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Is this a cheating husband site?
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Earlier today I had three of my female friends round for a girls night, they are all swingers and my husband and I have played with them all and their partners on a regular basis, but every now and then we meet up for a girls night and one of our homes and usually the lucky (or unlucky)husband gets a four girl treat. Sadly Steve, my hubby was ill with an ear and throat infection, so was in no real mood to play so suggested we get some one from Fab to come join us. We advertised it in our status and we got six offers from the male halves of couples on out friends list who live quite local all eager to join us. Being respectful swingers, we asked each individual if it was ok with their respective partners and just to check with a quick phone call. Surprisingly everyone backed out at that point. We don't support infidelity and shame on all those supposedly swingers couples, who are quite happy to play behind their partners backs. We feel like naming and shaming, but have risen above it, but it does leave us a little diheartened that some so called mature and adult "swingers" are really using this site for cheating purposes. Is it just us being to fussy or moralistic? what do you guys think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Earlier today I had three of my female friends round for a girls night, they are all swingers and my husband and I have played with them all and their partners on a regular basis, but every now and then we meet up for a girls night and one of our homes and usually the lucky (or unlucky)husband gets a four girl treat. Sadly Steve, my hubby was ill with an ear and throat infection, so was in no real mood to play so suggested we get some one from Fab to come join us. We advertised it in our status and we got six offers from the male halves of couples on out friends list who live quite local all eager to join us. Being respectful swingers, we asked each individual if it was ok with their respective partners and just to check with a quick phone call. Surprisingly everyone backed out at that point. We don't support infidelity and shame on all those supposedly swingers couples, who are quite happy to play behind their partners backs. We feel like naming and shaming, but have risen above it, but it does leave us a little diheartened that some so called mature and adult "swingers" are really using this site for cheating purposes. Is it just us being to fussy or moralistic? what do you guys think?"
No I think your right in what your saying and it is wrong what these men did. I'd be tempted to delete them as friends too. But that's just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sure there's not a single (lol) married female using this site to 'cheat' (I've never understood the term) on their husband ... oh no ... ban men! ban the swines! |
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I am not saying some single men and single women maybe be on here when they are actually married, I would be shocked if there wasnt. But on this occasion I am just saying that as a swinger couple, we find it highly strange that if you are a genuine swinging couple, that you would ever need to cheat, us less of course they aren't really a couple at all, or it is the male who whats to swing but their partner maybe be reluctant, so they go behind their backs. We just don't want to be used for the purpose of infidelity, there is nothing wrong with that is there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not saying some single men and single women maybe be on here when they are actually married, I would be shocked if there wasnt. But on this occasion I am just saying that as a swinger couple, we find it highly strange that if you are a genuine swinging couple, that you would ever need to cheat, us less of course they aren't really a couple at all, or it is the male who whats to swing but their partner maybe be reluctant, so they go behind their backs. We just don't want to be used for the purpose of infidelity, there is nothing wrong with that is there? "
No not at all, blokes like these get my back up. If I was to meet someone who wasn't a swinger I'd leave the site and if your not happy with who your with then why be with them |
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I have seen quite a few womens' profiles openly saying their other halves don't know. Both sexes are cheating on here, it's just because there are so many more men on here that there are far more of them cheating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am not saying some single men and single women maybe be on here when they are actually married, I would be shocked if there wasnt. But on this occasion I am just saying that as a swinger couple, we find it highly strange that if you are a genuine swinging couple, that you would ever need to cheat, us less of course they aren't really a couple at all, or it is the male who whats to swing but their partner maybe be reluctant, so they go behind their backs. We just don't want to be used for the purpose of infidelity, there is nothing wrong with that is there?
No not at all, blokes like these get my back up. If I was to meet someone who wasn't a swinger I'd leave the site and if your not happy with who your with then why be with them"
 If I was to meet someone I'd delete my profile in an instant too. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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There are a lot of cheating people on here, both male and female.
The site is many things though, so no it's not a cheaters' site.
Some people prefer to meet married/attached people because they are less likely to become attached and want more. |
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Few of us want to hurt anyone, and so respect and empathise with others. There are cheaters on here- I think mainly those 'single' guys who use fab being partners backs. We dont always know other couples rules, and it may be that information on new meets is provided afterwards, as a partner has given general approval to meet alone. Only the girls here know what was said to them, so it is difficult to know the full details. If in doubt, dont hurt others is always a good principle. |
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Couldn't be arsed to read all of the OP's post as it was starting to bring on a sight migraine and you know what they can do to your unexpected cranium especially on a wet and windy Friday when your bacon and mushroom sandwich is not ready complete with hp brown sauce and even if it was then the mushrooms weren't even grilled properly but having said that I like your style and will send you a wink if that's ok but it will only be accessible on the second Wednesday in June |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP I know what you're saying. I agree. If one half of a swinging couple goes behind the other's back... it's just crap. Leaves me no hope for a decent relationship. If it was me I'd delete them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To the OP
First of all it seems you have a terrific swinging lifestyle and the husbands in your group are very lucky! 
With regards to to you and your girl friends being concerned about males not wanting you to speak to their partners, your concerns are valid and I see where you are coming from. It's not the point to have a single male profile, just do it with the consent of your partner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It surprised me to learn that even some swingers cheat. Just stick to your standards OP.
Btw if you ever decide to name and shame, you'll receive a temporary forum ban. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always thought swinging is about honesty… if you swing as a couple… you don't have to cheat. Swinging relationships should be the most healthy as what are taboo subjects in some 'normal' marriages are open to discussion/exploration in a swinging relationship.
I can only guess what my ex would have said if I'd suggested a 4 way bi fem sex orgy… it would probably be pretty negative and involve my testicles and a knife…I'm a sgl guy.. next time hubby has the lurgy….call me and I'll come round and disappoint all 4 of you at once  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If couples go behind one anothers backs on here, there is no further point.
