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A question about "older" virgins
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi.
So, I guess I was just curious to hear an opinion or two on something. I'm a 27 year old single guy, and I'm a virgin. Never had any experience with girls beyond friendship. I'm not making a sympathy post - just wanted to know what peoples assumption might be if they met someone and they admitted they were a virgin... specifically someone my kind of age.
I introduced myself to a girl local to me on here the other day - Said hi and just made general chat. She asked what sort of experience I'd had with girls. Figured there's no point in being dishonest, so I told the truth. she responded with shock and a :o face... then never replied again!
It's not something anybody should hide right?
(ps... I've searched similar threads on here and notice general responses about a site like this being the wrong place for a person to seek to lose their virginity. But thats not how I view it. I figured it might be a good a place as any to meet someone down to earth who I could just be open with) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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@Nat29 - Yeah of course I understand some people have preferences. I just wouldn't have assumed people would write a person off completely based on that fact, you know?
and sunriselover, I'm not worried about that. I get a lot of people use this site purely as a sexual tool. I'm not naive. I don't expect to find "love". I don't get much opportunity to socialise where I live... small town! So thought it couldn't hurt to try something other than a dating site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"@Nat29 - Yeah of course I understand some people have preferences. I just wouldn't have assumed people would write a person off completely based on that fact, you know?
and sunriselover, I'm not worried about that. I get a lot of people use this site purely as a sexual tool. I'm not naive. I don't expect to find "love". I don't get much opportunity to socialise where I live... small town! So thought it couldn't hurt to try something other than a dating site"
Good for you and good luck   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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@Naughtyous maximus - was that sarcasm? 
and to people who figure this site is the wrong place for someone so inexperienced sexually... what would you recommend instead? The pinnacle of my physical experience with girls is holding a female friends hand! I'm not scared of women - but I just seem to get no opportunity to meet new people. |
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If I were you I'd pay for a shag at a massage parlour.
You might say thats too "cold" and without "feeling", but at the end of the day, how much "feeling" are you going to get on a swinging site when most are looking for NSA sex.
It's hard for any single guy looking for a shag, so if I were you, get your wallet out and buy a shag  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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that's the thing though Sbaybay... I know thats an "option"... but i'm not really that way inclined. As in... I don't want to pay a girl to have sex with me. Its not that I want to find something deep and meaningful as even just laid back fun would be good. I'd just rather meet someone.
Thanks for the input anyway |
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Is it not just an angle to get a meet?  "
Would it matter if it is ?
O.P.
Here's my take.
I don't think you are on the wrong site.
I have faith in human being and I believe that not all people here are self obsessed users who think they are beautiful people and velociraptor shaggers.
There will be someone here who is willing to be patient with you but I fear the odds are stacked against her being someone you have in mind and someone who lives locally.
I'd be in the the selfish group that is here for the kind of sex I consider good sex.
Sex with a virgin for me would be too much to take on for many reasons.
Howeverrrrrr..... I REALLY do wish you tons of fun with someone who will give you their time xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be absolutely honest if somebody of your age revealed to me they were a virgin the only question in my mind would be 'why?'
I'm not asking you to answer that - just expressing my reaction. |
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What are your reasons for being a virgin at your age .....................ugliness, introverted, shy , ...................you come across as very confident and articulate and that's all it takes to get a pair of knickers off ..............................
Are you attracted to men , subliminaly
Do you want a woman to take control of the first time or would you be confident enough to take control of a real life pussy for the first time ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are your reasons for being a virgin at your age .....................ugliness, introverted, shy , ...................you come across as very confident and articulate and that's all it takes to get a pair of knickers off ..............................
Are you attracted to men , subliminaly
Do you want a woman to take control of the first time or would you be confident enough to take control of a real life pussy for the first time ?
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It takes more than a man being confident and articulate to get my knickers off thank you!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are your reasons for being a virgin at your age .....................ugliness, introverted, shy , ...................you come across as very confident and articulate and that's all it takes to get a pair of knickers off ..............................
Are you attracted to men , subliminaly
Do you want a woman to take control of the first time or would you be confident enough to take control of a real life pussy for the first time ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Is it not just an angle to get a meet?
Would it matter if it is ?
O.P.
Here's my take.
I don't think you are on the wrong site.
I have faith in human being and I believe that not all people here are self obsessed users who think they are beautiful people and velociraptor shaggers.
