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Elusive bi female

By *hoenix Couple OP Couple over a year ago

Northallerton

How hard is it to find that single bi woman who wants to join a couple!? Its not all just about sex, we want to have a social side too and look after her, spend weekends away etc. Is she out there? We wonder and hope.

G&S xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have thought the same guys! And realised its near impossible on here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How hard is it to find that single bi woman who wants to join a couple!? Its not all just about sex, we want to have a social side too and look after her, spend weekends away etc. Is she out there? We wonder and hope.

G&S xx"
id come!!! But you're to far away!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

London/herts welcomes u! My gf is from Wales!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps you are waiting for her to come to you?! If so...it's likely that that approach won't work. I never ever approach people (speaking as a single bi female) but I'm not meeting at present anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trying to find a single bi fem is like trying to catch a unicorn. It's difficult as they have plenty of people to pick from and can be as choosy as they like. God knows before I met s I was very selective in who I met

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"London/herts welcomes u! My gf is from Wales!!!!! "
hello!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single bi fem here, but I rarely play outside of clubs and parties.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would love one..I think its about her gaining the trust though as I want one as a threesome..a woman to trust two strange people can be difficult..which I can understand...nette

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hello justjade! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a single bi (curious) fem - but finding another single fem, or a couple for regular play (who don't want to use me as their personal toy and are within a decent distance) isn't easy either!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm scared to meet couples I don't know. I get on with men I don't know but women I feel uncomfortable with if I don't know them personally before meeting. I did chat to one nice couple on here but they were a bit too far from me and only wanted soft play with the woman

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would love one..I think its about her gaining the trust though as I want one as a threesome..a woman to trust two strange people can be difficult..which I can understand...nette"

this is my problem. In my head a woman will not like me doing things to her husband. I want to do everything with everyone when I meet a couple so I have to be attracted to both and want to feel comfortable using the man with the woman watching

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with Please me, its the idea of being a plaything for couples that stops me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would love one..I think its about her gaining the trust though as I want one as a threesome..a woman to trust two strange people can be difficult..which I can understand...nette

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would love to watch

soley x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see a lot of single ladies worried about being a plaything..would just like to add..all equals in this couple ..nette

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single bi female who plays with couples.. Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I see a lot of single ladies worried about being a plaything..would just like to add..all equals in this couple ..nette"

Unfortunately not all 'couples' see it that way

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Depends how loosely you define bi female. I'm bi and female, just got the wrong part fitted at birth, will be corrected one day soon I hope. But my guess is that with some of the attitudes shown towards trans woman, I'm not sure I'll be seen that way post op either.

Sorry that might seem bit negative. Not meant to be, just suggesting if you cast your net a little wider you might find you'd be surprised.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a single bi fem and lucky to have a fb couple I see when can,otherwise I meet at clubs as find couples that message me here,are usually run by the man and never get anywhere,half the time the man says she wants to try with a woman lol,so to me its trying to find the elusive bi couple that can be tricky lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

have discussed this before on the forums, so will go over old ground again.

for us, getting a single lady to join us, is about mutual pleasure for us all, not just us 2, or indeed her.

we feel that because we only soft play (obviously women can go as far as they desire with each other, but i wont be fucking anyone other than V) we find this puts women off, even though V has a strap on for a reason.

its nothing to do with not being equal play partners, as other than the fucking thing, i am happy to do everything with someone else, or indeed nothing, i really am that laid back.

meeting other women is not for me to get my rocks off on, but for V to investigate her bi side further with each time, so if a lady feels she would like a relaxed time with no pressure and no expectations, then give us a shout lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would never allow myself to be a plaything. That is why I have to be sure both people in the couple can handle me so to speak. I Like proper dirty sex most of the time and I would treat the woman the same as the man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"have discussed this before on the forums, so will go over old ground again.

for us, getting a single lady to join us, is about mutual pleasure for us all, not just us 2, or indeed her.

its nothing to do with not being equal play partners, as other than the fucking thing, i am happy to do everything with someone else, or indeed nothing, i really am that laid back.

