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over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
Far from it. Those people desperate for meets, and always complaining they get no meets, messages or attention must come across as such in their messages.
Desperation is a huge turn off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
Not really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not in the slightest. Ive met lots of loverly people on here. Its just a case of putting in the work. Being respectfull and knowing that there will be the odd one or two that dont fancy the pants off me and find me totally awsome  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
nope... I am pragmatic and a realistic in that I know I would probably appeal to a small number....
so its all water off a ducks back....
I think a lot of it comes down to the mindset you come in with.... too many think they get by on looks alone and that swingers will shag anything, where as the reality is that it is probably harder because people already have some idea of what they are looking for....
mindset... a healthy dose of cynicism and basic common sense and if it looks too good to be true.. it normally is
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
I'll be honest, yes sometimes I have felt like that but I got over it and these days it happens very rarely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had the opposite experience, lots of messages, lots of offers. My confidence has always been healthy, but boosted a lot since joining and meeting some fab men, single , partnered and married straight guys  |
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I'm a realist & appreciate that there are loads of us single guys on here, compared to single women/couples. I take knock backs on the chin & move on. I guess the only slightly deflating thing is when you send them a face pic that gets instantly deleted or blocked.
Still it's good to have a chat/laugh with people, thats one of the main reasons i still come on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
I am in a couple and we play separately , it does not bother me that ladies turn me down or ignore messages , no more than it bother Paula when she gets turned down
Now if we were on a dating site as singles we would be out for dates every night, because there is no expectation of sex on first date on dating site, even though it happens a lot lol
It also does not bother either of us if we get turned down as a couple.
Saying that we get more luck going out using the usual place to meet singles than we ever had here. Probably because human beings were not designed to find potential sex partners over the internet.
I think people have too high an expectation of what to expect, from a sex site. And let's face it sex is easy to get , you don't need a sex site to get it.
Feeling rejected has never come into it. I have thought about joining a dating site so we can play fair and both have our fair share of singles, but that would lead to problems with weird stalker thinking they were getting more than a fuck as i like regular friends, and Paula likes different friends each time
Plenty more rats in the sewer
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Never in a million years. It is sex that I seek, not looking to discover a cure for a horrid disease for the world.
If you can't get sex on a swingers site, get a grip of yourself ffs.
The drama it brings to some beggars belief. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest, this is quite a strange place for me, all in all. Not had a meet here yet, but I'm quite stringent in who I choose. Though for every lady here there's probably 100 men. The numbers are well against ussingle men, I realise this, and I also realise I'm not the best looking bloke ever, though I wouldn't say I thought I was 100% fugly either. I don't get frustrated though, to be honest.
Why?
Well, away from here I had 2 Fbs until quite recently (now down to 1, but she's smoking imo). I've never had any problems getting a girlfriend when I want one, and generally punch well above ny weight. If I go on the pull, I don't usually come back empty handed.
I just don't seem to 'click' on here. I don't understand why, but hell, I like the forums and popping into chat every once in a while. The sex advice can be handy too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
No, no and no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being a successful single male swinger is like being a Salmon jumping up a mountain river."
Really? 
I know a fair few who'd argue that being 'successful' (as you term it) is no more difficult - in fact a lot easier - than being a couple or single female!
Only one person - yourself - to worry about, and none of the bullshit women and couples have to deal with on a daily basis!
I wouldn't have it any other way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being a successful single male swinger is like being a Salmon jumping up a mountain river.
Really?
I know a fair few who'd argue that being 'successful' (as you term it) is no more difficult - in fact a lot easier - than being a couple or single female!"
Good for them eh? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm guessing, and it seems to be the case, that this thread is hardly likely to attract the "it's not fair on single males" contingent, but those with a more positive experience and/or outlook."
The it's not fair brigade are too busy writing "what's wrong with me?" and "why are women/couples so ignorant?" threads |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
"What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?"
Not strange at all ...Its just i get messages from guys who seem to be having a crap time on here . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?
Not strange at all ...Its just i get messages from guys who seem to be having a crap time on here . "
maybe its a trick to get you to feel sorry for them and take pity on them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What a strange set of questions surely if the answer to them was yes,why on earth would they be on here ?
Not strange at all ...Its just i get messages from guys who seem to be having a crap time on here . "
its because you have a sign over your head saying
" can I help you"
quiet often a sympathy shag request works. |
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
I love this site and all the women I meet on here.
I actually feel really wanted on here. Its maybe because I have met alot of people on here.
My reputation preceeds me.
You have met me chops. You know what I am like.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being a successful single male swinger is like being a Salmon jumping up a mountain river.
Really?
I know a fair few who'd argue that being 'successful' (as you term it) is no more difficult - in fact a lot easier - than being a couple or single female!
Good for them eh? "
As is often said - try clubs and socials - most 'successful' single guys find this a great way to meet people and network.