Well I wouldn't be on here if I felt the need to do that, upfront and honesty or nothing at all.  |
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By *udiguyMan
over a year ago
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"I have seen quite a few womens' profiles openly saying their other halves don't know. Both sexes are cheating on here, it's just because there are so many more men on here that there are far more of them cheating."
So have I
At least there open about it tho |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An open relationship far better than cheating.
Trust and keeping to the boundaries set.
I do not agree on cheating, but I do understand some peoples reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But then its what wemen on this site an made this site into  how long have i had this profile an i aint had 1meet off ere jst because im a single male on ere, iv meet about 4 wemen since being on ere an non are from this site most wemen an couples will not meet single males on ere so single males wont stay on ere if they wont get meet so then all this site will b left with is couples an an married men an single wemen an i am respectfull an iv tryed every approatch  |
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"OP I know what you're saying. I agree. If one half of a swinging couple goes behind the other's back... it's just crap. Leaves me no hope for a decent relationship. If it was me I'd delete them. "
I never understand that. So John down the road is having it away with her up the road with the crazy paving so I despair of finding a decent bloke?!!
Okie dokie! |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"There are a lot of cheating people on here, both male and female.
The site is many things though, so no it's not a cheaters' site.
Some people prefer to meet married/attached people because they are less likely to become attached and want more."
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well said and all true |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I think one half of a swinging couple cheating is strange, as it is meant to be more open to sex with others so why would anyone need to hide it.
Obviously there is another option, the "couples" you spoke to may not be couples.
Don't name and shame though please, as I hate doing the paperwork. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"OP I know what you're saying. I agree. If one half of a swinging couple goes behind the other's back... it's just crap. Leaves me no hope for a decent relationship. If it was me I'd delete them.
I never understand that. So John down the road is having it away with her up the road with the crazy paving so I despair of finding a decent bloke?!!
Okie dokie!"
 @ with her up the road with the crazy paving |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP I know what you're saying. I agree. If one half of a swinging couple goes behind the other's back... it's just crap. Leaves me no hope for a decent relationship. If it was me I'd delete them.
I never understand that. So John down the road is having it away with her up the road with the crazy paving so I despair of finding a decent bloke?!!
Okie dokie!"
Yeah I know I'm full of shit, I admit it.
I also think that because someone unexpectedly found a nice bloke out of the blue, that there IS hope.... I'm so contradictory it makes my own head spin.  |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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"I have seen quite a few womens' profiles openly saying their other halves don't know. Both sexes are cheating on here, it's just because there are so many more men on here that there are far more of them cheating."
I see profiles of couples who are both married & with fuck buddies on here so they are cheating anyway
I think the point is they are supposedly married swingers but when it comes to verifying with the other halves they backed out.
Congrats to you ladies for being good enough to consider the other halves
Julie |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But then its what wemen on this site an made this site into how long have i had this profile an i aint had 1meet off ere jst because im a single male on ere, iv meet about 4 wemen since being on ere an non are from this site most wemen an couples will not meet single males on ere so single males wont stay on ere if they wont get meet so then all this site will b left with is couples an an married men an single wemen an i am respectfull an iv tryed every approatch "
Sorry but what a load of absolute rubbish!! Have just taken a look at your profile and suggest you do too, then compare it to those of some of the other guys (on the forum for example) who do get meets and the explanation for your lack of meets is staring you right in the face. Ask yourself what there is about your profile that would entice any woman to want to meet you?
I have met and chat with plenty of genuinely single men on here and I am sure that applies to countless other single women and couples on here.
Sorry OP but the outrageous statement that women are responsible for all the cheating married men on Fab really pissed me off and I needed to vent!!!!!
And breathe .............. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there's any doubt just say no thanks simples. I'm always upfront and explain on my profile that I am attached but looking if people don't like that then that's fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Double standards on here, very few men will turn down a married woman
There are some on here that say they will have nothing to do with married women but still secretly chase them on here.
I prefer not to judge, there are far to many variables to give anyone any reason to criticise another's lifestyle on here |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"If there's any doubt just say no thanks simples. I'm always upfront and explain on my profile that I am attached but looking if people don't like that then that's fine"
I think you and others have missed the point, it is about couple profiles where the male half contacted them and it looked like it was behind their swinging halfs back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you pick up a man in a pub or hotel you dont know if he is married so why worry.
pick men up in a bar.....
ffs, that takes me back to the 80's "
me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging is swinging, having fun behind your partners back without them knowing is cheating! If one half has the others blessing to play with others then there's not a problem. I, tidy, when I was single, never ever played with a woman who was married or had a partner, unless full blessing was given from the other half. So no double standards from me  |
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"Swinging is swinging, having fun behind your partners back without them knowing is cheating! If one half has the others blessing to play with others then there's not a problem. I, tidy, when I was single, never ever played with a woman who was married or had a partner, unless full blessing was given from the other half. So no double standards from me "
How do you know you hadn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dress it up how you like but loads are more uptight than they let on. And not all that free and easy. Theres loads of cheating going on of course but I just am amazed at how male driven the whole thing is. Ladies why ninety % of the time do you adverise yourselves with numerous photos of you and then one or two token pics of him( if any )
Surely there should be more balance?
Ps i'm moving to Barnsley...!!  |
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over a year ago
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"OP I know what you're saying. I agree. If one half of a swinging couple goes behind the other's back... it's just crap. Leaves me no hope for a decent relationship. If it was me I'd delete them. "
this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Swinging is swinging, having fun behind your partners back without them knowing is cheating! If one half has the others blessing to play with others then there's not a problem. I, tidy, when I was single, never ever played with a woman who was married or had a partner, unless full blessing was given from the other half. So no double standards from me
How do you know you hadn't "
because I spoke to the partner myself? By Phone or met them? Good enough for me, unless you say that the woman had some guy posing as her partner maybe but I doubt it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if you pick up a man in a pub or hotel you dont know if he is married so why worry."
