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By *riskygaz OP Man
over a year ago
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My daughter split up with her boyfriend about six weeks ago, was very upset they only moved in together a few months ago, and just two weeks before the split they had toured around America together in a car. She went out for a drinks with her mates last night, I ended up getting a call from her at 2AM a bit d*unk and upset, had to go pick her up from town, Mmm but what can I do to make her feel better, so girls how long to get over a broken heart at the age of 23 ?? |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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Depends on the person. Some people are incredibly resilient, whereas others do the full kitchen floor reset.
All you can do is be there for her and then tell her to get her arse in gear when and if she needs it.  |
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Some say about half the time you were with the person. Depends on how good the relationship was though. If it really wasn't that good, or had gone bad, the immediate feelings of grief and loss will subside more quickly as your mind gets control over your heart.
In my experience the first couple of months are the worst and then it's easier to see the light at the end of the dark tunnel. |
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"Some say about half the time you were with the person. Depends on how good the relationship was though. If it really wasn't that good, or had gone bad, the immediate feelings of grief and loss will subside more quickly as your mind gets control over your heart.
In my experience the first couple of months are the worst and then it's easier to see the light at the end of the dark tunnel."
And alcohol doesn't help, it makes a person more emotional, so be prepared for that 2am phone call if she's out drinking again.
If you can try taking her away for a break. Getting away from the normal life, the one she shared until recently with her bf, can be a real tonic. |
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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago
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"Depends on the person. Some people are incredibly resilient, whereas others do the full kitchen floor reset.
All you can do is be there for her and then tell her to get her arse in gear when and if she needs it. "
Exactly this.
I had the whole break up move out and lose everything (all I was left with was my car and the clothes I was wearing) at 20.
I went awol for days. Just said to everyone I'm going away I'll be back when I'm ready. Don't contact me unless someone has died. I went camping, hiking, walking, shopping for essential things like pants and came back ready for action.
For me it worked. And all I wanted to know was if I needed people they were there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some say about half the time you were with the person. Depends on how good the relationship was though."
Damn that means I still have at least a year to go before I will be ok after being married for ten years - and separating almost four years ago. 
I hope your daughter heals quickly OP as being broken hearted is no fun at all. At least she has a dad who is 100% there for her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My daughter split up with her boyfriend about six weeks ago, was very upset they only moved in together a few months ago, and just two weeks before the split they had toured around America together in a car. She went out for a drinks with her mates last night, I ended up getting a call from her at 2AM a bit d*unk and upset, had to go pick her up from town, Mmm but what can I do to make her feel better, so girls how long to get over a broken heart at the age of 23 ??"
It took me 2 years!
I feel for you're daughter, bless her x |
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Regarding the "half the time you were with someone" thing, I was with a guy for 10 years and it really was about 5 years before I properly had him out of my system. It was only (only!) about a year before I stopped grieving for the lost relationship though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Glad I didn't know about this half-the-time thing. That would have kept me miserable for 12 more years!
She'll need to re-find her balance and own place in the universe again. Being there for her is good. But not just for shoulders and hugs. A gentle nudge/push can be quite effective, too. It's so easy to get stuck in a rut of self-pity. Got the t-shirt. Glad that someone shook me out of it pretty quick.  Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been separated almost a month now. There's times I have a cry but I know the split is for the best. I was with my husband for 8 years.
Time will hopefully heal your daughter. Just be there for her, make her feel special. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My daughter split up with her boyfriend about six weeks ago, was very upset they only moved in together a few months ago, and just two weeks before the split they had toured around America together in a car. She went out for a drinks with her mates last night, I ended up getting a call from her at 2AM a bit d*unk and upset, had to go pick her up from town, Mmm but what can I do to make her feel better, so girls how long to get over a broken heart at the age of 23 ??"
Time is the only thing that will help your girl and you being there for her is lovely too.I am sure you don't like seeing her like this but if they feel it was not right she needs to move on. xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never ever criticise her partner because the feelings are still there and will only cause resentment. My parents caused more trouble than the worth of it with my ex partner, even when we started getting close again they had to put their penny's worth in and caused so much resentment it made it impossible to sort things out.
But saying that when I split up with my exwife of 10 years it took me about a week to get over her and when the decree absolut came through I had mine and a copy framed and sent one to my exwife  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"well if the half the time you where with them thing is true, that's not so bad as they where only together about a year."
Probably a very passionate year if they moved in together and travelled in that time and then he left. She has to get over the shock of him leaving when things appeared to be perfect.
Just be careful to hold your counsel if he decides he made a mistake and she takes him back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"well if the half the time you where with them thing is true, that's not so bad as they where only together about a year.
Probably a very passionate year if they moved in together and travelled in that time and then he left. She has to get over the shock of him leaving when things appeared to be perfect.
Just be careful to hold your counsel if he decides he made a mistake and she takes him back."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My daughter split up with her boyfriend about six weeks ago, was very upset they only moved in together a few months ago, and just two weeks before the split they had toured around America together in a car. She went out for a drinks with her mates last night, I ended up getting a call from her at 2AM a bit d*unk and upset, had to go pick her up from town, Mmm but what can I do to make her feel better, so girls how long to get over a broken heart at the age of 23 ??"
It isnt a broken heart, a heart is a muscle, not an intelligent or emotional organ.
What she is upset about is she cant get what she wants, so be there for her, and listen, but don't offer advice, she is your princess and knows how to play you.
It will take about a week for each month they were together to pick herself up and move on. |
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