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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever had more than one at the same time? Did you choose one over the other and of so. How did you decide? Or did you decide on not going for any of them because it won't be fair on the other person as the other one will be on your mind?
Basically know 2 girls and each one attracts different parts of my personality. Not sure what to act on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever had more than one at the same time? Did you choose one over the other and of so. How did you decide? Or did you decide on not going for any of them because it won't be fair on the other person as the other one will be on your mind?
Basically know 2 girls and each one attracts different parts of my personality. Not sure what to act on "
flip a coin  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you want BOTH then neither is right for you
Only when you have met the ONE - then only one will do
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I feel like I can talk and confide in one of them and apparently they can with me too. Not they have told this, but they have told me stuff that they haven't told anyone else. Plus we have similar Interests and we can have a laugh. The other one we can chat like we've known each other for ages. Sense each others moods and have a laugh. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Which one wants to pop your cherry?"
None of them know that part of myself and I tend to keep my mouth shut about it too, but that's a different matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever had more than one at the same time? Did you choose one over the other and of so. How did you decide? Or did you decide on not going for any of them because it won't be fair on the other person as the other one will be on your mind?
Basically know 2 girls and each one attracts different parts of my personality. Not sure what to act on "
BLIMEY -it's all more convoluted than Twin Peaks 
Introduce them to each other n they may wander off hand in hand in2 the sunset thus saving you much angst  |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"Which one wants to pop your cherry?
None of them know that part of myself and I tend to keep my mouth shut about it too, but that's a different matter."
be friends till you decide which one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Which one wants to pop your cherry?
None of them know that part of myself and I tend to keep my mouth shut about it too, but that's a different matter.
be friends till you decide which one "
Well we're work colleagues. So we are already very good acquaintances and I'll never be with someone if I got someone else on my mind  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"maybe your reading too much into it and they just see you as a male mate"
They may do, they may not, but that wasn't my point. My point was should I just pick one and see how things go, not pick any as I shouldn't get with one whilst another one is on my mind? |
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"maybe your reading too much into it and they just see you as a male mate
They may do, they may not, but that wasn't my point. My point was should I just pick one and see how things go, not pick any as I shouldn't get with one whilst another one is on my mind? "
well if youve got them both on your mind and you dont want to pick one you will just have to get on with it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go with your cock .. I mean heart, go with your heart "
Jokes aside. Same thing. If I went purely on looks I would have the same problem as they both are attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go with your cock .. I mean heart, go with your heart
Jokes aside. Same thing. If I went purely on looks I would have the same problem as they both are attractive. "
On a serious note maybe right down a list of pro's and cons for each then go from there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"take them out for a drink, one one week the other the next, just as mates and see how it goes"
If it goes well/ok on te first. Do I still take the other one out the next week? |
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"take them out for a drink, one one week the other the next, just as mates and see how it goes
If it goes well/ok on te first. Do I still take the other one out the next week? "
yes, because then you will have done the same thing with both. You might have a great time with the first, but an even better time with the second. Keep it all casual so it doesnt look like "dates" |
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two 
You included.
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Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo"
Polo |
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo
Polo "
Think she would be just your sort |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo
Polo "
Where's Cilla when we need her?  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo"
 bring me another man, this ones split |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo
Polo
Think she would be just your sort"
I mean I don't think I have seen her around. |
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo
Polo
Think she would be just your sort
I mean I don't think I have seen her around. "
I will put in a word for you when shes next online |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo
Polo
Think she would be just your sort
I mean I don't think I have seen her around. I will put in a word for you when shes next online"
Thanks, but would like to see her profile/photo first, lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"why are you sure that either one of them is interested in you in a romantic way ??"
Did I say that they were . I was just wondering of anyone made a choice between 2 women and what made them decide one over the other? |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"why are you sure that either one of them is interested in you in a romantic way ??
Did I say that they were . I was just wondering of anyone made a choice between 2 women and what made them decide one over the other? "
Well choosing one that didn't fancy you is probably a waste of time  |
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Personally I would say if you can't choose then leave both alone. Easier said than done if you work with them though.
Also, I don't know if you are but don't get tricked by feminine wiles. Don't let them get you to do things for them under the pretence of flirting. You seem like an innocent guy whowears his heart in his sleeve and uunfortunately some women like to abuse that. |
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"Have you ever had more than one at the same time? Did you choose one over the other and of so. How did you decide? Or did you decide on not going for any of them because it won't be fair on the other person as the other one will be on your mind?
Basically know 2 girls and each one attracts different parts of my personality. Not sure what to act on "
If you're talking about deep in love stuff.. if you can't decide then neither is the right one! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Personally I would say if you can't choose then leave both alone. Easier said than done if you work with them though.
Also, I don't know if you are but don't get tricked by feminine wiles. Don't let them get you to do things for them under the pretence of flirting. You seem like an innocent guy whowears his heart in his sleeve and uunfortunately some women like to abuse that. "
Its not love though. Would like to know them better without be labelled as a cheat/time waster, etc. So is picking one ok as I may think of the other one or is having a meet with both ok. So I can see who I get on with best or pick neither of them?
