I know a lot of people on here don't do the kinky thing. They just like more vanilla sex and lots of it.
But for those of you that are the more kinky among us (and yes I know there is a huuuuuuge spectrum of BDSM etc) have you always been kinky?? Did you just try something one day and think yes that's definitely right up my street...have you developed new and more extreme kinks as time went by??
I read about/see pics of things and think that sounds great but I'm a bit scared to try it...  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I had flirted with being tied up in the past but it wasn't until I met someone I could trust who knew what they were doing that I really began to explore more and more 'extreme' stuff - though to be fair it is not as extreme as what you could find on the internet these days. |
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I have always been a bit kinky, always knew what I wanted and how to get it!
I always hid my kinks as I never had a partner that I could try these things out with, I am hoping to discover and venture further into the kink world this forthcoming year  |
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I was a late bloomer sexually, but with my first partner I knew some of my desires would have scared him so never mentioned them. It was only really when I started meeting casually that I got to speak to guys that would explore less vanilla things with me and since then my kinky side has definitely developed and will probably continue to as I meet people with new ideas or kinks of their own. A big part of why I love this lifestyle is the variety of people and ways they play...and how I can have great vanilla-ish sex with one FB and then be tied and teased by my other FB the next day  |
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I've found myself being more and more drawn towards the more kinky stuff over the last year or so. Recently added restraints and whips to my toy collection. |
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Gotta love Kinky stuff..
Ive tried BDSM and was NOT for me! Ended up drawing blood! Quite painful actually lol..
But I love being blindfolded and tied up.. my FB also enjoys being tied up.
Somethings are for some and not for others really..
I have a huge fetish for Boobs and Bums tho
Ohh and dress up and role play . |
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over a year ago
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Not extreme kink but i have a huge love of worshipping feet and stilettos.
I also love getting spanked and also my nipples being squeezed really hard during sex |
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"Gotta love Kinky stuff..
Ive tried BDSM and was NOT for me! Ended up drawing blood! Quite painful actually lol..
But I love being blindfolded and tied up.. my FB also enjoys being tied up.
Somethings are for some and not for others really..
I have a huge fetish for Boobs and Bums tho
Ohh and dress up and role play . "
Being blindfolded and tied up is BDSM though isn't it??? Bondage? |
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"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit  "
I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things  |
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I happened upon mine strangely.
I have always had a very high pain threshold. I never cried as a kid when I hurt myself, to the point my mum took me to the doctor because she was worried.
When I started swinging, I was lucky enough to meet an experienced Dom at one of the first Munches I attended, he was the first to spank me. And was amazed when I didn't cry in pain, or exquisite agony. He began my journey of curiosity on how far I could take the pain thing. As my limits began to show no sign of reached, he escorted me to places where I could meet new Dom men and women who had more experience of pain kink.
I discovered a hell of a lot about myself and what pain I enjoyed and what pain I just found annoying for want of a better phrase.
8 years on, I am still exploring and still finding out new things about myself. |
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"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit
I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things "
Hun, thats what I used to think, but it can happen |
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"I know a lot of people on here don't do the kinky thing. They just like more vanilla sex and lots of it.
But for those of you that are the more kinky among us (and yes I know there is a huuuuuuge spectrum of BDSM etc) have you always been kinky?? Did you just try something one day and think yes that's definitely right up my street...have you developed new and more extreme kinks as time went by??
I read about/see pics of things and think that sounds great but I'm a bit scared to try it... "
Something happened to me when I hit 30!!
I'm not complaining though
Trying new things all the time |
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"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit
I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things "
To help a few playmates learn trust, I used "grass bondage"
You can have your ankles secured, and a blindfold.... But... The wrists have silk scarves tied round them, then the loose ends are wound round (say) the bedspread with the free ends held in each hand.
If you panic, you release the ends and shake your wrists free....
One of the rules being that if you release, the games Stop... This can be sexually frustrating... |
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17 years old my then gf asked me if I would tie her to the bed with our school ties......I did and never looked back! Always been dom but being so properly takes time, experience, skill, trust and a bloody good sense of humour!
Master x |
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"Trust is the main thing, once you have that the skies the limit
I think this is my problem. With my living situation and not getting much time to meet I don't get to meet anyone regular enough to explore these things
To help a few playmates learn trust, I used "grass bondage"
You can have your ankles secured, and a blindfold.... But... The wrists have silk scarves tied round them, then the loose ends are wound round (say) the bedspread with the free ends held in each hand.
If you panic, you release the ends and shake your wrists free....
