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how do you get someone into swinging?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi I really enjoy going to swinging club etc but how do u get someone to go or even tell them if they are really not into it and find it disgusting? I recently found someone I like but she hates anything like this and find I have to lie about me that I have been as spoke about it and she hates it!!  perhaps stay single look for someone else I guess ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You cant make a person like swinging its against some people life values having sex without love and feelings just for fun . You can maybe chat about it to a friend but some will just think its wrong no matter what you say . |
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Last sentence pretty much hits the nail on the head.
She's already made her feelings clear so you'll either have to give it up to be with her or knock the idea on the head and look for someone else.
You've already broached the subject with her so I think the trying to get her into swinging idea is pretty much off the cards from the start. |
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"Hi I really enjoy going to swinging club etc but how do u get someone to go or even tell them if they are really not into it and find it disgusting? I recently found someone I like but she hates anything like this and find I have to lie about me that I have been as spoke about it and she hates it!! perhaps stay single look for someone else I guess ! "
She is clearly not the girl for you
I am and will akways be honest with anyone I want to be with about my chosen sexual lifestyle. If they have different _iews then we are not meant to be together. If they except me the way I am but don't want a part of it then fine. They may even want to dip their toes in which is great. They will love it or hate
it. If she is disgusted with it yhen she wwon't change. A relationship without honesty is no relationship at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you like her but couldnt put this on hold until you decide if you have a future together?
so meaningless sex means more to you than being with someone you profess to like.
reading this, does that sound like the actions of someone thats thinking straight? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah I been single a while but think I will stay single as can't cheat etc so if she won't then guess I have choose my life and enjoy it so I will carry on thanks guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont get it.
swinging scratches an itch.
someone is willing to scratch it on a regular basis and you are blowing it off for the sake of 'possibly' getting a bit every now and then??
madness |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No its someone I have known a while but u know yourself it won't work Not because of the swinging other reasons! Guess I just wanted to see wat others would say and have guess everyone has a opinion thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No its someone I have known a while but u know yourself it won't work Not because of the swinging other reasons! Guess I just wanted to see wat others would say and have guess everyone has a opinion thanks "
is swinging your life ? could you be happy with out it in a normal vanilla world if right person ? I am sure loads here would give it up for right person in there life there more to life then SEX .
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"You cant make a person like swinging its against some people life values having sex without love and feelings just for fun . You can maybe chat about it to a friend but some will just think its wrong no matter what you say ."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Either stop swinging for her
or realise she isn't the girl for you and find the right person.
Of course you could live a lie and just swing behind her back |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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" perhaps stay single look for someone else I guess ! "
if having sex with multiple partners is of greater importance than your love/fondness for her.... YES
good luck |
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