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a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I started meeting guys, it was a new experience, I had 3 meets and felt, empty, lonely and cold afterwards, so much so I decided not to meet again, and stay single and alone. ( which I have been for past 35 yrs)
I discovered 2 things,
1) by seeing meets as being for my own gratification. rather than the guy using me, my mind set changed and I know see meets as for my pleasure first.
2) Most of the guys who want to meet me seem to be in happy straight relationships or marriage, and mostly want to empty their balls.
as soon as they do this a wave of guilt seems to come over them and they get dressed, pretty quickly and leave.
My new mind set means, I always cum first, so never feel cheated.
Works for me.  |
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"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty "
Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump. |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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I have to say many years ago i gave up on one night stands because i walked away feeling empty.
Swinging however so far hasn't been like that. I've always messaged the couples after and said me and himself have had a lovely time etc. Vice versa they have also done the same and mentioned doing it again.
No emptiness, sorted. But as someone said, we're on here to have sex not meet life partners. It's the way you look at it i think
Julie xx |
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"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty
Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on what you discussed in the meet? Did u hint you wanted a fbw or it was just fun that night? Did he leave feedback on here? Maybe he did not enjoy it as much as yourself? This happens to guys so why not girls? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I gave in to temptation last week and let 2 guys (not at the same time!) come round for a shag. Both had been after a meet for a while. It reaffirmed my beleif that 'cum and go' meets are not for me. |
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"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep your chin up. Some will message you back whilst others won't. Just have to have that expectation and think the worst i suppose.
..you never know what could happen. Hopefully this empty feeling will soon fade away. It's just a temporary feeling.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite surprised some people on here would feel empty for not getting a message after a meet, i see all meets as potential one off's, some will wants to meet you again so wont but we all know that from the start |
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"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty "
Only ever felt empty after a couple of social meets, and then I did not connect with the Ladies, and never saw them again, which was fine by me. but I always send a message to whoever I meet, saying thanks ect
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get that feeling on the way home after a meet. I often wondered if it was worth it. After changing my thoughts on things. I would only meet if i/we had that connection. Empty fucks are or can be soul destroying. Selfworth is very important.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.
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that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed! |
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"I have to say many years ago i gave up on one night stands because i walked away feeling empty.
Swinging however so far hasn't been like that. I've always messaged the couples after and said me and himself have had a lovely time etc. Vice versa they have also done the same and mentioned doing it again.
No emptiness, sorted. But as someone said, we're on here to have sex not meet life partners. It's the way you look at it i think
Julie xx"
Would you say that's because you're swinging as a couple? Perhaps the one night stands as a single person were very different.
I think couples have each other as kind of 'moral support'. With single people it's totally different, there's no-one to share it with. |
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"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.
that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!"
That is totally crap. No wonder you felt bad after. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.
that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!"
i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room |
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"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.
that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!
i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room "
That would only bother me if my purse had gone too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never feel empty after meets,I feel satisfied,I'm on here for myself,I always message peop saying Thankyou etc majority of the time I get replies,remeets etc I find it polite
Rarely I get people that I never hear from again,I don'tget paranoid abt it,if I felt empty after meets I would feel why am I doing this because that takes the fun out of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i can kind of understand where ur coming from
when you think about it, it is mostly about sexual gratification. whats left after that?
depends what ur going home too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My second or third time on the site now, but always send a message after a meet even its just a social meet to say thanks, and for me its nots just about the sex its getting to know someone too. |
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"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.
that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!
i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room
That would only bother me if my purse had gone too."
Ok I lol'ed on that one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I was a young man I had countless one night stands. No mobiles or internet in them days and very rarely exchanged landline numbers.
It's a mutual thing and if someone felt empty after one off encounters,they best not sleep around then.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"When I was a young man I had countless one night stands. No mobiles or internet in them days and very rarely exchanged landline numbers.
It's a mutual thing and if someone felt empty after one off encounters,they best not sleep around then.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"why is the onus on the guy to contact you? why don't you message them saying thanks for a good time or ask if he got home safe?"
That's what I do. If they don't reply then I assume they don't feel the need or didn't have a good time.
I sometimes feel frustrated but that's all.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am putting on my coat as I hit the vinegar stroke.
that practiacally happened to me last week! Went to the loo after the deed came back and he was dressed, out the door before I was fully dressed!
i had it once too, in a hotel, i went in the shower after and came out to a empty room
That would only bother me if my purse had gone too."
I've always contacted people afterwards to show appreciation, even if I don't plan on meeting again.
Hardest one I've had is writing a verification, after being asked for one, from a meet I didn't particularly enjoy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i wouldnt worry if they got home safely, i dont even know them.
the last couple of men i met said thanks for seeing me, which was nice.
i dont mind if they dont contact me afterwards, they are thinking of meeting the next person, like everyone else is on here.
i used to meet men for sex when i was a teenager and didnt know their name most of the time. i only heard from one once months after i had seen him but i had seen him twice before that, the others were one night stands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this guy isnt on this site but another one
and i have met him several times as ive known him nearly a year.
so a thanks for a good time would have been nice x"
To be fair sounds like the least he could do, and if you've known him a year I'd guess its out of character too.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty
Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump."
