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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

mr and I just received a msg from a male fabber who was curious about a meet with us, I naturally had a look at his profile to see what he was about... He wrote that he was a married man and his wife didn't no of the account. This isn't my idea of heaven so politely said no thanks and wished him happy swinging, within seconds he had blocked us. i think this is quite rude for nothing as I was polite, it's not like I was going to track down his wife ffs!!

Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it might be he blocked you so he doesnt send you any more mail or keep perving at your pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A lot do this so they don't contact you again. I don't see it as a problem. You said no so there was little need for a reply from him .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're not interested in him why are you bothered?...

He had his reasons move on.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple over a year ago

midlands

"it might be he blocked you so he doesnt send you any more mail or keep perving at your pics"

Yep, perfectly reasonable

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

Blocking is a site tool which not only stops you being able to see each other's profiles and updates but also removes you from the results of any searches.

Perhaps he was just ensuring that he won't be tempted/sidetracked/distracted by your profile and mail you again mistakenly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if your not interested in him would would you care if he's blocked you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People often use the block function as a filter no need to be offended

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A lot do this so they don't contact you again. I don't see it as a problem. You said no so there was little need for a reply from him ."

I do this if someone i contact is not interested or if i am contacted in same way as it reduces chance of another message being sent at a later date.

In addition i always use the private note section too as back up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Plenty of peeps playing away on here.

If you said no thanks. Job done!

Get used to it. People block on here for the stupidest reasons. But it's THIER choice.

He probably worried you'll try to find out who he is and snitch on him!? Lol out loud. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"A lot do this so they don't contact you again. I don't see it as a problem. You said no so there was little need for a reply from him ."

I didn't need a reply I just blocking us was a littles extreme I had no intention of blocking him because of his situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Plenty of peeps playing away on here.

If you said no thanks. Job done!

Get used to it. People block on here for the stupidest reasons. But it's THIER choice.

He probably worried you'll try to find out who he is and snitch on him!? Lol out loud. X

LOL!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm not offended guys! Just thought it was a bit extreme that's all

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you're not interested in him why are you bothered?...

He had his reasons move on.

Lol there wasn't any moving on to do he approached us

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I'm not offended guys! Just thought it was a bit extreme that's all

Apparently not on here - people use blocking as an everyday tool to manage their contacts, not as a last resort, as I would normally do.

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

People don't just block because they are offended or paranoid or have their nose put out of joint. As already said it's simply one of the site tools.

You really shouldn't think it an insult or rude or a comment on you personally.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't let it put you off Single guys there are some genuine good guys out there who are not rude .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Don't let it put you off Single guys there are some genuine good guys out there who are not rude .

Not at all, it's only one guy not a reflection on all Men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A lot do this so they don't contact you again. I don't see it as a problem. You said no so there was little need for a reply from him .

I didn't need a reply I just blocking us was a littles extreme I had no intention of blocking him because of his situation

He simply blocked you to ensure he didn't contact you again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People don't just block because they are offended or paranoid or have their nose put out of joint. As already said it's simply one of the site tools.

You really shouldn't think it an insult or rude or a comment on you personally."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not offended guys! Just thought it was a bit extreme that's all

Apparently not on here - people use blocking as an everyday tool to manage their contacts, not as a last resort, as I would normally do."

Yes I get that! Was just voicing my thoughts as usually people tend to just not reply bk instead of choosing to block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if youre not offended and not bothered, he has blocked you, then its all good, , normally ppl say about others getting nasty when they have been told no thanks, , atleast he has just

moved on with little fuss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think yourself lucky you didn't get a nasty message then blocked before you could reply. It's happened to me not just exclusive to couples and females.

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

"if youre not offended and not bothered, he has blocked you, then its all good, , normally ppl say about others getting nasty when they have been told no thanks, , atleast he has just moved on with little fuss"

And he's ensuring he doesn't accidentally pester people whose preferences he doesn't match.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're not interested in him why are you bothered?...

He had his reasons move on.

Lol there wasn't any moving on to do he approached us

Fair point.

If you think that's bad...

I got sent a friend request.

I replied "I'm sorry I don't add random people, I only add those I actually know/chatting to"

She blocked me.

don't sweat it, it's just fab. It's just the way it goes sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only use the block if the other person confirms theyvwont ever meet me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only use the block if the other person confirms theyvwont ever meet me"

haha how does that work?

Man: "will you meet me"

Her: "Nope!"

Man: "Are you sure?"

Her: "Positive!"

Man: "Could you just confirm that please?"

Her: "Right Fuck off!"

Man: "You're blocked!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" mr and I just received a msg from a male fabber who was curious about a meet with us, I naturally had a look at his profile to see what he was about... He wrote that he was a married man and his wife didn't no of the account. This isn't my idea of heaven so politely said no thanks and wished him happy swinging, within seconds he had blocked us. i think this is quite rude for nothing as I was polite, it's not like I was going to track down his wife ffs!!

