"A married friend says that men end affairs when the sex to hassle ratio tips too much to hassle.
Is that the same here? What's the ideal ratio?"
I am not sure there is an ideal ratio miss gdala. For me, when the drama/hassle to sex tips the balance and make the adventure a chore; it is time to look elsewhere.  |
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over a year ago
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Depends what kind of hassle you mean.
If it is jumping through a couple of hoops, well that is fine and occasionally needs to be done.
But if you mean drama then tolerance will likely be low as I think life has enough of that anyway. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Depends what kind of hassle you mean.
If it is jumping through a couple of hoops, well that is fine and occasionally needs to be done.
But if you mean drama then tolerance will likely be low as I think life has enough of that anyway."
I suppose we all have different definitions of what would be hassle. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"BTW, FrenchBambi I love this stripey basquey thing - where does it come from might I ask?"
It's great, isn't it? Sadly, it wouldn't look that good on me but Bambi looks fantastic in it in the flesh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think when the sex is overtaken by drama or hassle, it's time for a change 
Plenty of choice on here though 
Is that at 51% or well before that?"
I think about 30% hassle I can cope with. Anymore than that and I'm done |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the ideal ratio can be worked out with MC squared x pi I'm sure that's what they taught us in math  
You do the maths and give us the answer then. "
Um .....erm... ..3.333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333
Hmmmm math was never my strong point but if you turn your screen to the side my answer looks like a load of bollox, which is appropriate |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Also depends on what you call hassle and who from. If there is much more hassle then sex then is it worth it, depends on the sex I guess. "
So true. I know someone who put up with more drama and hassle than seems reasonable because the sex was great. Not with me, I hasten to add. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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If it weren't for the forum my profile would be hidden now.
This site is far more hassle than fun for me currently.
Partly that's down to my own bad choices.
I grow weary of things at far lower than 51% hassle. Maybe at around 20% I will be getting fed up. Much more than that and I'll take a break from meeting.
I spend more time not being open to meets than being willing to meet. |
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"Also depends on what you call hassle and who from. If there is much more hassle then sex then is it worth it, depends on the sex I guess.
So true. I know someone who put up with more drama and hassle than seems reasonable because the sex was great. Not with me, I hasten to add."
I think that if your partner dresses up in nice sexy underwear for sex there is less drama...but when they start riding you dressed as Hamlet, Macbeth or other Shakespearian greats that is way too much drama ;p |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No strings no drama no hassle sorry if that's not what you want to hear but it's the truth, I have a laugh in the forums and there are people on them that I would put up with a lot of drama for just cos I like them but hand on heart the people I message to try to meet are the ones that I think I will get the least drama from, I want to meet someone, satisfy them and possibly a chat about swinging and stuff, but there is no chance of me getting involved with their daily dramas I have enough of my own |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Also depends on what you call hassle and who from. If there is much more hassle then sex then is it worth it, depends on the sex I guess.
So true. I know someone who put up with more drama and hassle than seems reasonable because the sex was great. Not with me, I hasten to add."
I did that with someone for a while. Made far more effort than I would have for anyone else and put up with more than I'd have taken with anyone else. Eventually I got a clue. Walking away was so difficult and it took me more than 2 years to get over it properly.
It seems insane and I could see that at the time but he was like some sort of addiction. Not love but lust definitely.
I really hope never again to be in that situation. It was horrible. Craving someone who I had great pleasure with but who made me feel used and worthless. Painful. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Also depends on what you call hassle and who from. If there is much more hassle then sex then is it worth it, depends on the sex I guess.
So true. I know someone who put up with more drama and hassle than seems reasonable because the sex was great. Not with me, I hasten to add.
I did that with someone for a while. Made far more effort than I would have for anyone else and put up with more than I'd have taken with anyone else. Eventually I got a clue. Walking away was so difficult and it took me more than 2 years to get over it properly.
It seems insane and I could see that at the time but he was like some sort of addiction. Not love but lust definitely.
I really hope never again to be in that situation. It was horrible. Craving someone who I had great pleasure with but who made me feel used and worthless. Painful."
It is addictive. All those chemicals running around leave their mark. |
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