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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A recent post about xmas got me thinking. This will be my 1st Christmas on my own without a partner . Or someone to wake up too . Or buy a present for in 28 years . I have no idea how I will feel when I wake up alone on Christmas day .At the moment I am dreading Christmas but know there is a lot of people on here will be the same and been through that first xmas alone . So I suppose my question is "How do cope with it " ? |
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"Get yourself a meet over Christmas there are plenty that are in the same boat....  "
However I do know what you mean with waking up alone however it's not just Christmas that you do and you are coping.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A recent post about xmas got me thinking. This will be my 1st Christmas on my own without a partner . Or someone to wake up too . Or buy a present for in 28 years . I have no idea how I will feel when I wake up alone on Christmas day .At the moment I am dreading Christmas but know there is a lot of people on here will be the same and been through that first xmas alone . So I suppose my question is "How do cope with it " ? "
You justvdo. Don't dwell on things and don't feel sorry for yourself. Are you spending the day with family or friends? I go out for lunch both days but have learnt to cope with it the rest of the time. Try to enjoy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have woken up on Christmas Day on a bed made out of old clothes with a coat for a blanket
That wasn't the worst - the worst was the Christmas after losing my mum. I got told on Christmas Day my husband was leaving me ... I have had hum dingers !!!
I could say go and volunteer - that is a great way of getting through the day but I think there are a few ladies who have said they are in the same position as you
Social meet between now and Christmas - and why not wake up next to someone
Who said you have to follow cliches - sometimes we need the warmth of another person .. just for a little while xx
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I have woken up alone in my bed now for the past 8 years. I am alone til the kids come in so that makes that bit of sadness go away.
I miss thinking of that special someone and what silly stuff to get them.
Mind you if that special man is out there can put up with me and my family then good luck to you as we do buy some silly stuff for family at Christmas.
My advice is enjoy cooking what you want and watching what you want. Make it all about you and what you want x |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"I have woken up on Christmas Day on a bed made out of old clothes with a coat for a blanket
That wasn't the worst - the worst was the Christmas after losing my mum. I got told on Christmas Day my husband was leaving me ... I have had hum dingers !!!
I could say go and volunteer - that is a great way of getting through the day but I think there are a few ladies who have said they are in the same position as you
Social meet between now and Christmas - and why not wake up next to someone
Who said you have to follow cliches - sometimes we need the warmth of another person .. just for a little while xx
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What is it with bloody men at Christmas! ! The two men I loved ended things at Christmas. Miserable. Everyone deserves a wonderful partner to spoil and cherish x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get yourself a meet over Christmas there are plenty that are in the same boat.... "
Yes you are probably right Cheeky Its not the xmas dinner or the giving and receiving of prezzies I will miss . I think its the company I will miss xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Waking up alone is not just for Christmas , oops or is that puppies
I thought it was Sheep 
Only if your spending crimbo in Wales  "
bugger that i would have to buy TWO pair of Socks for a Prezzie  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get yourself a meet over Christmas there are plenty that are in the same boat.... Yes you are probably right Cheeky Its not the xmas dinner or the giving and receiving of prezzies I will miss . I think its the company I will miss xx"
So find that lovely lady to spend the day with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just wake up, sigh and tell yourself its just another day......mind you I been doing that fir years and still end up in tears but it might work for you lol
Think its all the hype bout how it should be brainwashes you into thinking yhe entire world is having a great time when reality is there are probably more like us... |
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We have all had shit Christmases life ain't peachy at times but life is what YOU make it....some enjoy being by themselves any time of the year and never feel lonely....loneliness can eat at you....don't let it....I've been single 4 years but always make sure that I never get to a stage where I feel lonely all the time..of course it would be nice to wake up next to someone but you got to make the best of what you have at this time...you don't know what is around the corner |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get yourself a meet over Christmas there are plenty that are in the same boat.... Yes you are probably right Cheeky Its not the xmas dinner or the giving and receiving of prezzies I will miss . I think its the company I will miss xx
So find that lovely lady to spend the day with "
Yeah maybe I will . Like Cheeky and your self said " There will be lots of ladies in the same boat as me " xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have all had shit Christmases life ain't peachy at times but life is what YOU make it....some enjoy being by themselves any time of the year and never feel lonely....loneliness can eat at you....don't let it....I've been single 4 years but always make sure that I never get to a stage where I feel lonely all the time..of course it would be nice to wake up next to someone but you got to make the best of what you have at this time...you don't know what is around the corner "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I will be spending Christmas morning at the local old peoples home, so many have no family or visitors, I take Dude , my labradoodle.
Christmas is about giving, and the most precious gift we have is time, so give a few hours of your day to make people feel special and happy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just a 24hr day and once it's over it's over,,,,  Yeah thats how I have been thinking about it
Come to mine if you want xx"
We will have to order a lorry load of wine hun xxx |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I had lasagne for Christmas dinner last year and spent the day alone.