If you aren't joining in then you don't have to be there. If the man didn't want me I wouldn't want him watching. Go and have a pint with your mates while I ruin your wife

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"have discussed this before on the forums, so will go over old ground again.

for us, getting a single lady to join us, is about mutual pleasure for us all, not just us 2, or indeed her.

its nothing to do with not being equal play partners, as other than the fucking thing, i am happy to do everything with someone else, or indeed nothing, i really am that laid back.

If you aren't joining in then you don't have to be there. If the man didn't want me I wouldn't want him watching. Go and have a pint with your mates while I ruin your wife

lol, but thats what im saying, its not for me or my fantasy is all im saying.

i only get off on watching her suck cock lol.

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

I'm not elusive...I'm here in plain sight but I am not to every swinging couple's taste.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

When Sue broached the subject about her exploring her bi-side it instantly threw up a number of thing (not all physical!)

Three is an odd number (in more ways then one) and often one gets left out. I suspect this is why we have approached this in the guise of role play. One it would break the tension for us (Sue and I) and two, having specific-ish roles kind of predetermines what is going to happen.

However all the above is pure theory, 'cos bugger all has happened

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I'm not elusive...I'm here in plain sight but I am not to every swinging couple's taste."

Blimey blocked before I can even see your tastes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bi-fem here also love playing with couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree with Please me, its the idea of being a plaything for couples that stops me

I agree. I also despise the term 'unicorn'. It's like couple are tagging single bi fems as some sort of tick box in their sex wish list. Calling us unicorns to show they are pissed off that we won't do what they want.

I understand a curious woman has to start somewhere, everyone has a 'first time'. But the way some people describe it is like single bi fems are there for them to use as an experiment.

I am a person. Not an object.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not elusive...I'm here in plain sight but I am not to every swinging couple's taste.

Blimey blocked before I can even see your tastes.

same, so guess every swinging couple isnt to hers either lol

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'm not elusive. I'm mostly looking for meets with single guys/girls but I'd consider meeting couples.

As Bambi said though, I'm not to everyone's tastes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often get mail from couples asking if I'll join them.... but I have no profile and no pics!!

Clearly to them a single bi fem is nothing more than an object if they don't care about how/ who I am as a person.

(this comment doesn't apply to forumites, as they probably know I 'exist' from seeing my posts. x)

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

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"I agree with Please me, its the idea of being a plaything for couples that stops me

I understand a curious woman has to start somewhere, everyone has a 'first time'. But the way some people describe it is like single bi fems are there for them to use as an experiment.

I am a person. Not an object. "

I am in total agreement with both O Please me and Steel heels!

I am one of the extremely lucky 'single' women to have met two outstansding couples but they are gold dust on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Single bi female who plays with couples.. Sometimes

Same here

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I often get mail from couples asking if I'll join them.... but I have no profile and no pics!!

Clearly to them a single bi fem is nothing more than an object if they don't care about how/ who I am as a person.

(this comment doesn't apply to forumites, as they probably know I 'exist' from seeing my posts. x)"

No shit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really don't understand how other couples find it so hard to meet a single bi fem!

We have been lucky enough to have met a few and some repeat meets, not just to play but for social meets too!

You need to gain their trust and build a rapport up with them!

They need to see that your secure in your own relationship and that your not just using them to fulfil your own fantasy and use them as a play thing!

It takes time to get to know them and build up that trust, and you may have to venture further from your local area!

But they are out there and there are some that meet couples

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I really don't understand how other couples find it so hard to meet a single bi fem!

We have been lucky enough to have met a few and some repeat meets, not just to play but for social meets too!

You need to gain their trust and build a rapport up with them!

They need to see that your secure in your own relationship and that your not just using them to fulfil your own fantasy and use them as a play thing!

It takes time to get to know them and build up that trust, and you may have to venture further from your local area!

But they are out there and there are some that meet couples

Think this is why I like the forums, you do get a glimpse (more in some cases) of characters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really don't understand how other couples find it so hard to meet a single bi fem!

We have been lucky enough to have met a few and some repeat meets, not just to play but for social meets too!

You need to gain their trust and build a rapport up with them!

