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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How does Christmas make you singletons feel at this time of year?
Do you miss buying for a loved one (obviously NOT including blood relatives  )?
Who do you kiss under the mistletoe? (Oh on a swingers' site that has to be everyone ).
Do you miss having no-one in your bed to put your cold feet onto? (Oops revealing my secrets). Admittedly that isn't Christmas related but it is seasonal  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not overly keen on being single at Christmas and I miss being a part of a couple and all that goes with it. For me it does seems to be a time of year for couples and those with children. Having said that, I wouldn't mind it quite so much if people didn't start going on about it in flippin September 
The hype starts waaaaaaay too soon and most have forgotten the true meaning of it anyway. I'm not overly religious but I was brought up to go to chapel and Sunday school and took part in Nativity Plays but all that seems to be lost on most these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Statistically Christmas is the worst time of the year to be alone. More marriages/relationships bite the dust this time of the year too. Also the not so nice effect booze can have on some. Yo-ho-ho.
I'm working nite of 24th and am gonna be watching 2 boys (9 & 6) unwrap tablets (complete surprise) on afternoon of 25th. Also some 'adult time' with my regular when I/we have the opportunity.
We really should spare a though for those who truly have no-one else at this time of the year though.
Not the place for a smiley emocon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont like being single at best of time but xmas well not looking forward to it even stuck my name on the willing to work xmas day im the only one on the list so going to be a busy one for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lots of people arent married though, you could always work over christmas, it can get boring being at home even if youre married it goes on too long and the telly is crap. |
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I shall be working long shifts on the 25th, 26th and 27th.
I've been single for 26 years, bought up the children in that time and I can tell you, I am never alone or lonely.
I've often been VERY happy to say "sorry, I'm working this year"
My time is usually New Years Eve as that's my birthday. My 50th was spectacular; surrounded by people I love and care for and who want to be with me.
Perfect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. Better than being with someone you don't want to be with!!!"
cant argue with that
I wonder how many unhappily married/living with people are wishing they was single this Christmas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have no kids.
V will be at home with her kids and possibly her relatives.
if i had my way i wouldnt even be going to my parent for xmas dinner either, but my mother hate the thought of me being alone.
i love being alone.
im a great person to be with lol
relationships just complicate things.
i have enough shit of my own to deal with, but hell, you cant help falling in love with omeone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How does Christmas make you singletons feel at this time of year?
Do you miss buying for a loved one (obviously NOT including blood relatives )?
Who do you kiss under the mistletoe? (Oh on a swingers' site that has to be everyone).
Do you miss having no-one in your bed to put your cold feet onto? (Oops revealing my secrets). Admittedly that isn't Christmas related but it is seasonal ."
It doesn't bother me in the slightest.When I was married I was materially wealthy but extremely unhappy.Im now poor,single but happy and on Xmas day I will wrap up warm and take my beloved dogs for a long walk,wishing everyone we pass a Happy Xmas (at the same time being very grateful I wont have to go home to d*unken rages!)  |
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for me its the waking up alone on xmas day itself with no presents to open that does it for me but i have BIG plans, started 2 new jobs and they close for xmas
job i do as well as is only 3 days so decided to go away .
booked into a pub xmas eve with my 2 pals,
so can have nice meal and drinks.
and after brekkie will be going to my sisters , just hope this turns out ok and the pub not empty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This will be my first single Christmas Day but I have my children and family around so it shouldn't be too bad! Who knows when Boxing Day comes and the children go to their dads I may find a sexy someone to cuddle up too xx here's hoping anyway lol
Hope I never have to have an entire Christmas alone I don't know how I would cope 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for me its the waking up alone on xmas day itself with no presents to open that does it for me but i have BIG plans, started 2 new jobs and they close for xmas
job i do as well as is only 3 days so decided to go away .
booked into a pub xmas eve with my 2 pals,
so can have nice meal and drinks.