One of the rules being that if you release, the games Stop... This can be sexually frustrating... "
Bedstead.... Not bedspread.... Grrrrr...!!! |
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I have a curious streak i think. If i see something that i haven't done before, then i'm curious to try it
..in terms of BDSM, i just don't get that. Then again, i've never really indulged in it.
Mind you, i have been speaking to someone who is in the scene and they have me intrigued to try a few things.
Not sure if i'm kinky. But, i do love to tie people. Both hands and legs - watch them squat before me in their heels. I do like to tease, and recently become more curious with foot play and much much more.
..i'm kind of interested in role reversal at the moment. Usually it's me who is in 'control' But, i want to see how far out of my comfort zone i can go with someone else.
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Always had the kink in me but the last few years have really pushed the boundaries and I'm a real pain slut now and absolutely love being taken to sub space. |
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"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X"
I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink  |
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"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X"
Yes it is, you're definitely not thick.
Restraint is usually the start of it . |
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"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X
I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink "
That's what I thought, but am not knowledgable so thought I'd check. Lol.
Dunno where I'd start though! |
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"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X
I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink
That's what I thought, but am not knowledgable so thought I'd check. Lol.
Dunno where I'd start though! "
We could show you.... |
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"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X
I would have said it's a soft form of BDSM! And would class it as a kink
That's what I thought, but am not knowledgable so thought I'd check. Lol.
Dunno where I'd start though!
We could show you.... "
When I finally decide to grow some balls and take the plunge Lucy you will be the first to know |
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"BDSM is an umbrella term encompassing a whole range of activities. Enjoying some does not imply that being 'into' BDSM is enjoying all."
Yeah having had a read just now of the wide range of things within the BDSM spectrum I can totally understand that. |
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"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X"
...it is. But, not in the way i personally interpret BDSM.
When i restrain, it's usually as foreplay or something sensual. Something to just tease with. I don't count that as BDSM in it's true nature.
I haven't used handcuffs or anything alike. Usually, whatever is lying around or pieces of scarves.
That's just me though.
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"Am I being thick here but a couple of people have said about no BDSM then gone on to say about restraining people etc. isn't that a form of BDSM? X
...it is. But, not in the way i personally interpret BDSM.
When i restrain, it's usually as foreplay or something sensual. Something to just tease with. I don't count that as BDSM in it's true nature.
I haven't used handcuffs or anything alike. Usually, whatever is lying around or pieces of scarves.
That's just me though.
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You could try reading some books and The black lace ones are good. I never in my wildest dreams thought that would be interested in it, and found the whole concept scary too x |
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"You could try reading some books and The black lace ones are good. I never in my wildest dreams thought that would be interested in it, and found the whole concept scary too x "
Good idea I need some new books to read anyway |
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I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.
Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.
Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.
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"I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.
Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.
Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.
crystal"
Would you do things now that 5 years ago you wouldn't entertain?? |
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"I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.
Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.
Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.
crystal
Would you do things now that 5 years ago you wouldn't entertain?? "
Public play/nudity, pain, restraint, humiliation/degradation, the voyeuristic side has grown hugely, topping a man, and actually talking through what turns me on and trying to explain why.
In the last 5 years, I have definitely learnt to be more open minded and not be so stuck up in my own concepts of what I considered to be ideal.
I was already comfortable with 'vanilla' sex as I had already experienced group sex and I had already played with ladies when I was very young but I am now having a lot more fun exploring my sexuality and my kink.
crystal |
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"I realised I was kinky at a young age when certain situations would turn me on when maybe they shouldn't have as it was 'wrong'.
Films with a dark and sinister story line would always get my interest and I had no idea why.
Now I know I can indulge, I am still learning a lot about my kink and just how far it goes.
crystal
Would you do things now that 5 years ago you wouldn't entertain??
Public play/nudity, pain, restraint, humiliation/degradation, the voyeuristic side has grown hugely, topping a man, and actually talking through what turns me on and trying to explain why.
In the last 5 years, I have definitely learnt to be more open minded and not be so stuck up in my own concepts of what I considered to be ideal.
I was already comfortable with 'vanilla' sex as I had already experienced group sex and I had already played with ladies when I was very young but I am now having a lot more fun exploring my sexuality and my kink.
crystal"
It's not too late for me then?? Lol x |
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"It's not too late for me then?? Lol x"
Oh god no!
The hardest part is analysing exactly what it is about a scene that turns you on. Once you understand that better and you're able to communicate it, it then allows people to play on that aspect giving you a chance to explore that more.
crystal x |
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"I found it @ the age of 42 when my then bf decided to put me over his knee and spank me. "
Thats exactly how I discovered I liked spanking. Surprised me at the time! |
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I certainly have that side and I'm trying to enter that world to explore it. There is a lot of things I want to try, and I also want to lose control to stop my mind over analyzing stuff. So I need someone I can trust and who keeps you safe, but makes you try stuff you would never do out of your own choice... obviously there is always boundaries etc |
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Whoever above said that communication is the key is 110% correct - once you're able to confidently convey exactly what does (and doesn't!) turn you on the pleasure can really start ...
