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"Are you an independant woman ? Do you need a man in your life to give it some worth or are you happy in the fact that you provide for yourself ? I have always been independant, possibly to the extreme. Never NEEDED a man to provide for me in anyway. Worked hard and asked no man for anything. Having male company is entirely different. its nice on occasions but wouldnt want one here permenantly. My friends on the other hand seek this knight in shining armour to come and rescue them, They can give up work and stay home while he brings in the bacon. (how sad) I would be bored shiteless , not that i would ever let that happen. Trouble is....... You can become quite selfish in whats yours.... Thats the only down side i can see to bieng independant. what are your thoughts on this ??? " i have lots of thoughts on this.......i dont NEED a man to feel whole, but its nice when a knight finds me......not aiming this at you peaches but in my opinion...and it is just that.... the women that say NOOOOOOOOOOOOO i am independant i dont need a man, spend their lifes looking for one | |||
"Are you an independant woman ? Do you need a man in your life to give it some worth or are you happy in the fact that you provide for yourself ? I have always been independant, possibly to the extreme. Never NEEDED a man to provide for me in anyway. Worked hard and asked no man for anything. Having male company is entirely different. its nice on occasions but wouldnt want one here permenantly. My friends on the other hand seek this knight in shining armour to come and rescue them, They can give up work and stay home while he brings in the bacon. (how sad) I would be bored shiteless , not that i would ever let that happen. Trouble is....... You can become quite selfish in whats yours.... Thats the only down side i can see to bieng independant. what are your thoughts on this ??? " we think too alike!! i couldnt have worded that any better myself! apparently im too independant if there can be such a thing  xx | |||
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I have always worked and been financially independent all my life.
I don't expect a man to provide for me, never have and never will.
It is nice to earn my own money and spend it as I see fit.
Sharing a life with another person does not neccessarily mean loosing one's identity or independence.
I am very set in my own ways, having been on my own for a while. 
Now, I need to remember to be more considerate when planning/doing things etc...  | |||
"Are you an independant woman ? Do you need a man in your life to give it some worth or are you happy in the fact that you provide for yourself ? I have always been independant, possibly to the extreme. Never NEEDED a man to provide for me in anyway. Worked hard and asked no man for anything. Having male company is entirely different. its nice on occasions but wouldnt want one here permenantly. My friends on the other hand seek this knight in shining armour to come and rescue them, They can give up work and stay home while he brings in the bacon. (how sad) I would be bored shiteless , not that i would ever let that happen. Trouble is....... You can become quite selfish in whats yours.... Thats the only down side i can see to bieng independant. what are your thoughts on this ??? we think too alike!! i couldnt have worded that any better myself! apparently im too independant if there can be such a thing xx"Alot of men hate independant women. I have many guys over the years say as such.. "oh you need a man in your life etc" Well i have man in my life now. We are happy in our arrangement and i loves him to bits but am NOT in love with him. I see women who every few mths have a different fella and suddenly its all hearts and flowers ... Then it goes pearshaped and onto the next. I wouldnt want that.  | |||
"I NEED no man but the occasional shag is acceptable. "Lmao laine. my thoughts exactly | |||
"Are you an independant woman ? Do you need a man in your life to give it some worth or are you happy in the fact that you provide for yourself ? I have always been independant, possibly to the extreme. Never NEEDED a man to provide for me in anyway. Worked hard and asked no man for anything. Having male company is entirely different. its nice on occasions but wouldnt want one here permenantly. My friends on the other hand seek this knight in shining armour to come and rescue them, They can give up work and stay home while he brings in the bacon. (how sad) I would be bored shiteless , not that i would ever let that happen. Trouble is....... You can become quite selfish in whats yours.... Thats the only down side i can see to bieng independant. what are your thoughts on this ??? we think too alike!! i couldnt have worded that any better myself! apparently im too independant if there can be such a thing xx
Alot of men hate independant women.
I have many guys over the years say as such..
"oh you need a man in your life etc"
Well i have man in my life now.
We are happy in our arrangement and i loves him to bits but am NOT in love with him.
I see women who every few mths have a different fella and suddenly its all hearts and flowers ...
Then it goes pearshaped and onto the next.
I wouldnt want that. "i have never met a man who hates an independant women, in my experience , the men i know dislike feminazis who have a blatent disregard for a mans masculinity, and try to de bollock em at every opportunity | |||
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" the women that say NOOOOOOOOOOOOO i am independant i dont need a man, spend their lifes looking for one " Or sitting in a house that smells of wee, surrounded by cats.
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" the women that say NOOOOOOOOOOOOO i am independant i dont need a man, spend their lifes looking for one Or sitting in a house that smells of wee, surrounded by cats.
(Gets tin hat on and heads for the bunker....)"eh wolfy!!! nowt wrong with being surrounded by pussy ya know | |||
" the women that say NOOOOOOOOOOOOO i am independant i dont need a man, spend their lifes looking for one Or sitting in a house that smells of wee, surrounded by cats.