It wasn't a special day for me, just another day, but it didn't really bother me. As I don't have children and there are no young children in the family, Christmas ceased to be special some time ago. Now I just feel vaguely ill at the commercialism and excess.
This year, having lost someone close unexpectedly a few months ago, will be more difficult I suspect, even though I won't be alone during the day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's just a 24hr day and once it's over it's over,,,, Yeah thats how I have been thinking about it
Come to mine if you want xx We will have to order a lorry load of wine hun xxx "
Yes we will but the offer is there if you want xxx |
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In fairness I do my bit for the vulnerable and the most in need on a daily basis due to the field of work I'm in so even I need a day off in helping people...I hope that came out right....just don't drown your sorrows in alcohol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's just a 24hr day and once it's over it's over,,,, Yeah thats how I have been thinking about it
Come to mine if you want xx We will have to order a lorry load of wine hun xxx
Yes we will but the offer is there if you want xxx"
You are a true friend Min . Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my opinion you can feel more alone when "with someone" than actually when you are. "
 
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Sorry for deleting the rest of your post Ruby but this was the bit that made me go
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only Christmas can start you thinking about what you haven't got . And not what you have got xx
You have a home I do and my health . Xxx"
and a cock to die for |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You have family don't you I'm sure you will spend it with your daughter x"
Yes I have a son and daughter They are having xmas dinner with there mum then will see me I do have family so I am blessed I am just been silly cause its my 1st one alone xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only Christmas can start you thinking about what you haven't got . And not what you have got xx
You have a home I do and my health . Xxx
and a cock to die for "
Hahahahaha this is ace |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You have family don't you I'm sure you will spend it with your daughter x Yes I have a son and daughter They are having xmas dinner with there mum then will see me I do have family so I am blessed I am just been silly cause its my 1st one alone xx"
Not silly at all x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only Christmas can start you thinking about what you haven't got . And not what you have got xx
You have a home I do and my health . Xxx
and a cock to die for "
Lmao thanks . Its pretty ain't it |
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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago
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"Only Christmas can start you thinking about what you haven't got . And not what you have got xx
You have a home I do and my health . Xxx
and a cock to die for Lmao thanks . Its pretty ain't it "
I dunno...lets see  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Been on my own 8 years. Ive dated or met on here for fun. You just have to be a man and get on with life! Get a meet on here or open a good bottle, make a dinner and chill on fabs x |
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I must be really weird as I've woken up alone on Christmas Day for the last ten years with the biggest grin on my face, the first downstairs to turn the tree lights on...I love Christmas.
The only time I've felt lonely, sad and depressed at Christmas was the one before I left my husband. My children will be here with their other halves all happy and settled: my happiness knows no bounds.
I've never needed A N Other to complete me and make me happy. As singles we wake up alone every day, I've lost count of the number of threads extolling the joys of being single, yet come the festive season people are anything but. I think it's because we're sold a fantasy surrounding Christmas.
Don't get me wrong, it'd be lovely to have someone special to make a fuss off, but that's for the whole year and not just Christmas. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I've never needed A N Other to complete me and make me happy. As singles we wake up alone every day, I've lost count of the number of threads extolling the joys of being single, yet come the festive season people are anything but. I think it's because we're sold a fantasy surrounding Christmas.
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I've never needed A N Other to complete me and make me happy. As singles we wake up alone every day, I've lost count of the number of threads extolling the joys of being single, yet come the festive season people are anything but. I think it's because we're sold a fantasy surrounding Christmas.
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It's romanticized and everything is all just in your face.....a bit like valentines day it's all lost it's true meaning |
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"Just wake up, sigh and tell yourself its just another day......mind you I been doing that fir years and still end up in tears but it might work for you lol
Think its all the hype bout how it should be brainwashes you into thinking yhe entire world is having a great time when reality is there are probably more like us..."
...and there you go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've lost count of the number of threads extolling the joys of being single, yet come the festive season people are anything but. I think it's because we're sold a fantasy surrounding Christmas.
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very true.
People bang on relentlessly about family at Christmas, often in complete denial and in contradiction to their experiences during the rest of the year. And there is an expectation that everyone sees their family which is what can make it shit being alone. I'm quite happy being estranged from my family but can guarantee that countless people when finding out that I won't be seeing them over christmas will offer advice and more often sympathy... I think that wellmeaning but wholly inappropriate mindset is what makes Christmas tough if you are alone as it can be hard to escape.
OP Christmas alone is what you make it. I've done a few, met up with friends, volunteered, gone away or even in splendid isolation. Just don't get bogged down in others expectations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx "
lol yes there is that xc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc"
I want the purple ones from quality street lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol "
you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx"
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx"
After 3 bottles of wine you will be asleep so will nick it back |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only Christmas can start you thinking about what you haven't got . And not what you have got xx"
If thats you're experince then you're lucky...
