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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?"
oh this is tricky cause it's open to how the young lady, or whoever heard it, took you comment.
on the face of it no but some people can be hyper-sensitive to comments and take whats said out of context from how they are meant  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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Were you bent forwards rubbing your thighs like Vic Reeves in Shooting Stars?
If not, then it's a compliment. If they made something of it, then it probably says more about them than you. 
Off to call the Dove from above, or the jacket spuds from the oven x |
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?"
depends i suppose some take P C far to far, to me it would be an appreciated compliment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd take it as a compliment there is a guy at work who comments when I look nice etc...I don't find it creepy I just see it as a compliment  "
Wait till the Christmas party lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?
oh this is tricky cause it's open to how the young lady, or whoever heard it, took you comment.
on the face of it no but some people can be hyper-sensitive to comments and take whats said out of context from how they are meant "
I think we have both worked for big companies in the past and witnessed things like this.
OP I think as long as you didn't wink, drool, touch or anything else suggestive that was a compliment. |
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"I'd take it as a compliment there is a guy at work who comments when I look nice etc...I don't find it creepy I just see it as a compliment
Wait till the Christmas party lol"
Lol we not going to the same one lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we like other peoples smells, we usually say wow you smell nice - what are you wearing.. love to get that for the other half...
Its a compliment, but not directly towards someone to take it the wrong way. |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?"
Perhaps if you said it smelt like the £2 perfume they sell at Lidl then I could see a possible issue.
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I always say it when people come in to my vets smelling good. I also compliment them on particular articles of clothing..
I think I am a friendly person and usually by the time they have gone in to see the vet I know all sorts of things about their health /families /kids /animals/holidays etc..
I have been there a long time and they really dont seem to mind.
These days people can be so stiff its lovely to compliment people and make them smile. |
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I don't think an answer can be given without knowing the context, the relationship , the genders etc....
It's okay to say people are too sensitive there are some places times and people where personal comments and observations need to be kept to nil. |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?
oh this is tricky cause it's open to how the young lady, or whoever heard it, took you comment.
on the face of it no but some people can be hyper-sensitive to comments and take whats said out of context from how they are meant
I think we have both worked for big companies in the past and witnessed things like this.
OP I think as long as you didn't wink, drool, touch or anything else suggestive that was a compliment. "
Couldn't agree with you more
As you may have gleened OP it does depend on how you said it. As a comment in general its ok in my opinion. But if you were sniffing her close, rubbing your inner thigh and wolf whistling it can be taken the wrong way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a sad world when you can't make a simple compliment without worrying if the person was offended.
I get complimented, usually on my nails or perfume by shop assistants quite often and it puts a smile on my face.
but I have given similar compliments and received a funny look. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd take it as a compliment there is a guy at work who comments when I look nice etc...I don't find it creepy I just see it as a compliment "
Ah, you see, I don't think I would go as far as to tell her she looked nice. I would be worried she'd find that a bit too familiar. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?"
it depends... how close were you leaning in at the time???  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think an answer can be given without knowing the context, the relationship , the genders etc....
It's okay to say people are too sensitive there are some places times and people where personal comments and observations need to be kept to nil. "
It was one of those moments when you say something, then immediately think maybe you shouldn't have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?"
Did you stick your nose into the nape of her neck and take a big, looooooooong sniff? Licking her hair as you moved away? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I for one find it difficult to compliment somebody I don't know.
I complemented someone who worked for a company that I used to work for. and she complained. and I got a disciplinary for the trouble.
all I said was she smelt nice. and smiled. being polite. nothing sordid.
it then became worse as when we were due to finish her fella decided to confront me and started pushing me around.
couldn't believe how extreme it became.
so im sorry.... but you all smell bad. lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its terrible nowadays when someones worried about giving someone a compliment 
you look lovely 
Thank you
Is this the point we swop numbers and private pics "
I'm scared of shadows..they follow me when I'm walking home alone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I commented on a young ladies perfume at work today. I told her it smelt nice. Is this slightly inappropriate/familiar ?"
it sounds like you think there is a problem with it, maybe you secretly fancy her.
In normal circumstances it is a simple compliment.
In a work environment, especially if you are on different levels, it could be taken as inappropriate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would you say to bloke... oooo you smell nice ?"
I wouldn't personally, because I wouldn't want to give the impression I was gay. But I know women who would tell a man they liked his after shave. |
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I always tell people if I think they smell nice. If she brings it up with you or anyone else saying she felt uncomfortable, you can say you have been thinking about perfume as a gift for your wife and were wondering what the one you could smell was called? Innocent enough |
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