There will be someone here who is willing to be patient with you but I fear the odds are stacked against her being someone you have in mind and someone who lives locally.
I'd be in the the selfish group that is here for the kind of sex I consider good sex.
Sex with a virgin for me would be too much to take on for many reasons.
Howeverrrrrr..... I REALLY do wish you tons of fun with someone who will give you their time xxxx "
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"What are your reasons for being a virgin at your age .....................ugliness, introverted, shy , ...................you come across as very confident and articulate and that's all it takes to get a pair of knickers off ..............................
Are you attracted to men , subliminaly
Do you want a woman to take control of the first time or would you be confident enough to take control of a real life pussy for the first time ?
It takes more than a man being confident and articulate to get my knickers off thank you!! "
I love it when a woman plays hard to get .................your man/men will understand me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't worry about it and don't let it bother you. The person you messaged may have stopped messaging for loads of reasons anyway as that is just part and parcel of beingon this site.
My take on it? Sure be honest if... Why not? If they don't ask no need to tell.
This may sound weird but there are tutorials on cunnilingus made by a famous female pornstar, find it and watch it. If you manage to get that right you are already ahead of many 'experienced' guys.
Chill. Enjoy. |
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"Don't worry about it and don't let it bother you. The person you messaged may have stopped messaging for loads of reasons anyway as that is just part and parcel of beingon this site.
My take on it? Sure be honest if... Why not? If they don't ask no need to tell.
This may sound weird but there are tutorials on cunnilingus made by a famous female pornstar, find it and watch it. If you manage to get that right you are already ahead of many 'experienced' guys.
Chill. Enjoy. "
Cunnilingus tutorials ...........................
This guy has never even kissed a woman ......................
He needs "to get a grip" ..............
Go forth and multiply................
Get on with it ...................
Put up a new post " who wants a virgin "
Find a hen night and tell em. ................
Pay for it my son.............coz you will be for the rest of your life |
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"What are your reasons for being a virgin at your age .....................ugliness, introverted, shy , ...................you come across as very confident and articulate and that's all it takes to get a pair of knickers off ..............................
Are you attracted to men , subliminaly
Do you want a woman to take control of the first time or would you be confident enough to take control of a real life pussy for the first time ?
It takes more than a man being confident and articulate to get my knickers off thank you!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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". I just wouldn't have assumed people would write a person off completely based on that fact, you know?
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Why not? You might get lucky (though I doubt it) and find that someone is desperate to have sex with a virgin. But most people are here for good sex, not just any sex and to be blunt a virgin is unlikely to offer that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep at it, just be upfront a.f honest (like you have been) and see if you find anyone who you click with and she is willing to take you by the hand.
I would just chill and go with the flow and don't think about it all too deeply, just say to yourself if you meet someone on here willing to pop your cherry then great, if not its not the end of the world but just don't bank on this being the only option you have to meet a female to pop your cherry and have some nsa sex with. As you have said yourself you don't get to socialise much so maybe look into how you can rectify that, even if it's being on other social networking sites not just this site.
Don't let anyone tell you how you should be using this site or let people tell you that you shouldn't be on here, that's no ones decision but yours and as long as your honest and not breaking any of the terms and conditions you have as much right as anyone else to be on here.
Hope you find what your looking for and good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Keep at it, just be upfront a.f honest (like you have been) and see if you find anyone who you click with and she is willing to take you by the hand.
I would just chill and go with the flow and don't think about it all too deeply, just say to yourself if you meet someone on here willing to pop your cherry then great, if not its not the end of the world but just don't bank on this being the only option you have to meet a female to pop your cherry and have some nsa sex with. As you have said yourself you don't get to socialise much so maybe look into how you can rectify that, even if it's being on other social networking sites not just this site.
Don't let anyone tell you how you should be using this site or let people tell you that you shouldn't be on here, that's no ones decision but yours and as long as your honest and not breaking any of the terms and conditions you have as much right as anyone else to be on here.
Hope you find what your looking for and good luck!"
Seriously, don't worry about it. Go and enjoy yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are your reasons for being a virgin at your age .....................ugliness, introverted, shy , ...................you come across as very confident and articulate and that's all it takes to get a pair of knickers off ..............................
Are you attracted to men , subliminaly
Do you want a woman to take control of the first time or would you be confident enough to take control of a real life pussy for the first time ?
It takes more than a man being confident and articulate to get my knickers off thank you!!
