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" It's much more difficult to find penetrative sex of sufficient length than I thought it would be. We all respond to different things. " Interesting comment... If I had a pound for every time I have heard (other) women lament that a man would lick or "pump away" forever... I'd be rich... | |||
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" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. " See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.. | |||
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" It's much more difficult to find penetrative sex of sufficient length than I thought it would be. We all respond to different things. Interesting comment... If I had a pound for every time I have heard (other) women lament that a man would lick or "pump away" forever... I'd be rich..." You have to move things around a bit. Sticking to the same move for the whole time isn't desirable either. I may not be the most exciting sexual playmate but I know what I like. | |||
" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.." So this is about what's in your head and not necessarily about what your body might really enjoy. I'm happy to talk if you need to work through this. | |||
" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.." I knew a woman like that, a while back... A blindfold and a dildo did the trick... She was so high on the silos, she didn't realise she had me inside her. Had to be careful not to go all the way in. Any body contact and she'd have given the game away....  | |||
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" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.. I knew a woman like that, a while back... A blindfold and a dildo did the trick... She was so high on the silos, she didn't realise she had me inside her. Had to be careful not to go all the way in. Any body contact and she'd have given the game away.... "Dildo... Not silos...  | |||
" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.. I knew a woman like that, a while back... A blindfold and a dildo did the trick... She was so high on the silos, she didn't realise she had me inside her. Had to be careful not to go all the way in. Any body contact and she'd have given the game away....
Dildo... Not silos... "I had images of large grain holding vessels. | |||
" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.. I knew a woman like that, a while back... A blindfold and a dildo did the trick... She was so high on the silos, she didn't realise she had me inside her. Had to be careful not to go all the way in. Any body contact and she'd have given the game away....
Dildo... Not silos...
I had images of large grain holding vessels.
"Or large seed carrying vessels... | |||
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"And I cum quickly snd lots of times when with someone but takes longer on my own "You seem to be an exception. I know lots of ladies who find it easier to make themselves cum but struggle when other people get involved. Just like to add that is not a personal reflection on my performance. Thank you very much. | |||
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" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.. I knew a woman like that, a while back... A blindfold and a dildo did the trick... She was so high on the silos, she didn't realise she had me inside her. Had to be careful not to go all the way in. Any body contact and she'd have given the game away....
Dildo... Not silos...
I had images of large grain holding vessels.
"You see, I was thinking of missiles. I wonder what Freud would say. But, in answer to OP's question, often foreplay trumps full sex for intensity and fulfilment and as you seem to be able to find satisfaction through foreplay I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's certainly safer sex. | |||
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" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.. I knew a woman like that, a while back... A blindfold and a dildo did the trick... She was so high on the silos, she didn't realise she had me inside her. Had to be careful not to go all the way in. Any body contact and she'd have given the game away....
Dildo... Not silos...
I had images of large grain holding vessels.
You see, I was thinking of missiles. I wonder what Freud would say. "He'd probably say you were looking for a man to go on top....  | |||
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"I've forgot what sex is "With cream and cherries on those breasts of yours, I'd be more than happy to show you. | |||
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"Sometimes we both want and need different things at various points in our lives. There's nothing superior or worse than something else, if what we are getting is what we need. It doesn't matter what others love, merely what we prefer... Take life at your own pace and treat it as sacred. " Amen, sistuh.  | |||
"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? " On here penetrative sex is the ultimate goal. I wouldn't meet a man if I knew that it definitely wouldn't happen. I adore teasing and foreplay and enjoy a lot. A few minutes of fiddling and then a quick wham, bam, thank you ma'am isn't my think at all. However, I do want the foreplay to ultimately lead to penetration. I don't usually orgasm from penetration but I still love the feeling. My ideal is usually a long extended sessions with lots of experimentation and variety - exploring and enjoying. I like guys who can repeat because not having to be limited to them coming one way and then it being game over is wonderful. And it gives me more scope to give pleasure, which I enjoy. The most disappointing meets for me are when a guy can't stay hard in a condom, (or refuses to wear one), or when he comes during foreplay and then loses interest. | |||
"Personally I love foreplay a hell of a lot. I love pleasuring a woman, it turns me on more than almost anything else. There are times when I might want to have sex, but if the other person isn't in the mood/ doesn't fancy it, I'm happy to carry on with foreplay all night." this has to be a lie !! lol | |||
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"Personally I love foreplay a hell of a lot. I love pleasuring a woman, it turns me on more than almost anything else. There are times when I might want to have sex, but if the other person isn't in the mood/ doesn't fancy it, I'm happy to carry on with foreplay all night. this has to be a lie !! lol "Aha it honestly isn't. Sex is the ultimate goal, obviously, that's just basic human nature, in a way. But if that isn't on the cards, it really doesn't bother me at all. More fun to be had with my tongue! | |||
"Personally I love foreplay a hell of a lot. I love pleasuring a woman, it turns me on more than almost anything else. There are times when I might want to have sex, but if the other person isn't in the mood/ doesn't fancy it, I'm happy to carry on with foreplay all night. this has to be a lie !! lol
Aha it honestly isn't. Sex is the ultimate goal, obviously, that's just basic human nature, in a way. But if that isn't on the cards, it really doesn't bother me at all. More fun to be had with my tongue!"shouldn't have said a lie sorry! really what I mean is I would be frustrated as fuck ! not angry frustrated but I would need to jack myself off before carrying on | |||
"shouldn't have said a lie sorry! really what I mean is I would be frustrated as fuck ! not angry frustrated but I would need to jack myself off before carrying on" But why? Foreplay is a shared experience, not just for one person. And foreplay can come in many, many different forms. Maybe you need a wider imagination! | |||
And no, for me, sex is not high on my list of priorities.