(Gets tin hat on and heads for the bunker....)". Not miles away from the truth for some I guess!
It's true that lightning can hit you right between the eyes when you are not looking! | |||
"I find those who insist they do not need a man to be the exact opposite - they just have not found the right person to share their live with! "oi u just cause your loved up dont drag the rest of us into it lol!!! i made the choice not to have a man for a wide variety of reasons mostly to give stability to kiddo and the fact i am way too selfish and independant! i dont need a man i dont feel the urge to be anyones other half im fine the way i am and happy that way! x | |||
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"oi u just cause your loved up dont drag the rest of us into it lol!!! " . Sorry! | |||
"I find those who insist they do not need a man to be the exact opposite - they just have not found the right person to share their live with! "On the contrary, I did find that person and lost him, no-one will ever be my other half again. xxxxx | |||
"I find those who insist they do not need a man to be the exact opposite - they just have not found the right person to share their live with!
On the contrary, I did find that person and lost him, no-one will ever be my other half again. xxxxx". Never say never! I am a secret hopeless romantic, and believe there is someone for everyone! | |||
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"I find those who insist they do not need a man to be the exact opposite - they just have not found the right person to share their live with!
On the contrary, I did find that person and lost him, no-one will ever be my other half again. xxxxx"Same here . and its been a while since i wore rose coloured specs when it came to looking at men. lmao I dont need a man to be a whole... I have a good life, bills paid , good friends , great holidays etcand male company when i want it.
What more could a gal need | |||
"I find those who insist they do not need a man to be the exact opposite - they just have not found the right person to share their live with!
On the contrary, I did find that person and lost him, no-one will ever be my other half again. xxxxx
Same here .
and its been a while since i wore rose coloured specs when it came to looking at men. lmao
I dont need a man to be a whole...
I have a good life, bills paid , good friends , great holidays etcand male company when i want it.
What more could a gal need "a pair of 7 " heeled peep toe shoes in fuckme red????? | |||
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"The gooeyness and the giddiness one feels when he/she has a kindered spirit to share his/her life with? I'll stop now before laine and femme et al slap me! "line shall i go first!!! lmao xx | |||
"I find those who insist they do not need a man to be the exact opposite - they just have not found the right person to share their live with!
On the contrary, I did find that person and lost him, no-one will ever be my other half again. xxxxx
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Never say never!
I am a secret hopeless romantic, and believe there is someone for everyone! "I'm a romantic loyal loving open person, I love my family and friends with a passion, but can't give it to any one man ever again. So I romance with the one I am with for the time I am with him...... then go home in the morning lol xxxx | |||
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"oh god forgive me but am about to go on a germaine greer type rant here if i offend anyone im really sorry!!! i rely on me and me only at a very early age apparently the signs were there when my granny remarked we wont need a bottom drawer for that one!! i have worked 4 jobs at a time whilst single handly raising a child with no financial support from the father plus havin my own car and home and everythin that comes with that! i rely on no man and never will! yes i have sexual needs so do need a man occasionaly! same as i may be fat but i still eat food!!! dating isnt really for me either as i said when i had child there would be no man on a relationship basis again my choice! my child has never met any of my swingin buddies and never will as far as im concerned seperate life! for every ying there is a yang if they choose to be but its not for me! im away to burn a bra!! ( old grey ones i need some new ones he he!! ) !! "thats your perogative honey bunny, im sure mr right will find you soon lmao | |||
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"oh god forgive me but am about to go on a germaine greer type rant here if i offend anyone im really sorry!!! i rely on me and me only at a very early age apparently the signs were there when my granny remarked we wont need a bottom drawer for that one!! i have worked 4 jobs at a time whilst single handly raising a child with no financial support from the father plus havin my own car and home and everythin that comes with that! i rely on no man and never will! yes i have sexual needs so do need a man occasionaly! same as i may be fat but i still eat food!!! dating isnt really for me either as i said when i had child there would be no man on a relationship basis again my choice! my child has never met any of my swingin buddies and never will as far as im concerned seperate life! for every ying there is a yang if they choose to be but its not for me! im away to burn a bra!! ( old grey ones i need some new ones he he!! ) !! thats your perogative honey bunny, im sure mr right will find you soon lmao "oi u drop the curses and jinx's !!
ps im the ayrshire hide n seek champion he he! and can run in heels!!xx | |||
"oh god forgive me but am about to go on a germaine greer type rant here if i offend anyone im really sorry!!! i rely on me and me only at a very early age apparently the signs were there when my granny remarked we wont need a bottom drawer for that one!! i have worked 4 jobs at a time whilst single handly raising a child with no financial support from the father plus havin my own car and home and everythin that comes with that! i rely on no man and never will! yes i have sexual needs so do need a man occasionaly! same as i may be fat but i still eat food!!! dating isnt really for me either as i said when i had child there would be no man on a relationship basis again my choice! my child has never met any of my swingin buddies and never will as far as im concerned seperate life! for every ying there is a yang if they choose to be but its not for me! im away to burn a bra!! ( old grey ones i need some new ones he he!! ) !! thats your perogative honey bunny, im sure mr right will find you soon lmao
oi u drop the curses and jinx's !!