and after brekkie will be going to my sisters , just hope this turns out ok and the pub not empty "
I think its just as much fun buying preasants for other people, you could buy yourself some preasants and wrap them up at least you will be sure to get what you want. you could buy preasants for poor people who havnt got much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm working the christmas period on nights so I'll miss it all "
im working xmas eve, xmas day, boxing day, new years eve and new years day, I love xmas the pays great |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm working the christmas period on nights so I'll miss it all
im working xmas eve, xmas day, boxing day, new years eve and new years day, I love xmas the pays great "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm working the christmas period on nights so I'll miss it all
im working xmas eve, xmas day, boxing day, new years eve and new years day, I love xmas the pays great "
You in the Private sector? |
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Slightly OT ... saw the fantasically funny Simon Evans on Stand Up For The Week recently. He did a routine -
"I hear the Church of England are concerned that at Christmas a lot of people will get into debt buying expensive presents, to which I say: you fucking started it !" |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"There are times all year not just Christmas that I do briefly miss late night cuddles or just having someone there but thankfully it is only briefly "
The joy of being single is that I can bugger off to Morocco with my bestie - which I am doing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are times all year not just Christmas that I do briefly miss late night cuddles or just having someone there but thankfully it is only briefly
The joy of being single is that I can bugger off to Morocco with my bestie - which I am doing "
Sounds lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind being single.. what I mind is that my family don't bother with my kids...
I've spent the last 5 years alone at Xmas... It is okay as long as my kids have a good day xx
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It is what it is....the lodger is at his mums so will be on my own from Christmas eve....but Christmas day i get to cook dinner for the 2 most amazing people in my life....my parents....I will wake alone unless i get some company who knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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christmas is a time for families and friends
this year i have offered to work over Christmas so any of my wok mates with family want it off i will replace them
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thats really good of you.
ive bought myself some things to wrap up
sad i know , my niece was saying to me by yourself something special so i went
to my local outlet and bought a necklace and earrings set + a bracelet .
may have to see if there's nay nice barmen in pub i'm stating in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate being single @ Christmas, but I will be spending the day with my Sister. And then visiting my kids later when they've had their Day with their little family's x |
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I've been single for the last or so years. Occasionally it bothers me, but on the whole I prefer being single.
This Christmas will be my first alone. Family are away over Christmas week (all inclusive Sharm el Sheik, lucky buggers), and my blood family all up North. I'm working though, so isn't going to be a huge problem.
To be honest, I'm quite looking forward to a bit of peace and quiet, eating what ever I decide I want to, and watching stuff on the TV I want to. May change my mind a little nearer the time though. |
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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago
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I'm single but I still do the xmas thing.
I avoid invites because I feel like I'm imposing on friends / family and never sure if they're just being nice. I turned my back on xmas for a few years but find it much better now I've entered into it again. Shame the tele's so bad, are there any good swingers xmas dvds? are swingers clubs open on xmas day |
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By *rummagemMan
over a year ago
Bedworth/Nuneaton |
"Christmas can be quite lonely as a single person at times..."
You're never lonely if you're lucky enough to have a dog that adores you. It'll be my first Christmas with her, can't wait.
She's curled up asleep, dreaming, with her head on my thigh at the moment! |
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"Christmas can be quite lonely as a single person at times...
You're never lonely if you're lucky enough to have a dog that adores you. It'll be my first Christmas with her, can't wait.
She's curled up asleep, dreaming, with her head on my thigh at the moment! "
awww bless my boy dog wants me to go sit and watch tv so he can lay next to me , he sometimes lifts his head up and looks at me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It dont realky bother me too much. Its time off from work and i'l just b pissed and stuff my face.
Its better to b single than stuck being miserable wiv a cheating slob who values gambling more than anyone in his life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It dont realky bother me too much. Its time off from work and i'l just b pissed and stuff my face.
Its better to b single than stuck being miserable wiv a cheating slob who values gambling more than anyone in his life "
Don't miss any of my exs at Christmas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it depends on what the plans are....
if ive got my son. il be fine. after all. that's what Christmas is about. in my opinion.
if I don't have him then il probably go and crash my old mans Christmas plans. haha.
no fun drinking on your own....
BREAK OUT THE JAIGGER! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe we feel this way because we refuse to grow up. But Christmas is about more than friends and family. It's about Magic, the Magic that only you can bring to other peoples lives. Be it the homeless person that needs a hot meal or the person that lives across the hall in your apartment building. For those that will be spending the Holidays alone, why not spend the afternoon together. Have your own little gift exchange, swap stories, and have a grand day. Or even have a party with several of you getting together. A little eggnog ( the real stuff.), a little of mistletoe and you have the makings of a great day.
For those that still feel that Christmas is still about friends and family, well we're all part of the Fab Family.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate being single...however....when i compare being single to being with a cheating low life....id rather be alone forever. Sorry having a bad day "
Yup, me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ile be spending Xmas day on a long shift at work again!! Can't wait beats waking up thinking fek just me and mam again. As for the low life cheating scum I met on here who chose to lead me on while dating his new girl, saved me loads of money not sending crap to him in afghan to make him feel better. The money saved is being spent on a night up in Sheffield for new year!!! Can't wait |
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Christmas, a time for to spend with family, just not your own.