It's about knowingly doing it. If I have doubts as to whether the guy in question (on here or other sites, as I don't pick up in a pub/hotel but will meet there), then it's adiós. Life has taught me to have a conscience so I wouldn't knowingly be a part of something that could destroy another's life. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
its a site where husbands come when there not getting any sex at home ,
there again it is also a site where wifes come when there not getting what they whant at home ,
so it works both ways
and if theres any one out there for me lol get mailing me . local please  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!"
Depends on whether people _iew deceitful members as nice .
I've met some lovely single guys. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!"
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage . |
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage . "
So your wife knows? |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage .
So your wife knows?"
no i am cheetting just like the other cheeting men and wives at least its on my profile that i am married , so its there choice if they want to hook up with me thats why i would like a cheetting wife so we could cheet together . and have discreet fun . |
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honesty and cheating arent words that should sahre the same sentence.
a VERY emotive subject, that crops up every now and then, and always ends on a bitchfest.
would suggest all those that are married and playing away, say so on your profile.
far from being lambasted for it, people would actually be more accepting of your willingness to let people on here know and make an informed decision to ignore you, or indeed embrace your infidelity as it means you will be a little more discrete than true singles.
either way, it would be nice to have the choice to not get involved. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"honesty and cheating arent words that should sahre the same sentence.
a VERY emotive subject, that crops up every now and then, and always ends on a bitchfest.
would suggest all those that are married and playing away, say so on your profile.
far from being lambasted for it, people would actually be more accepting of your willingness to let people on here know and make an informed decision to ignore you, or indeed embrace your infidelity as it means you will be a little more discrete than true singles.
either way, it would be nice to have the choice to not get involved."
well said . it does say married on my profile so its there choice if they would like to cheat with me or pass me by ,,, |
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"I have seen quite a few womens' profiles openly saying their other halves don't know. Both sexes are cheating on here, it's just because there are so many more men on here that there are far more of them cheating.
So have I
At least there open about it tho"
I should have put men too, both sexes openly cheating, saying they are married but... I agree it's wrong as it also is with those who are on here as a couple, cheating in the way the OP has decribed.
I, however, am not going behind my back and my right hand knows when I use my left hand. We have a loving, open relationship. So feel free to pop round and use my telly any time you like ladies. |
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage .
So your wife knows?
no i am cheetting just like the other cheeting men and wives at least its on my profile that i am married , so its there choice if they want to hook up with me thats why i would like a cheetting wife so we could cheet together . and have discreet fun . "
So your honesty is selective!
Is it supposed to be honourable that you're declaring honesty and yet are dishonest to the very person you're supposed to love and cherish more in the whole wide world?
As Hercules as said, it is the right thing to do here so people can make an informed choice. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage .
So your wife knows?
no i am cheetting just like the other cheeting men and wives at least its on my profile that i am married , so its there choice if they want to hook up with me thats why i would like a cheetting wife so we could cheet together . and have discreet fun .
So your honesty is selective!
Is it supposed to be honourable that you're declaring honesty and yet are dishonest to the very person you're supposed to love and cherish more in the whole wide world?
As Hercules as said, it is the right thing to do here so people can make an informed choice."
no its not realy selective .
its stated on my profile so who are you to judge me . |
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage .
So your wife knows?
no i am cheetting just like the other cheeting men and wives at least its on my profile that i am married , so its there choice if they want to hook up with me thats why i would like a cheetting wife so we could cheet together . and have discreet fun .
So your honesty is selective!
Is it supposed to be honourable that you're declaring honesty and yet are dishonest to the very person you're supposed to love and cherish more in the whole wide world?
As Hercules as said, it is the right thing to do here so people can make an informed choice.
no its not realy selective .
its stated on my profile so who are you to judge me . "
as said, no one is judging, you are defending yourself against the indefensible.
your honsety IS selective, otherwise you would have told your wife you are cheating.
no one knows the intricacies of your relationship, so no one knows what you use to justify your actions to yourself, but ateotd swinging is about HONESTY whether that be between a couple, or 2 singles organising a meet, and if you cant be honest in one aspect of life, then why should anyone believe you wont be in another.
as i said, there are those that actively seek out married singles, as they suit their own situation, but please, dont try and make out you are some white knight (not just you, Tom, but everyone) just because you let strangers you may never know, that you are shagging around, whilst keeping it quiet form the person that thinks they are married to the most wonderful person around |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage .
So your wife knows?
no i am cheetting just like the other cheeting men and wives at least its on my profile that i am married , so its there choice if they want to hook up with me thats why i would like a cheetting wife so we could cheet together . and have discreet fun .
So your honesty is selective!
Is it supposed to be honourable that you're declaring honesty and yet are dishonest to the very person you're supposed to love and cherish more in the whole wide world?
As Hercules as said, it is the right thing to do here so people can make an informed choice.
no its not realy selective .
its stated on my profile so who are you to judge me . "
Your honesty IS selective, that is a fact not a judgement, you are being honest to forum members but not your wife.
Personally I don't care what you do as I do not know the story behind your infidelity (and don't want to know), so I'm hardly going to judge you. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
So there are nice men on here...I thought we were all shites!
well i am hopeing to meet a cheeting wife i cant blame her for doing what i am doing . at least i am up front and honest about being married and in a vanilla marriage .
So your wife knows?
no i am cheetting just like the other cheeting men and wives at least its on my profile that i am married , so its there choice if they want to hook up with me thats why i would like a cheetting wife so we could cheet together . and have discreet fun .
So your honesty is selective!
Is it supposed to be honourable that you're declaring honesty and yet are dishonest to the very person you're supposed to love and cherish more in the whole wide world?