I love it when a woman plays hard to get .................your man/men will understand me "
Yes it's so refreshing when they make you try a little , I am sure the others in relationships will understand this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you do get the opportunity to have fun with a woman in the flesh, so to speak, expect it to be in any way like porn movies you may have seen.
Also it will be strange allowing someone else to be so up close and personal for the first time. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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Look at it this way:
Whats the worst that can happen? Sure,a few have said they aint looking for a virgin, but you won't click with 'most' people whoever you are.
I think men desperate for meets are generally the most unappealing species here and you clearly aren't one of those, so you are already ahead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you do get the opportunity to have fun with a woman in the flesh, so to speak, expect it to be in any way like porn movies you may have seen.
Also it will be strange allowing someone else to be so up close and personal for the first time. "
that should read DONT expect it to be like porn movies!!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP
I'd advise you to get yourself along to one if the many clubs advertised on this site.
Therefore you'll be in the presence of people whom are looking for sexual adventures and it will give you the opportunity to use your personality and social skills.
While nothing may happen on your first visit it almost certainly will of you go often enough and of course you'll make friends with people too.
Funny thing is that while you may be the only true virgin in a biological sence in the club, there may well be one or more swinging or club virgins who'll be just as nervous as you.
Best of luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP you have your self listed as in Newcastle, if thats you local city then book a hotel in the centre, get dressed up and hit the clubs... one of the sexiest towns in the UK in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replies everyone. It's interesting to hear peoples takes on it.
On the questions as to why I'm a 27 year old virgin... if I knew the answer to that then surely I'd have some idea on how to fix it!
I think there are probably many reasons. I am social, I can make friends... I'm not scared of girls. The simple fact is that no girl I've met to this point has been interested in me. I mean after you make suggestions to do something with the same girl and you're met with "Maybe another time I'm busy" or "I'm trying to save money right now" for the 10th time you tend to get the message... ie. "This girl just isn't interested in spending time with me so I'll stop asking".
The impression I get is simply that I'm just unattractive. I think I'm fairly fit (not being big headed... just work a very physical job and swim a lot), I dress decently, I don't have terrible breath, and I can make my friends laugh. The main things working against me in my opinion are 1) I have a shaved head, (because it's slowly receding and I just think it looks tidier this way) and 2) I'm just not "good looking". And to be blunt... I think a lot of people are just quite shallow. And why not?... if a girl has the option of a guy who is interesting, funny, intelligent, AND good looking... then why would she bother with the guy who's bald and just not that great looking?
As for the "cunnilingus tutorials"... haha what?! No amount of sex tips will help me to meet girls.
Thanks a lot for the positive comments, even the critical ones... I don't mind.
The only thing I'd say I disagree with is "paying for a shag". This isn't my point. I'm not desperate to have sex. I'd just like to meet a girl and for something to develop. Even if it was just casual sex. I don't have any expectations and to be quite honest I'm not worried about sex itself. It's the fact that I've never had the chance to get that far that's frustrating! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't matter that your 27. So, what? I don't believe it to be such a big deal. Why should you follow the norm?
..Just be yourself, take your time. As you said, your not desperate for a shag and from what I have read; your looking for someone that you can click with.
My advice to you is just be yourself. You say your good at making people laugh, then keep doing that. You say your good company, then keep doing that. Before you know it, and when you least expect it - you'd be wearing a tshirt that says 'chick magnet located here'.
Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi.
So, I guess I was just curious to hear an opinion or two on something. I'm a 27 year old single guy, and I'm a virgin. Never had any experience with girls beyond friendship. I'm not making a sympathy post - just wanted to know what peoples assumption might be if they met someone and they admitted they were a virgin... specifically someone my kind of age.
I introduced myself to a girl local to me on here the other day - Said hi and just made general chat. She asked what sort of experience I'd had with girls. Figured there's no point in being dishonest, so I told the truth. she responded with shock and a :o face... then never replied again!
It's not something anybody should hide right?
(ps... I've searched similar threads on here and notice general responses about a site like this being the wrong place for a person to seek to lose their virginity. But thats not how I view it. I figured it might be a good a place as any to meet someone down to earth who I could just be open with)"
Very brave of you op. Do whatcyour heart tells you and im sure a nice lady will show you ropes. Good luck sweets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As for the "cunnilingus tutorials"... haha what?! No amount of sex tips will help me to meet girls.
