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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Gentleman do you ask the lady or do you ask the man she's with ?. I was reminded of a time quite a while ago when I went to a club with a male friend that anyone who wanted to play with me asked him which got my back up for a few reasons mostly the fact that its my body and that they thought he was my partner/ husband etc . So a question to the men who do you ask ? And to the ladies would you prefer them to ask you or who your with?.
Sorry long winded just interested in response,s.
Kelly xx |
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If its a couple we tend to ask them both at the same time in a conversation, if only talking to one half of a couple we ask whichever we're talking to but as if we are talking to both ie 'do you guys fancy coming for some fun/a play/a good hard fucking. Then leave it to them to ask/confirm with their partner. |
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By *1ckeyMan
over a year ago
Camberley |
"If its a couple we tend to ask them both at the same time in a conversation, if only talking to one half of a couple we ask whichever we're talking to but as if we are talking to both ie 'do you guys fancy coming for some fun/a play/a good hard fucking. Then leave it to them to ask/confirm with their partner."
Ask them both, if they came together, it seems only right. |
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Id rather they approach me directly.
When i was with someone, i would simply say 'speak to him' or if i wasn't interested id say 'sorry I've my eye on this one already' you don't have to be nasty, just clear & honest  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (T) hate it when people ask me if they can play with J.
I always answer with "I don't know, ask her" but generally if she has seen them ask me then they have to be either exceptional or a quiet night for her to say yes, she hates being seen as owned as much as I hate being seen as owner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on situation obviously its polite to ask the person you want to play with or both but there are times when the woman is engrossed sucking her partners cock so in that situation i might ask partner if its ok to play with the female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on situation obviously its polite to ask the person you want to play with or both but there are times when the woman is engrossed sucking her partners cock so in that situation i might ask partner if its ok to play with the female."
That would get you a very definite no from me, ask her or wait. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I (T) hate it when people ask me if they can play with J.
I always answer with "I don't know, ask her" but generally if she has seen them ask me then they have to be either exceptional or a quiet night for her to say yes, she hates being seen as owned as much as I hate being seen as owner. "
I'm 100% single but I know exactly what you mean |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Gentleman do you ask the lady or do you ask the man she's with ?. I was reminded of a time quite a while ago when I went to a club with a male friend that anyone who wanted to play with me asked him which got my back up for a few reasons mostly the fact that its my body and that they thought he was my partner/ husband etc . So a question to the men who do you ask ? And to the ladies would you prefer them to ask you or who your with?.
Sorry long winded just interested in response,s.
Kelly xx "
if they are a couple i will ask the couple...... simple as
its not a case of either... its a case of both |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been on a club before but from a guy's point of vue I guess it depends on situation. If they are together I'd ask them both or ask the female without disrespecting and neglecting her companion. If they are not together I might go first to the guy and by courtasy and respect to the fact that she is with him/partner, and ask if its ok to ask her. Doesn't mean that if says yes its a yes. At the end of the day if she doesn't fancy me, even if he says yes and that means she'll do it I personally won't as I need a mutual attraction for me to play with someone. Just a courtasy and respect gesture between guys I think. Not a question of owned or not owned for me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ask if its ok to ask her. "
Depending on other incalculable factors, that would probably be OK with us, either way round, asking if it's OK to ask is very much different to asking if it's OK to play.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's a couple we would both ask them both if they wanted to play,
I was once asked by a single fem if she could take luke off to a private room, I told her to ask him himself as he has his own mind, but did find it a bit rude as the fem in question knew we only played as a couple  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it's a couple we would both ask them both if they wanted to play,
I was once asked by a single fem if she could take luke off to a private room, I told her to ask him himself as he has his own mind, but did find it a bit rude as the fem in question knew we only played as a couple "
That is bad if they already knew  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it's a couple we would both ask them both if they wanted to play,
I was once asked by a single fem if she could take luke off to a private room, I told her to ask him himself as he has his own mind, but did find it a bit rude as the fem in question knew we only played as a couple "
Some people like to play there own little games |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I used to get really annoyed when men would just go straight to my partner and ask his permission. He would always say that I make my own decisions but on one occasion the man asking scuttled off at that.
It doesn't happen as much now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it's a couple we would both ask them both if they wanted to play,
I was once asked by a single fem if she could take luke off to a private room, I told her to ask him himself as he has his own mind, but did find it a bit rude as the fem in question knew we only played as a couple
That is bad if they already knew "
Indeed... And she waited until Luke was out of ear shot to ask |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am just supposing if I were accompanied by a girl. Although its her body at the end of the day but since she is with me, my permission for her to play with someone else is important. If I say no she has to respect that. If a guy asks her without giving any consideration to me I will find it inapropriate and disrespectful. This is why I would ask the guy as well as the girl I fancy when she is accompanied. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"If it's a couple we would both ask them both if they wanted to play,
I was once asked by a single fem if she could take luke off to a private room, I told her to ask him himself as he has his own mind, but did find it a bit rude as the fem in question knew we only played as a couple
That is bad if they already knew
Indeed... And she waited until Luke was out of ear shot to ask "
But then she would miss the joy of seeing you two together. Couples have to be considered together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer they ask us both
But I do get my back up a bit if a girl asks to play with him - more because of the fact we're a couple, and not going to go off separately kind of thing!  |
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Great question!
We don't like it when either of are ignored as we are on here as a couple and fuck as a couple. We have had both situations of Beth being treated as my property and Melv being ignored by single guys. Couples are way better at dealing with this! But then there are 2 of them! Easiest way to approach us is as a couple, we both decide what is going to happen - no doubt this will complicate things for some guys, but if you want either of us you get both of us!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess its harder to judge with couples as you never know if they play seperately unless you have chatted with them about it. So for me, I prefer to chat to people first, then u find out the dynamic and who best to ask without causing offence, ie if a dom/sub pair, or couple who only play together, or either/or playing separate. But ultimately still need to ask the person in question if u only want to play with 1 part of a couple, as it is their choice. |
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