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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
Just getting over the loss of my FWB with the help of some lovely people, and the woman he's seeing now just friended me on Facebook.
Shame I'm on antibiotics right now else I would be opening some vodka.  |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Why the hell would she do that??  "
She said it was a random invite and, as he used to be on my FB I assume FB decided that as we were both in the same city we should be bosom pals. I doubt she even knew I existed til tonight to be honest. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Just getting over the loss of my FWB with the help of some lovely people, and the woman he's seeing now just friended me on Facebook.
Shame I'm on antibiotics right now else I would be opening some vodka. "
Sounds perhaps a bit like keeping friends cllose and enemies even closer... she might consider you a threat (after all he could change his mind) so be "being nice" to you she can keep an eye on you? Does that make sense? |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Just getting over the loss of my FWB with the help of some lovely people, and the woman he's seeing now just friended me on Facebook.
Shame I'm on antibiotics right now else I would be opening some vodka.
Sounds perhaps a bit like keeping friends cllose and enemies even closer... she might consider you a threat (after all he could change his mind) so be "being nice" to you she can keep an eye on you? Does that make sense? "
It does but I honestly don't think she knew I existed til tonight. I wonder how he's going to explain this to her! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why the hell would she do that??
She said it was a random invite and, as he used to be on my FB I assume FB decided that as we were both in the same city we should be bosom pals. I doubt she even knew I existed til tonight to be honest. "
i dont friend anyone i dont personally know or want to know.
random my arse.i am a nasty suspicious person.lol
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"random my arse.i am a nasty suspicious person.lol
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So am I. I was actually hoping she was going to tell me he was missing me lots and she didn't know what to do, but no such luck! |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"whats FWB?  "
Friend with benefits.
And I was aware that he was seeing the other woman but not aware that he wanted to go exclusive with her. We did split up, but it was a blow to find out like this. |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Ignore her. Its invasive.
Don't punish yourself... The clue is F W B.... Not life partner.....
And he needs a slap!!  "
I will be fine but honestly could have done without that. I have plenty to look forward to I know, so I won't be moping. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"whats FWB?
Friend with benefits.
And I was aware that he was seeing the other woman but not aware that he wanted to go exclusive with her. We did split up, but it was a blow to find out like this. "
That is the (in my books) unacceptable part... the finding out rather than having an honest conversation. |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"It sounds like it was more than a FWB if you descibe him as a loss....I thought you meant he had passed away "
It was a 7 year relationship and I think I am more miffed at losing his friendship than anything else. But yes, I know I was probably more into him than he was into me. |
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It does sound more than fwb, surely you k ow when you enter into this thats all it is. I get random friends requests from friends of friends think its how Facebook works. I'm sure you said you had both decided for it not to continue
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It does sound more than fwb, surely you k ow when you enter into this thats all it is. I get random friends requests from friends of friends think its how Facebook works. I'm sure you said you had both decided for it not to continue
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I did say that, but it was a bit more complicated than that. He was the one who decided to end it, but I agreed that it was probably for the best we did. I still miss him though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"can u friend me?...so I can friend her?xxxxx 
Oh Paddy, I can always rely on you to sympathise in your own way.  "
awww big hugs darlin xxxmuahhhhhxxx now suck it up....literally! xxx |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"can u friend me?...so I can friend her?xxxxx
Oh Paddy, I can always rely on you to sympathise in your own way.
awww big hugs darlin xxxmuahhhhhxxx now suck it up....literally! xxx"
OK! |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Could it be that she is one of those rare people who don't bear malice or grudges and genuinely wants to be a friend?  "
Oh, I don't doubt it. I'm 99% sure it was just a coincidence brought about by FB recommending a random add. Not sure I would have much in common with a 19 year old though. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Could it be that she is one of those rare people who don't bear malice or grudges and genuinely wants to be a friend?
Oh, I don't doubt it. I'm 99% sure it was just a coincidence brought about by FB recommending a random add. Not sure I would have much in common with a 19 year old though."
Is her age, his decision to see her exclusively or his ending it the issue for you? Be honest with yourself and no need to say on here at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can drink while you're on antibiotics.
Not these I can't. Well, I can, but I would be vomiting all night."
Have a cup of tea, then think about how sad she must be to contact you, perhaps shes worried he is going to leave her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can drink while you're on antibiotics.
Not these I can't. Well, I can, but I would be vomiting all night."
Ok. My doctor said there is only a few antibiotics that you can't drink with. It's probably best not to drink on any medication anyway. |
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By *yrdwoman OP Woman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"Could it be that she is one of those rare people who don't bear malice or grudges and genuinely wants to be a friend?