What's the difference between now and a months time? .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx
You know me so well xx
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx After 3 bottles of wine you will be asleep so will nick it back "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only Christmas can start you thinking about what you haven't got . And not what you have got xx
If thats you're experince then you're lucky...
What's the difference between now and a months time? .."
Nothing I guess . Just xmas has that habit of getting you thinking xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Id rather have my own company than in a relationship where all you have is a shared interest in the new fitted kitchen and a mahoosive mortgage.....
Don't get drawn into the bubble... Its all fake, ads on tv, Xmas specials recorded in October. Think of it as a Sunday,indulge yourself.... Cook what U fancy. Or invite others to yours in the evening!!
Boxing day pubs open, or rest that hangover. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i hate this time of year.
designed to make you feel miserable if you havent got people to buy tat for.
its bollocks!
if you enjoy your own company then there is no reason why you cant have a nice time anyway.
most pubs are open on the day, so go for a drink with a couple of mates, even if they have to go home to their wives after.
make it what you want to.
if i could work right the way through, just like any other week, then i seriously would do.
and as for NYE, well thats just as big a rip off as anything else.
makes me sick! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will be spending Christmas morning at the local old peoples home, so many have no family or visitors, I take Dude , my labradoodle.
Christmas is about giving, and the most precious gift we have is time, so give a few hours of your day to make people feel special and happy."
Oh I couldn't agree more - wonderful post!! |
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Not single now, but in the past ive been a miserable sod completely opposed to Christmas. I'm not religious and the whole commercial side of it struck me as slightly obscene.
I would simply go for a bike ride, the roads and/or trails are deserted and its usually frosty and beautiful out on the hills.
Do what you would do with any other free day, go for a walk/bike ride etc and then, having done some mood lifting exercise settle down with a bottle of wine and some treats
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx
You know me so well xx
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx After 3 bottles of wine you will be asleep so will nick it back "
Oi.....It's my Quality Street and my remote....pop round and then we can fight over it properly....! xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx
You know me so well xx
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx After 3 bottles of wine you will be asleep so will nick it back
Oi.....It's my Quality Street and my remote....pop round and then we can fight over it properly....! xxxx"
I would let you win |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I treat the xmas period like any other time of the year....no expectations and therefore no disappointments 
I will be warm ,fed and have a roof ,so consider myself lucky .
I will see my brother xmas day and then be happy enough with my own company for the rest of the time |
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1. Go to Midnight Mass on Tuesday 24th and give thanks to God for his son Jesus.
2. Still buy your ex a gift.... you see ....it's Christmas the season of good will.
3. Cook a simple meal on Weds the 25th and invite someone less fortunate than yourself round.
Have a great time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx
You know me so well xx
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx After 3 bottles of wine you will be asleep so will nick it back
Oi.....It's my Quality Street and my remote....pop round and then we can fight over it properly....! xxxx I would let you win "
A complete gentleman then......or scared I'd beat you anyway..?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx
You know me so well xx
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx After 3 bottles of wine you will be asleep so will nick it back
Oi.....It's my Quality Street and my remote....pop round and then we can fight over it properly....! xxxx I would let you win
A complete gentleman then......or scared I'd beat you anyway..?? "
The latter |
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im in the same boat like some of us and i echo every word thats been said on here last years was my 1st alone and the thought of it all made me cry all the time i was working some of xmas eve had a few drinks went to bed and as i had chest pain nearly dialled 999 just so i could be in hospital and not wake up alone.
this year tho as im not working as i changed my job off to stay in a pub overnite xmas eve , so if it quiet may still be alone then after nice brekky off to my sisters x |
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"This is my second Christmas since the 'A-hole' left me......you do survive... Plus you get the box of Quality Street AND the tv remote all to yourself !!...xxxxx lol yes there is that xc
I want the purple ones from quality street lol you can have all the hard toffee ones .. its my xmas xx
You know me so well xx
Oh it's like that is is x right I get the remote xx After 3 bottles of wine you will be asleep so will nick it back
Oi.....It's my Quality Street and my remote....pop round and then we can fight over it properly....! xxxx I would let you win
A complete gentleman then......or scared I'd beat you anyway..?? The latter "
Ooh....exciting.....xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't remember the last time I woke up next to someone on Christmas day, 2006 I think
One of my best was in 2003, I was working at Butlins, thought I was going to hate it but it was a laugh, different though.
I have a big family and spend it with them, by boxing day I feel overwhelmed. Last year was stressful as were all on edge with my Mums health, boxing day I ended up escaping to the stables for the day to avoid it all. This year will be similar, I'm the only singlie too so do will end up drained.
So being alone isn't always a bad thing. |
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