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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Whats with all the stereotypes on here well in general??
We pretty much seem to be what people on here are not looking for  as we tend to have all the oposite things people want eg- were both straight, MrC is slim (ish) and has not got a 9inch cock, MissA is a size 14, has stretch marks (from having a baby) and she is 19 well almost 20 so people tend to think because she's not 30+ then she hasn't thought about swinging properly and hasnt got the ability to cope with it, if anything she act's older than some 30+ people i know 
Yes ok it's good to have an attraction there but we tend to look at the people themselves and not there dress size !!
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By *iss scarlettWoman
over a year ago
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"Whats with all the stereotypes on here well in general??
We pretty much seem to be what people on here are not looking for as we tend to have all the oposite things people want eg- were both straight, MrC is slim (ish) and has not got a 9inch cock, MissA is a size 14, has stretch marks (from having a baby) and she is 19 well almost 20 so people tend to think because she's not 30+ then she hasn't thought about swinging properly and hasnt got the ability to cope with it, if anything she act's older than some 30+ people i know
Yes ok it's good to have an attraction there but we tend to look at the people themselves and not there dress size !!
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Well said,there is enough of that bollocks going on just now. You look like a lovely young couple and I wish you much happy swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well said,there is enough of that bollocks going on just now. You look like a lovely young couple and I wish you much happy swinging. "
Awwww thanks scarlett lady, glad to see someone else agree's with our point and it's not just us who feels like this
MissA & MrC xx |
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Hi there, in what way do you think you're being stereotyped - by your 'dress size' or your ages? In my experience most people here take a broad view on most things although most have age, size perameters etc? Z |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi there, in what way do you think you're being stereotyped - by your 'dress size' or your ages? In my experience most people here take a broad view on most things although most have age, size perameters etc? Z"
Hi Zoe_Steve_NWest
Not so much that we are being stereotyped as such, just stereotypes in general who are ONLY looking for that same type that 90% of the people are looking for, dont get us wrong everyone has got there own standars/types as we have a couple of standars too ourselves,
It's just when you get people who are out looking for all size 8 women, they have to be bi, and they have to be over 30 as they cant think for themselves if younger or they cant be serious about swinging and are just messing around with the idea!!
We have had so many people say that MissA is too yound (which is fair enough) but then go onto say 'oh no sorry the fem is way too young and they feel she is either forced into swinging or not seriously thought about it'
We made a point to put a cpl of pics that shall we say show all the lumps and bumps that some people try to hide, as we want to meet people who have seen the real us and were not ashamed to show it
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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago
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Hi there and welcome to Fabswingers. You have a good profile which I'm sure will appeal to a lot of like minded couples.
You are perhaps right in that what we put on our profiles does stereotype us all into boxes-couples who only meet other couples, couples who like group play, bi people, straight people, people into kinkier stuff etc but that is only for ease of browsing the adverts and finding like minded people.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi there and welcome to Fabswingers. You have a good profile which I'm sure will appeal to a lot of like minded couples.
You are perhaps right in that what we put on our profiles does stereotype us all into boxes-couples who only meet other couples, couples who like group play, bi people, straight people, people into kinkier stuff etc but that is only for ease of browsing the adverts and finding like minded people.
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Hi,
Thanks for the welcome em alone
Your right about the ease of browsing, it's just the few couples/singles that seem to go way over the top with there idea couples/singles and seem to be looking for the ken & barbie types (nothing wrong with the 'ken & barbie' types by the way) and good luck to the ones that find them, but whats wrong with the natural looking people out there??
We love the fact that MissA has got a ass that MrC can grab :P and MissA dont worry about makeup. Plus MrC's cock might not be the so called 'perfect' 12inch's but have had no complaints yet ....
MissA & MrC xxx |
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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago
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lol far from being perfect, 12 inches would be a bit much for me!
Most people who have been doing this a while realise Ken and Barbie are in short supply and can be a little boring anyway. The best sex we find is with people we find interesting and mutually sexually compatible with rather than a stereotypes body image or traditional 'good looks'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see it as sterotypical but people expressing their preferences so not to waste their or others time.