As Hercules as said, it is the right thing to do here so people can make an informed choice.
no its not realy selective .
its stated on my profile so who are you to judge me .
Your honesty IS selective, that is a fact not a judgement, you are being honest to forum members but not your wife.
Personally I don't care what you do as I do not know the story behind your infidelity (and don't want to know), so I'm hardly going to judge you."
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"It's not just the singles, I stopped meeting couples because I so was fed up of the guy asking me to meet alone behind his partners back!
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That is the problem in a nutshell. We use this site because we like to believe that the people on here are real swingers and to a degree honest with it. We are not so naive to think that all single profiles are of single people, but when we see couples profiles, especially ones verified we would expect them to be what they say, genuine swingers. Swinging to us is being open and honest with each other as a couple and having the freedom to say what we want and what we like to do sexually in a open way that we can both agree on. We have swung separately both always with the others permission, and we are happy to verify that via telephone call. What gauls us is the people that think they can use us to support their infidelity and think it is not a problem. I am sorry but that is just not on with us, if you have to cheat and lie to your partner to have a bit of fun, then that is NOT swinging you are not for us. Simple as that really, keep your cheating and dishonest infidelity for others that are ok with it. Both Steve and I have not intention in helping cheating partners as it is not something we would like done to us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I found out about my cheating partner going behind my back whilst swinging as a couple (been together 8 years) ...Trust completely gone ...as is he! !!!.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gives us guys a bad reputation. My veris have a healthy 3 month gap in them. Acvount was hidden and totally un used in that period as I was with a non-swinger. She knew my background etc but it wasn't for her. Do for that time it wasn't for me either.
So many "single" guys on here too who obviously aren't - normally the can't accomodate gang!
Its sad but it's a fact of the site - just use your own eyes and sense as a filter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not just the singles, I stopped meeting couples because I so was fed up of the guy asking me to meet alone behind his partners back!
That is the problem in a nutshell. We use this site because we like to believe that the people on here are real swingers and to a degree honest with it. We are not so naive to think that all single profiles are of single people, but when we see couples profiles, especially ones verified we would expect them to be what they say, genuine swingers. Swinging to us is being open and honest with each other as a couple and having the freedom to say what we want and what we like to do sexually in a open way that we can both agree on. We have swung separately both always with the others permission, and we are happy to verify that via telephone call. What gauls us is the people that think they can use us to support their infidelity and think it is not a problem. I am sorry but that is just not on with us, if you have to cheat and lie to your partner to have a bit of fun, then that is NOT swinging you are not for us. Simple as that really, keep your cheating and dishonest infidelity for others that are ok with it. Both Steve and I have not intention in helping cheating partners as it is not something we would like done to us. "
Totally agree. I've also been to a party and been introduced to a couple who's male half I've already met on a single profile claiming to be single.
Ultimately it comes down to trust and the ability to be honest. Some couples swing for the right reasons, because they have honesty and trust but others do it for all the wrong reasons. To please a partner or to repair relationships. It applies to singles too. You will get many more genuine meets through honesty than you will with lies.
The worst of all for me is guys that don't tell you they have a partner until just before you meet in the hope you will still meet them. I won't! Lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But then its what wemen on this site an made this site into how long have i had this profile an i aint had 1meet off ere jst because im a single male on ere, iv meet about 4 wemen since being on ere an non are from this site most wemen an couples will not meet single males on ere so single males wont stay on ere if they wont get meet so then all this site will b left with is couples an an married men an single wemen an i am respectfull an iv tryed every approatch
Try a spelling lesson.
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It's a swinging site not a spelling site , try to stick to the theme of the post and not belittle people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thats one thing i will never understand.
cheating whilst being in a swinging couple.
surely you would be getting enough of what you fancy to not need to look for more?
the old trite argument of 'im not getting it at home so i look elsewhere' then surely doesnt apply here.
its just complete madness, although have found that SOME swinging couples, actually do it to try and keep hold of one or other partner, rather than have them go off and do it behind their back, so maybe these are those couples |
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"thats one thing i will never understand.
cheating whilst being in a swinging couple.
surely you would be getting enough of what you fancy to not need to look for more?
the old trite argument of 'im not getting it at home so i look elsewhere' then surely doesnt apply here.
its just complete madness, although have found that SOME swinging couples, actually do it to try and keep hold of one or other partner, rather than have them go off and do it behind their back, so maybe these are those couples"
Or perhaps it's because everything is laid on a plate and less fun? Some people need the thrill of the chase, or thrill of knowing they are doing something wrong. |
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"Earlier today I had three of my female friends round for a girls night, they are all swingers and my husband and I have played with them all and their partners on a regular basis, but every now and then we meet up for a girls night and one of our homes and usually the lucky (or unlucky)husband gets a four girl treat. Sadly Steve, my hubby was ill with an ear and throat infection, so was in no real mood to play so suggested we get some one from Fab to come join us. We advertised it in our status and we got six offers from the male halves of couples on out friends list who live quite local all eager to join us. Being respectful swingers, we asked each individual if it was ok with their respective partners and just to check with a quick phone call. Surprisingly everyone backed out at that point. We don't support infidelity and shame on all those supposedly swingers couples, who are quite happy to play behind their partners backs. We feel like naming and shaming, but have risen above it, but it does leave us a little diheartened that some so called mature and adult "swingers" are really using this site for cheating purposes. Is it just us being to fussy or moralistic? what do you guys think?"
