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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get treated very differently as a single female on here than I do when meeting on our couples profile. It seems like guys and couples treat women better/ more respectfully when another guy is around.
Have any other women found this?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get treated very differently as a single female on here than I do when meeting on our couples profile. It seems like guys and couples treat women better/ more respectfully when another guy is around.
Have any other women found this?
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Yes ive found the same to be fair.. it is partly why even though I can play as a single I don't . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been a "cpl" on here or anywhere so wouldnt know the difference. ?
Ive always had respect though ,and only had one nasty email and that was from a female......wont give her the title of a "lady" cuz she obviously wasnt   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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dunno about from a womans pov, but find the messages we get vary very differently dependant on who they think they are talking to.
if i reply to say thanks to a 'love your pics' message, then they generally take it as its V replying, so say such as 'i would like to fuck you/ride you/play with your tits' or whatever.
if they know its me (as in a reply thanks mate or something) then its more along the lines of 'your wife/missus is gorgeous/beautiful/sexy' or whatever.
think men seem to look for approval from the male part of a couple, yet would rather get straight to talking dirty to the female half.
or could just be us lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can speak having experienced this personally as I have a single woman's profile and so couples profile.......
The only difference I notice is that men will assume I'll behave like a single woman even though the profile states I am part of a couple.
Hubby does most of the chatting on our couples profile too. |
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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago
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"dunno about from a womans pov, but find the messages we get vary very differently dependant on who they think they are talking to.
if i reply to say thanks to a 'love your pics' message, then they generally take it as its V replying, so say such as 'i would like to fuck you/ride you/play with your tits' or whatever.
if they know its me (as in a reply thanks mate or something) then its more along the lines of 'your wife/missus is gorgeous/beautiful/sexy' or whatever.
think men seem to look for approval from the male part of a couple, yet would rather get straight to talking dirty to the female half.
or could just be us lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no idea what it's like as a couple, but as a single female my expectations are high and always met  ."
That sums it up alright, so I don't have to come up with a reply that would virtually state the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no idea what it's like as a couple, but as a single female my expectations are high and always met ."
I have no idea if there's a difference for single women either, just thought you might like to know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People either treat me as a lady or send messages that are rather fruity in tone, depending upon how many hands they are using to type with  "
Do you have a couples profile as well Tina? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People either treat me as a lady or send messages that are rather fruity in tone, depending upon how many hands they are using to type with
Do you have a couples profile as well Tina?"
Tina is lucky enough to be a couple all on her own.
in fact, if you look closely, she hasnt huge knockers, she just keeps 2 bald men very close lol |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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"People either treat me as a lady or send messages that are rather fruity in tone, depending upon how many hands they are using to type with
Do you have a couples profile as well Tina?
Tina is lucky enough to be a couple all on her own.
in fact, if you look closely, she hasnt huge knockers, she just keeps 2 bald men very close lol"
It was ok till someone started slapping one of them on the head |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a single womans profile as well?"
is this to us?
no she hasnt.
she was going to do one as a social experiment (she reckoned i would get as much attention as she would)
but we did it on POF and she was proved wrong, so it never happened on here lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People either treat me as a lady or send messages that are rather fruity in tone, depending upon how many hands they are using to type with
Do you have a couples profile as well Tina?
Tina is lucky enough to be a couple all on her own.
in fact, if you look closely, she hasnt huge knockers, she just keeps 2 bald men very close lol
It was ok till someone started slapping one of them on the head "
please tell me im not the only one with yakety sax running through my head |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a single womans profile as well?
is this to us?
no she hasnt.
she was going to do one as a social experiment (she reckoned i would get as much attention as she would)
but we did it on POF and she was proved wrong, so it never happened on here lol"
Oh I see, it's just that I thought the OP was for women who have a single profile and a couples profile..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a single womans profile as well?
is this to us?
no she hasnt.