As for age: another preference some people don't feel comfortable playing with someone the same age as their children as you've found out!
That said there are plenty for whom age, size is not an issue, so good luck and happy swinging! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whats with all the stereotypes on here well in general??
We pretty much seem to be what people on here are not looking for as we tend to have all the oposite things people want eg- were both straight, MrC is slim (ish) and has not got a 9inch cock, MissA is a size 14, has stretch marks (from having a baby) and she is 19 well almost 20 so people tend to think because she's not 30+ then she hasn't thought about swinging properly and hasnt got the ability to cope with it, if anything she act's older than some 30+ people i know
Yes ok it's good to have an attraction there but we tend to look at the people themselves and not there dress size !!
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i really really dont think people are worried about a bit of a belly and stretch marks! im 35, a size 14 had 3 kids can garetee i have a flabbier belly and more stretch marks than your mrs, and ive never had a guy bat an eye lid at them, i mean of course not all guy are going to be not bothered but i tend to not talk to people who are up their own arses in the first place, but out of all the men i have actually met, and believe me theres been a few, ive never had one turn me down because of a few stretch marks
people worry to much, yes me included, its human nature
to be honest with you i always feel im to old for most men on here and most would want someone about 20, and you feel they after women 30+ so just goes to show how the grass is always greener dont it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"lol far from being perfect, 12 inches would be a bit much for me!
Most people who have been doing this a while realise Ken and Barbie are in short supply and can be a little boring anyway. The best sex we find is with people we find interesting and mutually sexually compatible with rather than a stereotypes body image or traditional 'good looks'."
Well said!!! just like we said in a earlier post, it's about the people/person them selves and not so much the looks, obv a mutual attraction is a good thing lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i really really dont think people are worried about a bit of a belly and stretch marks! im 35, a size 14 had 3 kids can garetee i have a flabbier belly and more stretch marks than your mrs, and ive never had a guy bat an eye lid at them, i mean of course not all guy are going to be not bothered but i tend to not talk to people who are up their own arses in the first place, but out of all the men i have actually met, and believe me theres been a few, ive never had one turn me down because of a few stretch marks
people worry to much, yes me included, its human nature
to be honest with you i always feel im to old for most men on here and most would want someone about 20, and you feel they after women 30+ so just goes to show how the grass is always greener dont it x"
Oh We have come across a few people that are funny about a few bumps and stretch marks, not loads of people but enough, which is fair enough, not everyone's the has the same tastes, and everyone is entitled to have there own likes/dislikes etc, but it's the way they go about advertising there likes/dislikes,
Were not worried about what people think of us at all, were happy as we are, more than happy in fact!!
Plus we cant understand why people think under 30's cant think for themselves and that we cant be sure about the whole swinging thing???
The mind boggles!! lol
MissA & MrC xxx |
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By *wned EmCouple
over a year ago
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People often judge others on the basis of their own experience. I wasn't ready to embrace the whole swinging thing until I was of a mature age. This perhaps makes me more suspicious of people who are so young embracing it so readily. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People often judge others on the basis of their own experience. I wasn't ready to embrace the whole swinging thing until I was of a mature age. This perhaps makes me more suspicious of people who are so young embracing it so readily."
Yeah thats fair enough as you say it's own experiences, but on the same note, Just because of the age dif it doesnt mean we wasnt 100% ready to start swinging when we did any less than you was when you started, or does it??? Its a fact that everyone matures at diff ages so we cant put a age on when people are ready to swing.
As long as you are 100% happy and if your a couple and you are in a strong relationship, and trust each other then your fine (sorry thats in our eyes anyway) xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I absolutely agree and wish I had been mature enough to start sooner but we are all on our own evolutionary path with this thing. "
Yes exactly !!! :D xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish I had heard about swinging when I was 19!