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I would have thought it was pretty obvious that it wasn't to help you meet women.
You are on a website that is primarily about sex.
Knowing how to please a partner should you find one due to your lack of experience is obviously not a concern to you then. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the well wishes! Maybe it is just "a matter of time" before I meet someone.
and Libertine... that wasn't the point I was making at all. Thanks for the suggestion - of course pleasing a girl is something I consider important. I mean could you imagine someone in my situation not having read countless amounts about it already? ha. What I mean is, pleasing a girl isn't my concern here. It's that I've never met a girl who liked me enough to want to go that far. You know? It doesn't matter how good my "skills" are if a girl doesn't even want to go for food with me!
Thats why I figured I'd try this site. Not to meet the love of my life. Not to meet someone to guide me through anything. Simply as a means of meeting new people. And if I happen to speak to someone who is interested enough to meet in person... and we click... and it leads somewhere... then great. I'm quite confident that I can handle myself from there.
It's the meeting people part I struggle with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You might not be the norme in this society but in other eastern societies u find ppl who are in their 40's men and women and still virgin. Mainly coz they save themselves for marriage. I lost my full sex virginity at the age of 27. had my firs kiss at 21. I am not up my arse but I know I had many girls who had fallen for me since a very young age but still I wasn't up for having full sex. Also women in a social life are the most difficult creature to read. When u think they are into you they might be interested in something you have to offer instead of you. When you think they are not into you there is a chance they are and they are trying hard to show the opposit. It takes a life's experience to understand women and have the skills to get them drop their nickers. Truely honest guys like yourself and me are unfortunately not the most successful category of guys in the charming world. I'd ruther suggest to develope your charming skills. Be more determined and persistant and find someone who is special and finds you special to give your virginity away.
I have never paid for sex and I dont see what kinda fun someone can get out of it. Sex is intimate and shouldnt be seen otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some women might like to take your virginity in a fetishy kind of way.
But I think the majority of women would like men to be experienced, on a conscious or sub-conscious level.
I certainly didn't let on it was my first time when I first had sex, and fumbled my way through it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You might not be the norme in this society but in other eastern societies u find ppl who are in their 40's men and women and still virgin. Mainly coz they save themselves for marriage. I lost my full sex virginity at the age of 27. had my firs kiss at 21. I am not up my arse but I know I had many girls who had fallen for me since a very young age but still I wasn't up for having full sex. Also women in a social life are the most difficult creature to read. When u think they are into you they might be interested in something you have to offer instead of you. When you think they are not into you there is a chance they are and they are trying hard to show the opposit. It takes a life's experience to understand women and have the skills to get them drop their nickers. Truely honest guys like yourself and me are unfortunately not the most successful category of guys in the charming world. I'd ruther suggest to develope your charming skills. Be more determined and persistant and find someone who is special and finds you special to give your virginity away.
I have never paid for sex and I dont see what kinda fun someone can get out of it. Sex is intimate and shouldnt be seen otherwise. "
But this is western society. And so still, my question would be why? And my opinion would be that a swingers site is not the ideal place to seek to begin your sex life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By all means be upfront about it, however, try not to come across as needy and desperate, as it can be off-putting for some.
Be yourself and take your time, don't rush into anything.
I personally like to play with gents who know what to do and how to please a woman, and do not particularly like to waste time on teaching a newbie the robes.
However, if I were to say I have never fantasised about popping a gent's cherry, then I would be lying.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is western society... thats not the point though"
You made the point that it's not unusual in eastern society. In this society it is unusual.
So it really is the point! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" And my opinion would be that a swingers site is not the ideal place to seek to begin your sex life."
It's not and personally I'm at a loss as to how anyndody can argue that it is. It;s almost as inappropriate as the people suggesting he seeks the services of an escort.
And i know it will sound harsh but I think the OP is very much wrong if he thinks that this will be a succesful hunting ground for someone who by the sound of it has never been on a date. If anything this is a much tougher enviroment than the real world.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is western society... thats not the point though
You made the point that it's not unusual in eastern society. In this society it is unusual.
So it really is the point!"
I think its more accepted in this western society for someone to be virgin at the age of 27 than being a swinger. So whats more unsual? This is not about wetern/eastern cultures clash. Its good to be open minded |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand what you're saying about this not being the best place to look to meet people. But take other examples - I've used a couple of dating sites, completely unsuccessfully so far. On the rare occasion somebody replies to a message it tends to be either a one word response or the conversation leads nowhere despite me suggesting the possibility of meeting up after talking a little. It just seems too drama filled. Girls enjoying being "chased" and leading guys on. Taking their pick of the best guys.
