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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
This.....maybe not the place but it's like my second family on here....I always thought that as time went on I'd find it easier to let go...and it would heal....however as time goes on so does my clock...
They say that time's a great healer
But I don't think that's true.
My hearts been aching so so much
Since the day that I lost you.
I had to say goodbye
before I could say hello
I wish I could of told you
How much I loved you so.
You mean more to me than anything
Even though we never met
You are etched in my memory
And I promise that I won't forget.
You were all I ever wished for
& in my heart is where you'll stay
But don't be too sad little one
Because mummy knows we'll meet someday.
For the little bambino that never their mummy (me) |
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over a year ago
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"They say that time's a great healer "
It is, but 3 years is not enough time, after 6 - 7 maybe you will see.
The pain never lessens, BUT in the first stage the pain is constant, after 15 years pain lasts a few seconds / minutes most of the time then normal life resumes, some days it takes longer but most days are OK now. Until time can do it's thing then the only other option is distraction. xx |
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As already said its not something you get over how could you but it is something with time you learn to deal with or at least most of the time. Who ever come up with the saying what doesn't kill you make you stronger was ether taking the piss or just full of shit. So know how you feel cheeky hugs sweet heart xx |
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"They say that time's a great healer
It is, but 3 years is not enough time, after 6 - 7 maybe you will see.
The pain never lessens, BUT in the first stage the pain is constant, after 15 years pain lasts a few seconds / minutes most of the time then normal life resumes, some days it takes longer but most days are OK now. Until time can do it's thing then the only other option is distraction. xx"
so very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we lost 3 babies between the births of our two sons who are now 24 and 28 and I can only speak for myself, but I think about them every single day.
Time softens the pain but it doesn't heal the hurt.
We know that we are blessed with our boys, and to be honest, if any of our babies had survived we might not have had our youngest.
I'm sure your time will come, and when it does you'll surely cherish it  |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
"we lost 3 babies between the births of our two sons who are now 24 and 28 and I can only speak for myself, but I think about them every single day.
Time softens the pain but it doesn't heal the hurt.
We know that we are blessed with our boys, and to be honest, if any of our babies had survived we might not have had our youngest.
I'm sure your time will come, and when it does you'll surely cherish it "
Bloody hell jack you just made me cry  |
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It doesn't leave you Cheeky, but it's like any bereavement, it gets easier as time goes on.
It was 2 years for us a week ago today and even though this year, I am finally pregnant (after 4 years of IVF & heartache), we didn't forget. It still hurt, it was just different. The pain wasn't as raw.
*hugs* for Monday.
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a Mother
And I know I heard him say.
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true.
But God, can you be a Mother
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can He replied
With confidence in His voice
I give many women babies
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for a day.
And some I send to filll the womb
But there's no need to stay.
I just don't understand this, God
I want my baby here
He took a breath and cleared His throat
And then I saw a tear.
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth and learn our lessons
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom
Who had so much love for me
I learned my lesson very quickly
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow is where I lay.
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
"Mommy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I'm here."
So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are OK
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with me
Until your lesson is through
And on the day that you come home
They'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start!!!
*Her* |
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"Aww that's lovely. I think what makes it harder is that I don't have anyone so it's not like we can try over...for me it's the unknown of the future..."
it will happen for you your still young its just a matter of time thats all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's coming up to 3 years and it's still a struggle...November 11 2010 "
It's 18 years ago this summer that my girl died, it gets easier but never goes away completely, I miss her everyday x
Thinking of you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I lost two babies one at 5 months I knew it was a girl and one at 12 weeks. I managed to get on with my life because it can consume you. One would of been 30 and one would of been 21.
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I admire you for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Time is a great heeler, you'll never forget but it helps you cope better, I lost my son aged 20 months 17 years ago, every birthday I used to fall to bits for years, it still hurts when that day comes round but each year just gets that little bit easier to cope x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's coming up to 3 years and it's still a struggle...November 11 2010 "
23/08/03 my bump was still born at 21weeks. It still feels like yesterday and hurts on the anniversary. But its does get less I promise.
Thoughts and hugs with you for this weekend. Xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is very close to my heart at the moment...
Time will heal sweetie, but perhaps never fully... There will be a time and a place for you....
Much love x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pranks for all your lovely comments.... "
Unintended, but it did make me laugh
I do wish you and everybody who has those anniversaries to deal with, lots of positive waves and hugs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yes, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in other's eyes they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realise I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in the world. Some women are like me and ache daily as they try to walk in them.
Some have learned to walk in them so they don't hurt quiet as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in these shoes of a woman who has lost a child.
I was sent this and it is so very true
I am a lucky one I have a beautiful 4 year old son but last year I lost twins at 22 weeks and no one can ever know this pain unless they have been there as nothing can discribe it. But I do deal better each day I smile now when I think of them n don't cry. Sending toy hugs hun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My son died christmas day 2009. he was 27. still painful, but getting easier.
I cant imagine not even knowing your child. must have so many different emotions. best wishes for this weekend. hope it gets easier for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It was a year in September for me, hasn't got any easier for me yet but I do have my little ones here that keep me strong
No one knows how it feels unless they've been through it, I never expected the pain in my heart to be so bad when I had never met my baby
Hugs to all who have lost xxx |
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losing a child is a very personal thing to a woman (no disrespect meant to men) and quite often personal pain that a woman feels others can not comprehend or empathise with ...often that is true !!
people find their own dealing mechanisms for coping ...some blank it out and throw themselves into other things to stay too busy to have time to recall the events ...others have support networks around them where it is not taboo to discuss it ...regardless it is a hugely painful road to walk down and ti all who have i offer my best wishes and hope you find peace on what ever road you choose to go down  |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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when we were at the crematorium Friday we went into the babies and childrens memorial garden ..... it made me realise they had had no lives but it was so peaceful in there no death is easy but to lose a child is dreadful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After 6..7... the pain is still the same. My girl die in car accident she was only 8 months. Today she will have 7 years. When I look at her younger sister.. never can't stop thinking..
Misscheeky hunni I send you a lots of warm hugs and smiles. |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
The land of grey peas and bacon |
So i woke up this morning with a cloud of sadness and a pile of guilt which i usually do surrounding this....I blame myself lots...i should of booked the day off and had a duvet day....however onwards and upwards.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So i woke up this morning with a cloud of sadness and a pile of guilt which i usually do surrounding this....I blame myself lots...i should of booked the day off and had a duvet day....however onwards and upwards.... "
Xxx |
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"I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yes, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in other's eyes they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realise I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in the world. Some women are like me and ache daily as they try to walk in them.
Some have learned to walk in them so they don't hurt quiet as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in these shoes of a woman who has lost a child.
I was sent this and it is so very true
I am a lucky one I have a beautiful 4 year old son but last year I lost twins at 22 weeks and no one can ever know this pain unless they have been there as nothing can discribe it. But I do deal better each day I smile now when I think of them n don't cry. Sending toy hugs hun "
What a poignant poem xx |
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thoughts are with you. Sending hugs and saying wee prayer for you hunni xx