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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you as confident in the flesh as your are when messaging on here, or do you struggle either way ?"
Yes - and no. But it's taken a few years experience to get that way!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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depends.
in real life i tend to stand back until comfortable with my surroundings and the company im in
if im at home, and its a party we are holding, then i will make the conversation and be the life and soul.
its all about comfort.
last weekend we went to xtasias and i probably spoke to 2 people, and only in passing.
next time, i will probably be a lot more extrovert
V on the other hand, would talk a glass eye to sleep lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More confident on here as I get nervous and occasionally stutter in person, worse thing you can do is type the wrong thing and have to dig yourself out of it. In Person it is worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?"
Me personally, I get lots of insults x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?"
Me personally, I get lots of insults x |
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"I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved."
were ok untill the fun begins then shit our selves pmsl
Unfortunately can hamper some of the fun due to nerves on my behalf. Still getting used to the fact of having sex with other sexies
 dan x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x"
insults for what? |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x"
You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x
insults for what?"
My pictures, my body my looks,, |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved. were ok untill the fun begins then shit our selves pmsl
Unfortunately can hamper some of the fun due to nerves on my behalf. Still getting used to the fact of having sex with other sexies
dan x"
Never goes down well huh?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you as confident in the flesh as your are when messaging on here, or do you struggle either way ?"
No struggle for me I enjoy engaging people one to one or talking to a large group of people when doing presentations. I like the attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x
You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful. "
As weird and wonderful as you are, if it doesn't appeal, then no need to comment,, does nothing for the confidence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x
insults for what?
My pictures, my body my looks,, "
Really  ...I am surprised. Is it from men, women or both? |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x
You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful.
As weird and wonderful as you are, if it doesn't appeal, then no need to comment,, does nothing for the confidence "
That is very true  unfortunately, it will never change. There will always be people of that nature. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x
You do need a thick skin to be here sometimes. It certainly does attract the weird and the wonderful.
As weird and wonderful as you are, if it doesn't appeal, then no need to comment,, does nothing for the confidence
That is very true unfortunately, it will never change. There will always be people of that nature. "
Hhmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say a little kak handed at messaging, as I say what is in my head.
Gary is better at it I think, I have more confidence face to face I think, will have a laugh easier chat, more down to earth, both of us.
The messaging some people may think what's she on about lol, but that can go for all anyway, you cannot see people laughing ect, only so many " Lols " you can do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confidence whatsoever
And this site makes it worse
Would you say it makes it worse for you personally? Or do you mean in general?
Me personally, I get lots of insults x
insults for what?
My pictures, my body my looks,, "
well apart from your huge cock i cant see why, but meh, these are the people that are probably looking for something they will never get in real life anyway, so as hard as it probably is, i would just brush it off and carry on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My confidence levels are pretty much the same on here as in real life,we're all just people and nothing to be scared or intimidated of  "
They always say picture the room nakes when talking to people if you feel uncomfortable but better not do that here or you will be too visually stimulated |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do have confidence but in a room full of big personalities I tend to be slightly reserved."
This
I'm not the most confident person on here. For example, i wouldn't be able to message someone and ask if they want to meet outright. I may hint and leave it up to them to get back to me..
..in person, it takes me a while to warm up to the company. Not sure if everyone shares the same humour as me - that's usually a problem. Plus my accent lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm pretty comfortable in my own skin these days. I do feel nervous meeting new people but that soon subsides as we get talking. I don't take feedback or comments personally most of the time, as it tells me more about the other person than giving me information that necessarily updates my view of myself. So I'd say I'm quietly confident these days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You never notice confidence, until you need it.
I don't understand what being confident on this website means? I certainly wouldn't draw confidence from it. |
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By *ndy85!Man
over a year ago
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I lack confidence on here, im not the best starting conversation, a little nervous on the way to the meet but as soon as im in front (or behind  ) of the person the real me comes out. .... cheeky fun confident.
I always have been crap at putting things on paper so to speak ...lol |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Are you as confident in the flesh as your are when messaging on here, or do you struggle either way ?"
I tend to be fairly reserved and reticent in messages. Have no problems stripping off. |
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The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.
This is an issue in clubs when lots of men will follow me around but few will actually talk to me. Which means that by waiting for me to make the first approach they have crossed themselves off the list of possibles.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.
This is an issue in clubs when lots of men will follow me around but few will actually talk to me. Which means that by waiting for me to make the first approach they have crossed themselves off the list of possibles. "
So you're confident enough that somebody else will make the first move. Meanwhile the bloke you fancy is so self confident he believes you'll approach him...
At least neither of you will take a dent in your confidence. |
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"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.
This is an issue in clubs when lots of men will follow me around but few will actually talk to me. Which means that by waiting for me to make the first approach they have crossed themselves off the list of possibles.
So you're confident enough that somebody else will make the first move. Meanwhile the bloke you fancy is so self confident he believes you'll approach him...
At least neither of you will take a dent in your confidence."
Most of them won't even make eye contact. 
If they do then I will assess their facial expression and then make an approach if they don't do so first. But I do prefer them to approach me. And for all I have an interesting reputation on here I'm very approachable in person.  |
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By *ndy85!Man
over a year ago
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"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.
This is an issue in clubs when lots of men will follow me around but few will actually talk to me. Which means that by waiting for me to make the first approach they have crossed
Most of them won't even make eye contact.
If they do then I will assess their facial expression and then make an approach if they don't do so first. But I do prefer them to approach me. And for all I have an interesting reputation on here I'm very approachable in person. "
If I came across you I a club I would have to come and speak to you then workout if its worth me making the first move  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The problem I have is that I like men who are at least as confident as me but not arrogant.
This is an issue in clubs when lots of men will follow me around but few will actually talk to me. Which means that by waiting for me to make the first approach they have crossed themselves off the list of possibles.
So you're confident enough that somebody else will make the first move. Meanwhile the bloke you fancy is so self confident he believes you'll approach him...
At least neither of you will take a dent in your confidence.
Most of them won't even make eye contact.
If they do then I will assess their facial expression and then make an approach if they don't do so first. But I do prefer them to approach me. And for all I have an interesting reputation on here I'm very approachable in person. "
I wasn't knocking the approach - I use it too |
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