They need to see that your secure in your own relationship and that your not just using them to fulfil your own fantasy and use them as a play thing!

It takes time to get to know them and build up that trust, and you may have to venture further from your local area!

But they are out there and there are some that meet couples

I only met you briefly but in that short space of time you put me totally at ease. You have a certain friendly respectfulness that is needed (I think).

Not saying that to get in your pants either... I mean it! x

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By *hoenix Couple OP Couple over a year ago

Northallerton

It is a shame, but thanks anyway xx

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

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"I really don't understand how other couples find it so hard to meet a single bi fem!

We have been lucky enough to have met a few and some repeat meets, not just to play but for social meets too!

You need to gain their trust and build a rapport up with them!

They need to see that your secure in your own relationship and that your not just using them to fulfil your own fantasy and use them as a play thing!

It takes time to get to know them and build up that trust, and you may have to venture further from your local area!

But they are out there and there are some that meet couples

Think this is why I like the forums, you do get a glimpse (more in some cases) of characters

and it often results in wonderful experiences!

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By *hoenix Couple OP Couple over a year ago

Northallerton

We have chatted to lots and met a couple of nice ladies. I suppose its hard to get across how nice you really are? xx

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I really don't understand how other couples find it so hard to meet a single bi fem!

We have been lucky enough to have met a few and some repeat meets, not just to play but for social meets too!

You need to gain their trust and build a rapport up with them!

They need to see that your secure in your own relationship and that your not just using them to fulfil your own fantasy and use them as a play thing!

It takes time to get to know them and build up that trust, and you may have to venture further from your local area!

But they are out there and there are some that meet couples

You are one couple I will recommend to the whole spectrum of colouful personalities on Fabs. You know what you want, you share it and are honest and respectful in your decision

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really don't understand how other couples find it so hard to meet a single bi fem!

We have been lucky enough to have met a few and some repeat meets, not just to play but for social meets too!

You need to gain their trust and build a rapport up with them!

They need to see that your secure in your own relationship and that your not just using them to fulfil your own fantasy and use them as a play thing!

It takes time to get to know them and build up that trust, and you may have to venture further from your local area!

But they are out there and there are some that meet couples

I only met you briefly but in that short space of time you put me totally at ease. You have a certain friendly respectfulness that is needed (I think).

Not saying that to get in your pants either... I mean it! x"

Thank you!

At the end of the day we are who we are are! Laid back and friendly

We fully understand how, lets say scary it is for a single man or a single lady to join in with a couple!! So it's up to the couple to put them at ease and show that their relationship is without any issues and is secure!

You can get into our knickers/boxers anytime

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have chatted to lots and met a couple of nice ladies. I suppose its hard to get across how nice you really are? xx"

Not at all!!

It's all to do with body language and how you act as a couple! It's not something can be forced!

Just be yourself and take your time, after all Rome wasn't built in a day

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By *hoenix Couple OP Couple over a year ago

Northallerton

To us its all about friendship first, evenly, between all three parties. Also to have respect and no expectations. As for the distance, we would travel for the right lady for us xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have chatted to lots and met a couple of nice ladies. I suppose its hard to get across how nice you really are? xx"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We would take a lady out for a drink first..if it didnt work out walk away no harm done nette

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

I find that meeting couples in clubs works best. Everyone is on an even level (sorry if thats not correct) and if things do not work out all parties can move on. It is a safe environment.

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Waves...

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Waves..."

Haha...you go girl!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To us its all about friendship first, evenly, between all three parties. Also to have respect and no expectations. As for the distance, we would travel for the right lady for us xx"

