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over a year ago
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zoe I know what you mean, I don't like hurting people's feelings...usually I will just send back a message "thanks for the message but I am not interested...happy swinging" 9 times out of 10 they seem happy enough with that. |
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i find it hard to say no too and to be hoest it has led to big disappointments and people verging on stalking me lol
am adapting a harder outer shell now and opting for the honest approach with a few little lies thrown in to sugar coat it if needed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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yes it can be difficult turning people down without seemingly coming across as nasty or insensitive. On the other hand you also dont want to lead ppl on in thinking that you are interested when your blatantly not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many guys try to pressure you into meeting... they only wanna see you, have coffee with you, you're the best thing since sliced bread... yet, when chatting to other fems in the area you find out they are saying the same to them! so don't feel bad don't take it or make it too personal, some guys will say anything to get a shag hahah! (not all guys... no offence meant etc. ) |
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"I have issues saying no, Is honesty the best policy or should you make an excuse? thoughts ....."
Just a thought but your saying here you don't like to say no and lots of men will be reading it won't they. So aren't you going to get even more messages asking to meet and have even more problems saying no? |
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"I have issues saying no, Is honesty the best policy or should you make an excuse? thoughts .....
Just a thought but your saying here you don't like to say no and lots of men will be reading it won't they. So aren't you going to get even more messages asking to meet and have even more problems saying no? "
its more a face to face thing. I am not saying that I will fuck anyone,just to get out of hurting someons feelings. BUT i find it difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"they only wanna see you, have coffee with you
Yeh, but some want to get into your knickers"   "
I meant only as in exclusivity... see only you, meet only you... sorry didn't make myself clear. And yes they do mainly wanna get in your knickers! (only yours--yea right) |
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over a year ago
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"ohhh I don't have trouble on here its more in person.
Im exactly the same hun............I get Rob to do it while I run away "
lol ahabs would enjoy it tooo much |
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It depends if being economical with the truth and a little white lie is going to hurt or not.
I am not very good with fibbing, and have been known to be brutally honest.
People know where they stand with me, and when they ask me for advice/opinion, they know I'll give it to them straight without beating around the bush.
So IMHO, it is better to be honest, as I don't have to remember the little white lies I have told!   |
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I just got carried away with the thought of your knickers 