she was going to do one as a social experiment (she reckoned i would get as much attention as she would)
but we did it on POF and she was proved wrong, so it never happened on here lol
Oh I see, it's just that I thought the OP was for women who have a single profile and a couples profile.. "
and yet you posted as well and you have neither 
if you want to impose posting rules, follow them yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a single womans profile as well?
is this to us?
no she hasnt.
she was going to do one as a social experiment (she reckoned i would get as much attention as she would)
but we did it on POF and she was proved wrong, so it never happened on here lol
Oh I see, it's just that I thought the OP was for women who have a single profile and a couples profile..
and yet you posted as well and you have neither
if you want to impose posting rules, follow them yourself"
Bless you, I do actually have a couples profile... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I had a singles profile (female), the amount of males who assumed a message consisting of "oh what I'd do to your ass right now" would make me swoon to a meet with them lol
I prefer the messages I read now on our cpls profile, its more dignified
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a single womans profile as well?
is this to us?
no she hasnt.
she was going to do one as a social experiment (she reckoned i would get as much attention as she would)
but we did it on POF and she was proved wrong, so it never happened on here lol
Oh I see, it's just that I thought the OP was for women who have a single profile and a couples profile..
and yet you posted as well and you have neither
if you want to impose posting rules, follow them yourself
Bless you, I do actually have a couples profile... "
and yet you arent a single female either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have a single womans profile as well?
is this to us?
no she hasnt.
she was going to do one as a social experiment (she reckoned i would get as much attention as she would)
but we did it on POF and she was proved wrong, so it never happened on here lol
Oh I see, it's just that I thought the OP was for women who have a single profile and a couples profile..
and yet you posted as well and you have neither
if you want to impose posting rules, follow them yourself
Bless you, I do actually have a couples profile...
and yet you arent a single female either"
No, but I do get to see both accounts so I see the different ways guys approach women on here. I only replied to the OP as it seemed relevant experience rather than assumption wasn't needed. Again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can speak having experienced this personally as I have a single woman's profile and so couples profile.......
The only difference I notice is that men will assume I'll behave like a single woman even though the profile states I am part of a couple.
Hubby does most of the chatting on our couples profile too. "
We both chat on our couples profile but sign from us both. If they know it's me they do get more fruity but I just ignore it. It doesn't happen all that often though (that they get fruity rude).
Mail on this single profile usually ended up more rude. Fine if I know the person but I don't like it if we've never met.
It's not really about mail, I was meaning more in real life meets. Single guys and couples seem more respectful when they meet us together than when I meet on my own.
As Cali said earlier, I'm the same really. I can meet on my own but I'd rather not bother because of the (lack of) respect issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can speak having experienced this personally as I have a single woman's profile and so couples profile.......
The only difference I notice is that men will assume I'll behave like a single woman even though the profile states I am part of a couple.
Hubby does most of the chatting on our couples profile too.
We both chat on our couples profile but sign from us both. If they know it's me they do get more fruity but I just ignore it. It doesn't happen all that often though (that they get fruity rude).
Mail on this single profile usually ended up more rude. Fine if I know the person but I don't like it if we've never met.
It's not really about mail, I was meaning more in real life meets. Single guys and couples seem more respectful when they meet us together than when I meet on my own.
As Cali said earlier, I'm the same really. I can meet on my own but I'd rather not bother because of the (lack of) respect issue."
I can't say I've ever had a problem when I meet guys on my own. All the guys I have met seem to be respectful regardless of whether it is me alone, or with hubby. Having said that thought, when we meet as a couple we will only meet bi guys now, so maybe that is why I don't really experience a difference. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"It's not really about mail, I was meaning more in real life meets. Single guys and couples seem more respectful when they meet us together than when I meet on my own.
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Can I ask what they do to make you think they have less respect when you meet on your own ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not really about mail, I was meaning more in real life meets. Single guys and couples seem more respectful when they meet us together than when I meet on my own.
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Can I ask what they do to make you think they have less respect when you meet on your own ?"