Mrs xx "

If your not interested, why are you bothered? I would say at a guess 8 out of 10 men on here will have a wife that doesn't know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He did the right thing, he asked, you said no, game over. it keeps his home page tidy and takes you out of the game.

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By *isa 59Woman over a year ago

Newcastle

"Blocking is a site tool which not only stops you being able to see each other's profiles and updates but also removes you from the results of any searches.

Perhaps he was just ensuring that he won't be tempted/sidetracked/distracted by your profile and mail you again mistakenly."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it might be he blocked you so he doesnt send you any more mail or keep perving at your pics

Yep, perfectly reasonable "

Like the above, but possibly also just to make a point that he's severing ties with people who aren't interested?! It can come across as immature, but then so can cheating on your wife with internet peeps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why if you're not into meeting him do it worry you ??????????????? people block here for nothing a lot of the time its just fills there time on fab and makes them feel better if people will not meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you know he blocked you. You obviously must have tried to click on his profile again, why do that if you had said no.

I think you are aghast that a single guy dared to block first. If you weren't bothered you wouldn't have started this thread.

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

it makes sense to me ..it stops him from bothering you again if he forgets he has previously contacted you

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By *empting Devil.Woman over a year ago

Sheffield

"How do you know he blocked you. You obviously must have tried to click on his profile again, why do that if you had said no.

I think you are aghast that a single guy dared to block first. If you weren't bothered you wouldn't have started this thread. "

And if a single guy had started this thread complaining that a couple who turned him down had blocked him he would be chastised for whinging and asked why he went back for another peep - was it to perv at pics?..

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?"

It isn't a discussion about an individual, its a discussion about peoples actions, perfectly harmless, but enlightening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only use the block if the other person confirms theyvwont ever meet me

haha how does that work?

Man: "will you meet me"

Her: "Nope!"

Man: "Are you sure?"

Her: "Positive!"

Man: "Could you just confirm that please?"

Her: "Right Fuck off!"

Man: "You're blocked!"

Hahaha

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?

It isn't a discussion about an individual, its a discussion about peoples actions, perfectly harmless, but enlightening."

It specifically mentions a message from and the actions of a male fabber.

That's a specific member of the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How do you know he blocked you. You obviously must have tried to click on his profile again, why do that if you had said no.

I think you are aghast that a single guy dared to block first. If you weren't bothered you wouldn't have started this thread. "

Actually he's not the first to block us nor will he be the last I'm sure! I was just simply asking for ppls opinions on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?

It isn't a discussion about an individual, its a discussion about peoples actions, perfectly harmless, but enlightening."

Thank you, It was intended to be harmless.. If I wanted to be nasty and direct I would have just wrote the mans name instead of saying male fabber

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?

It isn't a discussion about an individual, its a discussion about peoples actions, perfectly harmless, but enlightening.

It specifically mentions a message from and the actions of a male fabber.

That's a specific member of the site."

it is one of what could be many thousands, nothing specific like a name

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs xx

If your not interested, why are you bothered? I would say at a guess 8 out of 10 men on here will have a wife that doesn't know"

Believe it or not some women are on here without the other half knowing

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By *udistnorthantsMan over a year ago

Desborough

he did it probably to stop him being tempted again , like the others have said, at least you didn't get a snotty message from him

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I'm not offended guys! Just thought it was a bit extreme that's all

its a facility of the site..

hardly extreme when folks use it..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh dear oh dear

A single guy decides to block you so that he doesn't contact you again and waste his time and yours!

That's pretty normal for this site, and the block button is a useful tool for anyone to use in whatever way they want.

We wouldn't see it as rude at all!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Oh dear oh dear

A single guy decides to block you so that he doesn't contact you again and waste his time and yours!

That's pretty normal for this site, and the block button is a useful tool for anyone to use in whatever way they want.

We wouldn't see it as rude at all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?

It isn't a discussion about an individual, its a discussion about peoples actions, perfectly harmless, but enlightening.

That's a specific member of the site."

Specific in that I said it was a male, maybe you would of preferred me to say "fabber

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh dear oh dear

A single guy decides to block you so that he doesn't contact you again and waste his time and yours!

That's pretty normal for this site, and the block button is a useful tool for anyone to use in whatever way they want.

We wouldn't see it as rude at all!

It's not like it ruined my day, gosh... was just putting it out there that it happened that's all.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?

It isn't a discussion about an individual, its a discussion about peoples actions, perfectly harmless, but enlightening.

Thank you, It was intended to be harmless.. If I wanted to be nasty and direct I would have just wrote the mans name instead of saying male fabber "

that wouldn't be a good idea tbh..

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"I didn't think the rules permitted discussing other members like this, even if they're not named?

It isn't a discussion about an individual, its a discussion about peoples actions, perfectly harmless, but enlightening."

To be fair, it is about another member as mentioned in the first post.

If the question was "is it normal to block people once they have been rejected" then that would have been fine.

To the OP....the site gives us all the tools to use if we wish, he used them.

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