It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)
When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.
In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.
2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!
He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.
Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there  |
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Well, its your house... You have told him... You have given him months to sort it.
I'd have phoned him and said "your stuff is in bin bags outside, when are you coming to get it?"
It's your house... Your rules. He needs to take things more seriously by the sounds of it.
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"Well, its your house... You have told him... You have given him months to sort it.
I'd have phoned him and said "your stuff is in bin bags outside, when are you coming to get it?"
It's your house... Your rules. He needs to take things more seriously by the sounds of it.
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how come you waited so long |
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"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)
When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.
In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.
2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!
He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.
Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there "
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"Well, its your house... You have told him... You have given him months to sort it.
I'd have phoned him and said "your stuff is in bin bags outside, when are you coming to get it?"
It's your house... Your rules. He needs to take things more seriously by the sounds of it.
X"
I've done that once and felt guilty so bought it back in!! I'm fed up of being a pushover. I left it a long time because he was just renting a room at his aunts so was short of space but now he has moved into a decent size house he has more space than me. I've asked him at least twice since he moved so I've had enough now x |
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You've given him plenty of time, a colleague at work has had a similar issue and gave him a matter of weeks. She's given loads of his stuff (worth £100's) away after he said in front of several witnesses that he didn't want anything that he hadn't already taken. I very nearly got his mountain bike! |
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"I wouldn't even had given that many chances
Plus I probably would have eBay'd it and called it rent  "
It's not worth anything or I would of done. I even told him if he popped in and sorted through what he wants I'd ditch the rest as he doesn't drive so my dad would take me to the dump but noooooo!! |
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"You've given him plenty of time, a colleague at work has had a similar issue and gave him a matter of weeks. She's given loads of his stuff (worth £100's) away after he said in front of several witnesses that he didn't want anything that he hadn't already taken. I very nearly got his mountain bike!"
Lol!! I gave him time to find somewhere to store it. He's been living somewhere big enough for 6 months now and still hasn't bothered so if he gets pissed off (which he will) it's tough!!! |
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"hoover has a new home????
but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!
There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x  "
on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!? |
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My ex took the important stuff like the tv's and sky box's. Just had to wait forever for him to collect his children's stuff!
6 months later though I'm still waiting for him to collect their beds, an electric mixer and their bikes! Hmmmm
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"hoover has a new home????
but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!
There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x
on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!?"
It's directly opposite. If you prefer next door there's a built in wardrobe in my room that I could make a bed up in if I shifted done stuff around |
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"My ex took the important stuff like the tv's and sky box's. Just had to wait forever for him to collect his children's stuff!
6 months later though I'm still waiting for him to collect their beds, an electric mixer and their bikes! Hmmmm
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That's harder isn't it coz id of felt bad chucking kids stuff. I've gotta admit I've been grinning to myself all day now I've finally done it coz I think he expected me to keep it there forever! I even told the blokes at the dump there were a load of spare xbox cables etc in there they had a good rummage through lol x |
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"I wouldn't even had given that many chances
Plus I probably would have eBay'd it and called it rent "
Was thinking eBay myself and then you could have spent the money on yourself |
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"hoover has a new home????
but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!
There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x
on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!?
It's directly opposite. If you prefer next door there's a built in wardrobe in my room that I could make a bed up in if I shifted done stuff around "
well with this bedroom tax malarkey we gotta stick together...wheres ur knicker drawer located also...not that I'm wanting toi wank over ur knickers FFS ,what kinda pervo u take me for!!?! |
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If you're worried about chucking it and you can afford to, hire some storage space for the shortest time allowed - probably a month, stick all his stuff in there, give him the keys and the receipt and it's no longer your problem. If he fails to collect it from there then they'll get rid of it and there will be no legal comeback to you. |
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good for you gal never had that my problem with my ex as he came home from spending the weekend with gal he left me for and announced he was selling the house this was on april last year he not move out till june so i sorted stuff out told him to clear the loft and the shed. he took some pictures from the walls but i still have all the rest and as my house was sold in february rather forced the issue really |
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"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)
When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.
In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.
2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!
He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.
Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there "
I would have given him 24 hours before binning the lot! I did that with a boyfriend. Told him to get his shit out of my house before the Tuesday as that was bin day. He turned up the Wednesday and was genuinely surprised when I gave him directions to the municipal tip! |
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"hoover has a new home????
but u promised me that was gonna be my bedroom!!!!!
There's still space for you paddy as long as you can sleep standing up next to the Hoover x
on an unrelated note, is ur bedroom next to mine? not that I'm drilling any holes to peek in FFS...what kindo pervo u taking me for!?
It's directly opposite. If you prefer next door there's a built in wardrobe in my room that I could make a bed up in if I shifted done stuff around
well with this bedroom tax malarkey we gotta stick together...wheres ur knicker drawer located also...not that I'm wanting toi wank over ur knickers FFS ,what kinda pervo u take me for!!?!"
Next to my bed. Lol.  |
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"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)
When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.
In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.
2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!
He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.
Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there
I would have given him 24 hours before binning the lot! I did that with a boyfriend. Told him to get his shit out of my house before the Tuesday as that was bin day. He turned up the Wednesday and was genuinely surprised when I gave him directions to the municipal tip!"
Too late now! Oooops. I'd love to say I feel bad. But I don't! |
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You haven't been unreasonable at all!! You have told him numerous times to get his stuff out! And in that amount if time if he really wanted it, if it was really important he would have done it!!
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"It's been 2 years since my ex moved out. 18 months since we split up properly. 12 months since he got with his new gf and 6 months since he moved into her 3 bedroom house (I'm only mentioning the size of the house to demostrate the space issue)
When he moved out he took the main stuff, clothes, his tv, xbox, some furniture etc. but a cupboard in my hallway has been full of the rest of his junk (old motorbike parts, a crappy set of golf clubs, odd bits of clothing, tools etc) since he left.
In that 2 years I have asked him nicely on numerous occasions to please clear out his stuff and if he doesn't want it I'll take it to the dump to get rid. I've probably asked him at least ten times. He always says he will but never has.
2 months ago I told him that my dad was going for his op and as soon as he could drive again which would be a couple of weeks after I was having a good clear out and his stuff would be going. He STILL hasn't bothered moving it so this morning I dumped the lot!!!!
He will probably go bloody mental when he finds out.
Have I been unreasonable??? My new Hoover now has a new home and he looks quite happy in there "
For what it's worth, I think you've been very reasonable... |
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"Next question... Should I tell him or not bother until in about a year he wants something from there and it's all home and say I threw it away ages ago so you can't of been that bothered?? "
Nah don't bother telling him... |
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Ah damn. You could have given it to me. And then i could have sold it and made some moneeeeyyyyy!!
..but you did the right thing. Remove the remnants of his being from the house. And that can be his surprise gift..
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"Next question... Should I tell him or not bother until in about a year he wants something from there and it's all home and say I threw it away ages ago so you can't of been that bothered?? "
I wouldn't tell him, then if he does ever ask for it all just tell him the fairies must have been a taken it all! He'll probably never know it's all gone |
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