ps im the ayrshire hide n seek champion he he! and can run in heels!!xx "mwah ya, ya greeralike you ...... | |||
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"p.s .... it's independent ". Just checked and confirmed I spelt it right in my profile, phew!!! | |||
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Just checked and confirmed I spelt it right in my profile, phew!!! "  | |||
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Been there and got the bloody tea shirt and cant be doing with it again.,
Im happy with my lot and have a pleasurable time with those i choose .
Im happier now than then ....... | |||
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"And well said as well. what annoys me is the opinion that women like myself are often not believed when we say its not what we want. All that mushiness and sparkly staryeyed stuff makes me cringe. That we are jealous of those who believe "they" have it. Well if thats what "they" want then all well and good but please believe...it aint what i want
Been there and got the bloody tea shirt and cant be doing with it again.,
Im happy with my lot and have a pleasurable time with those i choose .
Im happier now than then ....... "now i never said i didnt believe those women who say its not what they want, but i know a LOT of women and the first to fall for a guy are usually those who say no man will ever get me, i dont need a man etc.....my experiences only, everyone has freedome of choice in what they choose to do , i KNOW that some women say one thing and secretly want another, i have mates that do it all the bloody time!!!! If you dont want a man peaches and you other girls, then fine, if your happy then fine, but, yep there is a but lol, i bet ones of you lot is hooked up within the year.....lol | |||
"And well said as well. what annoys me is the opinion that women like myself are often not believed when we say its not what we want. All that mushiness and sparkly staryeyed stuff makes me cringe. That we are jealous of those who believe "they" have it. Well if thats what "they" want then all well and good but please believe...it aint what i want
Been there and got the bloody tea shirt and cant be doing with it again.,
Im happy with my lot and have a pleasurable time with those i choose .
Im happier now than then ....... now i never said i didnt believe those women who say its not what they want, but i know a LOT of women and the first to fall for a guy are usually those who say no man will ever get me, i dont need a man etc.....my experiences only, everyone has freedome of choice in what they choose to do , i KNOW that some women say one thing and secretly want another, i have mates that do it all the bloody time!!!!
If you dont want a man peaches and you other girls, then fine, if your happy then fine, but, yep there is a but lol, i bet ones of you lot is hooked up within the year.....lol "Pmsl...... 10p says it aint me | |||
"And well said as well. what annoys me is the opinion that women like myself are often not believed when we say its not what we want. All that mushiness and sparkly staryeyed stuff makes me cringe. That we are jealous of those who believe "they" have it. Well if thats what "they" want then all well and good but please believe...it aint what i want
Been there and got the bloody tea shirt and cant be doing with it again.,
Im happy with my lot and have a pleasurable time with those i choose .
Im happier now than then ....... now i never said i didnt believe those women who say its not what they want, but i know a LOT of women and the first to fall for a guy are usually those who say no man will ever get me, i dont need a man etc.....my experiences only, everyone has freedome of choice in what they choose to do , i KNOW that some women say one thing and secretly want another, i have mates that do it all the bloody time!!!!
If you dont want a man peaches and you other girls, then fine, if your happy then fine, but, yep there is a but lol, i bet ones of you lot is hooked up within the year.....lol
Pmsl......
10p says it aint me "only ten pence.......i rest my case | |||
"A....... now i never said i didnt believe those women who say its not what they want, but i know a LOT of women and the first to fall for a guy are usually those who say no man will ever get me, i dont need a man etc.....my experiences only, everyone has freedome of choice in what they choose to do , i KNOW that some women say one thing and secretly want another, i have mates that do it all the bloody time!!!!
If you dont want a man peaches and you other girls, then fine, if your happy then fine, but, yep there is a but lol, i bet ones of you lot is hooked up within the year.....lol "i will bet you a flea infested camel with short legs that cant scratch that i WONT be,!!! You on???? hehehehe xxxxx | |||
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"A....... now i never said i didnt believe those women who say its not what they want, but i know a LOT of women and the first to fall for a guy are usually those who say no man will ever get me, i dont need a man etc.....my experiences only, everyone has freedome of choice in what they choose to do , i KNOW that some women say one thing and secretly want another, i have mates that do it all the bloody time!!!!
If you dont want a man peaches and you other girls, then fine, if your happy then fine, but, yep there is a but lol, i bet ones of you lot is hooked up within the year.....lol
i will bet you a flea infested camel with short legs that cant scratch that i WONT be,!!!