Just a thought, did any of the guys speak in a French accent and promise to 'pop round on ze scooteur'... |
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over a year ago
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"thats one thing i will never understand.
cheating whilst being in a swinging couple.
surely you would be getting enough of what you fancy to not need to look for more?
the old trite argument of 'im not getting it at home so i look elsewhere' then surely doesnt apply here.
its just complete madness, although have found that SOME swinging couples, actually do it to try and keep hold of one or other partner, rather than have them go off and do it behind their back, so maybe these are those couples
Or perhaps it's because everything is laid on a plate and less fun? Some people need the thrill of the chase, or thrill of knowing they are doing something wrong."
indeed, but still, when the thrill of what swinging is, stops becoming so, surely its time to pack it in, rather than finding other ways to thrill yourself?
last time that happened, im sure they found a bloke zipped up in a holdall... |
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over a year ago
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"thats one thing i will never understand.
cheating whilst being in a swinging couple.
surely you would be getting enough of what you fancy to not need to look for more?
the old trite argument of 'im not getting it at home so i look elsewhere' then surely doesnt apply here.
its just complete madness, although have found that SOME swinging couples, actually do it to try and keep hold of one or other partner, rather than have them go off and do it behind their back, so maybe these are those couples
Or perhaps it's because everything is laid on a plate and less fun? Some people need the thrill of the chase, or thrill of knowing they are doing something wrong."
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Have to say I'm finding this all very interesting....
Including the term true swingers, if you asked 100 different people you would get the same number of explanation and nobody will agree with all of them.
Ask if you have a concern and If you don't like what they say move on. We all get lied to in the wider world so why expect it to be different here. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Don't name and shame though please, as I hate doing the paperwork.
I can make the coffee and provide cake whilst you are going through that labourious process "
What kind of cake and can I have tea instead? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment."
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS , |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment.
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS , "
Sorry, I disagree. Most use the fora because they are fun, or to find meets and events.
Also, I do judge others, often, for all sorts of reasons. As do you. For one, whenever we decide we do/don't want to meet someone, we are judging them in some way.
Cheating is wrong in my opinion but I know that life isn't always black and white and sometimes there is no perfect option. Whatever you do, somebody could suffer.
I can understand it but that doesn't make it ok or right.
I am, however, finding I am often not attracted to the single guys on here whereas I would happily meet some of the cheats if they weren't cheating.
That's a dilemma I have yet to resolve. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment.
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS ,
Sorry, I disagree. Most use the fora because they are fun, or to find meets and events.
Also, I do judge others, often, for all sorts of reasons. As do you. For one, whenever we decide we do/don't want to meet someone, we are judging them in some way.
Cheating is wrong in my opinion but I know that life isn't always black and white and sometimes there is no perfect option. Whatever you do, somebody could suffer.
I can understand it but that doesn't make it ok or right.
I am, however, finding I am often not attracted to the single guys on here whereas I would happily meet some of the cheats if they weren't cheating.
That's a dilemma I have yet to resolve. "
no ones perfect we all have our faults at least some of us are open and honest that way it gives people a choice they can meet us or pass us by |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment.
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS ,
Sorry, I disagree. Most use the fora because they are fun, or to find meets and events.
Also, I do judge others, often, for all sorts of reasons. As do you. For one, whenever we decide we do/don't want to meet someone, we are judging them in some way.
Cheating is wrong in my opinion but I know that life isn't always black and white and sometimes there is no perfect option. Whatever you do, somebody could suffer.
I can understand it but that doesn't make it ok or right.
I am, however, finding I am often not attracted to the single guys on here whereas I would happily meet some of the cheats if they weren't cheating.
That's a dilemma I have yet to resolve.
no ones perfect we all have our faults at least some of us are open and honest that way it gives people a choice they can meet us or pass us by "
As already pointed out, you're not being open and honest with your partner.
I would rather know if someone is cheating so I can make an informed decision but I don't think you can legitimately describe yourself as "open and honest".
How would you feel if someone you loved told hundreds/thousands of strangers something important that they'd kept from you? Would you consider them to have been honest?
Admitting you're cheating doesn't make it better and does not give you any moral high ground. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment.
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS ,
Sorry, I disagree. Most use the fora because they are fun, or to find meets and events.
Also, I do judge others, often, for all sorts of reasons. As do you. For one, whenever we decide we do/don't want to meet someone, we are judging them in some way.
Cheating is wrong in my opinion but I know that life isn't always black and white and sometimes there is no perfect option. Whatever you do, somebody could suffer.
I can understand it but that doesn't make it ok or right.
I am, however, finding I am often not attracted to the single guys on here whereas I would happily meet some of the cheats if they weren't cheating.
That's a dilemma I have yet to resolve.
no ones perfect we all have our faults at least some of us are open and honest that way it gives people a choice they can meet us or pass us by
As already pointed out, you're not being open and honest with your partner.
I would rather know if someone is cheating so I can make an informed decision but I don't think you can legitimately describe yourself as "open and honest".
How would you feel if someone you loved told hundreds/thousands of strangers something important that they'd kept from you? Would you consider them to have been honest?
Admitting you're cheating doesn't make it better and does not give you any moral high ground. "
well there are some people that you can talk to , but alas my wife isnt one of them have you herd the saying its like talking to a brick wall , have been trying for 5 years with out any joy , admitting i am cheating doesnt make it any better , but it does let people know that i am married and then they can choose if they want to meet me after all the choice is theres , |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment.
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS ,
Sorry, I disagree. Most use the fora because they are fun, or to find meets and events.
Also, I do judge others, often, for all sorts of reasons. As do you. For one, whenever we decide we do/don't want to meet someone, we are judging them in some way.
Cheating is wrong in my opinion but I know that life isn't always black and white and sometimes there is no perfect option. Whatever you do, somebody could suffer.
I can understand it but that doesn't make it ok or right.
I am, however, finding I am often not attracted to the single guys on here whereas I would happily meet some of the cheats if they weren't cheating.
That's a dilemma I have yet to resolve.
no ones perfect we all have our faults at least some of us are open and honest that way it gives people a choice they can meet us or pass us by
As already pointed out, you're not being open and honest with your partner.