Penetrative sex is definitely not be all and end all.
And I know how to help myself to reach climax if the gent I am with can't!
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"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? On here penetrative sex is the ultimate goal. I wouldn't meet a man if I knew that it definitely wouldn't happen. I adore teasing and foreplay and enjoy a lot. A few minutes of fiddling and then a quick wham, bam, thank you ma'am isn't my think at all. However, I do want the foreplay to ultimately lead to penetration. I don't usually orgasm from penetration but I still love the feeling. My ideal is usually a long extended sessions with lots of experimentation and variety - exploring and enjoying. I like guys who can repeat because not having to be limited to them coming one way and then it being game over is wonderful. And it gives me more scope to give pleasure, which I enjoy. The most disappointing meets for me are when a guy can't stay hard in a condom, (or refuses to wear one), or when he comes during foreplay and then loses interest." This
I love foreplay I hate short meets and being pressured with time. I like to play and explore and be explored fir as long as takes before the ultimate orgasm. However, if the game stops before I orgasm at least once, that would get me frustrated and wish I never started in the fjrst place.
I met a couple few weeks ago, I was trasing her kissing her giving her loads of oral ect and dont get ne wrong I was really enjoying it ... she cane few times then I went to get a glass of water when I came back to the bedroom they were getting ready to go and said they left the kids alone ect. I was left frustrated and desperately trying to arrange another meet. I wished I've never met in the first place and I will never meet them again althoygh they have left me a nice verificatiin.
In regards to the OP's question. I think the fact that you dont come through full penetration has something to do with your head coz the thrill of sex is in the head before it translates through your body and I think you got a nice offer their to talk it through. You might be looking for specific feelings towards someone before you get there. Probably x
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"Hands and mouth, are a big thing for me, if sex happens it happens. But so much can be done with those tools, hands and mouth. Nette" | |||
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"And I cum quickly snd lots of times when with someone but takes longer on my own
You seem to be an exception. I know lots of ladies who find it easier to make themselves cum but struggle when other people get involved.
Just like to add that is not a personal reflection on my performance. Thank you very much. "Yeah Ive had the same experience and its down to the fact the sex can be uncomfortable for women if they arent properly relaxed and so its hard for them to seek much enjoyment at all. | |||
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"I luv plenty of foreplay as a build up but I think I'd feel slightly cheated somehow if there was no penetrative sex. It has happened in the past though and the foreplay was so prolonged and fantastic, I was totally drained and could hardly move "wobbly legs then | |||
"I luv plenty of foreplay as a build up but I think I'd feel slightly cheated somehow if there was no penetrative sex. It has happened in the past though and the foreplay was so prolonged and fantastic, I was totally drained and could hardly move wobbly legs then "Hmmm my legs have been known to shake after a good session | |||
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"Wow thanks for the honest responses.. I do have full sex with people just sometimes on the meet i dont feel right so dont Also.. guys before they meet me are aware that nothing is guarenteed." As long as everyone is satisfied thats all that matters at the end of the day regardless of full sex or not. | |||
"I think you can give each other more pleasure during oral and foreplay. Don't get me wrong, I love the full effect, but sometimes it's over quicker than it's begun and wow, the build up " | |||
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"My family is everything to me ....... other things now and again and I like quality over quantity .So if I meet its a person worth meeting and not just for the sex." I don't get what you're saying? is it you're family need to approve the guy before you have penetrative sex? | |||
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"My family is everything to me ....... other things now and again and I like quality over quantity .So if I meet its a person worth meeting and not just for the sex. I don't get what you're saying? is it you're family need to approve the guy before you have penetrative sex?" I am saying sex is nothing to me ..... when or if my family needs me around they come first not sex .. I am happy to go without and I will just not meet who ever to have sex . Its not everything as have a life . For some its sex sex sex and sex there next sex fix . To me it becomes boring if i feel nothing for the person don't even like just for sex just like going to the loo. | |||