You on????
hehehehe xxxxx"oh yes madam you toooooo...........specially with ya new hair.....oh yes | |||
" i will bet you a flea infested camel with short legs that cant scratch that i WONT be,!!! You on???? hehehehe xxxxxoh yes madam you toooooo...........specially with ya new hair.....oh yes "I am trying to upload said hair!!!! Bloody shite puter and shite broadpants!!!! Grrrr New avatar on way - at some point soon, lol | |||
" i will bet you a flea infested camel with short legs that cant scratch that i WONT be,!!! You on???? hehehehe xxxxxoh yes madam you toooooo...........specially with ya new hair.....oh yes
I am trying to upload said hair!!!!
Bloody shite puter and shite broadpants!!!!
Grrrr
New avatar on way - at some point soon, lol"meow baby xxx | |||
" I am trying to upload said hair!!!! Bloody shite puter and shite broadpants!!!! Grrrr New avatar on way - at some point soon, lolmeow baby xxx "still never as sexy as you oh shoe queen sexy bitch of heaven!!!! xxxx | |||
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"Anyways.... They cant get me , im part of the union "go on im asking what union??? | |||
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"Ermmmmmmm The "Idontneedamanceptforshagging" union "so u DO need a man then!!!! | |||
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"Only for shagging and you can get lots on here for free "but you do HAVE A NEED!!!! for the male of the species | |||
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"tut........ only when me batteries are flat "still a NEED, pice of plastic is NO substitute for a real man and you know it peaches, now come on fess up Femmefatale is right lol | |||
"still a NEED, pice of plastic is NO substitute for a real man and you know it peaches, now come on fess up Femmefatale is right lol" . Eh, yup! I agree! | |||
"tut........ only when me batteries are flat still a NEED, pice of plastic is NO substitute for a real man and you know it peaches, now come on fess up Femmefatale is right lol"I may need one on occasions but that dont mean i want one permenantly and aint gonna go all mushy and starry eyed over one. If i do i will want shooting | |||
"tut........ only when me batteries are flat still a NEED, pice of plastic is NO substitute for a real man and you know it peaches, now come on fess up Femmefatale is right lol
I may need one on occasions but that dont mean i want one permenantly and aint gonna go all mushy and starry eyed over one.
If i do i will want shooting "il get me gun ready then lmao xx | |||
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"Well if i do...i will have lost me mind totally. lmao so be my guest. "the right man would do ya the world of good | |||
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No such thing ya know. its a figment of the imagination of lonely ladies . 
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As long as your happy tho what difference does it make if you have someone to keep you warm at night - just do what I do turn up the heating
Shona
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Pure indulgence | |||
"I used to think I would never find a someone special cos who would want a fat teenaged single mother?? I needed no one to complete my life. I learnt very early on to rely on no one but myself. Then I went back to work found my self esteam (or however its spelt!! lol) learnt to like myself and what happened I met Steven. I dont NEED him I WANT him huge giant difference needy can cause needyness (is that even a word??) but want can lead to love imo I also have friends who validate their exsistance by always having a guy on their arm - cos they dont know how to be alone, to my way of thinking if you cant be happy alone and know what you want then you cant ever be truely happy. HUGE difference between alone and lonely tho cos you can be lonely in a room full of people. Often I have found lust or love when I least expected it and almost always when I wasnt looking for it, I tripped right over it
As long as your happy tho what difference does it make if you have someone to keep you warm at night - just do what I do turn up the heating
Shona
x x x "now ya just reminded me why me n u is mates xxx | |||
"Do you know summat.... for me.....the biggest pleasure about living alone is... Having a great big bed to oneself
Pure indulgence "same here, I imported a huge wrought iron one from Paris with girly drapes on it all for little old meee! | |||
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"HUGE difference between alone and lonely tho cos you can be lonely in a room full of people. " . So true! When I am on my own, I am alone, but never lonely! | |||
After reading the replies I realised I was actually agreeing with many of the single ladies - WANT not NEED
HUGE difference to me
I need food water and the love of my children as well as a roof over my head ohh and pain killers
I WANT my hubby I have never nor will I ever need him. Well other than to wash me hair for me
If ya happy why justify it to other people?
They have no right to make you feel like you have to justify why you live alone holiday alone shop alone whatever. its your RIGHT to do what you like with your life.
I found when I was single that the supposedly "happily married" couples were the ones with a problem not me. I then realised they saw me as a threat - if I could do it then I could convince the wife she didnt need the husband or I might steal the husband
I did neither I was happy I wasnt going to tell anyone how to live their life thats their business not mine.
Up til recently I could do anything I set my mind to I did the housework raised the kids paid the bills did the shopping and I also did DIY.
OK now I cant do half that but thats my medical problems I still dont need Steven I could pay someone to do the stuff I cant do. I want him for his body more than cos he can hoover better than me
Shona
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"I posted without reading thru the replies first duh
After reading the replies I realised I was actually agreeing with many of the single ladies - WANT not NEED
HUGE difference to me
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"I posted without reading thru the replies first duh
After reading the replies I realised I was actually agreeing with many of the single ladies - WANT not NEED
HUGE difference to me
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Indeed! "Thats twice you agreed with me - you feeling ok?? I normally spraff rubbish and people ignore me mind you I would to but I have to live with me
Anyway sometimes I do make sense (I think) but it was something said to me when I was very young and I still believe it now.