There's usually plenty going on in all areas. Especially the midlands! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its frustrating more than anything but only because of the environment your having to work in
most of us will be used to doing this kinda thing in person. the approach, the chat, the initial gauging and shit like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.
Love fab :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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_isscheekychops,perhaps you should volunteer to be the site agony aunt ? Seriously though this site is just one small part of the very big swinging cog. If some males don't understand this fact,then they will probably continue to struggle. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?
No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.
Love fab :p"
Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport! |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
"_isscheekychops,perhaps you should volunteer to be the site agony aunt ? Seriously though this site is just one small part of the very big swinging cog. If some males don't understand this fact,then they will probably continue to struggle."
Id rather stick hot pokers in my eyes thanks |
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I feel sorry for some guys too - you can see how false their expectations are, somehow they believe that all that have to do is show themselves available and a queue will form, and it must be quite a blow to the fragile male ego!!
I talk to a few who cannot accom and have not had meets and they regularly delete their profiles in a fit of pique, even paid up gold members, and then come back again a few days later......shame!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
Cheeky, the only guys that feel rejected on here are the ones that think they'll join for a quick shag, the genuine single guys that would like to experience the whole scene are here for much more. Unfortunately you read so many posts that tarnishes many of the single males that enjoy the site.
I love it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
Not at all of i get rejected which is rare just move on its not what i class as real life more like an extension. |
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?
I love this site and all the women I meet on here.
I actually feel really wanted on here. Its maybe because I have met alot of people on here.
My reputation preceeds me.
You have met me chops. You know what I am like. "
That's because (and don't get a big head) your easy to talk to and a good laugh. As well as being a cheeky sod. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?
I love this site and all the women I meet on here.
I actually feel really wanted on here. Its maybe because I have met alot of people on here.
My reputation preceeds me.
You have met me chops. You know what I am like. "
God yes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?
No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.
Love fab :p
Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport! "
I really want to see if i can attach it to a motorcycle helmet for summer :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?
No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.
Love fab :p
Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport! "
Mine too!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
Hi, not really as I know the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol.
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"It's funny that this thread has almost turned into bragging about how many people they meet/have met and how successful they are.
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There is just a very small element of that but it has hardly turned into a bragathon, and does have some very interesting points about positive attitudes and a balanced outlook
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? "
i am new to this all..
I have tried to speak to a few people some do talk and some dont but i dont feel any rejection as i dont expect anything from sending a message to someone if they wanna talk they will if they dont they wont..
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"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases? Hi, not really as I know the ratio is 400 men to 1 woman lol."
Where has this 400:1 statistic come from? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Do you really feel that rejected on here? Does this site really get you down? Does it make you feel that dejected that your self esteem and confidence decreases?
No it's great, I've met awesome gorgeous people, had better sex than ever before, confidence has gone up loads.
Love fab :p
Admit it, the hat gets the meets. It takes you along because you provide the transport!
I really want to see if i can attach it to a motorcycle helmet for summer :p"
If you do, can I request a meet now? lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol "
That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol
That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here."
There are some single guys whose behaviour leaves a lot to be desired too. Let's not start slagging groups of people off, eh? There are good and bad in every group. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol
That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here.
There are some single guys whose behaviour leaves a lot to be desired too. Let's not start slagging groups of people off, eh? There are good and bad in every group."
Wasn't slagging any group of people off eh? I don't get many messages off single guys. So I'm saying it as I see it, if thats ok? |
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if you ladies are getting so many messages and looking at them on phones its hardly a wonder many guys get ignored .. answering twenty .. thirty or more invites would take all night .. thats if you actually even see them .. so the your inboxes just get a bulk delete ..also there should be a little marker guys can use so they could highlight or put a blob on a no thankyou profile to act as a reminder what happened last time we sent a message ... i actually chat occasionally not asking for a meet at all  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"It's fake profiles that do the harm for single guys "
nope... thats too easy a kop out.. and leave the blame for any failures elsewhere.....
for example... a female friend advertised for an afternoon social and got a fair few replies saying they would be there... so how many of those people showed up.... me!!!
sometimes people are there own worst enemy...
as someone else said... this site in itself is one small piece of the swinging jigsaw... and I probably use it more for networking then actual meets now.. but it means that if some event or party comes up more chance of me being invited.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know I'm not a single male but I just want to say I do feel sorry for some single guys. .they try really hard to be pleasant and make the effort ...its just I find some couples and single girls really give them a hard time! ...the ratio on here is not a true representation of life so don't feel down guys ...plenty of nice girls on here that will gently give you thejknock back ..lol
That is true...there are some very rude people with very high opinions of themselves on here.
There are some single guys whose behaviour leaves a lot to be desired too. Let's not start slagging groups of people off, eh? There are good and bad in every group."
That's why the word some was used ... |
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