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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A woman I was going to meet this Sunday as a club visit saw I was seeing others and cancelled with some really poor excuse...should I keep others a secret? Doesn't feel like I should given the topic of this site.
Not really bothered about her..was more looking forward to the club visit really. Just peed me off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I went to a club with a guy I'd expect any play to be together. After all that's why you go together.
However if I was at the club and made it clear that it was a saying hello to several that night then that's different. "Anyone fancy saying hi to me at Cham's ten till one." For example.
I see it as two different types of meet... |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"A woman I was going to meet this Sunday as a club visit saw I was seeing others and cancelled with some really poor excuse...should I keep others a secret? Doesn't feel like I should given the topic of this site.
Not really bothered about her..was more looking forward to the club visit really. Just peed me off "
it'd probably mean she'd be an easy meal ticket, I dont blame her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really bothered about her..was more looking forward to the club visit really.
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Thats not a good attitude to have, I do hope she reads this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket? "
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be"
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me"
Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao!"
You can you just need to plan an escape before the meet  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me
Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao!"
I'm quite shy myself, so dont even like socials lol
I'm just fussy
If they dont like me or vice versa.. I'll be upfront about it and hope they would too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me
Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao!
I'm quite shy myself, so dont even like socials lol
I'm just fussy
If they dont like me or vice versa.. I'll be upfront about it and hope they would too"
yeah I don't beat around the bush, I'll say it out it is lol btw is that a hair clip round your cock? XD |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My my, we are getting judgmental today aren't we.
Yes it is a swingers site and yes some people do get jealous and possessive of the people they meet on here. They shouldn't do but this is real life and it happens. Whether out of jealousy, envy or their own insecurities, don't let it get to you and move on. If another swinging individual told me they were unhappy that I had seen others I would tell them straight. They don't own me and to move on.
Don't let it get you down. If you really want to visit the club, why not go on your own?
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me
Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao!
I'm quite shy myself, so dont even like socials lol
I'm just fussy
If they dont like me or vice versa.. I'll be upfront about it and hope they would too
yeah I don't beat around the bush, I'll say it out it is lol btw is that a hair clip round your cock? XD"
you see ! people just go urrrgh cock pic, BUT.. it gives my girth away great (so subtle, no one noitices) lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me
Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao!
I'm quite shy myself, so dont even like socials lol
I'm just fussy
If they dont like me or vice versa.. I'll be upfront about it and hope they would too
yeah I don't beat around the bush, I'll say it out it is lol btw is that a hair clip round your cock? XD
you see ! people just go urrrgh cock pic, BUT.. it gives my girth away great (so subtle, no one noitices) lol"
Every time I saw it on the forum I kept on thinking "why has he got a hair clip on his cock?" now I know why  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My my, we are getting judgmental today aren't we.
Yes it is a swingers site and yes some people do get jealous and possessive of the people they meet on here. They shouldn't do but this is real life and it happens. Whether out of jealousy, envy or their own insecurities, don't let it get to you and move on. If another swinging individual told me they were unhappy that I had seen others I would tell them straight. They don't own me and to move on.
Don't let it get you down. If you really want to visit the club, why not go on your own?
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cos it seems he wants to get in cheaper.... |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me
Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao!
I'm quite shy myself, so dont even like socials lol
I'm just fussy
If they dont like me or vice versa.. I'll be upfront about it and hope they would too
yeah I don't beat around the bush, I'll say it out it is lol btw is that a hair clip round your cock? XD
you see ! people just go urrrgh cock pic, BUT.. it gives my girth away great (so subtle, no one noitices) lol
Every time I saw it on the forum I kept on thinking "why has he got a hair clip on his cock?" now I know why "
lol what do they say .. "a joke aint funny if you have to explain it"..
Pass the remote  heh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and you know she cancelled because she saw you were meeting others how?
Or is that just the easiest explanation?