I am even teaching my daughters not to rely on anyone other than themselves. Yes mum and dad will be there to help but in the end you only have yourself to please and you fuck up you deal with the aftermath - my life lessons
Shona
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"and you fuck up you deal with the aftermath" It's not difficult for others to fook one up, age has no barrier in that department | |||
"Thats twice you agreed with me - you feeling ok?? I normally spraff rubbish and people ignore me mind you I would to but I have to live with me
Anyway sometimes I do make sense (I think) but it was something said to me when I was very young and I still believe it now.
I am even teaching my daughters not to rely on anyone other than themselves. Yes mum and dad will be there to help but in the end you only have yourself to please and you fuck up you deal with the aftermath - my life lessons
Shona
x x x ". Make it 3 times in a roll!!!
Good on you to teach your daughters not to rely on other people!
The main reason why I am so independent is that, I do not want to end up like my mum, who for years had to put up with my dad (he drank a lot until he was told by his doctor to stop or he would die in 6 months in his mid 40s!), because she did not have the means to support herself.
My dad would let her spend whatever she liked without questions. Yet she did not stash anything away through the years.
OK, she is of another generation, and she might have reasons to stand by him other than financial contraints.
I swear I shall never end up like her, having to be dependent on another person.
My parents gave me a good education so that I don't have to, and I am eternally grateful for their selfless act! | |||
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The issue with me is that, I am not as whimpish as Jane, and can do a lot for myself, and don't need Tarzan to rescue me all the time.
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" A lot of men cannot handle a strong independent woman though. "tell me about it | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 28/02/10 09:34:47]" . laine, I hope I have not made you puke over your porridge! | |||
" Can you imagine the furore it would cause if a man posted on here: "Not interested in a relationship, I just want a pussy to fuck, and then she can piss off back to where she came from." He'd be publicly castrated. " 99% of the guys profiles on here all say NSA to me that means one thing, no relationship required just a fuck then I'm off xx | |||
"[Removed by poster at 28/02/10 09:34:47] . laine, I hope I have not made you puke over your porridge! "lol, you enjoy what you have Pearl xxxx | |||
" Can you imagine the furore it would cause if a man posted on here: "Not interested in a relationship, I just want a pussy to fuck, and then she can piss off back to where she came from." He'd be publicly castrated. 99% of the guys profiles on here all say NSA to me that means one thing, no relationship required just a fuck then I'm off xx " . I wonder how many of those gents put NSA as a smoke screen, yet in the hope that they will find a soul mate eventually? | |||
" . I wonder how many of those gents put NSA as a smoke screen, yet in the hope that they will find a soul mate eventually? "I wonder if they are the ones who are attached already lol. I wonder if they are the ones who will pick and choose, yes I'll fuck you NSA no bother, but I wouldn't take you home to meet mum. I wonder if they want a slutty mare for fun but a virgin forever. | |||
"Much as I value my independence, life is grander when I have another person to share it with, and I shan't lie about how good it makes me feel about it! "^^ is what I would consider to be a strong-minded woman. One who values and understands her independence but also wishes to share her life with a special partner and realises just how magical that can be. | |||
" Can you imagine the furore it would cause if a man posted on here: "Not interested in a relationship, I just want a pussy to fuck, and then she can piss off back to where she came from." He'd be publicly castrated. 99% of the guys profiles on here all say NSA to me that means one thing, no relationship required just a fuck then I'm off xx . I wonder how many of those gents put NSA as a smoke screen, yet in the hope that they will find a soul mate eventually? "NSA sex appears to mean different things to men and women. To women it seems to mean 'no relationship required because all men are bastards' but to men it seems to mean 'not looking for love coz I already got one of them'. Is that true? Probably, in some cases but not all. I guess some women and some men are simply too busy for the time and demands a full blown relationship would place on them but if I think it's very easy to differentiate between those types of individuals and the type that have some underlying motive for seeking NSA sex. | |||
"I think it's very sad when women say they only need a man 'when they want some cock'. There's more to him than just his dick and if that's how some women treat men then they can hardly complain when every man they meet realises that there's nothing there for him except a hurried and unfulfulling fuck. Can you imagine the furore it would cause if a man posted on here: "Not interested in a relationship, I just want a pussy to fuck, and then she can piss off back to where she came from." He'd be publicly castrated. If some women feel that men are only useful when they need a good fucking then I think it shows some very serious issues underneath the surface with regards to relationship bulding and they're not as strong-minded and independent as they like people to believe. We all need love in this world and I don't mean the love between a mother/child, owner/favourite pet. We all need someone to share that one thing in life that makes it endurable - and that's life itself. " yawwwn talk for yourself, '' Can you imagine the furore it would cause if a man posted on here: "Not interested in a relationship, I just want a pussy to fuck, and then she can piss off back to where she came from." ;; this is a swinging site not a dating site so why would anyone be posting that they wanted a relationship? not all females are looking for love, NSA means just that, sex nothing more. so stating you only want a man for his cock is fine. when i am looking for more then sex, then my views would change but while i am here wanting NSA sex relationships dont come into it. and yes stating i am just wanting cock does show i have some very serious issues regarding relationships.... i am not bloody looking for one dur!!!! | |||
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"yawwwn talk for yourself," I see your debating skills are back up to speed.