Personally I enjoy a few "kinks" and live the buzz if meeting those who share them (enquire within for more details!) - but always try to keep it light hearted & fun. I blame the Fifty Shades phenomenon (anyone else find those books unreadable!??) for the sudden army of "Dom" guys. There's a lot more to it than simply tying your partner up and having your way with her (or him!). |
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"Auto erotic asphyxiation...
Crikey that sounds terrifying!
Indeed ....  "
I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol |
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"Auto erotic asphyxiation...
Crikey that sounds terrifying!
Indeed ....
I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol"
Yeah I bet. Good job you're still here to enjoy it!! lol x |
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"Auto erotic asphyxiation...
Crikey that sounds terrifying!
Indeed ....
I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol
Yeah I bet. Good job you're still here to enjoy it!! lol x "
Very much so!!
There is a direct parallel to it but I won't say here as it will probably upset people! |
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"Auto erotic asphyxiation...
Crikey that sounds terrifying!
Indeed ....
I stopped it after that point to be honest, but it opened my eyes to a very new and open world lol
Yeah I bet. Good job you're still here to enjoy it!! lol x
Very much so!!
There is a direct parallel to it but I won't say here as it will probably upset people!"
PM me if you like I'm always interested in hearing experiences x |
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over a year ago
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I'd like to tie someone up, but feel that as soon as I did, I'd end up pissing about, moving all of their furniture about, putting some bacon on, drawing on their face to make them look like Groucho Marx and so on. I don't think I'd be able to take it seriously. |
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I've always felt it but I used to think I was a freak! I got turned on by things that my head said I shouldn't. I guess I was quite sheltered as I had no idea there were other people who felt the same. Till I met someone who gave me a taste of kink and introduced me to the swinging scene. And I thank him regularly! |
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"I like kinky stuff like watersport and I would like to try hardsport and see how it feels to get a dump on my penis .
Are you being serious!!? 
FORUM INSURANCE "
I'm newish to the forums.. What is this Tina  |
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Been to many a munch
BBB etc
Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...
Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)
Bondage
Hand cuffs
Wax
Rope/suspension
Erm et, brutal sex
And lots more
We like kink xxxx
Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ... |
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"Been to many a munch
BBB etc
Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...
Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)
Bondage
Hand cuffs
Wax
Rope/suspension
Erm et, brutal sex
And lots more
We like kink xxxx
Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ... "
Violet wand? |
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"Been to many a munch
BBB etc
Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...
Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)
Bondage
Hand cuffs
Wax
Rope/suspension
Erm et, brutal sex
And lots more
We like kink xxxx
Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ...
Violet wand?"
That's the one... Stunk of ozone... Did fuck all for us x |
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"Been to many a munch
BBB etc
Been flogged naked in a club n done flogging...
Tried violet wand (did nothing tbh)
Bondage
Hand cuffs
Wax
Rope/suspension
Erm et, brutal sex
And lots more
We like kink xxxx
Makes you very open of others kinks methinks ...
Violet wand?
That's the one... Stunk of ozone... Did fuck all for us x"
Oh sorry, you were asking what it is???
Electro-stim
High voltage shocks
Kinda like kwhat you see on Frankenstein films
High voltage low current... Van de graf generator thang
Some like t |
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I've always been kinky but for many years kept it surpressed. This site and my EX brought the kink out more and more. Now I seem to push myself that little more each time, and I love it, can't get enough kinky fuckery!! |
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"I know a lot of people on here don't do the kinky thing. They just like more vanilla sex and lots of it.
But for those of you that are the more kinky among us (and yes I know there is a huuuuuuge spectrum of BDSM etc) have you always been kinky?? Did you just try something one day and think yes that's definitely right up my street...have you developed new and more extreme kinks as time went by??
I read about/see pics of things and think that sounds great but I'm a bit scared to try it... "
I love trying new kinky things... |
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For those who have their own interpretation of BDSM, I suggest you read up on it to avoid confusion.
BDSM covers all this:
BD - bondage and discipline
DS - domination and submission
SM - sadism (a love of giving "pain") and masochism (...receiving).
I want more
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Yes when I met Gary, him being a dominant, I tried the submissive side of things, that was two years ago, and have not looked back.
I still have the edge of dominance in me, but only towards a woman, strange as that sounds, I feel I could switch with a woman. |
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