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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok!!!!!! My sons Father has started to collect my son once a week From his Pre school. Today he didnt Turn up. I got a call and walked over and got my son. They told me that usually they charge five Pounds for each fifteen mins you are Late and call Social Services to report an abandoned child after half hour if no Contact. Well my ex turned up an hour Late as he had fell asleep. I am furious and so upset!!!!! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Ok!!!!!! My sons Father has started to collect my son once a week From his Pre school. Today he didnt Turn up. I got a call and walked over and got my son. They told me that usually they charge five Pounds for each fifteen mins you are Late and call Social Services to report an abandoned child after half hour if no Contact. Well my ex turned up an hour Late as he had fell asleep. I am furious and so upset!!!!! "
Get the school to send him an invoice for £20. Maybe he'll remember to turn up next time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok!!!!!! My sons Father has started to collect my son once a week From his Pre school. Today he didnt Turn up. I got a call and walked over and got my son. They told me that usually they charge five Pounds for each fifteen mins you are Late and call Social Services to report an abandoned child after half hour if no Contact. Well my ex turned up an hour Late as he had fell asleep. I am furious and so upset!!!!! "
Well that's fair enough I would rant about that too, perhaps a review of his parental responsibilitys/rights is in order |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok!!!!!! My sons Father has started to collect my son once a week From his Pre school. Today he didnt Turn up. I got a call and walked over and got my son. They told me that usually they charge five Pounds for each fifteen mins you are Late and call Social Services to report an abandoned child after half hour if no Contact. Well my ex turned up an hour Late as he had fell asleep. I am furious and so upset!!!!! "
And you have a right to be .......... I would be mad if it was me ........ Now I hope they know why and if money he payed and I hope never got as far as social services ..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We only just started this because my son want his daddy so i asked him to see him more often. So this is just Terrible but my son wants his dad so not able to stop contact. Aaaaagh |
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Give him a break.
I'm assuming he's only done it this once ?
If he's in the habit of doing it you need to stop him picking your son up and take responsibility for him yourself.
If it's the first time the man has done it you are over reacting.
If a bill does come tho ....it's his. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"We only just started this because my son want his daddy so i asked him to see him more often. So this is just Terrible but my son wants his dad so not able to stop contact. Aaaaagh"
I don't think contact should be stopped anyway....but is this the first time he fell asleep?
I know I fell asleep once when I was ill and the school woke me by phone to come pick the kids up, sometimes these things happen. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wont give him a break no. because i had to fight to get him to see The Kids because they want him and its important to me a child Sees their dad. And he Lets them down with other things too. Cant face book or say anything as it Turns on me and i neededtto vent today |
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"I wont give him a break no. because i had to fight to get him to see The Kids because they want him and its important to me a child Sees their dad. And he Lets them down with other things too. Cant face book or say anything as it Turns on me and i neededtto vent today"
Okay. Don't give him a break. Keep hating. There are easier solutions.
When you 'fought to get him to see his own children' was picking your son up part of a regular deal or did you just need him this once to pick your son up ?
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Don't be "furious or upset!"
You are responsible for your own actions as a responsible parent, and I am sure you do a fantastic job!
If your ex is irresponsible and unreliable, then he will have to face up to the consequences of his inadequacies in due course. His behavior, his problem, his consequences.
You are in charge of your own responses, and by keeping calm and not getting "furious or upset" you can divert that energy instead to more productive and useful family stuff.
He is your "ex" not your "present" so detach yourself from him and his negative influence upon you and your family.
Enjoy your days, take pleasure in the little things, and don't let other negative people bring you down!
Good luck and very best wishes.....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wont give him a break no. because i had to fight to get him to see The Kids because they want him and its important to me a child Sees their dad. And he Lets them down with other things too. Cant face book or say anything as it Turns on me and i neededtto vent today"
You need to chat to him get this off your chest and tell him how you feel ....... for you and your child. And keep cool you need to be the bigger person in control here. xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wont give him a break no. because i had to fight to get him to see The Kids because they want him and its important to me a child Sees their dad. And he Lets them down with other things too. Cant face book or say anything as it Turns on me and i neededtto vent today
Okay. Don't give him a break. Keep hating. There are easier solutions.
When you 'fought to get him to see his own children' was picking your son up part of a regular deal or did you just need him this once to pick your son up ?