Maybe she felt used as a cheap entry ticket?
which is why if I guy wants to meet me at a club I tell him he can come and meet me INSIDE. I always tell them I go as a single, never as a couple as I feel they're using me to get in cheaper and that's not how it should be
dont go to clubs myself, they are always a little overly anti social for me
Haha I don't meet in public places coz if I meet someone and don't like them then I can't run away lmao!
I'm quite shy myself, so dont even like socials lol
I'm just fussy
If they dont like me or vice versa.. I'll be upfront about it and hope they would too
yeah I don't beat around the bush, I'll say it out it is lol btw is that a hair clip round your cock? XD
you see ! people just go urrrgh cock pic, BUT.. it gives my girth away great (so subtle, no one noitices) lol
Every time I saw it on the forum I kept on thinking "why has he got a hair clip on his cock?" now I know why
lol what do they say .. "a joke aint funny if you have to explain it"..
Pass the remote heh"
HAHA! I'm rubbish at understanding jokes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me too much bragging about meets is a turn off,Ill back off and let them keep having all that fun with everyone else
But it is a swinging site and people are free to do and say what they want if they're having fun  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My my, we are getting judgmental today aren't we.
Yes it is a swingers site and yes some people do get jealous and possessive of the people they meet on here. They shouldn't do but this is real life and it happens. Whether out of jealousy, envy or their own insecurities, don't let it get to you and move on. If another swinging individual told me they were unhappy that I had seen others I would tell them straight. They don't own me and to move on.
Don't let it get you down. If you really want to visit the club, why not go on your own?
cos it seems he wants to get in cheaper...."
That's not it..its only £30 for a single guy...I just don't want to go where I don't know anyone...its just my preference..that's ok isn't it? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"My my, we are getting judgmental today aren't we.
Yes it is a swingers site and yes some people do get jealous and possessive of the people they meet on here. They shouldn't do but this is real life and it happens. Whether out of jealousy, envy or their own insecurities, don't let it get to you and move on. If another swinging individual told me they were unhappy that I had seen others I would tell them straight. They don't own me and to move on.
Don't let it get you down. If you really want to visit the club, why not go on your own?
cos it seems he wants to get in cheaper....
That's not it..its only £30 for a single guy...I just don't want to go where I don't know anyone...its just my preference..that's ok isn't it?"
soooooooooooooooooooooo...
you set up a meet, and do your best to not attend? Top marks there.. ya just acing it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass  "
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really bothered about her..was more looking forward to the club visit really.
Thats not a good attitude to have, I do hope she reads this thread "
Even if she hasn't - alot of women have. Praise the lord for the block button! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So my world has to cave because someone cancelled? Cancels happen..that's life....that's not the point o was making...my point was because she saw I was meeting others and became stroppy then cancelled....I asked you guys...as a single guy should we have to lie about who else we meet? It doesn't seem right...or maybe I should say they are the only one...what's with the small digs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?"
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are girls offended if men see others. Obviously some are. I know some that arnt. Were all different. Which is what makes the lifestyle so interesting. No more name calling thanks. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"So my world has to cave because someone cancelled? Cancels happen..that's life....that's not the point o was making...my point was because she saw I was meeting others and became stroppy then cancelled....I asked you guys...as a single guy should we have to lie about who else we meet? It doesn't seem right...or maybe I should say they are the only one...what's with the small digs? "
As you know though, she cancelled because she knew she was fodder or not going to get a decent night. Probably a quick 10 mins and decided against.
You knew the answer already so why try and justify making other arragments.. pah |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So my world has to cave because someone cancelled? Cancels happen..that's life....that's not the point o was making...my point was because she saw I was meeting others and became stroppy then cancelled....I asked you guys...as a single guy should we have to lie about who else we meet? It doesn't seem right...or maybe I should say they are the only one...what's with the small digs? "
Ok I'm slightly confused, I thought she cancelled on you as you where meeting other people at the club when you had agreed to go with her, is this not the case? As this is the way your post reads to me |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Does the OP mean he had arranged to meet other women at the club? or does he mean she cancelled because she saw he meets other women on here? If the former, poor show OP. If the latter, I think she was over reacting.
