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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey..
Ermm. I need some suggestions and a little help.. ive never had this problem before..
Here goes.. she is just so boring in bed.. I love her to bits but it aint rocking my boat.. same old thing all the time.. im on top, then shes on top, then she sits on my face and cums and thats it..
Ive suggested things to spice things up like Role play, outdoors, threesomes and that. But all I got was "when I get a car you can do me in the back, front or on the bonet" but thats what she did with her ex. She never gives me a bj and its always about her.. im just not enjoying sex right now..  ..
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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chat to her that you are not sexually fulfilled, that it seems to be all about her sexual pleasure.
communication, communication, communication....
or the highway ..... ( take a map ) x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If things go stale..can be a two way thing..bottle of wine bit of porn..wont work long term..i did it once rampant rabbit..too easy going down the same route..both try harder  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"chat to her that you are not sexually fulfilled, that it seems to be all about her sexual pleasure.
communication, communication, communication....
or the highway ..... ( take a map ) x"
Good luck with that lol.. I have told her.. dont wanna break up with her.. but ive been thinking about it.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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She doesnt watch porn and never plays with herself.. she doesnt have a toy or any outfits.. shes never been in a sex shop.. everytime I offer to buy one she goes off on one and starts going shy and embarressed, I suggested a 3some and got promoted to the sofa. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get her tiddly and ask her what her fantasies are.More drink so she lets go of inhibitions and start going into role play mode of her fantasies and see if she follows.
Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"new girlfriend?
Same one.. been together nearly a year..
I meant get a new girlfriend... if you ain't happy with her that is.
Also... does she know you are on here?"
Ive been thinking it to be fair.. and yeah she knows im on here.. she finds my username hilarious!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey..
Ermm. I need some suggestions and a little help.. ive never had this problem before..
Here goes.. she is just so boring in bed.. I love her to bits but it aint rocking my boat.. same old thing all the time.. im on top, then shes on top, then she sits on my face and cums and thats it..
Ive suggested things to spice things up like Role play, outdoors, threesomes and that. But all I got was "when I get a car you can do me in the back, front or on the bonet" but thats what she did with her ex. She never gives me a bj and its always about her.. im just not enjoying sex right now.. ..
Any suggestions?? "
When you suggested a 3sum was that to spice it up for you or her? It also strikes me that you refer to her one suggestion and are pretty blunt in dismissing it. How did that make her feel? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She doesnt watch porn and never plays with herself.. she doesnt have a toy or any outfits.. shes never been in a sex shop.. everytime I offer to buy one she goes off on one and starts going shy and embarressed, I suggested a 3some and got promoted to the sofa. "
Well you either accept her for who she is or move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Get her tiddly and ask her what her fantasies are.More drink so she lets go of inhibitions and start going into role play mode of her fantasies and see if she follows.
Good luck.
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Tried it... she refuses to drink around me.. she would only have 2 - 3 Ameretto and s.. and thats it for the night.. she wont even get shitfaced.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey..
Ermm. I need some suggestions and a little help.. ive never had this problem before..
Here goes.. she is just so boring in bed.. I love her to bits but it aint rocking my boat.. same old thing all the time.. im on top, then shes on top, then she sits on my face and cums and thats it..
Ive suggested things to spice things up like Role play, outdoors, threesomes and that. But all I got was "when I get a car you can do me in the back, front or on the bonet" but thats what she did with her ex. She never gives me a bj and its always about her.. im just not enjoying sex right now.. ..
Any suggestions??
When you suggested a 3sum was that to spice it up for you or her? It also strikes me that you refer to her one suggestion and are pretty blunt in dismissing it. How did that make her feel? "
You mean how she wants me to fuck her like her ex boyfriend did? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" she wont even get shitfaced..
dump her.....
sexually inhibited is one thing......
a non shitfacer........ well, I can't believe you are still there."
We are moving out of the flat.. she is movong her mums and im moving into a single room. We will probs end up breaking up.. just wanna try and save our relationship before it does happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey..
Ermm. I need some suggestions and a little help.. ive never had this problem before..
Here goes.. she is just so boring in bed.. I love her to bits but it aint rocking my boat.. same old thing all the time.. im on top, then shes on top, then she sits on my face and cums and thats it..
Ive suggested things to spice things up like Role play, outdoors, threesomes and that. But all I got was "when I get a car you can do me in the back, front or on the bonet" but thats what she did with her ex. She never gives me a bj and its always about her.. im just not enjoying sex right now.. ..