"this is a swinging site not a dating site so why would anyone be posting that they wanted a relationship? not all females are looking for love, NSA means just that, sex nothing more. so stating you only want a man for his cock is fine. when i am looking for more then sex, then my views would change but while i am here wanting NSA sex relationships dont come into it. and yes stating i am just wanting cock does show i have some very serious issues regarding relationships.... i am not bloody looking for one dur!!!! " If only it was that simple. I'm sure many people have got into swinging to have nsa sex and then found themselves falling for someone that they've met. I know it happens as it happened to me. Siren had a downer on men/relationships and got into this lifestyle purely to satisfy a need. She didn't bargain on meeting me though - and vice versa. But we're not unique, it's happened to hundreds of couples whose relationships started off as a bit of fun and nothing more, but they were mentally mature enough to realise what they'd found and ran with it, come what may. To have a carte blanche attitude of: 'I only want a cock, and the rest of him can go fuck himself' shows a deep level of immaturity and you're probably better off NOT inflicting yourself on some poor unsuspecting guy. | |||
"I've been reading all this with interest. I was independent even as a teenager, enjoying my own comany but also loved the company of others. I f I wanted to do something or go somewhere and no one wanted to join me then I would go it alone, I've always been friendly and sociable so have never found it hard to make friends or chat with perfect stangers. When I got married i foind I was more lonely in that relationship than I'd ever been in my life. he had an affair and left and I was forced to be independent again but this time with a 4 year old to consider. I had enjoyed that time and was alone for 11 years (only dated a few times in all those years) I enjoyed meeting and making new friends, spending time with old ones, I travelled more, travelled alone (done that so many times and have always found it a adventure). I had a very full life. I entered into another relation which again didn't last, so after two years was standing on my own two feet again and swore I would never get involved or trust another man every again! I don't think I will ever stop being independent in one respect but as Pearl has said, its always much better to have a special person to share things with but you don't have to stop being independent to do that. As someone who now has little in the way of family and friends who have move away I have to be independent and it is not a shock to the system as its what I've always been used to, I just find as I get older and life and people change around me I prefer company a lot more than I used to, don't think I'm any less independent though because of that." Great post FFF. What you've displayed here only comes through maturity and experience. I'm glad you've found your place in the world where you can be happy when on your own but equally happy if you meet someone special. | |||
" NSA sex appears to mean different things to men and women. To women it seems to mean 'no relationship required because all men are bastards' but to men it seems to mean 'not looking for love coz I already got one of them'. Is that true? " In my case no relationship required because, my last partner was so lovely and so not a bastard that it would be unfair to expect any man to be able to fill his shoes. I HAVE had the love of my life.... there will be no second best for myself or any other man. It's nearly 7 years since I was widowed and I'm sorry my feelings haven't changed.... hence MY being on this site for NSA fun, and my independent outlook on life that I have always had, whether in a relationship or not. xx | |||
" NSA sex appears to mean different things to men and women. To women it seems to mean 'no relationship required because all men are bastards' but to men it seems to mean 'not looking for love coz I already got one of them'. Is that true? In my case no relationship required because, my last partner was so lovely and so not a bastard that it would be unfair to expect any man to be able to fill his shoes. I HAVE had the love of my life.... there will be no second best for myself or any other man. It's nearly 7 years since I was widowed and I'm sorry my feelings haven't changed.... hence MY being on this site for NSA fun, and my independent outlook on life that I have always had, whether in a relationship or not. xx " Can't argue with that Laine. If nobody else can match your late partner then that's something totally out of your control. One never knows what's around the corner and maybe another man will get close to you at some point but probably never under your skin like your lost love has. I don't know which is the more saddening: To have loved and lost, or to have never loved at all, but I suspect you are not sad to have loved him, only to have lost him. x | |||
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"Can I become only the 2nd guy so far to contribute to this thread? And as the various ladies have given their opinions, may I be allowed to give mine? As has already been said, I don't see why a lady can't be independent AND have a man permanently in her life. In this day and age it's perfectly possible for a lady to be at least equal in financial terms to her partner, and I have to say that a sensible and mature guy should have no problem with that situation. I know some ladies have already stated otherwise, and I can understand that some have had bad experiences and others have experienced great sadness, but I feel sad for those who consciously and deliberately close their minds to the idea of having a man in their lives again. In my humble opinion, independence should have nothing to do with it, but quite simply, there's more to it than just sex and shagging. Personally, it's also about friendship, companionship, togetherness. Well that's my opinions, for what they're worth!! lol " Just goes to show: a man has written exactly what I was going to say!
