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Hi folks, I am a bloke that just happens to like cock ! Why is it hard to make new friends with fems or males ? Women don't need to worry about being hit on, blokes in here seem to be comfortable in their own sexuality, therefore I should not be a threat to them either .
Can anyone explain please . Thanks. Mike |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I suspect that befriending people they have no interest in meeting is low down on a lot of people's priority list.
There is a social side here, particularly on the fora, but, in my experience, a lot of men are mainly focussed on meets and don't want to exchange too many messages with anyone, and women spend enough time dealing with messages from those who want to meet and getting to know those they want to meet.
I'd say this isn't an ideal place to look for friends. |
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If you are male from Brighton...you are gay...I regularly post on football forums. ..the abuse is more than banter..I always stand up for gays...I go to gay nightclubs and bars in Brighton...funnily the only trouble I have is from gay guys and lebanese...funny old world. ..  |
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over a year ago
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why would you want to meet with fems if you are gay?
and likewise, why would they want to meet with you?
in general, no, i dont think there is a stigma to being gay, although im speaking about in the real world, not this online place.
V's son is gay and doesnt seem to suffer much stigma or hassle at college, in fact is part of the GLB society there, so is soundly accepted.
there will be, however, aggression shown towards those that seem to walk around with a victim mentality, or that feel they are owed something because of a 'differing sexuality', but that goes the same as if you are disabled and feel the world owes you a living because of it.
the answer is, you develop any stigma you find yourself, by bringing negative attention your way with your attitude.
if you havent got one, then i havent witnessed any stigma towards anyone here or in real life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We couldn't care less what anyone's sexuality is on here but if a gay guy or anyone else only wanted to chat we'd be unlikely to strike up a conversation as we're here to chat to people we may meet and play with so we'd not really see the point as a gay guy wouldnt be interested in Diane and Martin is straight but good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi folks, I am a bloke that just happens to like cock ! Why is it hard to make new friends with fems or males ? Women don't need to worry about being hit on, blokes in here seem to be comfortable in their own sexuality, therefore I should not be a threat to them either .
Can anyone explain please . Thanks. Mike "
i love having gay friends and have spent the best nights out in soho with them, least as you say with a gay guy you know where you stand. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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" i love having gay friends and have spent the best nights out in soho with them, least as you say with a gay guy you know where you stand."
Yes, same as with a TG - listening to our cutting comments about how people are dressed 
I think most people's attitudes in the wider world to 'THE DIFFERENT' reflects their own personality. Some people won't give you a chance because you are... whatever... but they, in my experience are peeps who seldom give anyone a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're overlooking the fact that a lot of straight male profiles on here are actually bi,so that means they're not comfortable with their own sexuality.
Being openly gay on here should be ok with everyone but friendship will probably be very limited.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a couple of gay mates and they said you're only gay if you're attracted to the same sex.
Hence why I only allow females wearing a strap-on to enter my ass |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi folks, I am a bloke that just happens to like cock ! Why is it hard to make new friends with fems or males ? Women don't need to worry about being hit on, blokes in here seem to be comfortable in their own sexuality, therefore I should not be a threat to them either .
Can anyone explain please . Thanks. Mike "
I didn't think it was hard to make new friends, Iv been friends with my GBF for years! Wouldn't be without him!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For some people there is still a stigma. It's a sad fact but it's definitely getting better everyday.
Change in society takes time, and life online reflects society.
This site and our society are much further down the road than others, but there's still a long way to go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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there are, obviously, some cultures that it is still very much stigmatised, but i am unable to comment on those as im not involved with them fully, but merely on the perifery. |
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As a friend with have no problem with Gays.
In fact one of our closest friends was gay and came on every family holiday.
As for sexual partners then we wouldn't go there. We are just not compatible.
Its Simone's preference not to play with Gay, Bi or Bi Curious men.
So at the end of the day, when choosing sexual partners it is down to ones preference.
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"If you are male from Brighton...you are gay...I regularly post on football forums. ..the abuse is more than banter..I always stand up for gays...I go to gay nightclubs and bars in Brighton...funnily the only trouble I have is from gay guys and lebanese...funny old world. .. "
I'm male and from Brighton and I'm not gay. I'm bi with a straight preference. |
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"If you are male from Brighton...you are gay...I regularly post on football forums. ..the abuse is more than banter..I always stand up for gays...I go to gay nightclubs and bars in Brighton...funnily the only trouble I have is from gay guys and lebanese...funny old world. ..
I'm male and from Brighton and I'm not gay. I'm bi with a straight preference. "
I know Steve we've talked about it...you're not Brighton born and bred like me..growing up as a mod boy we used to frequent bars in Brighton I was horrified to learn the barmaid was in fact a barman. ..led to a street fight in Middle Street between 4 mod boys and 8 regular punters in the bar. ..was called Spotted Dog. ..I was 15-16....then when Elton John came out I was mortified....you grew up in Brum?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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its each to there own preference,just a shame that most of society doesnt always accept that.we are all born different.as for friends i dont see any harm in chatting to anyone.doesnt mean you have to be friends. |
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"Hi folks, I am a bloke that just happens to like cock ! Why is it hard to make new friends with fems or males ? Women don't need to worry about being hit on, blokes in here seem to be comfortable in their own sexuality, therefore I should not be a threat to them either .
Can anyone explain please . Thanks. Mike "
lots of people on this site are very judgemental and vanilla, they dislike anything outside their experience or control, as you can see from reading profiles and threads.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"why would you want to meet with fems if you are gay?
and likewise, why would they want to meet with you?
in general, no, i dont think there is a stigma to being gay, although im speaking about in the real world, not this online place.
V's son is gay and doesnt seem to suffer much stigma or hassle at college, in fact is part of the GLB society there, so is soundly accepted.
there will be, however, aggression shown towards those that seem to walk around with a victim mentality, or that feel they are owed something because of a 'differing sexuality', but that goes the same as if you are disabled and feel the world owes you a living because of it.
the answer is, you develop any stigma you find yourself, by bringing negative attention your way with your attitude.
if you havent got one, then i havent witnessed any stigma towards anyone here or in real life"
So, persecution is self-inflicted, is it? What a load of bollocks. |
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"Hi folks, I am a bloke that just happens to like cock ! Why is it hard to make new friends with fems or males ? Women don't need to worry about being hit on, blokes in here seem to be comfortable in their own sexuality, therefore I should not be a threat to them either .
Can anyone explain please . Thanks. Mike "
No matter what your sexuality, some people find it hard to make friends.
No stigma attached, just insecurities |
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