Just my rescue dog and myself; last year I cooked the turkey on Boxing Day and the dog got to eat most of it, as I simply wasn't in the zone.
This year; no turkey, no bl**dy television or radio, telephone turned off and I'll cook scrambled eggs with smoked salmon on muffins for breakfast, caviar with blinis, sea tartare and soured cream for lunch and Stilton soup with toasted cheese on sliced baguette for dinner.
Doctor Nasty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Christmas alone is ok if your not in the mindset to be with anyone, personally I go things to do that don't involve my family or having someone close to do the whole couple thing so it all good lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It'll be my first since separating from my wife and the only thing that bothers me right now is not seeing our daughter first thing Christmas morning. Apart from that I'm not sure how I'm going to feel about it.
I imagine alcohol may come in handy at some point. |
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"Quite grateful to be single over Christmas, can watch what I like, fart when I like, eat and drink what and when I like, and all I miss is the Crimbo Eve shag.
Plus I save a small fortune"
+ 1
Whilst it can get lonely if you let it,it can also be fantastic if you make the effort.I thoroughly enjoy Christmas these days.Christmas day especially..Copious amounts of food and drink ..Plus Dr Who!! Whats not to like?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i don't mind it until people start asking me 'what are you doing on christmas day- come to ours' just to sit in the corner and eat food you don't like and be made to feel 'special'
so now i go to the pub for 3hours have a few beers bit of chat go home lay on the sofa with sole possession of the remote control.
dinner? might be chicken. might be beans on toast lol xx  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are far more lonely and without anything than those moaning on here."
And if they were here they'd express themselves too
There is a great deal of expectation to be "happy" at Christmas and I believe it is this concept that actually has the reverse effect for some. It is natural to look back on happier times and miss "the loving" even more than on a normal day. The same can be said for birthdays, anniversaries and Valentines day.
For others, they can see the silver lining had they been in poor relationships.
I'll be working Christmas evening like I did last year, and many others. Again I will witness people both celebrating this time of year and those glad the day is almost at its end. |
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yep its funny in a way that xmas is a time that can make you feel more lonely
than other days for some strange reason,
its hard for me as ive lost 4 members of my family over the years , i will be going to my sisters but she's not there for me the rest of the year, hasnt been to my house since the day i moved in even tho ive invited her, it just gets on top of you at times |
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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago
between havant and chichester |
ile be doing nights all over not my normal shifts but the lass who should be on has littleones so i told her id work for her just a shame no extra pay but ile get a dinner |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I have lived alone for twenty years so there isn't anything I miss.
I would LIKE to have someone in bed on Christmas Eve and wake up with them on Christmas morning. No gifts, just the fun of being together and then Christmas night together. I'd want them gone for Boxing Day though.
I am very lucky I have my wonderful family across the road. I get up, go across for scrambled eggs and smoked salmon and see what the children have. Then we open my presents to them and I open mine from them. I go to a friends for a pre-lunch drinks party and then I collect my parents and take them to the family. We have lunch and do the rest of the presents together, have pud and I take the parents back to their homes. Drive back to the family and have my first drink of the day and relax with the family playing games. Then cross the road and get into my bed or watch television.
It works and I'm never miserable at Christmas.
I'd just like to add some sex and teasing to the day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Christmas has always been a family time for me. I've been single around Christmas more than I've not been. I've been single for the last 2 Christmases. Its a very difficult one, I've done the being with someone and I've done the being without someone. I think quite honestly the more its dwelt upon the worse it becomes. Its just a case of doing your best to get through and to try and enjoy your time the best you can. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Last christmas was really terrible, but this year I'm no longer a singleton.
We both already had plans made for christmas day, but will see one another boxing day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last christmas was really terrible, but this year I'm no longer a singleton.
We both already had plans made for christmas day, but will see one another boxing day "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to say I dont see a difference if your single or not its what you make of it .. Know im gonna enjoy my christmas day as im spending with people I love and this one will be an extra special one |
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I have done xmas married and no kids and xmas living with someone with kids. I'm now single.
I would actually much prefer being single. There is no forced hilarity or expectation.
I see friends over christmas and catch up with people I haven't seen for ages. I watch the tv I want when I want. I refuse point blank to go and see miserable family just because I should...
It is a break from work and I absolutely love it - I still put a tree up and get right into the spirit of it. I buy presents I choose for my friends
You don;t have to be alone to be lonely but you also don;t have to be lonely because you are alone
It's one day.... |
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