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over a year ago
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The new thanks, but no thanks.
The merits of replying and facing vitriol or ignoring.
I prefer the replies and am always polite, but can imagine some don't handle rejection that well?
What say you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The new thanks, but no thanks.
The merits of replying and facing vitriol or ignoring.
I prefer the replies and am always polite, but can imagine some don't handle rejection that well?
What say you?"
I would agree some don't handle it well.Some do though, I always try to be nice unless someone is obnoxious, which is rare. |
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over a year ago
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"Its everyone's individual choice what they do or do not do as we see it. There is no right or wrong just a selection of alternatives.  "
Feels like the work discussion i regularly have....
Strategic benefit - time saved to concentrate on core purpose.
Operational benefit - enhances all user experiemce and is reputationally beneficial.
You are probably right that it depends on your point of view. |
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"Its everyone's individual choice what they do or do not do as we see it. There is no right or wrong just a selection of alternatives.
Feels like the work discussion i regularly have....
Strategic benefit - time saved to concentrate on core purpose.
Operational benefit - enhances all user experiemce and is reputationally beneficial.
You are probably right that it depends on your point of view."
it doesnt enhance this user experience when i have to answer 'why not' messages or even the 'get over yourself' messages though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its everyone's individual choice what they do or do not do as we see it. There is no right or wrong just a selection of alternatives.
Feels like the work discussion i regularly have....
Strategic benefit - time saved to concentrate on core purpose.
Operational benefit - enhances all user experiemce and is reputationally beneficial.
You are probably right that it depends on your point of view.
it doesnt enhance this user experience when i have to answer 'why not' messages or even the 'get over yourself' messages though"
You don't have to answer, just ignore. |
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"Its everyone's individual choice what they do or do not do as we see it. There is no right or wrong just a selection of alternatives.
Feels like the work discussion i regularly have....
Strategic benefit - time saved to concentrate on core purpose.
Operational benefit - enhances all user experiemce and is reputationally beneficial.
You are probably right that it depends on your point of view.
it doesnt enhance this user experience when i have to answer 'why not' messages or even the 'get over yourself' messages thoughYou don't have to answer, just ignore."
i know, i was trying to point out the flaw in the OP's reasoning |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its everyone's individual choice what they do or do not do as we see it. There is no right or wrong just a selection of alternatives.
Feels like the work discussion i regularly have....
Strategic benefit - time saved to concentrate on core purpose.
Operational benefit - enhances all user experiemce and is reputationally beneficial.
You are probably right that it depends on your point of view.
it doesnt enhance this user experience when i have to answer 'why not' messages or even the 'get over yourself' messages thoughYou don't have to answer, just ignore.
i know, i was trying to point out the flaw in the OP's reasoning"
I have said no to a few guys tonight, one of the guys was particularly charming and we had a great chat, but as you say if they ask why, or get a bit tetchy, its then I will ignore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If we get a thanks but no thanks we usually reply saying 'thanks for replying, much appreciated have fun xx'
We know we aren't beautiful people and may scare some away lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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They are all valid opinions... i suppose it is at what stage you choose to ignore?
Maybe an automatic no thanks reply button that returns a std message as personalised by the user and prohibits the instigator contacting them again for say 28 days.
Most people have calmed down by then |
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"If we get a thanks but no thanks we usually reply saying 'thanks for replying, much appreciated have fun xx'
We know we aren't beautiful people and may scare some away lol "
Beauty is subjective.
Respect, manners and politeness are less so.
I too always reply but then again i am not innundated with 100+ messages a day!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If we get a thanks but no thanks we usually reply saying 'thanks for replying, much appreciated have fun xx'
We know we aren't beautiful people and may scare some away lol
Beauty is subjective.
Respect, manners and politeness are less so.
I too always reply but then again i am not innundated with 100+ messages a day!!"
I agree about the beauty thing but we know alot of people go for looks first, that's their choice and would never judge anyone for that.
We have some lovely people attend our parties and some really hot guys, and because they look gorgeous I tend to steer clear of them and make way for the slim hot babes lol  |
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"If we get a thanks but no thanks we usually reply saying 'thanks for replying, much appreciated have fun xx'
We know we aren't beautiful people and may scare some away lol
Beauty is subjective.
Respect, manners and politeness are less so.
I too always reply but then again i am not innundated with 100+ messages a day!!
I agree about the beauty thing but we know alot of people go for looks first, that's their choice and would never judge anyone for that.
We have some lovely people attend our parties and some really hot guys, and because they look gorgeous I tend to steer clear of them and make way for the slim hot babes lol "
Quite partial to a hot babe myself... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If we get a thanks but no thanks we usually reply saying 'thanks for replying, much appreciated have fun xx'
We know we aren't beautiful people and may scare some away lol
Beauty is subjective.
Respect, manners and politeness are less so.
I too always reply but then again i am not innundated with 100+ messages a day!!
I agree about the beauty thing but we know alot of people go for looks first, that's their choice and would never judge anyone for that.
We have some lovely people attend our parties and some really hot guys, and because they look gorgeous I tend to steer clear of them and make way for the slim hot babes lol
Quite partial to a hot babe myself... "
What happens when someone notices YOU have viewed their profile and said nothing! This could also be considered rude...but I didn't take offense 
Different strokes for different folks really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it doesnt enhance this user experience when i have to answer 'why not' messages or even the 'get over yourself' messages though"
 this...you be polite, you reply in the kindest way you can so as not to offend and get a barrage of abuse or cockyness...block is then your friend  |
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Can also be annoying when you get the same messages from people who have already asked to meet....they just say "Was hoping you may have changed your mind" or "If you are a lose end"
Im afraid if someone asks me why I have said no then I have to tell them straight but politely
I will only ignore the arseholes
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hence why I dont approach anyone. Even after losing four stones I still haven't got the guts to go for it (so to speak lol)
I know my place"
Plonker, you look great and don't look 52 |
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"If we get a thanks but no thanks we usually reply saying 'thanks for replying, much appreciated have fun xx'
We know we aren't beautiful people and may scare some away lol "
you look great to us xx |
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"They are all valid opinions... i suppose it is at what stage you choose to ignore?
Maybe an automatic no thanks reply button that returns a std message as personalised by the user and prohibits the instigator contacting them again for say 28 days.
Most people have calmed down by then "
They won't have. They will get Horny and they will try again. My block list is full of people that I have politely declined up to 3 Times. After that I tell them I am going to block them go save me having to do it again.
Why can't people just accept that no reply is a no thank you? Nog sure how a bunch of rejection emails helps a person if I'm honest  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They are all valid opinions... i suppose it is at what stage you choose to ignore?
Maybe an automatic no thanks reply button that returns a std message as personalised by the user and prohibits the instigator contacting them again for say 28 days.
Most people have calmed down by then "
Ignoring the pointlessness of automated thanks but no thanks messages, why would you want or need to contact someone a month later who has already declined meeting you. Can you not take no for an answer? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Ignoring the pointlessness of automated thanks but no thanks messages, why would you want or need to contact someone a month later who has already declined meeting you. Can you not take no for an answer?"
Not all automations are pointless.
Out of office
Thanks for your complaint it has been received we will respond within xx days.
Personally, i am now chatting to 2 people who deleted my first (admittedly poor) attempts at messaging from months earlier.
The longer i was here the more i learned that i was projecting an image i thought the ladies wanted but in time i just worked out to be myself was actually more rewarding.
Should people not be allowed to grow, explore and find more about their true and learned characteristics?
I am playing devils advocate hetr btw. I do not have all the answers |
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