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"I like putting my tinkle inside people." | |||
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"My family is everything to me ....... other things now and again and I like quality over quantity .So if I meet its a person worth meeting and not just for the sex. I don't get what you're saying? is it you're family need to approve the guy before you have penetrative sex?I am saying sex is nothing to me ..... when or if my family needs me around they come first not sex .. I am happy to go without and I will just not meet who ever to have sex . Its not everything as have a life . For some its sex sex sex and sex there next sex fix . To me it becomes boring if i feel nothing for the person don't even like just for sex just like going to the loo." | |||
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"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? " and i thought the news of the world was full of shit but this beats it Thanks for this no need to buy a trashy paper | |||
"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? " You just do what your happy doing if that feels right to you . As theres nothing worse then having full sex with a person who your really not into. | |||
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"I like putting my tinkle inside people." You can tell a lot about a mans cock by what he calls it. Tinkle brings up images of something small and bell shaped | |||
"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? You just do what your happy doing if that feels right to you . As theres nothing worse then having full sex with a person who your really not into." Any sexual interaction with someone you're not into is worse. Bad sex isn't worth it. | |||
"I like putting my tinkle inside people. You can tell a lot about a mans cock by what he calls it. Tinkle brings up images of something small and bell shaped "But it makes a nice sound. Although I prefer men to ring my bell. | |||
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"I like putting my tinkle inside people. You can tell a lot about a mans cock by what he calls it. Tinkle brings up images of something small and bell shaped " This is why all my tinkle pictures (cock shots) are next to toy dinosaurs. | |||
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"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? and i thought the news of the world was full of shit but this beats it Thanks for this no need to buy a trashy paper "erm right e o jacqs.. your opinion | |||
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"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? and i thought the news of the world was full of shit but this beats it Thanks for this no need to buy a trashy paper "Sorry jacqs but that's out of line. | |||
" and i thought the news of the world was full of shit but this beats it Thanks for this no need to buy a trashy paper
Sorry jacqs but that's out of line. "im just wondering where she gets her opinions from and what they are based on? lol | |||
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"Oral is great, and I love foreplay, but for me sex without penetration is unsatisfying. Its like having a roast dinner without roast potatoes" The most disappointing moment is when you reach that feeling that nothing else will do, you keep going while reaching for a condom and then try climbing on to the incredible shrinking cock.  | |||
"Oral is great, and I love foreplay, but for me sex without penetration is unsatisfying. Its like having a roast dinner without roast potatoes The most disappointing moment is when you reach that feeling that nothing else will do, you keep going while reaching for a condom and then try climbing on to the incredible shrinking cock. "Me and the OH have had a few single guys around where this has happened. Its the reason we only play together at clubs now, at least we can just move on and not waste a whole night on guys with stage fright! lol | |||
"Oral is great, and I love foreplay, but for me sex without penetration is unsatisfying. Its like having a roast dinner without roast potatoes The most disappointing moment is when you reach that feeling that nothing else will do, you keep going while reaching for a condom and then try climbing on to the incredible shrinking cock.
Me and the OH have had a few single guys around where this has happened. Its the reason we only play together at clubs now, at least we can just move on and not waste a whole night on guys with stage fright! lol "Or condom fright. This and safety considerations are the main reasons I wish I was closer to more clubs. | |||
"Oral is great, and I love foreplay, but for me sex without penetration is unsatisfying. Its like having a roast dinner without roast potatoes The most disappointing moment is when you reach that feeling that nothing else will do, you keep going while reaching for a condom and then try climbing on to the incredible shrinking cock.
Me and the OH have had a few single guys around where this has happened. Its the reason we only play together at clubs now, at least we can just move on and not waste a whole night on guys with stage fright! lol
Or condom fright.