I have my own money, own home, educated and in a well paid job, travelled the world, was married for 24 years and certainly don't need a man to validate me, but I miss the closeness and intimacy you get from being with that special person.
I hope I'm lucky to find that again and it looks like I just might : doesn't mean my mind will suddenly turn to mush and I hand over my affairs to a man!
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"I have my own money, own home, educated and in a well paid job, travelled the world, was married for 24 years and certainly don't need a man to validate me, but I miss the closeness and intimacy you get from being with that special person. I hope I'm lucky to find that again and it looks like I just might : doesn't mean my mind will suddenly turn to mush and I hand over my affairs to a man!
I think some of the ladies are protesting a little too much! ". My sentiments exactly! Not that I have been married for that long though, my last 2 long term relationships lasted 10y (married for 7y) and 4y respectively. | |||
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"What I do find strange is we are all on a NSA sex site and yet when women are saying that is exactly what they are after it is considered an insult to poor men?" They dont like being called COCK thats why, hahahaha ;) | |||
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"if this is the third wave of feminism im really looking forward to it!!! xx"hehehehehehehe | |||
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"I think it's very sad when women say they only need a man 'when they want some cock'. There's more to him than just his dick and if that's how some women treat men then they can hardly complain when every man they meet realises that there's nothing there for him except a hurried and unfulfulling fuck. Can you imagine the furore it would cause if a man posted on here: "Not interested in a relationship, I just want a pussy to fuck, and then she can piss off back to where she came from." He'd be publicly castrated. If some women feel that men are only useful when they need a good fucking then I think it shows some very serious issues underneath the surface with regards to relationship bulding and they're not as strong-minded and independent as they like people to believe. We all need love in this world and I don't mean the love between a mother/child, owner/favourite pet. We all need someone to share that one thing in life that makes it endurable - and that's life itself. " It isn't a dating site. Most people are not looking for a relationship, although admittedly some do find one. I think it is an insult to say any women who just wants sex and not a relationship to go with it has issues........that would mean a hell of a lot of men must have issues too. You speak as if you are speaking for everyone, when you can't possibly know. Some people might be happy as they are, and just because you don't sound like you would want to be alone, doesn't mean everyone is the same. | |||
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"I have issues!!! . THERE ARENT ENOUGH DECENT COCK ON THIS SITE!!!! LOL If ya gonna send me a cock pic - make it a good one please!!!! Tut Some men ". Go and check out the thread in Swingers Chat about Biggest Cock, a very fine specimen you would agree I am sure! | |||
"I have issues!!! . . . . . . . . THERE ARENT ENOUGH DECENT COCK ON THIS SITE!!!! LOL If ya gonna send me a cock pic - make it a good one please!!!! Tut Some men "i talk 2 cocks hun is that the same lol xx | |||
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"sometimes i think there are too many cocks on the site let alone not enough "lol I meant decent ones. And in the physical sense not the ego sense
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"sometimes i think there are too many cocks on the site let alone not enough
lol
I meant decent ones.
And in the physical sense not the ego sense
xxx"same thing to me lol | |||
"sometimes i think there are too many cocks on the site let alone not enough
lol
I meant decent ones.
And in the physical sense not the ego sense
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same thing to me lol"COCK!!!!! LOL xxx | |||
"i never need a man, its nice to have them about sometimes, but i have not found one that can keep up with me (or put up with me) i have gone through some of the hardst times in my life on my own with no one to hold me up. doing that has shown me i am able to manage with out needing anyone. sometimes i feel the need to be with a man, start seeing someone then panic and think fucccccck then i fuck it up on purpous so i can escaPE lol. i can honeslty say i dont think i will ever settle down, after living with a dick for 6 years put me right of! i can put up shelves decorate do anything i need to and i can wank quite well so only need a man when i want some cock time lol" My view exactly | |||
"i never need a man, its nice to have them about sometimes, but i have not found one that can keep up with me (or put up with me) i have gone through some of the hardst times in my life on my own with no one to hold me up. doing that has shown me i am able to manage with out needing anyone. sometimes i feel the need to be with a man, start seeing someone then panic and think fucccccck then i fuck it up on purpous so i can escaPE lol. i can honeslty say i dont think i will ever settle down, after living with a dick for 6 years put me right of! i can put up shelves decorate do anything i need to and i can wank quite well so only need a man when i want some cock time lol My view exactly "u sure, cos that means ur immuture, have issues and stuff | |||
had issues all me life ya know.
