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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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they are saying that parents who work weekends and nights are more likely to be overweight or depressed in their teens I think this is because the most precious thing we can give our kids is our time
how does it make you feel if you work and don't see your kids |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i only ever worked part time so was always there for my son. i can imagine they would feel neglected especialy if both parents worked weekends and nights. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well my twins will be 17 next time are one is a 34" and one a 32" waist so not over weight and both seem very happy and ive worked nights and weekends most their life.
I guess it depends on the person i cook their meals all they have to do is warm them and i dont over buy shit snacks for them to sit eating all night |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think its the amount of time you spend with your children or lack of it,Its the quality of time spent with them and what you do with them in that time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people dont have a choice when it comes to the job weekends and nights can be mandatory....i get 4 days off after every 4 i work and do days and nights so in reality its 4 nights out of 16.....but id in no way be able to do the things i do with them or make sure they have nice things if i only worked a few hours a week on minimum wage....i just think its another way of picking at working parents.....you stay at home your a bad role model for not working you go to work your a shit parent noone can win x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work full time I work 7 days on one day off but my kids are grown up now, I have a 20 and 21 year old but also have a 12 year old, I spend as much time with her as I can, of course i'd love to have more time at home with my family but that don't pay the bills, my two eldest are both at uni ones in her 3rd year at vet school the others in her second year training to be a pediatric nurse, neither course is fully funded so I have to pay towards their education, my youngest is doing well at school so I don't think my working has affected them to much, I've done my best and people cant ask for any more than that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work nights only three, I sleep when she is at school.
I go when she is asleep and home before she wakes.
For my daughters sake it works well, not mine though.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I work nights only three, I sleep when she is at school.
I go when she is asleep and home before she wakes.
For my daughters sake it works well, not mine though. "
i worked nights for 7 years
kids hardly miss you if you work nights, i used to go after they went to bed, get home before they got up, take them to school, got to bed and get up to pick them up, so i have no idea how anyone can say working night affects kids |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I work nights only three, I sleep when she is at school.
I go when she is asleep and home before she wakes.
For my daughters sake it works well, not mine though.
i worked nights for 7 years
kids hardly miss you if you work nights, i used to go after they went to bed, get home before they got up, take them to school, got to bed and get up to pick them up, so i have no idea how anyone can say working night affects kids"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I work nights only three, I sleep when she is at school.
I go when she is asleep and home before she wakes.
For my daughters sake it works well, not mine though.
i worked nights for 7 years. I agree, she has me there to cook her dinner at a good time, I'm home when she is back from school, and I have time for the special one to one chats.
kids hardly miss you if you work nights, i used to go after they went to bed, get home before they got up, take them to school, got to bed and get up to pick them up, so i have no idea how anyone can say working night affects kids"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I work nights only three, I sleep when she is at school.
I go when she is asleep and home before she wakes.
For my daughters sake it works well, not mine though. "
This is why i went into this type of work qhen the boys were little i could be there when they were awake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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aw well, im doing the wrong thing by working to support my kid on own. Should i give up working all together then and sit at home all day? does that lead to happier, thinner teenagers? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's understandable that people get a bit defensive about this but I'd have thought in an ideal situation parents would be around as much as possible for their kids.
Not surprised at all that the less you are, the more issues kids have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's understandable that people get a bit defensive about this but I'd have thought in an ideal situation parents would be around as much as possible for their kids.
Not surprised at all that the less you are, the more issues kids have."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's understandable that people get a bit defensive about this but I'd have thought in an ideal situation parents would be around as much as possible for their kids.
Not surprised at all that the less you are, the more issues kids have."
depends what your goals in life are
we don't live in an idea world, I am alone I have no one to help or support me so I have two option work to provide for my kids or stay at home and live on benefits
I know out the two my kids would sooner me work as they wouldn't have no where near a good a life style they have now on benefits
plus sitting at home on benefits isn't really giving out a good example to your kids
I have worked all my life, I had my kids and I provide for them, to me that's how life works, I would sooner that than live hand to mouth month to month worrying about how i'm going to pay the next bill and cope through christmas, surely that isn't healthy for kids either
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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago
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"they are saying that parents who work weekends and nights are more likely to be overweight or depressed in their teens I think this is because the most precious thing we can give our kids is our time
how does it make you feel if you work and don't see your kids"
It makes me proud that I am providing for them myself and setting them a good example by working for a living |
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"I don't think its the amount of time you spend with your children or lack of it,Its the quality of time spent with them and what you do with them in that time"
I agree with this, but being a parent is more than about time quality or quantity.
Anyone can spend quality time with a child, I pay my babysitter to spend quality time with them, but being a parent needs more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im fortunate enough to be employed, i enjoy my line of work.
my daughter hates my uniform as she knows i'll be gone for 12 hours. She loves her time at nursery and spending time with her great grandma though. We are exceptionally close but i feel that we both need our time apart. In the long run i am positive that this is the best for us. The cuddles when i finish a shift at work just confirms how much we need and miss each other.. just sucks when i do 3 long 12 hour days in a row. The upside is we get 4 days together though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work nights and weekends, and have five year old, it's hard! I don't see him as much as I'd like too. But he's a very healthy active little boy.
I also have grown up children, who are happy and not fat
 they've all done well and all got fantastic jobs after attending uni.
Sometimes unfortunately parents have no choice. To criticise people that work hard! Riles me.
Maybe they'd grown up thinner and happier if we sat on our bums all day, and raked the benefits in. I doubt it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's understandable that people get a bit defensive about this but I'd have thought in an ideal situation parents would be around as much as possible for their kids.
Not surprised at all that the less you are, the more issues kids have.
depends what your goals in life are
we don't live in an idea world, I am alone I have no one to help or support me so I have two option work to provide for my kids or stay at home and live on benefits
I know out the two my kids would sooner me work as they wouldn't have no where near a good a life style they have now on benefits
plus sitting at home on benefits isn't really giving out a good example to your kids
I have worked all my life, I had my kids and I provide for them, to me that's how life works, I would sooner that than live hand to mouth month to month worrying about how i'm going to pay the next bill and cope through christmas, surely that isn't healthy for kids either
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I never suggested people live on benefits. I imagine parents that spend too long at home are not ideal either, certainly if they're not doing very much of use. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"they are saying that parents who work weekends and nights are more likely to be overweight or depressed in their teens I think this is because the most precious thing we can give our kids is our time
how does it make you feel if you work and don't see your
kids"
What a load of tosh, who gets paid for thinking these things up. 
You work,you don't work. You cannot do right by doing wrong or which ever way round the saying goes lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"they are saying that parents who work weekends and nights are more likely to be overweight or depressed in their teens I think this is because the most precious thing we can give our kids is our time
how does it make you feel if you work and don't see your
kids
What a load of tosh, who gets paid for thinking these things up.
You work,you don't work. You cannot do right by doing wrong or which ever way round the saying goes lol."
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