Good question. Hard to describe really. The language they use, how they act. Now you've made me think, some of it could be my perception. They seem more willing to have some social interaction when meeting both of us than when it's just me.
On my own I seem to be just a way for them to get laid whereas when it's both of us it's more like mutual fun, if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can speak having experienced this personally as I have a single woman's profile and so couples profile.......
The only difference I notice is that men will assume I'll behave like a single woman even though the profile states I am part of a couple.
Hubby does most of the chatting on our couples profile too.
We both chat on our couples profile but sign from us both. If they know it's me they do get more fruity but I just ignore it. It doesn't happen all that often though (that they get fruity rude).
Mail on this single profile usually ended up more rude. Fine if I know the person but I don't like it if we've never met.
It's not really about mail, I was meaning more in real life meets. Single guys and couples seem more respectful when they meet us together than when I meet on my own.
As Cali said earlier, I'm the same really. I can meet on my own but I'd rather not bother because of the (lack of) respect issue.
I can't say I've ever had a problem when I meet guys on my own. All the guys I have met seem to be respectful regardless of whether it is me alone, or with hubby. Having said that thought, when we meet as a couple we will only meet bi guys now, so maybe that is why I don't really experience a difference."
Do you meet bi or straight guys on your own?
I meet (as far as I know!) straight guys on my own, only bi guys/ bi guy couples with him. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"It's not really about mail, I was meaning more in real life meets. Single guys and couples seem more respectful when they meet us together than when I meet on my own.
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Can I ask what they do to make you think they have less respect when you meet on your own ?
Good question. Hard to describe really. The language they use, how they act. Now you've made me think, some of it could be my perception. They seem more willing to have some social interaction when meeting both of us than when it's just me.
On my own I seem to be just a way for them to get laid whereas when it's both of us it's more like mutual fun, if that makes sense. "
Yeah totally....although it makes it sad that this is how things have happened for you and I think I am glad not to be meeting as a single woman.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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mails female profile: I wanna bareback ur tasty cunthole
mails couples profile: can i fuck ur bitches filthy cumhole
I dunno which ones better, advice please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"mails female profile: I wanna bareback ur tasty cunthole
mails couples profile: can i fuck ur bitches filthy cumhole
I dunno which ones better, advice please"
use "tasty" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"mails female profile: I wanna bareback ur tasty cunthole
mails couples profile: can i fuck ur bitches filthy cumhole
I dunno which ones better, advice please
use "tasty" "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just tell them to message me on mine and me other half's couple profile, and they either refuse or become completely different messaging when they know me hubby will see the messages  "
That's actually a really good idea. I might try something like that and see if it makes a difference, thanks.
View hinted at something similar earlier. I think guys feel less threatened by a woman in a couple. A single woman *may* be more likely to get clingy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you meet bi or straight guys on your own?
I meet (as far as I know!) straight guys on my own, only bi guys/ bi guy couples with him."
I meet straight guys on my own too, so I'm wondering if it is more to do with the way you are selecting the single guys that you meet alone, whether you do anything differently? I will only agree to meet someone once we have been messaging for quite some time, and I feel totally comfortable with them. That way is is like meeting an old friend when we meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just tell them to message me on mine and me other half's couple profile, and they either refuse or become completely different messaging when they know me hubby will see the messages
That's actually a really good idea. I might try something like that and see if it makes a difference, thanks.
View hinted at something similar earlier. I think guys feel less threatened by a woman in a couple. A single woman *may* be more likely to get clingy. "
...and so they may be more stand-off-ish with a single woman just so she doesn't get the wrong idea.
I may be misreading their aloofness as disrespectfulness. |
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"I get treated very differently as a single female on here than I do when meeting on our couples profile. It seems like guys and couples treat women better/ more respectfully when another guy is around.
Have any other women found this?