Probably best the OP clarifies what he means before we hang, draw, and quarter him. |
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"Are girls offended if men see others. Obviously some are. I know some that arnt. Were all different. Which is what makes the lifestyle so interesting. No more name calling thanks. "
Now I assumed when I read your OP that the woman had cancelled with you because you had been meeting other women on other occasions, not that you were planning to take her to the club but play with others. Did I get that wrong? |
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My point was your assumption she took offence at you seeing others. But as you said you were only using her to take you too a club.
Id cancel on you for that.
Swinging is a social thing. I go to clubs on my own. There will be people to chat with if you make an effort.
As too whether you should lie to women because they get jealous. I can't think of something polite enough to respond to that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all."
some get in for free and some pay as little as a fiver, depends on which club you go to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are girls offended if men see others. Obviously some are. I know some that arnt. Were all different. Which is what makes the lifestyle so interesting. No more name calling thanks. "
Why do you single girls out, there are men that act the same way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all."
because you said you're not interested in going on your own. screams to me you want babysitting and getting in cheaper |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all.
some get in for free and some pay as little as a
fiver, depends on which club you go to"
I know that is the point I was making. So with that in mind why are you calling the OP tight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all.
some get in for free and some pay as little as a
fiver, depends on which club you go to
I know that is the point I was making. So with that in mind why are you calling the OP tight."
because he said he isn't interested in going anywhere on his own which suggests he doesn't wanna fork out for a single guy entrance fee, he wants to get in cheaper |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all.
because you said you're not interested in going on your own. screams to me you want babysitting and getting in cheaper"
Lots of people don't like to go to places on their own. Whether that be a club, pub, restaurant etc. doesn't mean he is trying to get a cheap entry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all.
because you said you're not interested in going on your own. screams to me you want babysitting and getting in cheaper
Lots of people don't like to go to places on their own. Whether that be a club, pub, restaurant etc. doesn't mean he is trying to get a cheap entry. "
well maybe he needs to grow some balls and learn to stand on his own two feet otherwise he'll get nowhere |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So my world has to cave because someone cancelled? Cancels happen..that's life....that's not the point o was making...my point was because she saw I was meeting others and became stroppy then cancelled....I asked you guys...as a single guy should we have to lie about who else we meet? It doesn't seem right...or maybe I should say they are the only one...what's with the small digs?
Ok I'm slightly confused, I thought she cancelled on you as you where meeting other people at the club when you had agreed to go with her, is this not the case? As this is the way your post reads to me "
No ya dufus...meeting other people from Fab!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
because you sound like an ass. you sound like you just wanted to get in cheaper, which not what its supposed to be about, tight ass
I think that's a little unfair. Where did I say its a financial issue? I'm not really interested in going anywhere on my own. What's wrong with that?
So do I considering the prices women pay to get in clubs if they do at all.
because you said you're not interested in going on your own. screams to me you want babysitting and getting in cheaper
Lots of people don't like to go to places on their own. Whether that be a club, pub, restaurant etc. doesn't mean he is trying to get a cheap entry.
well maybe he needs to grow some balls and learn to stand on his own two feet otherwise he'll get nowhere"
What? Who says I've gotten no where? You've totally misread this post. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people are bashing the op unfairly.
Op you don't have to justify to anyone who you meet, outside of the current arrangement. If they don't like it, tough. "
Cheers man...was not expecting all that!! |
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Right OP, if you have arranged to meet others there and don't mind paying the single guy entrance fee and wasn't bothered about attending with her in the first place I don't see the problem.
Go, meet the others in there. Problem
Solved. It's only waking through the door on your own. I wouldn't want to
Go to a club alone but would happily walk in alone if I knew others were going to be there. |
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"I think people are bashing the op unfairly.
Op you don't have to justify to anyone who you meet, outside of the current arrangement. If they don't like it, tough. "
Ryan I don't think anyone would of said anything if it wasn't for his 'I wasn't bothered about her just the club' comment in his OP. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think people are bashing the op unfairly.