I would rather know if someone is cheating so I can make an informed decision but I don't think you can legitimately describe yourself as "open and honest".
How would you feel if someone you loved told hundreds/thousands of strangers something important that they'd kept from you? Would you consider them to have been honest?
Admitting you're cheating doesn't make it better and does not give you any moral high ground.
well there are some people that you can talk to , but alas my wife isnt one of them have you herd the saying its like talking to a brick wall , have been trying for 5 years with out any joy , admitting i am cheating doesnt make it any better , but it does let people know that i am married and then they can choose if they want to meet me after all the choice is theres , "
i dont see any other married men owning up to being married and cheating most of then are hideing away at least i have the balls to , |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment.
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS ,
Sorry, I disagree. Most use the fora because they are fun, or to find meets and events.
Also, I do judge others, often, for all sorts of reasons. As do you. For one, whenever we decide we do/don't want to meet someone, we are judging them in some way.
Cheating is wrong in my opinion but I know that life isn't always black and white and sometimes there is no perfect option. Whatever you do, somebody could suffer.
I can understand it but that doesn't make it ok or right.
I am, however, finding I am often not attracted to the single guys on here whereas I would happily meet some of the cheats if they weren't cheating.
That's a dilemma I have yet to resolve.
no ones perfect we all have our faults at least some of us are open and honest that way it gives people a choice they can meet us or pass us by
As already pointed out, you're not being open and honest with your partner.
I would rather know if someone is cheating so I can make an informed decision but I don't think you can legitimately describe yourself as "open and honest".
How would you feel if someone you loved told hundreds/thousands of strangers something important that they'd kept from you? Would you consider them to have been honest?
Admitting you're cheating doesn't make it better and does not give you any moral high ground.
well there are some people that you can talk to , but alas my wife isnt one of them have you herd the saying its like talking to a brick wall , have been trying for 5 years with out any joy , admitting i am cheating doesnt make it any better , but it does let people know that i am married and then they can choose if they want to meet me after all the choice is theres ,
i dont see any other married men owning up to being married and cheating most of then are hideing away at least i have the balls to , "
Again with the thinking you're special or somehow better because you admit to strangers that you're lying to the person who should matter most to you.
Actually, quite a lot of guys do admit on their profile that they are attached and their partner doesn't know.
You're not getting the point that telling us you are cheating does not make it better and does not make you any better. As for trying to congratulate yourself for your "balls" Find the balls to tell your wife if you're so amazing Otherwise, to me, you are no better or worse than any other cheater.
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Oi! I'm single and don't have kids or a hubby. Nor do I watch Eastenders or Big Brother!
Stop casting aspidistra.
I prefer not to meet people who are attached without their other halves knowing and being ok with it. However this policy is currently under re_iew because experience is proving to me that a lot (NOT all) of the (genuinely) single men on here are single for a reason. Often that reason puts me off too.
I also wonder why exclude someone who admits he is cheating when someone who lies successfully gets a shag? Seems kind of unjust somehow.
I have very mixed feelings about meeting attached people at the moment. I think it's wrong (for me to meet attached people) but there are a lot of "buts" and questions at the moment.
just a pity there are not more people like you on this site most just read these forums to JUDGE OTHERS ,
Sorry, I disagree. Most use the fora because they are fun, or to find meets and events.
Also, I do judge others, often, for all sorts of reasons. As do you. For one, whenever we decide we do/don't want to meet someone, we are judging them in some way.
Cheating is wrong in my opinion but I know that life isn't always black and white and sometimes there is no perfect option. Whatever you do, somebody could suffer.
I can understand it but that doesn't make it ok or right.
I am, however, finding I am often not attracted to the single guys on here whereas I would happily meet some of the cheats if they weren't cheating.
That's a dilemma I have yet to resolve.
no ones perfect we all have our faults at least some of us are open and honest that way it gives people a choice they can meet us or pass us by
As already pointed out, you're not being open and honest with your partner.
I would rather know if someone is cheating so I can make an informed decision but I don't think you can legitimately describe yourself as "open and honest".
How would you feel if someone you loved told hundreds/thousands of strangers something important that they'd kept from you? Would you consider them to have been honest?
Admitting you're cheating doesn't make it better and does not give you any moral high ground.
well there are some people that you can talk to , but alas my wife isnt one of them have you herd the saying its like talking to a brick wall , have been trying for 5 years with out any joy , admitting i am cheating doesnt make it any better , but it does let people know that i am married and then they can choose if they want to meet me after all the choice is theres ,
i dont see any other married men owning up to being married and cheating most of then are hideing away at least i have the balls to ,
Again with the thinking you're special or somehow better because you admit to strangers that you're lying to the person who should matter most to you.
Actually, quite a lot of guys do admit on their profile that they are attached and their partner doesn't know.
You're not getting the point that telling us you are cheating does not make it better and does not make you any better. As for trying to congratulate yourself for your "balls" Find the balls to tell your wife if you're so amazing Otherwise, to me, you are no better or worse than any other cheater.
I repeat, I can understand it but it still isn't right. Whether or not you tell strangers."
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men. "
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me "
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
" i dont see any other married men owning up to being married and cheating most of then are hideing away at least i have the balls to ,
Again with the thinking you're special or somehow better because you admit to strangers that you're lying to the person who should matter most to you.
Actually, quite a lot of guys do admit on their profile that they are attached and their partner doesn't know.
You're not getting the point that telling us you are cheating does not make it better and does not make you any better. As for trying to congratulate yourself for your "balls" Find the balls to tell your wife if you're so
wasnt congratulateing my self just stateing a fact "
You were patting yourself on the back for your "balls".
And it's not a fact. You are not the only one to admit it when everyone else is hiding. I've already told you that plenty of others admit they are cheating on their profile.