And you had the nerve to criticize something I said the other day! |
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"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty "
As Peter Kay woulr say "give me 3 rings when you get home". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this guy isnt on this site but another one
and i have met him several times as ive known him nearly a year.
so a thanks for a good time would have been nice x"
That usually means they are getting bored with you or taking you for granted, or he had other things on his mind. if i was you i would concentrate on other men. it can get a bit boring having sex with the same person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this guy isnt on this site but another one
and i have met him several times as ive known him nearly a year.
so a thanks for a good time would have been nice x"
Does he usually send a message after you have met? |
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"he came over weds night before i went on holiday and text me on the thurs .
i know he spends sunday with his son but as he had logged onto the site a quick message would be nice x"
Doesn't have to message you every time he logs on then? Is that part of the agreement if you meet people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lot are here for no strings sex . They wish nothing more than to shag and go .......And move to the next . Its a sex sport to some and feelings do not come into it at all, Not even friends, some don't even have to like you to have sex. So would never wish to chat after . Its cold sex with no feeling .. just getting of on the high of sex but can be all over so soon and you're left feeling alsorts at times after the meet .. xx |
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Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.
Also i always make sure the other party is ready for me to leave afterward. Its nice to have a cuppa or a coffee afterward and just chat for a few minutes. You tend to get remembered or invited back. |
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"Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.
Also i always make sure the other party is ready for me to leave afterward. Its nice to have a cuppa or a coffee afterward and just chat for a few minutes. You tend to get remembered or invited back."
finally someone gets my point a quick message to say thanks for last night would be common curteosy even a quick one line ,anyway chatted to him yesterday online and he enjoyed his eve with me |
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"Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.
Also i always make sure the other party is ready for me to leave afterward. Its nice to have a cuppa or a coffee afterward and just chat for a few minutes. You tend to get remembered or invited back.
finally someone gets my point a quick message to say thanks for last night would be common curteosy even a quick one line ,anyway chatted to him yesterday online and he enjoyed his eve with me "
common courtesy not everyone will ..Here you get a real mix of people and have to take the good with bad. Some wish to hide up for a time after no matter how good as don't wish to know... xx |
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"Its a common curteosy to send a thank you message or text after a great meet, i always make sure its the first thing i do, ive even done it from the car after ive taken her home again.
Also i always make sure the other party is ready for me to leave afterward. Its nice to have a cuppa or a coffee afterward and just chat for a few minutes. You tend to get remembered or invited back."
Maybe he didn't think it was a great meet then? |
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"he came over weds night before i went on holiday and text me on the thurs ."
You have just said he text you the next day so I cant see what the issue is? |
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"a few weeks ago a guy put up a thread about having some lovely meets but feeling empty afterwards ,he got lots of replies to this including one from myself i guess another thing that makes you feel empty is having a meet and the person not contacting you afterwards to say either a. they got home safely or b. they had a good time ,that makes you feel empty
Nope........ but I do enjoy the empty feeling after a good healthy dump."
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"no the text was after a previous meet.anyway have chatted online and he enjoyed saturday .so at least he still talking to me x"
even if he didn't he has done nothing wrong....he has used the site how he wants to...what i do disagree with is if people promise the other person the world..however i always live by promises are comfort to a fool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Re-reading this,
Not sure how I would feel if I had met somebody and then found that they felt a need to publicly discuss my behaviour in these forums.
I think I would probably block them, seems to me that it is bad mannered and shows of insecurities to a whole new level.
Perhaps you are in the wrong game and need a "dating" site rather than a swinging site. After all, what does No Strings Attached actually mean to you? - Sorry I don't shag any of the cast of Thunderbirds!! (they were string puppets for you youngsters) |
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when i had gangbangs it was just cold sex. as far as one to ones go dont think ive had any thank havent said thankyou or me say thank you. may have spoken for a while then the messages just fade out. but if your meeting someone you know your going to get all the build up messages beforehand its part of the process you cant expect them to be like that afterwards |
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"no the text was after a previous meet.anyway have chatted online and he enjoyed saturday .so at least he still talking to me x
even if he didn't he has done nothing wrong....he has used the site how he wants to...what i do disagree with is if people promise the other person the world..however i always live by promises are comfort to a fool. "
I've just used the site how I like to, and now my balls feel empty! |
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i aint a fool and not talking about anyone on here my point was after the recent thread where a lot of people expressed the same thoughts about feeling empty a quick thank you doesnt go amiss ,no need to have a go at me . |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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We don't feel empty after a meet if someone didn't mail to say they enjoyed it.... but I don't think there is anything wrong with sending a mail to each other after you have had a meet even if we don't mail each other until the next meet.
We always mail to say thanks for the meet but we wouldn't get wound up if they don't answer back straight away. |
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