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When you're in a couple you are more likely to be real and less likely to mess people around. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I just tell them to message me on mine and me other half's couple profile, and they either refuse or become completely different messaging when they know me hubby will see the messages
That's actually a really good idea. I might try something like that and see if it makes a difference, thanks.
View hinted at something similar earlier. I think guys feel less threatened by a woman in a couple. A single woman *may* be more likely to get clingy. "
I have friends I made when in a couple who have admitted they would not have met me as a single woman. Women in couples are seen by some as less predatory and unlikely to want more, according to them.
The messages are different and more of the "wanna fuck" variety (no question mark, which is of course correct as it is a statement from them and not a question to you).
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get treated very differently as a single female on here than I do when meeting on our couples profile. It seems like guys and couples treat women better/ more respectfully when another guy is around.
Have any other women found this?
When you're in a couple you are more likely to be real and less likely to mess people around. "
I'm obviously a figment of my imagination. I wish my mortgage was  . |
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"I get treated very differently as a single female on here than I do when meeting on our couples profile. It seems like guys and couples treat women better/ more respectfully when another guy is around.
Have any other women found this?
When you're in a couple you are more likely to be real and less likely to mess people around.
I'm obviously a figment of my imagination. I wish my mortgage was ."
. Single women are like Bruce Willis is 6th sense .... You think you're real but no one actually sees you |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I just tell them to message me on mine and me other half's couple profile, and they either refuse or become completely different messaging when they know me hubby will see the messages
That's actually a really good idea. I might try something like that and see if it makes a difference, thanks.
View hinted at something similar earlier. I think guys feel less threatened by a woman in a couple. A single woman *may* be more likely to get clingy. "
Based on my swinging experience,with the common denominator being me, I have found single females changing over time on here.
I entered swinging having been brought up to respect women, sadly I don't respect all women now. I have seen way too many players, hustlers, manipulators etc etc. I fully accept that may be some part down to me.
It's a game to some, they play the game well.
It is of course, replicated in the male community.
Swinging can and does bring out the exploitative and calculating side to some to maximise their own benefits.
You reap what you sow, I may have sowed unwisely.
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"I get treated very differently as a single female on here than I do when meeting on our couples profile. It seems like guys and couples treat women better/ more respectfully when another guy is around.
Have any other women found this?
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No: majority of men I've met have been respectful and deferential. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been a part of a couple on here I can only answer for the single part of it. I have been incredibly lucky that all I've ever received is Respect on all my meets. I do chat and get to know them pretty well first and I don't know if that's made a difference or not  As for mail, I do sometimes get a few Idiots try it on but its only font x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's something I've yet to experience. Does it also differ between real couples and FB couples?"
As in how they treat other people? Had a problem with a real couple last year. It was the female half not the male. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's something I've yet to experience. Does it also differ between real couples and FB couples?
As in how they treat other people? Had a problem with a real couple last year. It was the female half not the male. "
Well the respect element, are real couples taken more seriously and treated better? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The real world is crap for proper single women.
On here its obvious that some are here to notch up as many as they can, and the ones like that think everyone else is gagging.
Shame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will only agree to meet someone once we have been messaging for quite some time, and I feel totally comfortable with them. That way is is like meeting an old friend when we meet."
That I recognise myself in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's something I've yet to experience. Does it also differ between real couples and FB couples?
As in how they treat other people? Had a problem with a real couple last year. It was the female half not the male.
Well the respect element, are real couples taken more seriously and treated better? x"
Depends I suppose, same with anything. Some couples don't like fb's. Which is fair enough, their choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get treated very differently as a single female on here than I do when meeting on our couples profile. It seems like guys and couples treat women better/ more respectfully when another guy is around.
Have any other women found this?
When you're in a couple you are more likely to be real and less likely to mess people around.
I'm obviously a figment of my imagination. I wish my mortgage was .
. Single women are like Bruce Willis is 6th sense .... You think you're real but no one actually sees you "
I'm definitely real... And have met and played with real men, women and couples.....x |
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