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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. |
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "
a decision only you can make. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I accepted some chocolate animals at a first meet. Does that make me a bad person?
I don't get offered or given gifts from people I meet unless we have crossed into the more than a special friend realm.
Where are you with your friend? |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "
Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested."
JUST SAY NO  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.
JUST SAY NO "
EXFUCKINGACTLY |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.
JUST SAY NO EXFUCKINGACTLY "
I listened Fem I really did. Never touched the shit. Good girl me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you are friends and you usually get gifts off friends, then dont see a problem.
but as said, if she is buying you, or you feel like she is, then it wouldnt sit right at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested."
Who is Zammo?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.
Who is Zammo? "
Grange Hill? |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "
Me and my fb swap gifts but then we have known each other over two years and are genuine friends. It depends on the 'relationship'. If it is more a casual thing then I would think it strange. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I see it as fun but now she's started to buy me gifts seems awkward as I only want fun not a "special relationship""
Then you need to be honest and tell her how it makes you feel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "
It depends on how you feel about her, how much emotion is involved and 1001 other things. It may upset her though to refuse but it sounds like it might not sit well with you to accept I would think long and hard about it. |
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"I see it as fun but now she's started to buy me gifts seems awkward as I only want fun not a "special relationship""
Yeah I think she's seeing things very differently to you. Time for a talk I think.
Me personally wouldn't want to accept gifts although I did get some flowers last Christmas from a long term buddy but that was just something small. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.
Who is Zammo?
Grange Hill?"
I was pretending to be too young to remember. I know who he is really.  |
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"I see it as fun but now she's started to buy me gifts seems awkward as I only want fun not a "special relationship""
This is a conversation that should be had with your friend. Nothing we say is going to tell you her motives behind the gifts or her your feelings about them, every relationship needs communication and boundaries...the latter only clear and established to both by the former. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My fwb and I swapped gifts at Christmas and our birthdays but ive known him nearly a year now and we are friends but from a meet I see as just fun, no I would feel uneasy unless it was something funny that maybe you have both talked about and laughed about .. And will use on your meet . But if you feel uneasy then tell her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. Well if you don't want them I don't see your problem, do as Zammo suggested.
Who is Zammo?
Grange Hill?
I was pretending to be too young to remember. I know who he is really. "
Oops |
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"Is it ever ok to take gifts off people you meet? Basically seeing someone who's married wants to buy me some really expensive headphones as a birthday gift. Feels strange I'm not here to profit from my fun. Already had aftershave at Xmas. "
Does her husband know? If not I'd decline and end contact as this has the potential of getting messy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i always think its getting too complicated when you agree to meet someone who is married on the first place "
I'm married, try not to meet married men but they seem to gravitate towards me. My complications are trying to get out and get some. I don't want gifts |
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