Op you don't have to justify to anyone who you meet, outside of the current arrangement. If they don't like it, tough.
Ryan I don't think anyone would of said anything if it wasn't for his 'I wasn't bothered about her just the club' comment in his OP. Lol "
Meaning meets cancel..its no big deal..it happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ryan I don't think anyone would of said anything if it wasn't for his 'I wasn't bothered about her just the club' comment in his OP. Lol "
Thats almost as bad a s the guy a while ago saying he had a few meets but was looking for a better quality Fem to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So my world has to cave because someone cancelled? Cancels happen..that's life....that's not the point o was making...my point was because she saw I was meeting others and became stroppy then cancelled....I asked you guys...as a single guy should we have to lie about who else we meet? It doesn't seem right...or maybe I should say they are the only one...what's with the small digs?
Ok I'm slightly confused, I thought she cancelled on you as you where meeting other people at the club when you had agreed to go with her, is this not the case? As this is the way your post reads to me
No ya dufus...meeting other people from Fab!!"
Then that is a tad ridiculous on her part to expect you to go solo with her |
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By *ach3Man
over a year ago
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Having gone to clubs more as a couple than a single guy - going with someone is a lot easier from a male point of _iew (the extra tenner or so is irrelevent). However if going with a female as a couple, then especially if the male is driving - the female will need assurance you aren't just going to leave without her when you have had enough!
Given it is swinging, if you are looking toarrange to meet others then that should be something you discuss together - given you are coming as a couple - otherwise as others have said you simply arrange to meet inside the club and you are then free to do as you please with no obligation to the other - simples |
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The point if anyone has totally missed it was...we were going to play together and meet another couple there that she knew...she was I was meeting others this week apart from her not at the club...others from fab this week...she became funny and cancelled...which made me think...do we as single guys have to make out that when were meeting ladies that she's the only one? Again..given that this is a swinging side? I knew she saw others...doesn't and will never bother me in fact I encourage it as this tends to promote less clingyness.....it is neither 1. Cheaper club admission 2. No bragging about other meets involved and 3. Id rather attend a club with someone than on my own..its more fun and my choice. Hope that's clear. |
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"Having gone to clubs more as a couple than a single guy - going with someone is a lot easier from a male point of _iew (the extra tenner or so is irrelevent). However if going with a female as a couple, then especially if the male is driving - the female will need assurance you aren't just going to leave without her when you have had enough!
Given it is swinging, if you are looking toarrange to meet others then that should be something you discuss together - given you are coming as a couple - otherwise as others have said you simply arrange to meet inside the club and you are then free to do as you please with no obligation to the other - simples "
I was picking her up and taking her home...wed been chatting for weeks by whatsapp. |
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"The point if anyone has totally missed it was...we were going to play together and meet another couple there that she knew...she was I was meeting others this week apart from her not at the club...others from fab this week...she became funny and cancelled...which made me think...do we as single guys have to make out that when were meeting ladies that she's the only one? Again..given that this is a swinging side? I knew she saw others...doesn't and will never bother me in fact I encourage it as this tends to promote less clingyness.....it is neither 1. Cheaper club admission 2. No bragging about other meets involved and 3. Id rather attend a club with someone than on my own..its more fun and my choice. Hope that's clear. "
The thing is for some, when you "do things together" they automatically assume all meets will be as a couple and jealousy and possessiveness creeps in.
The people we come into contact with shape our future meets, ie when I first joined I met men that didn't accommodate. My daughter was returning from uni and I said to one playmate our next meet would be at his to which he replied he didn't let people he met of the internet into his home, it wasn't a knocking shop! After I chucked him out I rethought my meet criteria.
For future reference perhaps make it crystal clear that any "couples" activity will be ad hoc and you'll be enjoying the site. Unfortunately, you really do need to spell it out for some! |
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I think the OP has been treated unfairly on this post especially the many comments about him using this lady solely to get cheap entry which seem to have materialised from a posters imagination.