Besides, those people to whom it matters take measures to try to avoid meeting married people, so you may well not get away with trying to hide it.
You're only deluding yourself if you believe you are "honest", better or braver than anyone who doesn't admit it or the only one who does admit it.
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
" i dont see any other married men owning up to being married and cheating most of then are hideing away at least i have the balls to ,
Again with the thinking you're special or somehow better because you admit to strangers that you're lying to the person who should matter most to you.
Actually, quite a lot of guys do admit on their profile that they are attached and their partner doesn't know.
You're not getting the point that telling us you are cheating does not make it better and does not make you any better. As for trying to congratulate yourself for your "balls" Find the balls to tell your wife if you're so
wasnt congratulateing my self just stateing a fact
You were patting yourself on the back for your "balls".
And it's not a fact. You are not the only one to admit it when everyone else is hiding. I've already told you that plenty of others admit they are cheating on their profile.
Besides, those people to whom it matters take measures to try to avoid meeting married people, so you may well not get away with trying to hide it.
You're only deluding yourself if you believe you are "honest", better or braver than anyone who doesn't admit it or the only one who does admit it.
Still, best of luck finding compatible meets."
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that. "
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like... |
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like..."
There has to be an attraction for meet to be enjoyable!!
Maybe due to pedantic people I should have stated that I do not judge people's backgrounds or circumstances.
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like..."
well we are all judged fore one reason or another thats life , live it your along time dead. |
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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
Why does it have to be a judgement? We personally don't care if you are cheating or not. We don't meet with people who are, due to the potential or possibility for drama. We hate drama and avoid it at all costs. That is a clear preference, not a judgement. Like any other preference, it is completely ours to have. Find people who enjoy such things.
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that. "
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If there on your freinds list does it matter !!! Iv chosen not to judge , others for being on here ... As I think fab folk have a multitude if reasons , .... I suppose you'll have taken them off your lists , meeting as couples could now be difficult .... Name and Shame what's that about !!! No one is perfect and life way too short! It's meant to b fun ! |
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"If there on your freinds list does it matter !!! Iv chosen not to judge , others for being on here ... As I think fab folk have a multitude if reasons , .... I suppose you'll have taken them off your lists , meeting as couples could now be difficult .... Name and Shame what's that about !!! No one is perfect and life way too short! It's meant to b fun !"
no fun for the person getting cheated on or dont they matter ??
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
There has to be an attraction for meet to be enjoyable!!
Maybe due to pedantic people I should have stated that I do not judge people's backgrounds or circumstances.
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I understood what you mean.
My point was for randy, that he's always going to be judged for one thing or another both here and in life. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"If there on your freinds list does it matter !!! Iv chosen not to judge , others for being on here ... As I think fab folk have a multitude if reasons , .... I suppose you'll have taken them off your lists , meeting as couples could now be difficult .... Name and Shame what's that about !!! No one is perfect and life way too short! It's meant to b fun !"
my kind of woman , doesnt judge, life is meant to be fun fun fun . |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
There has to be an attraction for meet to be enjoyable!!
Maybe due to pedantic people I should have stated that I do not judge people's backgrounds or circumstances.
I understood what you mean.
My point was for randy, that he's always going to be judged for one thing or another both here and in life."
unlike most i do not judge they have there reasons for being here , i have mine . |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
well we are all judged fore one reason or another thats life , live it your along time dead. "
Ah yes, the life is for living justification. I wondered how long that would take. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
well we are all judged fore one reason or another thats life , live it your along time dead.
Ah yes, the life is for living justification. I wondered how long that would take. "
well we have found some thing we agree on ,, with the amount of chatting we have done we should be on first name terms , tom |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
There has to be an attraction for meet to be enjoyable!!
Maybe due to pedantic people I should have stated that I do not judge people's backgrounds or circumstances.
I understood what you mean.
My point was for randy, that he's always going to be judged for one thing or another both here and in life.
unlike most i do not judge they have there reasons for being here , i have mine . "
But you do judge them on their honesty and balls, and find some to be wanting.
I don't judge. Except when I am deciding I am better for being "honest" and having more balls.
I don't hear you saying well, they have their reasons not to admit it, and I have my reasons to be "honest"; I don't judge.
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people lie about everything in all walks of life, the internet makes it VERY easy to lie so humans being humans are going to lie and cheat.
We try not to play with with those cheating on partners but its tricky and the odd one has probably slipped through the net.
Though to suggest its just single males on it is silly percentage wise the numbers of cheating men/women on this site would match up I think.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Some say that talking on forums is cheating "
To some even being on this site would be cheating.
If you make a promise of monogamy to someone, it's probably sensible to discuss the terms. |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
There has to be an attraction for meet to be enjoyable!!
Maybe due to pedantic people I should have stated that I do not judge people's backgrounds or circumstances.
I understood what you mean.
My point was for randy, that he's always going to be judged for one thing or another both here and in life.
unlike most i do not judge they have there reasons for being here , i have mine .
But you do judge them on their honesty and balls, and find some to be wanting.
I don't judge. Except when I am deciding I am better for being "honest" and having more balls.
I don't hear you saying well, they have their reasons not to admit it, and I have my reasons to be "honest"; I don't judge.
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wasnt judgeing ,, i was just stateing a fact . check the other posts on here see how many married people have come forward ,,,, NONE . |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
There has to be an attraction for meet to be enjoyable!!
Maybe due to pedantic people I should have stated that I do not judge people's backgrounds or circumstances.
I understood what you mean.
My point was for randy, that he's always going to be judged for one thing or another both here and in life.
unlike most i do not judge they have there reasons for being here , i have mine .
But you do judge them on their honesty and balls, and find some to be wanting.
I don't judge. Except when I am deciding I am better for being "honest" and having more balls.
