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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
Ok, I was on a work night out last night, and the conversation was started off by a guy saying all men watched porn etc and one female was adamant her husband didn't, I was agreeing that 75% did but up'ed it to 95% once had a few more guys reactions, then the conversation was turned round to me by a female colleague who knows I am single and have been for years, obviously I did not mention the site (my discretion is a must) but I said, yes I am single but I do enjoy and need sex! However, the best type is all day/night sessions............the reaction I got from most of the single guys was complete shock! Ie, they could not fathom out the idea of an all day/night session  and one even said, they only lasted 5 minutes....And the thought of an all day one scared the hell out of him, I had to get a young married man to try and explain what I meant! Now I do not class myself as a swinger but HELLO! Surely the vanilla world is not really that vanilla???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my experience, yes it is that crap. 
I'm just glad you understood my post!  "
It made perfect sense.
Had similar conversations myself many times. I have to be careful what I say.  |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"In my experience, yes it is that crap.
I'm just glad you understood my post!
It made perfect sense.
Had similar conversations myself many times. I have to be careful what I say. "
Yes I had to be very careful myself last night!
But I couldn't believe some mens answers!
Think I might get some strange looks on Monday  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand that "vanilla" is a term used by swingers for non swingers, but surely it's not a term that can be used for boring sex?
I guess some couples are content with a mundane lights off missionary shag once a month ,then there's couples who fuck each other's brains out and are kinky with it, different ends of the sexual spectrum, but both vanilla if they don't involve others . |
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I don't speak to anyone outside of fab about sex. The only sexual connotations are the crap innuendos and double entendres I make. Even those get frowned upon. Friends, colleagues.....totally non sexual. I can't imagine any of them getting tangled up in a group sex situation.
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I understand that "vanilla" is a term used by swingers for non swingers, but surely it's not a term that can be used for boring sex?
I guess some couples are content with a mundane lights off missionary shag once a month ,then there's couples who fuck each other's brains out and are kinky with it, different ends of the sexual spectrum, but both vanilla if they don't involve others ."
But that's what I am saying! I don't class myself as a swinger as I only do 1-1 meets, but I was shocked that men had this attitude!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often find myself having to bite my tongue on nights out with non fab friends. Its funny when they start speaking about stuff to do with sex and turning up their noses at things I have tried, their faces are hilarious if the subject of fem fun comes up, I wonder what they would think if I just came out with don't knock it till you've tried it hehe  |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"i wouldnt worry too much ...i told all my work mates i am on here ..a few have actually joined as well "
To be honest I don't care, but I was shocked at the attitude! As most said it was all about them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't class people as vanilla if they don't swing. Vanilla to me is 'normal' sex. People into bdsm wouldn't be classed as vanilla
I really do think vanilla relationships are like that and I am worried about it. I nearly gave into a vanilla relationship because I fell in love with the guy, luckily he treated me badly and I now see I wouldn't have been happy with vanilla forever. I won't settle for a boring man in the bedroom next time |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"i see posts about people worrying about 'getting found out for being on here ' ...its yesterdays chip wrappers as the saying goes tomorrow ! "
But the amount of selfish men made me
I couldn't believe it to be honest! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i wouldnt worry too much ...i told all my work mates i am on here ..a few have actually joined as well
To be honest I don't care, but I was shocked at the attitude! As most said it was all about them "
I'm shocked that you're shocked.
Some guys are like that on here. 5 minutes is a loooong session.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crap sex happens here on meets.
Just saying.
And plenty vanilla relationships are liberating sexually.
I've had more fun with people who aren't members...
And then there are dullards, ragdolls and quick draw guys... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I understand that "vanilla" is a term used by swingers for non swingers, but surely it's not a term that can be used for boring sex?
I guess some couples are content with a mundane lights off missionary shag once a month ,then there's couples who fuck each other's brains out and are kinky with it, different ends of the sexual spectrum, but both vanilla if they don't involve others ."
I think the term vanilla refers to 'plain normal sex that doesn't involve kink or B DSM nothing to do with involving others. |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't class people as vanilla if they don't swing. Vanilla to me is 'normal' sex. People into bdsm wouldn't be classed as vanilla
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Lol I bit my tongue before even mentioning bdsm! Though I very nearly did! Never mind loose lips sinks ships! Wine can nearly have the same effect! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't class people as vanilla if they don't swing. Vanilla to me is 'normal' sex. People into bdsm wouldn't be classed as vanilla
Lol I bit my tongue before even mentioning bdsm! Though I very nearly did! Never mind loose lips sinks ships! Wine can nearly have the same effect! "
Haha you should have
I'm sure the reactions would have been good to see |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't class people as vanilla if they don't swing. Vanilla to me is 'normal' sex. People into bdsm wouldn't be classed as vanilla
Lol I bit my tongue before even mentioning bdsm! Though I very nearly did! Never mind loose lips sinks ships! Wine can nearly have the same effect!
Haha you should have
I'm sure the reactions would have been good to see "
Trust me! I was just away to come out and I thought, foxy....keep your mouth shut! Though I do kind of wish I did, would have been even more interesting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've gotta admit, I don't really like the term 'vanilla' for people who don't swing. At the end of the day, good sex is good sex and it isn't the sole preserve of people who swing."
I didn't think the op was derogatory. I just read it as a term to explain she meant non-swingers.
Lots of swingers are vanilla.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't class people as vanilla if they don't swing. Vanilla to me is 'normal' sex. People into bdsm wouldn't be classed as vanilla
Lol I bit my tongue before even mentioning bdsm! Though I very nearly did! Never mind loose lips sinks ships! Wine can nearly have the same effect!
Haha you should have
I'm sure the reactions would have been good to see
Trust me! I was just away to come out and I thought, foxy....keep your mouth shut! Though I do kind of wish I did, would have been even more interesting! "
Haha maybe next time
I would speak about it but most people think I'm innocent |
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By *oxy_minx OP Woman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I don't class people as vanilla if they don't swing. Vanilla to me is 'normal' sex. People into bdsm wouldn't be classed as vanilla
Lol I bit my tongue before even mentioning bdsm! Though I very nearly did! Never mind loose lips sinks ships! Wine can nearly have the same effect!
Haha you should have
I'm sure the reactions would have been good to see
Trust me! I was just away to come out and I thought, foxy....keep your mouth shut! Though I do kind of wish I did, would have been even more interesting!
Haha maybe next time
I would speak about it but most people think I'm innocent "
See, I don't know what they think of me, but I'm sure they would be doubly shocked after my demands of quality sex last night! |
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