FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Long Distance Relationships
Long Distance Relationships
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR  "
This one is the UK and Canada  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR "
I suppose that's a matter of opinion but you try walking from Leicester to Manchester, its a fair old distance!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think."
bleedin hope so.
we have been in one for just coming up to 3 1/2 years now.
still mad about each other
still live in different countires
doesnt look like its gonna change anytime soon |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I think they can very much work. I have just started a secondary relationship with someone who lives about 2hrs away by car.
I believe, as others have said, if you put the effort into communication and making time for each other it can work.
As long as you are both happy then distance is only a small hurdle.
Skype is a god send in these situations! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Well another country A no no iv had a long distance relationship lasted 2 years we seen each other every other weekend i had no problems we even talked about living together and was 250 miles apart |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think."
It didn't work for me and he lived in Wilmslow! Every Friday travelling to Wilmslow, returning late Sunday meant other relationships suffered and my pockets got a beating. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Mine did, met first hubbie, in Ibiza when I was 18, I was a yorkie, he was a scouser. I moved to Liverpool after we commuted for approx a year, we where married for 19 yrs. it worked for us, back then. Although now, I do wish I'd holidayed elsewhere! Twonk!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
My ex husband was a yank stationed in Germany i ended up flying to Germany every other weekend we got married however split up 3 years later....They can work but it has to be both parties putting in the effort |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR
This one is the UK and Canada
So was mine  "
What happened |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR
This one is the UK and Canada
So was mine
What happened "
I'm guessing their passports expired!... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR
This one is the UK and Canada
So was mine
What happened
I'm guessing their passports expired!... "
I went self employed just before I was due to visit her so couldn't go, she thought I was stringing her along which I wasn't and was reluctant to come over here. All went pear shaped. Had been talking about 4 years.
Too long really but its too far to just pop over for the weekend. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.
bleedin hope so.
we have been in one for just coming up to 11 years now.
still mad about each other
still live 70 odd miles apart "most of the time"
doesnt look like its gonna change anytime soon"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"My LDR was spanning Europe. So I have to say that in my experience, an LDR between two points in England, is simply not an LDR
This one is the UK and Canada
So was mine
What happened
I'm guessing their passports expired!...
I went self employed just before I was due to visit her so couldn't go, she thought I was stringing her along which I wasn't and was reluctant to come over here. All went pear shaped. Had been talking about 4 years.
Too long really but its too far to just pop over for the weekend. "
Really sorry to hear that. Hopefully your happy now though? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.
bleedin hope so.
we have been in one for just coming up to 11 years now.
still mad about each other
still live 70 odd miles apart "most of the time"
doesnt look like its gonna change anytime soon
"
was trying to find the post you quoted lol
its mine rewrote lol d'oh!
she lives in Ireland, me in th eUK.
we fly every other week, spend summer holidays together in whichever country.
we would probably kill each other if we lived together lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "
Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.
Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been. "
good luck both x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think."
Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.
Like all statistics, of course some will work.
What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.
The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.
Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been. "
Soppy bugger! Xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.
Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been.
Soppy bugger! Xx"
Yes but this isn't new news! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.
Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.
Like all statistics, of course some will work.
What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.
The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home."
The sex was bloody fantastic when we were on the same soil . Ironically when he did live in England, I didn't consider the 270 mile round trip an LDR.
In those that don't work, I'd bet you'll find one put more effort in than the other. Such as my situation. I could sit here and justify it, but it changes nothing.
I would avoid an LDR outside of England in the future. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.
Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.
Like all statistics, of course some will work.
What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.
The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home.
The sex was bloody fantastic when we were on the same soil . Ironically when he did live in England, I didn't consider the 270 mile round trip an LDR.
In those that don't work, I'd bet you'll find one put more effort in than the other. Such as my situation. I could sit here and justify it, but it changes nothing.
I would avoid an LDR outside of England in the future."
with you on that one.
knowing how hard it can be now, i would never do this for anyone else.
not in a million years.
they live down the road, or they can feck off lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together.
Absolutely this - we make it work because of how we feel about each other. I think if you go into things with your eyes open then it can and does work. As we were getting together we discussed how the relationship would work, we agreed that it was slightly impractical, but that we had feelings for each other and as we both drive there's no reason why it shouldn't work. Who knows what the future holds for us - all I know is right now it is the best relationship I have ever been in and I'm the happiest I've ever been. "
Aaah, sounds lovely, a bit like mine except he's a 15 minute drive away |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Never done it and would never consider it, especially not different countries, just think there are plenty of hot guys in this country, well somewhere anyway lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"In your opinion do they work? Are they worth it? Even go as far as different countries? Interested in what people think.
Statistically they are doomed to failure, for many reasons, lack of money, culture and security issues.
Like all statistics, of course some will work.
What people forget there are 100 people within 5 miles of most of us, suitable, available and looking, because that is real it is scary, much easier and safer to fall in lust with someone many thousand miles away, the safest sex you will ever have, and its a dream an illusion, so you can fantasise . perfect, but not real.
The grass is never greener on the other side. Love is closer to home or even in your home."
I know what you mean. I have a friend who looks like a black Pavarotti. His ideal woman is about 5ft, size 6-8, 30-35, no children, no lurking ex-boyfriend, black/mixed race, no weaves/extensions/wigs false nails/lashes, employed, own home and live north of the Thames.
This woman doesn't exist but it's easier for him to say he hasn't found "the one" than chance being knocked back. Rather sad really. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "
Thats sooooo cute xx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I was in a long distance relationship for 4 years. We managed to make it work and 18 years later we are still together.
Not easy though. "
Your worth it I am 100% sure. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Personally i cant see the point in being in a relationship with someone you only see every now and again, it just don't seem like a relationship to me, but each to their own and I'm sure some make it work i wouldn't like to be with someone who was hundreds of miles away when i needed him and spend more time on the phone than face to face |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Personally i cant see the point in being in a relationship with someone you only see every now and again, it just don't seem like a relationship to me, but each to their own and I'm sure some make it work i wouldn't like to be with someone who was hundreds of miles away when i needed him and spend more time on the phone than face to face "
thing is, sometimes it works better.
we have both admitted we probably couldnt live together right now at least, as we are both so used to doing our own thing our own way, but we would never want to be without each other, really wouldnt.
its a very strange situation and way to live, but as with those who see each other all the time, you just have to work to make it last |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Ive tried a few.. all failed but i enjoyed what i had, with those who i shared it with for however long it lasted
would i venture into one again? sensible head says never.. heart is open minded.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"They can work.....but you both have to put in the effort "
And the effort is worth it. I'm not going to lie and say its an easy thing to do, but it is so worth it. Yes, I wish he was even half an hour closer at times, but I would rather have a long distance relationship with someone who makes me feel the way he does that one with someone local who is less than half the man he is. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It can work it just requires effort and good communication. Ruby lives in the Manchester area, I live in Leicestershire and, although its not a huge distance, we only see one another every two weeks but we talk every day and put a lot of effort into what we do when we're together. "
Awww that's lovely . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
