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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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wish my ex was mature enough to communicate with me and realise we had problems deep enough to go t oa relationship counciller, instead of being wrapped up with her own things and not seeing i was broken and needed help.
ah well, onwards and upwards. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Surprised that no one else has ever been.
Just to re iterate, Relate not only made our marriage better, but made us much stronger as people and therefore as a couple.
Would recommend it and would reply to those who may need advice on our experiences.
As said before, we went many years ago and the same stuff we learnt from it applies.
In case anyone wonders - they are not the "God Squad"!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He cheated on me .... Nothing would have made that better"
see thats where ours ended.
problem was, we got together when she was quite young so hadnt developed the interpersonal skills that are required to make a relationship work.
she had a very selfish attitude to live, never asking how my day was and always turning conversations around so they were about her, so she didnt notice i was struggling with depression.
she just took it that i didnt fancy her anymore so found it elsewhere.
we are fine with each other now, and she realises she could have done better.
so its all good, but yes, something like Relate would have helped before it got to that stage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would hope that if we had relationship troubles we would be grown up enough to talk to each other open and honestly to each other without the need to ask a stranger to help!
Understand that relate would and does work for others, so not dissing it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get all that is said.
If either of us were to have cheated that would have been the end of us too!!
We also understand most would keep quiet about it, but just wanted to shout it out in case it helped people make the choice to try it.
In case any were wondering relate came years before we embarked on Gangbangs. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I suggested going to relate when my marriage ended suddenly without any warning to me. My husband at the time told me there was no point in going as he wanted a divorce. He wasn't able to be honest with me for the reasons for the end and probably with himself so the thought of him having to discuss it out loud was not something he was going to do. He had made his decision and was final. What me or the kids needed was irrelevant to him. Strangely enough he is still interested in who I date or what sort of clubs I attend.
Cake and eat it??? No way ex! |
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I went to relate with my ex husband....he punched me in the face after the session so we never went back. Some relationships aren't meant to be saved!
The best thing I ever did was leave him and now I'm with Mr Ch33ky I know what a loving, secure and respectful relationship is like 
Mrs Dirty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For any kind of counseling though all parties involved have to be willing to commit to it and want to do it otherwise it will not work"
If one of you isnt listening, or only there to be told they are right and the other is wrong... Save yourselves the time and effort....
There are many success stories though... |
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"I went to relate with my ex husband....he punched me in the face after the session so we never went back. Some relationships aren't meant to be saved!
The best thing I ever did was leave him and now I'm with Mr Ch33ky I know what a loving, secure and respectful relationship is like
Mrs Dirty "
you're right some relationships aren't worth saving and Relate will never advise people to stay together if parting is better or indeed safer for one or both of them |
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By *rsSuckWoman
over a year ago
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Relate told us we are wasting our money to come to them, as my hubbie is unwilling to change.
I wish it was as easy as talking. I talk and my hubbie ignores me.
If I had the money I would leave. I am stuck with a man that loves his computer more than me.
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"I suggested going to relate when my marriage ended suddenly without any warning to me. My husband at the time told me there was no point in going as he wanted a divorce. He wasn't able to be honest with me for the reasons for the end and probably with himself so the thought of him having to discuss it out loud was not something he was going to do. He had made his decision and was final. What me or the kids needed was irrelevant to him. Strangely enough he is still interested in who I date or what sort of clubs I attend.
Cake and eat it??? No way ex!
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well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all have our own perceptions of things and I really do admire people who have got through bad times ..
But for others some of those bad times are unforgivable even with help |
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"Relate told us we are wasting our money to come to them, as my hubbie is unwilling to change.
I wish it was as easy as talking. I talk and my hubbie ignores me.
If I had the money I would leave. I am stuck with a man that loves his computer more than me.
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(((((((((((hugs))))))))))) |
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