population as a result of their lifestyle. They also, in the main, love their partners more.
A narrow definition is "non-monogomus couple relationship" but this site is full of "single" men who just hunting pussy. So if those are swingers, and not just opportunists, the definition must fall wider. |
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"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm"
There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views |
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"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm
There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views "
seems we totally agree xx |
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"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm
There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views seems we totally agree xx"
It would probably fall into the +-3 SD, so would therefore be considered abnormal!
Of course it's not 'normal'. To the majority of the outside world, we're freaks. Don't believe me? Go announce it to everyone next time you're on the school run! |
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Many studies have shown swingers are happier than the general population as a result of their lifestyle. They also, in the main, love their partners more. "
evidence? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think it is natural .. when our ancestors lived communally who is to say multi partner cohabiting wasnt the norm
There is a lot of research to suggest that this was the case... To be honest one on one relationships came in mostly with religion x I don't believe we are designed to be monogamous.... But that's just my views seems we totally agree xx
It would probably fall into the +-3 SD, so would therefore be considered abnormal!
Of course it's not 'normal'. To the majority of the outside world, we're freaks. Don't believe me? Go announce it to everyone next time you're on the school run!"
Most on mine know... A few judge but most envy my freedom. It is not considered normal but doesn't mean it isn't ... Orgies were quite the rage in many ancient cultures |
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Many studies have shown swingers are happier than the general population as a result of their lifestyle. They also, in the main, love their partners more.
evidence?"
'Many studies have shown...'
How much evidence do you need?
Even if it were true though, it would still be wholly fucking irrelevant in answering the original question!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my definition
swinging = self gratification
after several years research and practise."
I think you are onto something there, at the end of the day we all get off on getting off, so to that end its self gratification for mutual benefit....
Normal is just a point of view, as is good/bad etc. All just a perception.
I find on the whole swingers are the most honest open and easy to get on with people out there. When the clothes and inhibitions come off, the social barriers that conditioning has placed come down and we are all just being ourselves instead of trying to conform to the ideals of others.
Personally i couldnt give a toss about what others think and i find that feeling quite liberating. |
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"my definition
swinging = self gratification
after several years research and practise.
I think you are onto something there, at the end of the day we all get off on getting off, so to that end its self gratification for mutual benefit....
Normal is just a point of view, as is good/bad etc. All just a perception.
I find on the whole swingers are the most honest open and easy to get on with people out there. When the clothes and inhibitions come off, the social barriers that conditioning has placed come down and we are all just being ourselves instead of trying to conform to the ideals of others.
Personally i couldnt give a toss about what others think and i find that feeling quite liberating."
this..
the element of naughtiness and none comformity is in pretty much all of us..
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swinging whether from side to side or back and forward is not normal in normal situations but can be caused by activities such as rowing.cycling or over use of illicit substances...if none of these apply go to your nearest doctor....in some rare cases a gang bang is required. |
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"Is being a Mormon normal is being a free thinking person being normal ..... one persons normal is not others as we are different."
surely you have been around swinging long enough to know that many swingers a so closed minded, free thinking as a term that doesnt apply |
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i agree..its my mind to mind and if they mind my mind well they dont mind my mind as much as me .if they minded then they shouldn't because theyshould mind their own mind.i know in my mind my mind isn't like their mind but i dont mind so why should they mind about my mind when their mindset should be minding more about minding their mind..either way i dont mind so why should they mind about my mind.  |
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"By the numbers, no it isn't if normal means majority we did some calculations ages ago people on here against population of various areas swingers are less than 1% so even if some are not clever enough to be on fab it is still a minority pastime.
Is it natural? Very different question "
Neither Paula or myself really care what others think about what we do |
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its not what others think but me as my mind , 