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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. She has 2 kids who have been taken from her by social services dlso they can get used to mum not being around. Life is so unfair. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. She has 2 kids who have been taken from her by social services dlso they can get used to mum not being around. Life is so unfair. "
Sad, so sad, Unfortunately I am hearing far too much of this kind of thing lately.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. She has 2 kids who have been taken from her by social services dlso they can get used to mum not being around. Life is so unfair. "
that is heartbreaking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. "
I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
I think patients should be given the option as to whether or not they want to know how long they have.
I'm not sure I'd want to know.
Very sad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. She has 2 kids who have been taken from her by social services dlso they can get used to mum not being around. Life is so unfair. "
How bloody awful J. How thoughtless to take her kids away? What on earth will that achieve...even more misery for all concerned in the last months!
I'm sooo sorry x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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They originally told her that they were being put into foster dare cos she couldnt look afterthem cos of her cconditionBloody disgusting. She has moved home to dad who xan only apply for care of them after his daughtervis dead |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thats terible. i always think brain tumour is one of the worst things you can get. would hate to die young especialy having two kids, even worst if it was your daughter, makes you count your blessings. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah life's def a shit but social services don't take kids away for reasons such as illness. Are you sure she hasn't put them into voluntary care??"
Yeh, absolutely |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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"One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. She has 2 kids who have been taken from her by social services dlso they can get used to mum not being around. Life is so unfair. "
WTF!!! Sick twisted arseholes!!! How van they do that to a mother in such a position
That's just not right!! I hope she makes a full recovery and then slaps some sense into the social idiots!! |
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"They originally told her that they were being put into foster dare cos she couldnt look afterthem cos of her cconditionBloody disgusting. She has moved home to dad who xan only apply for care of them after his daughtervis dead"
That's total rubbish he needs to be getting some legal advice. It is social services duty to look to place with family first as long as it's a viable option!! |
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Don't get me started on social services....I've had applicants on my caseload phoning me up in tears saying that social services are threatening to take their children off them....and been in screaming matches with a social worker who refuses to see sense.... |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't get me started on social services....I've had applicants on my caseload phoning me up in tears saying that social services are threatening to take their children off them....and been in screaming matches with a social worker who refuses to see sense...."
There will always be a reason why Social Services threaten this though.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"she will still get to see them surely, prey to god she does"
Yes she can, but she dant be there to kissbthem good night.
She has made letters for milestones in their lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh that's horrible! With all the kids they let slip through the system, they take hers away and rob them of their remaining time with their mother? Horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is rare that I am lost for words, but this is a disgrace. She should be allowed to MAKE memories with her children, not be separated from them....
Prayers for your friend, her children, and her parents and family. |
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"Don't get me started on social services....I've had applicants on my caseload phoning me up in tears saying that social services are threatening to take their children off them....and been in screaming matches with a social worker who refuses to see sense....There will always be a reason why Social Services threaten this though."
Funnily enough in this case I'm dealing with there is no reason or I have sorted it and they refuse to listen I can't go into detail as it will give a lot away but I have some stories about social services |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They originally told her that they were being put into foster dare cos she couldnt look afterthem cos of her cconditionBloody disgusting. She has moved home to dad who xan only apply for care of them after his daughtervis dead
That's total rubbish he needs to be getting some legal advice. It is social services duty to look to place with family first as long as it's a viable option!! "
Yep, and can't remove kids without a Court Order. It's not like social services to cough up for foster care if there's another option |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"she will still get to see them surely, prey to god she does
Yes she can, but she dant be there to kissbthem good night.
She has made letters for milestones in their lives. "
may she guide them from afar, she will always be their mum.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't get me started on social services....I've had applicants on my caseload phoning me up in tears saying that social services are threatening to take their children off them....and been in screaming matches with a social worker who refuses to see sense....There will always be a reason why Social Services threaten this though."
Yes i can imagine so, as you hear about kids being left with bad neglectful parents a lot. |
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"They originally told her that they were being put into foster dare cos she couldnt look afterthem cos of her cconditionBloody disgusting. She has moved home to dad who xan only apply for care of them after his daughtervis dead
That's total rubbish he needs to be getting some legal advice. It is social services duty to look to place with family first as long as it's a viable option!!