I don't hear you saying well, they have their reasons not to admit it, and I have my reasons to be "honest"; I don't judge.
wasnt judgeing ,, i was just stateing a fact . check the other posts on here see how many married people have come forward ,,,, NONE ."
So what? You'd only mention it if you think it means something and that is making a judgement.
Face it, you are trying to portray yourself as better than other cheaters because you are "honest". |
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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago
Greensburg |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that. "
Why does it have to be a judgement? We personally do not care if you are cheating or not from a moral standpoint. We don't meet with people who are, due to the potential or even extra possibility for drama. We dislike drama and avoid it at all costs. That is a clear preference, not a judgement. Like any other preference, it is completely ours to have. Find people who enjoy such things, instead of trying to have your cake and eat it too. |
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i read this i dont judge thing why do folk say this the facts are we all judge constantly its part of being human you see a d*unk in the street shouting his mouth off you judge him to be a threat and cross the road we all make judgements daily why kid on we dont ?? |
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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"if it wasnt for the cheating husbands i wouldnt have met so many nice men.
Same here hun xxx
I meet anyone who I feel comfortable chatting with and click with and find attractive. Im not on here to judge!
Single ladies/guys, married ladies/guys or couples please feel free to message me
at last some one that doesnt judge other people , amen to that.
Yeah right.
This particular person might not refuse you for being married, but she'll refuse you if she doesn't find you attractive. You would, therefore, be judged on looks, personality etc.
We all judge. That's how we decide who to meet, how we choose friends, how we decide who we don't like...
There has to be an attraction for meet to be enjoyable!!
Maybe due to pedantic people I should have stated that I do not judge people's backgrounds or circumstances.
I understood what you mean.
My point was for randy, that he's always going to be judged for one thing or another both here and in life.
unlike most i do not judge they have there reasons for being here , i have mine .
But you do judge them on their honesty and balls, and find some to be wanting.
I don't judge. Except when I am deciding I am better for being "honest" and having more balls.
I don't hear you saying well, they have their reasons not to admit it, and I have my reasons to be "honest"; I don't judge.
wasnt judgeing ,, i was just stateing a fact . check the other posts on here see how many married people have come forward ,,,, NONE .
So what? You'd only mention it if you think it means something and that is making a judgement.
Face it, you are trying to portray yourself as better than other cheaters because you are "honest"."
i wasnt makeing a judgement and i wasnt portraying my self as better than any other cheater on here . |
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over a year ago
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"I am not saying some single men and single women maybe be on here when they are actually married, I would be shocked if there wasnt. But on this occasion I am just saying that as a swinger couple, we find it highly strange that if you are a genuine swinging couple, that you would ever need to cheat, us less of course they aren't really a couple at all, or it is the male who whats to swing but their partner maybe be reluctant, so they go behind their backs. We just don't want to be used for the purpose of infidelity, there is nothing wrong with that is there?
No not at all, blokes like these get my back up. If I was to meet someone who wasn't a swinger I'd leave the site and if your not happy with who your with then why be with them
If I was to meet someone I'd delete my profile in an instant too. "
I did meet someone and deleted my profile i hate cheating its been done to me i diddnt like it i treat people how i like to be treated myself So ill be on here till a miss right turns up hopefully ill meet her on here |
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"i read this i dont judge thing why do folk say this the facts are we all judge constantly its part of being human you see a d*unk in the street shouting his mouth off you judge him to be a threat and cross the road we all make judgements daily why kid on we dont ??"
We should exchange judging for assessing or condemning. The former we all have to do to live, the latter is what people rightly become defensive about when on the receiving end. The thing is there is very little condemnation in this thread. Many have given their _iew against cheating and why. Many have said they don't care (humorously stating cos they don't judge. That's not nil judgement/condemnation, that's not caring about potential consequences or assessing the risk is worth taking). |
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"If there's any doubt just say no thanks simples. I'm always upfront and explain on my profile that I am attached but looking if people don't like that then that's fine
Ditto mate "
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"Some say that talking on forums is cheating
To some even being on this site would be cheating.
If you make a promise of monogamy to someone, it's probably sensible to discuss the terms. "
Well said! Monogamy does imply you have sex with each other occasionally.... |
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"I think one half of a swinging couple cheating is strange, as it is meant to be more open to sex with others so why would anyone need to hide it.
Obviously there is another option, the "couples" you spoke to may not be couples.
Don't name and shame though please, as I hate doing the paperwork. "
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"But then its what wemen on this site an made this site into how long have i had this profile an i aint had 1meet off ere jst because im a single male on ere, iv meet about 4 wemen since being on ere an non are from this site most wemen an couples will not meet single males on ere so single males wont stay on ere if they wont get meet so then all this site will b left with is couples an an married men an single wemen an i am respectfull an iv tryed every approatch "
Made my head hurt reading this but what a load of rubbish. Yet another single male, poor me rant blaming everybody but themselves. You have a one line profile -do you expect women to be queuing at your door? As for all the single men leaving FAB - what a joke! If half did there would still be too many men on here. |
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we were talking about people with couples profiles who the male half responded to our request for help but all backed out when we wanted to make sure their respective partners were ok with them joining us. |
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"i think there to many couples saying they are swingers , and bizarely you only speak with the husband , sending pictures etc , i think name and shame should allowed and good. as you pay for fun not to waste your time with cheater or wanker bi . who can tell the truth to their partner. That is not swinging "
I arranged to meet blackisdark at Canvas and Cream in Forest Hill. He didn't turn up so I walked up London Road to the Sainsbury's and saw him snogging the Big Issue seller outside.
None of the above is true of course, but I trust you see why naming and shaming wouldn't work. |
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By *olgateMan
over a year ago
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"we were talking about people with couples profiles who the male half responded to our request for help but all backed out when we wanted to make sure their respective partners were ok with them joining us."
I met several couples at the social last night and with every one of those couples it was the woman that was in charge of "admin" |
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