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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some people who you meet and play with expect you will always want to meet and play with them. I'm getting seriously pissed off about this. Grrrrr
Surely if you haven't made arrangements, have initiated contact and haven't took the opportunity in group / club scenarios to play , isn't that enough of a clue or do we really have to spell it out  really enough is enough some people are way to clingy on the scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to have a similar problem ... local club had people we had played with expecting repeat fun ,and we didn't wanna end up playing with them every week . So we made it clear to everyone that the thrill of the first meet was the best , and repeat meets rarely lived up to that first one .
Pretty soon the message was clear and the pestering stopped .... so much better now !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And if no-one was asking for a meet....... you'd still be pissed off.
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Its repeat meets that the OP is on about. I for one love repeat meeting with a certain someone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And if no-one was asking for a meet....... you'd still be pissed off.
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Its repeat meets that the OP is on about. I for one love repeat meeting with a certain someone "
We like repeat meets with some people too, but not everyone. It's awkward when people assume because you have played in the past that we will always be up for it. |
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By *hermin1Man
over a year ago
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"And if no-one was asking for a meet....... you'd still be pissed off.
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Its repeat meets that the OP is on about. I for one love repeat meeting with a certain someone
We like repeat meets with some people too, but not everyone. It's awkward when people assume because you have played in the past that we will always be up for it. "
I think it is due to a lack of communication about you intentions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why don't you just tell them you're not interested anymore. Some people need to be told, being straight forward is the only way. They will move on because maybe only you know it's not happening again but they don't know that because the word "no" hasn't been said.
Meets are arranged by words, shouldn't rejections and no longer interested require the same respect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And if no-one was asking for a meet....... you'd still be pissed off.
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Its repeat meets that the OP is on about. I for one love repeat meeting with a certain someone
We like repeat meets with some people too, but not everyone. It's awkward when people assume because you have played in the past that we will always be up for it. "
But would that mean only you asking if they wanted to meet again and not visa versa? Then they might think what your saying? Better Communication is key  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes I guess it's time to spell it out to them. Don't expect this to go well and that's going to be awkward next time we see them at a club. But hey if people can't take a hint.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I guess it's time to spell it out to them. Don't expect this to go well and that's going to be awkward next time we see them at a club. But hey if people can't take a hint.... "
Good luck with that, can't imagine it will be easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They might surprise you and respect your answer because you're being truthful with them. You're not messing them about by dodging the answer.
It'll work out, people just want respect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Surely if someone has great fun with you ( ie an orgasm ) it is a compliment that they want more. The time to worry is when they don't!  "
Not when we receive snide texts after they have noticed us meeting other people and not asking them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"They might surprise you and respect your answer because you're being truthful with them. You're not messing them about by dodging the answer.
It'll work out, people just want respect. "
Well yes, we'll give this a go |
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