Yep, and can't remove kids without a Court Order. It's not like social services to cough up for foster care if there's another option"
Exactly. People sometimes forget it's the judges and the courts that make the final decisions and even then they have to meet a fairly high threshold to even get there!! |
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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago
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"One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. She has 2 kids who have been taken from her by social services dlso they can get used to mum not being around. Life is so unfair. "
That's disgusting. Yet they happily leave kids with abusive parents. It's all wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They originally told her that they were being put into foster dare cos she couldnt look afterthem cos of her cconditionBloody disgusting. She has moved home to dad who xan only apply for care of them after his daughtervis dead
That's total rubbish he needs to be getting some legal advice. It is social services duty to look to place with family first as long as it's a viable option!!
Yep, and can't remove kids without a Court Order. It's not like social services to cough up for foster care if there's another option
Exactly. People sometimes forget it's the judges and the courts that make the final decisions and even then they have to meet a fairly high threshold to even get there!! "
Tell me about it.....had to leave kids in less than great circumstances cos there wasn't enough evidence to get them out.
Like everything else in Court you have to PROVE why it's not in the child's best interests to be at home. Social workers cannot just walk into a house and walk out with children under their arm!! |
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a truly heartbreaking story ...you would think nothing could get worse being told you are about to die at such a tender age but to then have people muscle in and take your children from you is unthinkable !
i dont understand why she and her children werent allowed to alter their living arrangements and maybe move in with her father or another family member who could offer them support and if his house isnt big enough then one that is should be provided in my mind. This ladies need seem hugely bigger than most other peoples ...i wish her all the very best and hope she finds peace !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"a truly heartbreaking story ...you would think nothing could get worse being told you are about to die at such a tender age but to then have people muscle in and take your children from you is unthinkable !
i dont understand why she and her children werent allowed to alter their living arrangements and maybe move in with her father or another family member who could offer them support and if his house isnt big enough then one that is should be provided in my mind. This ladies need seem hugely bigger than most other peoples ...i wish her all the very best and hope she finds peace ! "
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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago
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Life is incredibly unfair! My heart goes out to this young lady and her children. However what I will say is that as the brain tumour gets worse and takes an adverse affect on her, would she want her children to have memories of her in pain or confused etc. Without knowing the full facts, its difficult to say why this has happened, it would make sense to me that the children should be placed with family members. What I would like to say though is that I work for a private fostering agency, and the carers on our books are amazing, most of them go above and beyond to make sure the children in their care are happy. I truly hope an arrangement can be made for this young lady to spend as much time with her children as possible before she is cruelly taken away!!! |
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"One if our daughters mates (26) has been told she has a brain tumour and will only live till june at the latest. She has 2 kids who have been taken from her by social services dlso they can get used to mum not being around. Life is so unfair. "
This saddens me greatly . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Life is incredibly unfair! My heart goes out to this young lady and her children. However what I will say is that as the brain tumour gets worse and takes an adverse affect on her, would she want her children to have memories of her in pain or confused etc. Without knowing the full facts, its difficult to say why this has happened, it would make sense to me that the children should be placed with family members. What I would like to say though is that I work for a private fostering agency, and the carers on our books are amazing, most of them go above and beyond to make sure the children in their care are happy. I truly hope an arrangement can be made for this young lady to spend as much time with her children as possible before she is cruelly taken away!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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My mother died when I was two, my father brought me up alone. He was married to her for 14 years and wanted no other. Children do adapt and can cope, social services have no reason to take them away earlier, they should be allowed to stay and cherish every moment.
A very good friend I worked with for 15 years was diagnosed with a brain tumour, they tried everything. He was gone in 9 months ... Awful illness, cancer is such a bastard.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm incredibly sorry to hear about your friend. Brain tumours or illnesses affecting my brain are my worst nightmare. I could take being paralysed etc, but I couldn't live if I lost brain function.
To play the devil's advocate slightly, it's easy to kick social workers when we don't have all the facts. It is actually very difficult for social workers to remove children from families, and they have a statutory duty to do what is best for the children. We don't know all the facts here. Look at the uproar when social workers are less heavy handed and something goes wrong. They work in incredibly stressful and difficult situations. Perhaps we ought to reserve judgment given we only know part of one side of the story? |
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