I must admit I am always surprised when younger people join, I assumed they were all too busy shagging each other anyway. Well that's what the Daily Mail told me!
Welcome to the site and hope you have more fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whats with all the stereotypes on here well in general??
We pretty much seem to be what people on here are not looking for as we tend to have all the oposite things people want eg- were both straight, MrC is slim (ish) and has not got a 9inch cock, MissA is a size 14, has stretch marks (from having a baby) and she is 19 well almost 20 so people tend to think because she's not 30+ then she hasn't thought about swinging properly and hasnt got the ability to cope with it, if anything she act's older than some 30+ people i know
Yes ok it's good to have an attraction there but we tend to look at the people themselves and not there dress size !!
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oh bugger, just took a look at your profile, I'm out of your age requirements, though my partner is 22 and we've had no problems getting a meet, but then she is bi, so maybe that's helped. |
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To the original poster..I dont you need to concern yourself to much about your age, size, sexual preference etc...the reall thing that will hold you back though is the fact that you dont appear to have a wallpaper border on your walls..
This is a 'must have' if you want to make yourself attractive to other swingers..
OK..OK people im kidding!!!...just being stereotypical!
Dont worry about it too much though..people will find you and as a couple of posters have said its probably only down to their preferences..you may feel uncomfortable sitting there with a couple in their 60's..or black, Asian..equally they may feel uncomfortable themselves..
There are some posers on here who wont be happy unless their targets are clones of the Beckhams..the 'beautfil people'..their profile pics are like model shots for Tatler magazine etc..if they 'cam' it looks like a audition for a porn flick...they probably find it harder than anyone finding someone..while the majority of people on here are happy to accept people for what they are.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of us on here have got profile perameters, be it age, sexuality, height, size etc, and that obviously cuts down the options available to us.
We have met and played with a few couples who are outside our "ideals".
We found it easier to get meets after attending parties or clubs. Its difficult to get your personality across in a profile, due to people reading it, and perceiving it in different ways.
Best of luck, but most of all, enjoy your experiences XX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i really really dont think people are worried about a bit of a belly and stretch marks! im 35, a size 14 had 3 kids can garetee i have a flabbier belly and more stretch marks than your mrs, and ive never had a guy bat an eye lid at them, i mean of course not all guy are going to be not bothered but i tend to not talk to people who are up their own arses in the first place, but out of all the men i have actually met, and believe me theres been a few, ive never had one turn me down because of a few stretch marks
people worry to much, yes me included, its human nature
to be honest with you i always feel im to old for most men on here and most would want someone about 20, and you feel they after women 30+ so just goes to show how the grass is always greener dont it x
Oh We have come across a few people that are funny about a few bumps and stretch marks, not loads of people but enough, which is fair enough, not everyone's the has the same tastes, and everyone is entitled to have there own likes/dislikes etc, but it's the way they go about advertising there likes/dislikes,
Were not worried about what people think of us at all, were happy as we are, more than happy in fact!!
Plus we cant understand why people think under 30's cant think for themselves and that we cant be sure about the whole swinging thing???
The mind boggles!! lol
MissA & MrC xxx"
just out of interest do you find its more women than men who want perfection or the other way round? i find a lot of women on here are very critial about what other women look like, i used to meet as a couple before i split from the hubby and meeting couples was a night near, always seemed to be the women finding faults and reasons not to meet, meeting single guys as a couple and now im alone has never been a problem, i could get 3 meets a day every day if i so wished, but couples? id dare say i wouldnt even get 1 a week |
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By *zMaleMan
over a year ago
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"I absolutely agree and wish I had been mature enough to start sooner but we are all on our own evolutionary path with this thing.
Yes exactly !!! :D xx"
No disrespect meant at all. I'm just giving you my opinion. As a 51 yr old guy, yes I might find you to be a very nice couple but I could never meet with you with a view to having sex, because I have children older than you. Having said that if we ever met in a club for example, I would be more than happy to spend some time together and having a laugh.
It's a great lifestyle, The main thing is HAVE FUN and be nice. |
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