Oh, I don't doubt it. I'm 99% sure it was just a coincidence brought about by FB recommending a random add. Not sure I would have much in common with a 19 year old though.
Is her age, his decision to see her exclusively or his ending it the issue for you? Be honest with yourself and no need to say on here at all.
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I am honest enough with myself to know that the issue is my problem. As has been pointed out, we were 'only' FWBs so I was aware that he was seeing other people, as he was with me.
Also, having a dry patch hasn't helped. I am sure as soon as I can arrange some fun things will be better. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Could it be that she is one of those rare people who don't bear malice or grudges and genuinely wants to be a friend?
Oh, I don't doubt it. I'm 99% sure it was just a coincidence brought about by FB recommending a random add. Not sure I would have much in common with a 19 year old though.
Is her age, his decision to see her exclusively or his ending it the issue for you? Be honest with yourself and no need to say on here at all.
I am honest enough with myself to know that the issue is my problem. As has been pointed out, we were 'only' FWBs so I was aware that he was seeing other people, as he was with me.
Also, having a dry patch hasn't helped. I am sure as soon as I can arrange some fun things will be better. "
The sooner you are lying in a wet patch the better. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
I'm still FB friends with my FB who moved to America to live with the girl he got engaged to after having spent approx 4 days together (he didn't bother telling me until a few weeks and shags later  ).I "liked" his wedding pix the other week |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I'm still FB friends with my FB who moved to America to live with the girl he got engaged to after having spent approx 4 days together (he didn't bother telling me until a few weeks and shags later ).I "liked" his wedding pix the other week "
Good for you - being confident in doing so !  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Could it be that she is one of those rare people who don't bear malice or grudges and genuinely wants to be a friend?
Oh, I don't doubt it. I'm 99% sure it was just a coincidence brought about by FB recommending a random add. Not sure I would have much in common with a 19 year old though.
Is her age, his decision to see her exclusively or his ending it the issue for you? Be honest with yourself and no need to say on here at all.
I am honest enough with myself to know that the issue is my problem. As has been pointed out, we were 'only' FWBs so I was aware that he was seeing other people, as he was with me.
Also, having a dry patch hasn't helped. I am sure as soon as I can arrange some fun things will be better.
The sooner you are lying in a wet patch the better. "
Meh. Make him lie in the wet patch!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could it be that she is one of those rare people who don't bear malice or grudges and genuinely wants to be a friend?
Oh, I don't doubt it. I'm 99% sure it was just a coincidence brought about by FB recommending a random add. Not sure I would have much in common with a 19 year old though."
only thing in common with her is your ex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lost mine tonight too. Through my own, but also mutual stupidity. I'm not sure the F bit will stay without the wB part. Time will tell. It's the loss of friendship that will hurt more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just getting over the loss of my FWB with the help of some lovely people, and the woman he's seeing now just friended me on Facebook.
Shame I'm on antibiotics right now else I would be opening some vodka.
Sounds perhaps a bit like keeping friends cllose and enemies even closer... she might consider you a threat (after all he could change his mind) so be "being nice" to you she can keep an eye on you? Does that make sense? "
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"Just getting over the loss of my FWB with the help of some lovely people, and the woman he's seeing now just friended me on Facebook.
Shame I'm on antibiotics right now else I would be opening some vodka. "
On an interesting (I hope) side note there is one antibiotic that you cannot drink alcohol with as it makes you violently ill. You will get warned when prescribed it. Doctors started the hoax you cannot drink with antibiotics. When antibiotics first came out they were prescribed for a sexually transmitted disease (I forget which). Doctors knew people are more likely to get amorous after drinking. To combat the spread of the infection they told patients drinking alcohol stops the antibiotics working. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am also thinking why friend her in the first place and after friending her have you had a conversation with her, as you mention that she didnt know about you before. Have you told her who you are now and explained your common interest.
I would be honest with yourself about why you friended her, was it to find out what she was doing, when she was meeting him etc, wanting to look at her pictures.
It is understandable that you will miss him, maybe don't have the opportunity to go out as often, feel a bit lonely etc. It's natural to feel a loss if situations change. But I feel that having both of them on your facebook is detrimental for you. It's prolonging the loss for you, as just seeing their names may make you look at their pages. A simple status such as 'had a brill night' may make you wonder if the experience was with him, what did they do/go etc. And many 19 year olds update their whole life on facebook. It really isn't a good idea.
It will all be fine eventually and I do understand that you miss him. It does take time to move on, but you will x |
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