You say you'd travel but a lot of single females won't want to accommodate a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Plus a lot of people will run a mile from the word poly. And others will question how a poly relationship would work when the fem is only bi-curious?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Waves..."

~~~~~ waves back ~~~~~~

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We would take a lady out for a drink first..if it didnt work out walk away no harm done nette

JD and Coke please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the profile doesn't really sell you or make you stand out.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

I have a few fake Single Bi Fem profiles if you're interested.

Competitive rates. BOGOF. Referrer discounts. Limited time.

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I have a few fake Single Bi Fem profiles if you're interested.

Competitive rates. BOGOF. Referrer discounts. Limited time."

How long is the membership for?

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"I have a few fake Single Bi Fem profiles if you're interested.

Competitive rates. BOGOF. Referrer discounts. Limited time.

How long is the membership for?

You have lifetime membership silly!

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By *hoenix Couple OP Couple over a year ago

Northallerton

No, we didnt want a long winded profile or be too prescriptive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have chatted to lots and met a couple of nice ladies. I suppose its hard to get across how nice you really are? xx"

That's really quite worrying. Surely just be yourself?

Almost every single female we've met has been away from the scene amd it has been because they have felt relaxed in our company that we've ultimately played with them.

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By *mallteaserWoman over a year ago

Central

We do exist xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive managed it,played as a couple for a while and met a few ladies....also arranged meets with ladies with other friends as i enjoy ffm....ive met couples and probably will again.

Keep at it we do exist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

G&S xx"

The Single bi Ladies are out there and some of them are lovely. A lot of them are not on here or other sites tho. With us it really is a case of chill out and one will come along when you least expect it.

It is something we do enjoy but we don't chase like a lot on here and that seems to work for us.

The other thing we have found is that we have not taken it further with a lot more single girls than couples we have had socials with. Which judging from the reactions we have had is pretty rare. I think that if more of the couples out there took the attitude that is in a lot of these posts - spent as much time making sure all 3 of them were a good match as they would with a couple - rather than just a "WooHoo its a single girl - lets go!" there would be a lot more single girls who would not have "Don't meet couples" on their profiles.

Just my 2p

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I find that meeting couples in clubs works best. Everyone is on an even level (sorry if thats not correct) and if things do not work out all parties can move on. It is a safe environment."

Even when I do meets as part of a couple I feel happier in a club environment - not only is it a no pressure/expectations place, I can get a better idea of people in the flesh

Chatting on here couples (and singles, its not just one group) can maybe talk the talk knowing what they need to say to get the meet especially if they have been around a while but then not be what they say they are in person!

Seeing someone face to face you can usually tell if they are being genuine or not

I have spoken to/met some lovely couples, but its not always for play or potential meets - we just got on as friends and weren't interested in going any further!

As others have said just because you are a bi single fem it doesn't mean you are compatible with every couple/other single looking for one

I've been lucky enough to find my male match on here where we play together and then together with others as a couple. But I would also like to explore my bi side alone either with another single fem or maybe a couple but not become a personal toy for them or feel like i'm not respected or an equal as some can make you feel (not all!)

Neither am I trying to replace my FB, its just something extra for me

The difference is for single fems we are just that - single, alone! They have the security of being a couple and know they have someone there on a meet with another person/couple that they trust if thy become uncomfortable/change their mind/aren't happy with something/etc - we don't!!

If we don't feel comfortable or find we don't/didn't get on with a couple we will usually get given shit for either backing out of a meet/saying no thanks/or not going back

I am in no which way accusing couples of anything (I play as one myself!)

I am just saying how I feel as a single fem sometimes with SOME couples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met a couple of bi ladies on here. Though not lucky enough to have been at the same time, lol.

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By *exycleanerWoman over a year ago

pontefract

i have met cpls, was great friends with s cpl from another site sadly as the lady has gone off sex they cant meet me now.

i have had interest from cpls recently but finding to my dismay that its the guy doing all the running and even wanting to meet me alone, so that why i not meet cpls

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

We have found it a million times easier in the clubs when you can meet the ladies face to face. When you can see both halves of a couple standing in front if you and talk to both you can see they are both genuine.

Great username btw...

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By *hoenix Couple OP Couple over a year ago

Northallerton

Haha great name indeed

We have found that our local club mainly has greedy girls, couples and single guys. Have nothing against greedy girls, but we just want a rri relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, we didnt want a long winded profile or be too prescriptive

Fair enough. But what you are currently doing clearly isn't working else you wouldn't have started this thread...

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

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"I find that meeting couples in clubs works best. Everyone is on an even level (sorry if thats not correct) and if things do not work out all parties can move on. It is a safe environment.