This and safety considerations are the main reasons I wish I was closer to more clubs."I once went to a couple who had invited a 3rd guy. He put on a condom that the couple gave him and immediately he went flacid. Apparently he was allergic to latex. Why the hell he never brought his own ones along I will never know! Still, it cam in handy, I threw him my camera and told him to take shots! lol | |||
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"I love all the kiss, touching, licking, sucking and exploring each others bodies, i'd quite happily meet someone just for soft swing and have on a few occasions, penetrative sex does not do that much for me if i'm going to be honest and can quite happily go without, I will if its what the other person wants but if a guys a long stayer I get bored really easy and want to get back to the oral, if I do do penetrative sex it has to be in sort spell with lots of other things mixed in, not just get on and gang away till they cum " I like it that way too | |||
"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? and i thought the news of the world was full of shit but this beats it Thanks for this no need to buy a trashy paper
Sorry jacqs but that's out of line. "why it means i dont need to by a gossip or trashy paper thats all i meant  | |||
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"Ive not had sex with that many people and find it hard for some reason to go all the way.. I adore giving pleasure and foreplay drives me wild.. love teasing, flirting, the chase and banter. Thats enough to satisfy my needs and wants, but im just curious if sex is the ultimate outcome or could you be happy if foreplay was all that was gonna happen?? and i thought the news of the world was full of shit but this beats it Thanks for this no need to buy a trashy paper
Sorry jacqs but that's out of line.
why it means i dont need to by a gossip or trashy paper thats all i meant "How is this thread gossip or trashy? Is it any worse than the thread you put up the other night when you had teletubbie and minxie Round? This has actually sparked some good discussion. | |||
"and why would my post make you think i was full of shit? " read it again chick! its not aimed at anyone in particular just i dont need a paper when the forums like this | |||
" How is this thread gossip or trashy? Is it any worse than the thread you put up the other night when you had teletubbie and minxie Round? This has actually sparked some good discussion. " mine was just taking the piss end of | |||
" How is this thread gossip or trashy? Is it any worse than the thread you put up the other night when you had teletubbie and minxie Round? This has actually sparked some good discussion. mine was just taking the piss end of " Ok | |||
"and why would my post make you think i was full of shit? read it again chick! its not aimed at anyone in particular just i dont need a paper when the forums like this " i honestly feel my thread served a purpose, had a variety of responses. if you dont like a thread why not just move onto the next one that does interest you | |||
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"and why would my post make you think i was full of shit? read it again chick! its not aimed at anyone in particular just i dont need a paper when the forums like this i honestly feel my thread served a purpose, had a variety of responses. if you dont like a thread why not just move onto the next one that does interest you" I thought this was a good thread and plenty of others do too judging by the response!! I'm not going to mention any but we've much much worse, one on Saturday night!! | |||
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"I'm really in support of the OP on this topic. In spite of some people thinking they know what every man wants, their own experiences doesn't make their generalisations correct. As someone who adores giving pleasure through foreplay, I'd find it more enjoyable to be told that full sex is not expected. I like things to be spontaneous and organic. Things should take a natural flow. If we both wanted penetrative sex, great! If not, still great! Yes, of course I like to cum during our play-time together, but in no way do I feel it's my right to expect it to be inside my partner. Getting my rocks off feels good, whether it's in the holiest of holy, or just off the wrist. I can only speak for how I feel, because I'm the only person who's needs and desires I know well enough to have a valid opinion about. I would never presume to know what others want better than they know themselves." Good point | |||
"I'm really in support of the OP on this topic. In spite of some people thinking they know what every man wants, their own experiences doesn't make their generalisations correct. As someone who adores giving pleasure through foreplay, I'd find it more enjoyable to be told that full sex is not expected. I like things to be spontaneous and organic. Things should take a natural flow. If we both wanted penetrative sex, great! If not, still great! Yes, of course I like to cum during our play-time together, but in no way do I feel it's my right to expect it to be inside my partner. Getting my rocks off feels good, whether it's in the holiest of holy, or just off the wrist. I can only speak for how I feel, because I'm the only person who's needs and desires I know well enough to have a valid opinion about. I would never presume to know what others want better than they know themselves. Good point " | |||
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" I love penetration in fact even when playing with myself I find it hard to cum through clitoral stimulation alone. See i can cum really quickly by myself with or without toys.. but never once cum with a guy. Came close to it once (then cried like a fool) I enjoy having toys used on me and fingers.. just 'freeze' when a guy wants sex.. I knew a woman like that, a while back... A blindfold and a dildo did the trick... She was so high on the silos, she didn't realise she had me inside her. Had to be careful not to go all the way in. Any body contact and she'd have given the game away....
Dildo... Not silos...
I had images of large grain holding vessels.
You see, I was thinking of missiles. I wonder what Freud would say.
He'd probably say you were looking for a man to go on top.... "Nope, with men I'm always top. | |||
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