Whereas I assumed a site like this would be a lot more upfront. People know what they want and it's not out of the ordinary to bring up my experiences in conversation. Yes yes I understand a lot of women are looking for a man with experience... but I'd hardly consider it "inappropriate" that someone like me thought to try meeting people through this site! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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and ps. - the idea that someone like me needs to be "taught the ropes" made me smile! I understand where people are coming from. But come on... I know what a female body looks like. And my entire view of sex isn't shaped by porn. I'm not naive. I'm fully confident that if I met a girl and things led naturally towards sex then I'd be completely comfortable.
That's not my issue.
My main problem is just meeting people in the first place. I've used dating sites and other "social media" as an alternative because I rarely meet girls in my day to day life. Don't meet any through work. And the town I live in is small so there's a relatively small pool of people to socialise with. Hence giving sites like this a try. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is western society... thats not the point though
You made the point that it's not unusual in eastern society. In this society it is unusual.
So it really is the point!
I think its more accepted in this western society for someone to be virgin at the age of 27 than being a swinger. So whats more unsual? This is not about wetern/eastern cultures clash. Its good to be open minded"
So don't make it so then! You raised it as a point, I countered it - like a discussion.
Would most people find a swinger more weird than a 27 year old virgin? I'm not so sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its inappropriate at all. There is nothing to be ashamed off. I am sure there are plenty of women here who would gladly be your first experience. Having said that you need to rise your profile to stand the hogh competition on fab. It's tough for most single guys. Even the most experienced ones. Nake your profile stand out from the crowd. Take interesting pics of yourself. Say more in your profile text. Take a cpl nice shots of your cock, keep them private if you wish and be ready to send them when asked for. When chatting avoid suggesting meeting in early stage of the conversation unless they do first ... good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is western society... thats not the point though
You made the point that it's not unusual in eastern society. In this society it is unusual.
So it really is the point!
I think its more accepted in this western society for someone to be virgin at the age of 27 than being a swinger. So whats more unsual? This is not about wetern/eastern cultures clash. Its good to be open minded
So don't make it so then! You raised it as a point, I countered it - like a discussion.
Would most people find a swinger more weird than a 27 year old virgin? I'm not so sure."
Easy to find out. Just make it public that you are sharing your partner with strangers you meet online and see what ppl reactions would be. It wont be as awkward and needing to be hidden in the society if our OP wd say it to familly members and friends and colleagues at work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My main problem is just meeting people in the first place. I've used dating sites..."
Back when I was a young single guy, I worked 4 to 6 weeks at a time, in each and every city in the UK, usually coming home at weekends. Which meant that meeting people was complex. BUT by targeting city centre weekday venues frequently open mic nights but just look at where the people roughly in your target age group are going and go there.
It may have been the city centre hotel was more convenient than getting a taxi home but I seldom had problems getting some sexual company and I am pretty sure that in Newcastle there was at least 20 different women over 6 weeks.
Bottom line is if your conversation skills are not good enough to pull in a bar, and your messaging skills are not good enough for dating sites, you really are in for a rough ride on a swingers site.
Having said that you are doing no harm except perhaps to your ego. Get to work on your profile and send out lots of messages and see what happens. |
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"This is western society... thats not the point though
You made the point that it's not unusual in eastern society. In this society it is unusual.
So it really is the point!
I think its more accepted in this western society for someone to be virgin at the age of 27 than being a swinger. So whats more unsual? This is not about wetern/eastern cultures clash. Its good to be open minded
So don't make it so then! You raised it as a point, I countered it - like a discussion.
Would most people find a swinger more weird than a 27 year old virgin? I'm not so sure.
Easy to find out. Just make it public that you are sharing your partner with strangers you meet online and see what ppl reactions would be. It wont be as awkward and needing to be hidden in the society if our OP wd say it to familly members and friends and colleagues at work. "
No doubt that swinging would be considered less socially unacceptable by most people. But I'll bet that at the same time many people would dutifully 'respect' a person deciding not to have had sex by age 27, they'd be privately thinking 'what's wrong with them?' With swingers they might judge them immoral, or a bit wild, but more likely the balance of private thoughts would be 'jammy buggers' and 'I wish..' |
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