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By *laphe1 OP Man
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
I'm sure my mother has dementia/alzheimers trouble is when me or any member of the family suggests she has a problem she gets very aggressive in denial .She refuses to see a doctor,she cant remember so many things .She is only 65 .Does anyone if is possible for social services to see her on our recommendations.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Contact the Alzheimer's society they will guide u thro it
I've just been thro it wiv my neighbor
Following a brain scan it may b possible wiv drug therapy to arrest further deterioration |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would try talking to your own GP and explian about the concerns you have for your mother.....
I'm sure they will be able to advise you on the best way to proceed...
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thanks I will do .Just worried about her refusing any help and accepting."
It's quite a frightening and isolating condition for a lot of sufferers. This can show up as outward hostility, but I agree, you need to get her to sit and talk to someone to try and see what the best way forward for her is. Hope it all works out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thanks I will do .Just worried about her refusing any help and accepting."
She will need a doctor's referral to a memory specialist where she will undertake some memory tests which will or won't lead to a brain scan dependant on the assessment. It was a 3 months waiting list for my neighbour to see the specialist.
The speed of deterioration in patients is very individual but it can sometimes be rapid so DON'T hang around getting started on this cos time really is of the essence. Alzheimer's cannot b reversed so it is important to try n arrest further decline asap |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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It is difficult to get them to accept help. The way I did it was to suggest my mother see her GP about something physical I had noticed and offered to go with her. When we were there I suggested she have some tests.
The tests are easy and will show whether it's just normal memory slowing down or whether further tests are needed.
The anger stage is really hard to deal with and you need something in place before that starts.
I would also advise sorting out Power of Attorney sooner rather than later when she can consent to it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sure my mother has dementia/alzheimers trouble is when me or any member of the family suggests she has a problem she gets very aggressive in denial .She refuses to see a doctor,she cant remember so many things .She is only 65 .Does anyone if is possible for social services to see her on our recommendations. "
My best mate who is just 60 has just been diagnosed with early onset dementia .
She was aware that things were not right and saw her doctor. He then made a referel to someone who deals with it .
She became very very forgetful and altho she made light of it , she was scared of the outcome.
Its hard to deal with if the person is scared to deal with it.
When i worked with dementia/altzeimers we had a ldy come from the mental health and she spoke to them...it was a test but they didnt know.
You could contact mental health and see what they advise.? also social services .
Though these days its so hard because of all this data protection and red tape. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It hit my dad round about 65, and lasted 30 years,
We noticed, when he took the dogs out for a walk, and started taking longer and longer to find his way home,
He often went to local shop which is half mile away, for a paper, milk and bread, sometimes he forgot why he had gone.
It seemed funny at first and we laughed about it, until one day we had a phone call asking if we had lost 2 dogs and an elderly man. Luckily our phone number was on the dog collar.
I made an appointment to see my Dr and explained my concerns, she arranged someone to visit and make an initial assessment. The guy came in, sat down and asked my dad if he would make him a cup of tea, my dad said " you have only just got here!
Anyway he was diagnosed over a couple of months with alkzhimers ( dementure).
I stopped teaching to care for him, expecting him to last a few years, 25 years later I was still caring for him, luckily he wasn't violent, in fact we had many great times and holidays.
Caring is the most rewarding thing I have ever done, but stressful and hard work.
Luckily I could work from home to supplement the £35 a week carers allowance, I am sure its more now.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"It hit my dad round about 65, and lasted 30 years,
We noticed, when he took the dogs out for a walk, and started taking longer and longer to find his way home,
He often went to local shop which is half mile away, for a paper, milk and bread, sometimes he forgot why he had gone.
It seemed funny at first and we laughed about it, until one day we had a phone call asking if we had lost 2 dogs and an elderly man. Luckily our phone number was on the dog collar.
I made an appointment to see my Dr and explained my concerns, she arranged someone to visit and make an initial assessment. The guy came in, sat down and asked my dad if he would make him a cup of tea, my dad said " you have only just got here!
Anyway he was diagnosed over a couple of months with alkzhimers ( dementure).
I stopped teaching to care for him, expecting him to last a few years, 25 years later I was still caring for him, luckily he wasn't violent, in fact we had many great times and holidays.
Caring is the most rewarding thing I have ever done, but stressful and hard work.
Luckily I could work from home to supplement the £35 a week carers allowance, I am sure its more now.
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It's good you had a positive caring relationship.
My mother was attacking me and going for my father with knives and scissors. People can live with dementia for such a long time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"gps don't understand it they need lessons im afraid"
GP's are a general practitioner, they know a little about a lot, but are the first point of contact.
In my own experience caring for someone with dementure, the most important person was a social worker,
who could cut through the red tape. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It hit my dad round about 65, and lasted 30 years,
We noticed, when he took the dogs out for a walk, and started taking longer and longer to find his way home,
He often went to local shop which is half mile away, for a paper, milk and bread, sometimes he forgot why he had gone.
It seemed funny at first and we laughed about it, until one day we had a phone call asking if we had lost 2 dogs and an elderly man. Luckily our phone number was on the dog collar.
I made an appointment to see my Dr and explained my concerns, she arranged someone to visit and make an initial assessment. The guy came in, sat down and asked my dad if he would make him a cup of tea, my dad said " you have only just got here!
Anyway he was diagnosed over a couple of months with alkzhimers ( dementure).
I stopped teaching to care for him, expecting him to last a few years, 25 years later I was still caring for him, luckily he wasn't violent, in fact we had many great times and holidays.
Caring is the most rewarding thing I have ever done, but stressful and hard work.
Luckily I could work from home to supplement the £35 a week carers allowance, I am sure its more now.
It's good you had a positive caring relationship.
My mother was attacking me and going for my father with knives and scissors. People can live with dementia for such a long time.
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Im sorry you have witnessed that, it must have been awful.
Ring the docs or social services and they can point you in the right direction.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive come away in tears today after seeing her ,She really lost her temper and swore at me quite violently.We cant force her to see a doctor thats the big problem."
Get straight in touch with Alzheimer's society by e mail n they will help you with all of this
Meanwhile phone your mother's doctor n make him aware of all your concerns |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive come away in tears today after seeing her ,She really lost her temper and swore at me quite violently.We cant force her to see a doctor thats the big problem."
force is the last thing you want to use,
remember she will be very frustrated, and her behaviour wont be rational.
You have to be the adult , and get help, from your mothers perspective its everyone else, ie, you who have the problem, not her. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Ive come away in tears today after seeing her ,She really lost her temper and swore at me quite violently.We cant force her to see a doctor thats the big problem."
I'm afraid that I think you will have to force her. Not in a forceful way but the longer it is left the worse it gets.
If she gets lost you will feel worse for not having taken her. It's really very scary when your parents get lost. My mother was gone for over seven hours without food or water. She had no idea where she was but eventually went into a hotel where they were kind enough to put her in a taxi. She had ended up on the other side of London thinking she was around the corner from home and asking people for the road she lived on.
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By *laphe1 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Ive come away in tears today after seeing her ,She really lost her temper and swore at me quite violently.We cant force her to see a doctor thats the big problem.
Get straight in touch with Alzheimer's society by e mail n they will help you with all of this
Meanwhile phone your mother's doctor n make him aware of all your concerns"
Thanks for all the advice and understanding I never envisaged how difficult this is.I will phone around and as suggested try social services and the society |
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