I have caught 1 definitely doing this and 1 I had y suspicions about as when I said "no". They weren't Interested in talking. Never mind socialising. Since then no one can walk over me like that. |
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If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler. "
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet. |
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler.
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet. "
But your only taking them out as friends for a drink, i think your reading far too much into all this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler.
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet. But your only taking them out as friends for a drink, i think your reading far too much into all this"
You're probably right and I think I know who polo is now and if I am right she lives a couple of hours away and only travels an hour to a meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a bit confused but it's late and I'm tired lol...
I think it depends on how the feel about you and if they are expecting an exclusive relationship. Don't you in the early stages of dating keep it fairly casual and see other people ~ then you have 'the talk' & decide where the relationship is going or not as the case maybe....! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm a bit confused but it's late and I'm tired lol...
I think it depends on how the feel about you and if they are expecting an exclusive relationship. Don't you in the early stages of dating keep it fairly casual and see other people ~ then you have 'the talk' & decide where the relationship is going or not as the case maybe....! "
You say you sound confused and you got it spot on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a bit confused but it's late and I'm tired lol...
I think it depends on how the feel about you and if they are expecting an exclusive relationship. Don't you in the early stages of dating keep it fairly casual and see other people ~ then you have 'the talk' & decide where the relationship is going or not as the case maybe....!
You say you sound confused and you got it spot on "
Yay go me.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm a bit confused but it's late and I'm tired lol...
I think it depends on how the feel about you and if they are expecting an exclusive relationship. Don't you in the early stages of dating keep it fairly casual and see other people ~ then you have 'the talk' & decide where the relationship is going or not as the case maybe....!
You say you sound confused and you got it spot on
Yay go me.... "
As someone said earlier though. I read too much into this sort of thing, but cat help it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ohhh feckin el, I can't even get one man in my life let alone two... going to bed ... grumble, grumble,.... "
I didn't say I had the choice as in I could have my pick. I just meant I didn't know which one to approach. |
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler.
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet. "
If we weren't exclusive I wouldn't mind one bit because I'm a grown up and realise that one date doesn't mean he is tied to me!!
I think you are over thinking this a tad to be honest. I also think this might be made up because for every sensible solution you seem to put up another barrier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ohhh feckin el, I can't even get one man in my life let alone two... going to bed ... grumble, grumble,....
I didn't say I had the choice as in I could have my pick. I just meant I didn't know which one to approach."
I know what you're saying. Good luck. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler.
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet. "
Most women wouldn't like that, you're right. On here it's different and clearly people don't understand. It's two totally different worlds. |
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler.
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet.
Most women wouldn't like that, you're right. On here it's different and clearly people don't understand. It's two totally different worlds."
So in non swinger land if a guy takes you for one drink you automatically think you're an item and get pissed if he takes someone else out?
No wonder some have a view of women as bunny boilers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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for what it's worth this is my take on the situation.....
do they know about each other?
If they don't well you've got a choice, either come clean tell them, say what you've said on here about them & you'd like to carry on seeing them both. Of course this may well backfire & they'll both tell you where to go ~ but least a decision was made...!!
Or you can carry on seeing them both,have fun keep it light not tell & just see which one you prefer in time....
(not condoning this course of action peeps it's just an option...!!)
Or be just friends and see if something develops naturally with one of them at a later stage...
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For what it's worth this is my take on the situation.....
You work with two people who actually talk to you the way people who know each other talk.
You have no idea if either of them are remotely interested in anything more than being workmates. You haven't dated either one... in fact you have no idea if either would want to. Yet you are worried about how to choose between them to start a romantic encounter... and fantasised about this so much you are now concerned about how the un-chosen one will deal with the rejection.
Have you got as far as imagining which one will look best in a wedding dress? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler.
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet.
Most women wouldn't like that, you're right. On here it's different and clearly people don't understand. It's two totally different worlds.
So in non swinger land if a guy takes you for one drink you automatically think you're an item and get pissed if he takes someone else out?
No wonder some have a view of women as bunny boilers "
Course not. But thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If it's just dating/getting yo know them then why not take them both out? I don't see anything wrong with that ans if one did get jealous then you know not to pick that one as she's likely to be a bunny boiler.
How would you like it if a guy you liked took you out and a few days later took someone else out. Even though you both enjoyed the meet.
Most women wouldn't like that, you're right. On here it's different and clearly people don't understand. It's two totally different worlds."
That's what I meant and they both see each other so may talk about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"theres a few on here that could teach you a thing or two
You included.
Think id scar you for life, thers a lovely lady on here, shes the gentle sort and would be kind and gentle, she is called polo
Polo
Think she would be just your sort
I mean I don't think I have seen her around. I will put in a word for you when shes next online"
She's been online as she's posted in this thread several times. Mentioned anything |
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