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"ok. Gonna show my immaturity and nievety now. Hasnt it always been - that men can go and shag hundreds of women without concience and that they are called a STUD. Well, they obviously dont wanna be "loved" "nutured" or "have a sensitive relationship" So WHY???????????? this is where my dimness comes in here... So WHY???????????? On a site.... Where we just want sex without the ribbons.... Do men feel that they cant be valued just as a cock???? Thats all they wanna be, and thats all we want them to be - so where oh where is the problem???? Hmmmmmmmmmphmmm" high 5 my lessa cock lover | |||
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"Make it 3 times in a roll!!!
Good on you to teach your daughters not to rely on other people!
The main reason why I am so independent is that, I do not want to end up like my mum, who for years had to put up with my dad (he drank a lot until he was told by his doctor to stop or he would die in 6 months in his mid 40s!), because she did not have the means to support herself.
My dad would let her spend whatever she liked without questions. Yet she did not stash anything away through the years.
OK, she is of another generation, and she might have reasons to stand by him other than financial contraints.
I swear I shall never end up like her, having to be dependent on another person.
My parents gave me a good education so that I don't have to, and I am eternally grateful for their selfless act! "I think to be honest Pearl my parents are a lot like yours. If one left the other (highly doubtful) they would slowly die of boredom without my mother nagging my father every minute of every day.
I learnt marrage (or any relationship come to that) is about a partnership BOTH giving and BOTH taking. Not woman nagging man hiding behind the paper.
I once asked my mother why she didnt just walk out if she wasnt happy I was told "but who would look after me" I was agast I thought thats not a mans job tho is it?? No one should be with someone cos its a habit you cant break or because you are afriad to be alone.
I also remember my parents screaming at each other day in day out - getting 2 lunches and 2 dinners cos neither would cook for the other but neither wanted me and my brother to go hungry ohh and no way was I gonna start yet another fight by admiting the other had already fed us!!!
With any luck my girls will say yes mum and dad had shouting matches but very rarely (fingers crossed lol) but they did love each other not stayed together cos of us.
I would love my girls to see how hard hubby and I have struggled and follow in my sister in laws footsteps (get the career and have a life before the kids cos they are expensive little darlings) but I cannot make their choices for them all I can do is hope and pray I give them the right tools to deal with life - I do that by being both mean and loving to them, I make them clean up after themselves (have done for years) and am teaching them (even the 7 year old) to cook take them shopping (food) and get then to do the budgeting, (the we have to feed a family on £100 what can I get that will last the whole week type stuff) BUT I also make sure they get quality time with us take them out and spoil them every now and again (£140 in the disney store does count as spoiling ) but the hardest lesson (for me) was telling my eldest that is she wanted a certain CD she was going to have to save up her pocket money for it - I soooooooo wanted to just say wait 10 minutes I will get it from Tesco downloads but Steven stopped me saying she will never learn if you always give in he was right tho.
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"I think it's very sad when women say they only need a man 'when they want some cock'. There's more to him than just his dick and if that's how some women treat men then they can hardly complain when every man they meet realises that there's nothing there for him except a hurried and unfulfulling fuck. Can you imagine the furore it would cause if a man posted on here: "Not interested in a relationship, I just want a pussy to fuck, and then she can piss off back to where she came from." He'd be publicly castrated. If some women feel that men are only useful when they need a good fucking then I think it shows some very serious issues underneath the surface with regards to relationship bulding and they're not as strong-minded and independent as they like people to believe. We all need love in this world and I don't mean the love between a mother/child, owner/favourite pet. We all need someone to share that one thing in life that makes it endurable - and that's life itself. " Wishy I understnd what your saying BUT I have heard many many men say the same things about women as is their right to. What I think your missing is many PEOPLE would prefer to WANT another person to love than NEED them. Can you honestly say you need Siren?? Or do you WANT her? You work away so you dont need to be in Sirens pocket and never leave her side (yes in an ideal world you wouldnt have to work away but its not an ideal world) Within 2 months of marrying Steven left to join the army I hated every day waking up alone but I knew it was something he had to do. I was pregnant with my youngest child - I almost miscarried (twice) and wasnt going to tell him (my mother did that for me even tho I said dont cos it will only worry him) and I did NEED him with me at times (at hospital for example) but overall even tho I love him to bits and really wouldnt want to be split from him I understood him going to Caterick was something he NEEDED to do no matter how much I WANTED him at home with me. Yes the love of a good person is a great and wonderful thing but if you have had it you really dont think lightening will strike the same spot twice (until it does) OR you have had such a crap time in the past you no longer even look (violence for instance) then no I dont think its wrong to say I dont want or need someone else. You can only really be happy when you are happy in yourself. I know a woman who cannot ever be happy cos she wont allow herself to be happy. She goes from one guy to the next to the next always expecting them to make her happy. How is that any different to saying I am happy I NEED no one I like dancing in the buff with no one watching. Its whether YOU are happy in life not about (like my mate) trying to be something you arent to make someone else happy. Shona x x x | |||
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