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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im emotionally pretty strong when it comes to dealing with death at work, sadly we lost a lady today. Seeing her son break down i just had to excuse myself and i too became really upset and cried.
Normally i hold it together. There;s just something about seeing a man cry i find uneasy. I think its great for the soul to release emotions.
So gents, do you cry? Women would you prefer a man to refrain from crying or do you admire men who break the 'pah men arent supposed to cry' mentality? |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I'll admit it - it doesn't take much to make me cry.
I find I cry more than I did when I was younger. It can be something obvious, line footage of a disaster, but also much less "full-on" things.
I'm an emotional, sentimental sort, but that's the way I am! |
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my dad never cries in front of us. all the way through is divorce and ensuing battle with my mum he never cried in front of us. when his brother died he never cried in front of us or my nan who was inconsolable.
I wasn't with him when my nan passed but my little sister was, he couldn't hold it together then and i felt bad that my little sister had to be there to watch my dad cry...i am the oldest and as such i felt it should have been me, even though i'd have been no help at all.
At the funeral was the first time in as long as i can remember that i saw my dad cry and i think it made it all the more heart wrenching because my dad is the strongest man i know and i saw the chink in his armor that day. not that i think any less of him because he cried, it made me love and respect him more and i never thought that was possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I openly cry at a lot if things. Last time was in my office with 2 female colleagues after I was dumped from a great height by someone I loved...o be found it touching the other didn't bat an eye |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
Crying is not gender specific but society has in the past attributed the display of emotion more as a female trait and the old "boys dont cry" is still prevalent... sadly.
I have absolutely no issue with men or women crying with sadness or joy - it is part of the human range of displaying feelings as are laughter, anger, frustration etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only two times i saw my old dad cry was when he found out my sister had cancer and when my mom died.
I can cry at the silliest film or reading a book , but yup....a guy crying makes me wanna wrap my arms around him and join in   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You expect anyone to cry when they have lost someone though.
I feel more upset when i see a man cry because you dont expect men to cry, where as women cry all the time.
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Andys dad is dying but he doesnt let on how much it pains him, he lets his emotions out when im sleeping as he thinks i might think less of him if i see him upset, of course i want him to come to me. I would never think less of him!!
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"You expect anyone to cry when they have lost someone though.
I feel more upset when i see a man cry because you dont expect men to cry, where as women cry all the time.
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See, I am not so sure about this. I do not expect women to cry more and I for one rarely cry. Not because I do not feel emotions but more because for me tears require really deep emotion eg losing a close friend or even just having an amazing orgasm. Whatever, the emotion has to be very deep.
Equally I have met quite a few men through work as well as privately who do cry quite easily.
I think the whole gender issue is a bit out of date perhaps? What do you think? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"i do cry.. i refuse to cry in front of strangers as i see that as a show of w eakness . strangely i'll cry more readily in front of people i'm comfortable with x "
It is really not a weakness. It is an expression of an emotion just like sweating when you are nervous or anxious.  |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"my dad never cries in front of us. all the way through is divorce and ensuing battle with my mum he never cried in front of us. when his brother died he never cried in front of us or my nan who was inconsolable.
I wasn't with him when my nan passed but my little sister was, he couldn't hold it together then and i felt bad that my little sister had to be there to watch my dad cry...i am the oldest and as such i felt it should have been me, even though i'd have been no help at all.
At the funeral was the first time in as long as i can remember that i saw my dad cry and i think it made it all the more heart wrenching because my dad is the strongest man i know and i saw the chink in his armor that day. not that i think any less of him because he cried, it made me love and respect him more and i never thought that was possible."
awwww that honestly welled me up well written xx |
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"my dad never cries in front of us. all the way through is divorce and ensuing battle with my mum he never cried in front of us. when his brother died he never cried in front of us or my nan who was inconsolable.
I wasn't with him when my nan passed but my little sister was, he couldn't hold it together then and i felt bad that my little sister had to be there to watch my dad cry...i am the oldest and as such i felt it should have been me, even though i'd have been no help at all.
At the funeral was the first time in as long as i can remember that i saw my dad cry and i think it made it all the more heart wrenching because my dad is the strongest man i know and i saw the chink in his armor that day. not that i think any less of him because he cried, it made me love and respect him more and i never thought that was possible.awwww that honestly welled me up well written xx"
thank you, i know i talk about him a lot on here but he truly is a diamond geezer, an East End hard man with a soft gooey centre  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You expect anyone to cry when they have lost someone though.
I feel more upset when i see a man cry because you dont expect men to cry, where as women cry all the time.
See, I am not so sure about this. I do not expect women to cry more and I for one rarely cry. Not because I do not feel emotions but more because for me tears require really deep emotion eg losing a close friend or even just having an amazing orgasm. Whatever, the emotion has to be very deep.
Equally I have met quite a few men through work as well as privately who do cry quite easily.
I think the whole gender issue is a bit out of date perhaps? What do you think?"
I cry easily, of course some women are as hard as nails and dont cry easily.
What do these men you know cry about and how old are they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cried....
When my kids were born
When west brom got relegated( yes every time
When England went out of the wold cup 1990
When my mum died
Didn't cry for 2 years when my dad died but it just hit me one day and I went off like geyser |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i cried when i lost my mother and some of my pals ,esp G , 42 and too young , i still cry when i here certain songs that remind me of certain times , will admit it aint ashamed , im a man im also a son and friend and brother , and losing someone hurts , so tears are natureal, |
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It usually takes someone else crying to start me off. I don't see it as a weakness but I don't mope about and let myself stew. I didn't cry when they stopped drawing bambi but when someone dies and their relatives are inconsolable I usually end up a blubbering mess. I too deal with death at work. Sometimes it's really sad, sometimes it's just nature taking it's course. Circle of life and all that, you can be mad at it. |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
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Not read all the posts above incase this deems me soft but....
I cry at all sorts
Sad / emotionaly involving films.
True tales of heorism and self sacrifice.
When my kids do something outstanding.
The festival of rememberance.
When Ive worked my ass off at my chosen hobby and get congratulated by supporters.
If all that makes me soft or wussy....then Im soft and wussy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cry at the drop of a hat, always have, sometimes the littlest things will set me off and i will well up.
im not afraid to show emotion in public and i would be very wary of any man who says he doesnt cry, that has serial killer written all over him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cry at various things but always try to do it in private. My marriage failure caused tears as does leaving my boy with her after a great time together with him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have watched a close friend lose his dad to cancer this past year, and he kept strong for the majority of the time, until a week before his dad passed away when he broke down in my car because he thought his dad wasnt proud of him as he hasn't married or had children, I have never seen him cry before that it made me hold him and cry with him.
Yet after his dad passed he hasn't cried a tear even at his funeral.. He is one of the guys that holds it in until he can't anymore though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A close fwb i've known for a number of years broke down and cried in front of me recently.
He hasn't cried in over 15 years - so he said.
It was touching and raw and an honour that he felt close enough to let it out in front of me.
A few hours later i childishly mocked him by playfully teasing him he cried like a girl. My butt got a bruising for that.
Job done !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cry quite a lot, I never used to, but now I find it a release. It shows no weakness, only that you are in touch with your emotions and are not fearful of expressing them.
I only wished I had done it years ago. My first wife was rushed to hospital as she was heavily bleeding and her period was not due. The doctor announced she had miscarried... neither of us knew she was pregnant. She was in tatters. I 'stayed strong' remained stoic and comforted her. Years later, she said she thought I was heartless, as I never expressed my emotions at that time.
She thought I did not care, she never realised that I was sobbing my heart out inside! |
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