Any suggestions??
When you suggested a 3sum was that to spice it up for you or her? It also strikes me that you refer to her one suggestion and are pretty blunt in dismissing it. How did that make her feel?
You mean how she wants me to fuck her like her ex boyfriend did? "
You are moaning about her being unadventrous. To her saying that she would have sex on the bonnett of a car may well have been a big thing and you dismiss it for the most childish of reasons and yet it is still her at fault. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The way you are speaking about her on here makes me think she would be better off without you. You are being critical to the point of nastiness."
Everyone is welcome to there own opinion. But it really isnt the case..
Im asking for advice on how to spice up my sex life.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She doesnt watch porn and never plays with herself.. she doesnt have a toy or any outfits.. shes never been in a sex shop.. everytime I offer to buy one she goes off on one and starts going shy and embarressed, I suggested a 3some and got promoted to the sofa. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Jesus fucking christ!
I ask people on here for advice and you always get one that reads between the lines..
Jordan is my girlfriend. I love her more than anything in the world..
Im trying to save my relationship and not throw 11 months down the drain..
And yes her saying "do me against a bonnett like my ex did" did kinda fucking hurt because it made me think that all she wants is to turn me into a low life prick who only used her for sex and money..
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By (user no longer on site)
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If that's all she did with her bf then it's gonna be up to you to start being more creative, have some dim lighting, try to get her when she's in a good mood, if your both at work, send her some cheeky texts beforehand, lean her back on the bed and go down on her, squeeze her tits and play with her. push her back further on the bed, guide her hand towards your cock as you continue to play with her, just let her enjoy being pleasured as she strokes your cock before slowly moving your hips towards her face letting her take the hint to play with you too. go up to her kissing her lots as your hand plays with her before moving her into whatever position you fancy trying, preferable something light, (missionary, jockey, deepstick).
if your kissing etc, nothing wrong with lightly moving her hand to jerk you off whilst you makeout with her. try new positions, don't take her too far out of her comfort zone but definitely try things like that she's not done before, im more dominant but things like that can still strengthen that, its both give and take thing, any dom/sub is in power, not who's doing what |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If that's all she did with her bf then it's gonna be up to you to start being more creative, have some dim lighting, try to get her when she's in a good mood, if your both at work, send her some cheeky texts beforehand, lean her back on the bed and go down on her, squeeze her tits and play with her. push her back further on the bed, guide her hand towards your cock as you continue to play with her, just let her enjoy being pleasured as she strokes your cock before slowly moving your hips towards her face letting her take the hint to play with you too. go up to her kissing her lots as your hand plays with her before moving her into whatever position you fancy trying, preferable something light, (missionary, jockey, deepstick).
if your kissing etc, nothing wrong with lightly moving her hand to jerk you off whilst you makeout with her. try new positions, don't take her too far out of her comfort zone but definitely try things like that she's not done before, im more dominant but things like that can still strengthen that, its both give and take thing, any dom/sub is in power, not who's doing what"
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By (user no longer on site)
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You've been together for a year and are already getting bored of her...sorry buddy, but the problem is with your train-of-thought, not with her! You have critcised her for being sensible with drink, not sharing her body with others and for trying at least 2 different positions, excluding sitting on your face, and cumming!!! That doesn't sound like you've got a rough deal mate! in fact, she sounds a hell-of-a-lot better than 98% of my ex's  You are obviously not satisfied because you can't get your head out of the 'swinging cloud' and evidently want sexual fulfillment that she isn't providing. You are either, in my opinion, insatiable or just lack commitment.
You've obviously tried to suggest ways of spicing it up and she has declined. If you like/love her, you will be patient. Otherwise, do the both of you a favour and end it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" she wont even get shitfaced..
dump her.....
sexually inhibited is one thing......
a non shitfacer........ well, I can't believe you are still there."
Pmsl, my thoughts exactly.  |
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"The way you are speaking about her on here makes me think she would be better off without you. You are being critical to the point of nastiness.
Everyone is welcome to there own opinion. But it really isnt the case..
Im asking for advice on how to spice up my sex life.
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And there we have it, advice on how to spice up "my" sex life it needs to be "our" sex life.
I've read too many posts written by people who are in commited relationships but live double lives due to sexual incompatibility to advise you to attempt to try and improve things in a relationship where you're already thinking of leaving.
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