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By *eavenNhell OP Couple
over a year ago
carrbrook stalybridge |
picked this up from another site
6 Squirting Myths Debunked
I was alone the first time I squirted. I was 18 years old, a virgin, and only just beginning to explore my sexuality, so when I squirted all over my sheets, I honestly thought I'd pissed myself. Immediately I felt ashamed and embarrassed, and even though I continued to masturbate, I refused to allow myself to orgasm for months afterwards. Even when I plucked up the courage to go that far, I kept my muscles tightly clenched just in case it happened again.
I told my first boyfriend about it, and a few months after he plucked my cherry, he asked me to squirt for him. I was extremely anxious about the whole thing, and I wasn't really able to do it for a while, but eventually I relaxed enough to let it happen. It was only the second time ever, and my first time letting someone else see.
He told me it was gross. I didn't squirt again until after we broke up. I learned some lessons, both about squirting in general, and about the issues surrounding it. I wanted to share these lessons, because they were hard-earned.
MYTH: Anyone can squirt - Unfortunately, this is unlikely to be true. Everyone is wired differently, and while I will not say that this is a total lie, I will say that it is highly unlikely. Truthfully, no one has any idea how many women actually squirt, or how often. Most research into this area relies on self-reporting, which creates a lot of difficulties for researchers. Especially when their subjects may mislead or even lie out of embarrassment.
My advice - If you squirt, well done. If you don't, stop worrying about it. Keep trying if you want to, but don't get your panties in a twist if you don't manage it. Everyone experiences pleasure differently, and you must find what works for you.
MYTH: Squirting is the ultimate in pleasure - Actually, some of the most intensely pleasurable moments of my life have been bone dry, plain old orgasms. Squirting doesn't dictate how pleasurable your experience is, and partners of squirters shouldn't read into it. If you want to know what your partner experiences, just ask them, I'm sure they'd be more than happy to share with you.
My advice - Again, don't stress if you're not a squirter, there is no ultimate experience of sexual pleasure that you are missing out on, there is just a lot more laundry to be done.
MYTH: It's actually urine / It's really gross - Yeah, speaking as someone who was genuinely afraid that this was the case ... no. Female ejaculate is most certainly NOT urine. It can often look like urine, sometimes it might even have a similar smell, and sometimes it will feel like you need to use the bathroom right before you squirt, but the substance produced is most certainly NOT urine.
My advice - Don't be afraid! Your body can do something that's really cool, it's not something to write home about, but neither is it something you should be ashamed of. Simply look around Fetlife and you'll find heaps of fetishes and groups revolving around this strange thing that your body does for you, and they love it, so you should love it, too. Seriously, I can't drive this point hard enough.
MYTH: You can only squirt from g-spot stimulation - Before this month, every time I've squirted has been through clitoral stimulation only. I have talked to other women who are the same. It's only been in the last month that my Master has gotten me to squirt without clitoral stimulation, and that was a real surprise to me.
My advice - If you want to learn how to squirt, experiment with new positions, types of stimulation, etc. I have found that I can't squirt in some positions, but squirt really easily in others. Sometimes I just can't do it even when I try really hard, and sometimes I can't help it even when I'm trying really hard not to. Get your partner to help you on this journey, and if you do manage to squirt, celebrate together.
MYTH: Women who can squirt, should/do squirt every time - I covered this one a little bit earlier on, but it's simply not true. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, and sometimes I have no idea what causes or prevents it. Don't go in with any preconceived notions about how it should work, you will likely end up eating your words somewhere down the road. My advice is the same as above; experiment, and have fun with it.
MYTH: Partners react badly - Sometimes they do, as is the case with my story. I'm sorry to say that female ejaculation isn't well understood, and some partners will be unprepared for, or even dislike it. That's okay, it's just another preference they have, so don't take it personally. But there are also some partners for whom squirting is a huge turn on, so don't lose heart.
My advice - If you squirt, let your partner know beforehand so they can be prepared, don't just spring it on them. Keep a stack of towels handy and pay attention to your body. If you have a partner who squirts please, for the love of God, don't freak out! If you don't like it, wait until your partner is ready for a serious discussion and bring it up respectfully. If you do like it and you have a bad reaction, you might scare your partner into never squirting for you again. Seriously, support her, encourage her, respect her, and love her. Squirting for the first time can be stressful, so make sure you react appropriately. |
If...it happens, it happens.
If it dont, i aint bovvered 