OP my advice to you is to be clear about what you want and what you are going to do. Then those who have
the same mindset and expectations will be happy to meet you.
Do not let others dictate how you play and what you do, be mindful not everyone will be of the same mindset as you and be gracious if they decide to not meet. Be aware of tterritory marking too. |
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"I think the OP has been treated unfairly on this post especially the many comments about him using this lady solely to get cheap entry which seem to have materialised from a posters imagination.
OP my advice to you is to be clear about what you want and what you are going to do. Then those who have
the same mindset and expectations will be happy to meet you.
Do not let others dictate how you play and what you do, be mindful not everyone will be of the same mindset as you and be gracious if they decide to not meet. Be aware of tterritory marking too. "
Agreed: I think he was pounced on too. Op, by your responses you come across as a decent man. I too was going to mention territory marking too!  |
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?"
I don't go to clubs because I can't but if my situation changed for my first visit I'd want to go with someone who wanted to be there with me, not exclusively to the point of not saying hi to others but who was bothered just a little bit about the person they were with. Like they said why don't you just go anyway |
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
I don't go to clubs because I can't but if my situation changed for my first visit I'd want to go with someone who wanted to be there with me, not exclusively to the point of not saying hi to others but who was bothered just a little bit about the person they were with. Like they said why don't you just go anyway "
Tbh you are right...I should just try it..I think I would feel.like a lemon though |
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"I think the OP has been treated unfairly on this post especially the many comments about him using this lady solely to get cheap entry which seem to have materialised from a posters imagination.
OP my advice to you is to be clear about what you want and what you are going to do. Then those who have
the same mindset and expectations will be happy to meet you.
Do not let others dictate how you play and what you do, be mindful not everyone will be of the same mindset as you and be gracious if they decide to not meet. Be aware of tterritory marking too.
Agreed: I think he was pounced on too. Op, by your responses you come across as a decent man. I too was going to mention territory marking too! "
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"We were going together playing together...I mean its not the end of the world regards her..was just looking forward to seeing this club ..why the judging?
I don't go to clubs because I can't but if my situation changed for my first visit I'd want to go with someone who wanted to be there with me, not exclusively to the point of not saying hi to others but who was bothered just a little bit about the person they were with. Like they said why don't you just go anyway
Tbh you are right...I should just try it..I think I would feel.like a lemon though"
If you have arranged to meet other in there it's only gonna be for a minute though while you walk in isn't it??? Like I said earlier I wouldn't want to go on my own for a night but if others I know were going to be there id make my own way and walk in on my own to meet them x |
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Sorry op just seen that you meant you were meeting others from site separately,
Try putting a meet request up, you might get chatting to others who are going at least you could meet them there, it's not that scary I promise |
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Again...I hadn't arrange to meet anyone in there...she had which I was also looking forward to...in future I am not discussing any other meets with ladies even if someone asks...its not worth the hassle if they don't.like it. |
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"Again...I hadn't arrange to meet anyone in there...she had which I was also looking forward to...in future I am not discussing any other meets with ladies even if someone asks...its not worth the hassle if they don't.like it."
as i said eariler not just woman who can act that way, so much easier not too |
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Whilst thinking the o p attitude dont seem the best i have a question for the single ladies.
What is wrong if two folk arrange to meet and go to club together as long as ground rules agreed first why is it wrong for the bloke to want to keep costs down.
Am sure if the roles reversed and women charged 30 quid or more most would try keep costs down or not go. |
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"Whilst thinking the o p attitude dont seem the best i have a question for the single ladies.
What is wrong if two folk arrange to meet and go to club together as long as ground rules agreed first why is it wrong for the bloke to want to keep costs down.
Am sure if the roles reversed and women charged 30 quid or more most would try keep costs down or not go."
because it makes them sound like a cheapskate for asking a woman to go to a club with them so they can get in cheaper, if they're worried about the cost, then don't go, arrange a meet at home or something. Yes I do agree if the roles were reversed but many women go on their own or they're in a couple or going as a threesome with a couple |
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