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Regular agreement. Seems you Taken offence to me and am upset at the moment so please dont say anything else. |
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"I wont give him a break no. because i had to fight to get him to see The Kids because they want him and its important to me a child Sees their dad. And he Lets them down with other things too. Cant face book or say anything as it Turns on me and i neededtto vent today
Okay. Don't give him a break. Keep hating. There are easier solutions.
When you 'fought to get him to see his own children' was picking your son up part of a regular deal or did you just need him this once to pick your son up ?
Regular agreement. Seems you Taken offence to me and am upset at the moment so please dont say anything else. "
I haven't taken offence to you at all.
I suggest if you are upset that you get off the forum for an hour or two and stop taking offence with people.
Good luck sorting your stuff out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been dealing with this for nearly five years. Its easy enough for people to say don't let it bother you, it still does. Most of the time the twat is the last thing on my mind but times like today (will they get picked or not??) it winds me right up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wont give him a break no. because i had to fight to get him to see The Kids because they want him and its important to me a child Sees their dad. And he Lets them down with other things too. Cant face book or say anything as it Turns on me and i neededtto vent today
Okay. Don't give him a break. Keep hating. There are easier solutions.
When you 'fought to get him to see his own children' was picking your son up part of a regular deal or did you just need him this once to pick your son up ?
Regular agreement. Seems you Taken offence to me and am upset at the moment so please dont say anything else. "
Well it's understandable that you're a bit annoyed, however as far as we're aware it's the first occasion he's not picked your child up from nursery, we don't know how often or not he has let the children down in the past. Everyone makes mistakes.
When you post on a public forum you're going to get various responses, not always ones you like, but having put it out here for public debate you have to take the rough with the smooth. If you want to start telling people whose point of view you don't agree with not to post anymore you probably shouldn't be posting about it in a public forum in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't know the circumstances and you're understandably upset. I am in a similar situation where my time with my boy is limited and I would never, ever let him down. He is my world and I would move heaven and earth to have any contact with him. Granted, it is easier when your split is amicable, but even if not, he would be my priority. Hope it all works out for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok!!!!!! My sons Father has started to collect my son once a week From his Pre school. Today he didnt Turn up. I got a call and walked over and got my son. They told me that usually they charge five Pounds for each fifteen mins you are Late and call Social Services to report an abandoned child after half hour if no Contact. Well my ex turned up an hour Late as he had fell asleep. I am furious and so upset!!!!!
Get the school to send him an invoice for £20. Maybe he'll remember to turn up next time?"
I would be ranting and raving at them if It was me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm pissed off because my bollock of a housemate doesn't fucking listen. Aerial guy came today to put tv in his room. He borrows my keys so his mum can get in to wait for said aerial guy (no problems here). He tells his mum the wrong fucking keys because he didn't listen, they spend 45 mins trying to get in, fail, show up at my work (as he works in brum) so then I had to take time out of MY work to let them in. If he just opened his bloody ears all would have gone smoothly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm pissed off because my bollock of a housemate doesn't fucking listen. Aerial guy came today to put tv in his room. He borrows my keys so his mum can get in to wait for said aerial guy (no problems here). He tells his mum the wrong fucking keys because he didn't listen, they spend 45 mins trying to get in, fail, show up at my work (as he works in brum) so then I had to take time out of MY work to let them in. If he just opened his bloody ears all would have gone smoothly. "
Rahhh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wont give him a break no. because i had to fight to get him to see The Kids because they want him and its important to me a child Sees their dad. And he Lets them down with other things too. Cant face book or say anything as it Turns on me and i neededtto vent today"
Stick to your guns x do what you think is right x he needs to be responsible for his actions. You don't need to justify to anyone how you feel. Just don't have a knee jerk response x it never helps. Can't imagine what it's like being a single parent although I more or less am one now x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take a chill pill, we all make mistakes, maybe he has been working all hours to help support his child, maybe something else.
I have fallen asleep on a few occasions and have missed my alarm clock ringing and phone alarm.
It isn't the end of the world,
As for the school charging £5 and calling social services, after so many minutes, I am sure this has happened many times, life is not perfect.
I think your rant goes much deeper than this, but it has been like the straw that has broken the camels back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when it comes to exs and kids people can let there emotions get the better of them, its a very sensitive subject, and can really only be known what its like when you have experienced it yourself,
like some have said its a forum so you might not like everything people say,maybe its best kept to very close friends, as I know mine really helped me through these type of times |
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Mayb log off and don't post while you are so annoyed 