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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You know when you get out of bed and know instantly that you shouldn't have, well today has been just like that.
First my alarm didn't go off then a company has lost a dress that i ordered. And last but not least i went into Tesco's to do some shopping and this what happened!!
I was in Tesco's when a shop assistant asked a mother to leave because her child was screaming and throwing things out of the trolley...... Yes that looks like a normal temper tantrum but the Mother was in tears when trying to explain why she couldn't enforce the child to behave.
I was disgusted and went over and told the assistant that if the lady couldn't finish her shopping I would go to every paper and have her's and Tesco's plastered all over the front page.
I then accompanied her around the shop to give her encouragement to finish her shopping, she just couldn't thank me enough and said that she gets told all the time to stop the child from doing what he does !!
The trouble is these children do wear t-shirts that say " HEY YOU I AM AUTISTIC I CAN'T HELP WHAT I DO" . But if you are trying to explain to someone then that person should have the common curtsy to LISTEN !!!!! |
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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago
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Bless you!!! Being a mother of a beautiful Autistic boy, I would love to think that if I was in a situation like that then someone would help me as u did for that lady!!
Well done to you, u should be so proud!! I just wish there were lots more people like u, thank u on behalf of all parents of special needs children xxxxx |
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"You know when you get out of bed and know instantly that you shouldn't have, well today has been just like that.
First my alarm didn't go off then a company has lost a dress that i ordered. And last but not least i went into Tesco's to do some shopping and this what happened!!
I was in Tesco's when a shop assistant asked a mother to leave because her child was screaming and throwing things out of the trolley...... Yes that looks like a normal temper tantrum but the Mother was in tears when trying to explain why she couldn't enforce the child to behave.
I was disgusted and went over and told the assistant that if the lady couldn't finish her shopping I would go to every paper and have her's and Tesco's plastered all over the front page.
I then accompanied her around the shop to give her encouragement to finish her shopping, she just couldn't thank me enough and said that she gets told all the time to stop the child from doing what he does !!
The trouble is these children do wear t-shirts that say " HEY YOU I AM AUTISTIC I CAN'T HELP WHAT I DO" . But if you are trying to explain to someone then that person should have the common curtsy to LISTEN !!!!!"
what a lovely lady you are. I am sure the lady you helped was much appreciated and will remember your help forever.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm having an AWESOME day.
I have a sideline Internet business that I've been building besides my day job.
And I've just found out that my bid has been approved for a website I bidded on at like 3am this morning!!
I now have 12 brands in my portfolio!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You know when you get out of bed and know instantly that you shouldn't have, well today has been just like that.
First my alarm didn't go off then a company has lost a dress that i ordered. And last but not least i went into Tesco's to do some shopping and this what happened!!
I was in Tesco's when a shop assistant asked a mother to leave because her child was screaming and throwing things out of the trolley...... Yes that looks like a normal temper tantrum but the Mother was in tears when trying to explain why she couldn't enforce the child to behave.
I was disgusted and went over and told the assistant that if the lady couldn't finish her shopping I would go to every paper and have her's and Tesco's plastered all over the front page.
I then accompanied her around the shop to give her encouragement to finish her shopping, she just couldn't thank me enough and said that she gets told all the time to stop the child from doing what he does !!
The trouble is these children do wear t-shirts that say " HEY YOU I AM AUTISTIC I CAN'T HELP WHAT I DO" . But if you are trying to explain to someone then that person should have the common curtsy to LISTEN !!!!!"
I pressed the wrong button before reading it back "Sorry" grrrrrrr !!
It should say "That these children do not wear t-shirts that say the above!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First my alarm didn't go off then a company has lost a dress that i ordered. And last but not least i went into Tesco's to do some shopping and this what happened!!
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Tesco's sucks!
They suck less than say Waitrose, but they still suck!
Co-op rules!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You know when you get out of bed and know instantly that you shouldn't have, well today has been just like that.
First my alarm didn't go off then a company has lost a dress that i ordered. And last but not least i went into Tesco's to do some shopping and this what happened!!
I was in Tesco's when a shop assistant asked a mother to leave because her child was screaming and throwing things out of the trolley...... Yes that looks like a normal temper tantrum but the Mother was in tears when trying to explain why she couldn't enforce the child to behave.
I was disgusted and went over and told the assistant that if the lady couldn't finish her shopping I would go to every paper and have her's and Tesco's plastered all over the front page.
I then accompanied her around the shop to give her encouragement to finish her shopping, she just couldn't thank me enough and said that she gets told all the time to stop the child from doing what he does !!
The trouble is these children do wear t-shirts that say " HEY YOU I AM AUTISTIC I CAN'T HELP WHAT I DO" . But if you are trying to explain to someone then that person should have the common curtsy to LISTEN !!!!!"
I'd email Tesco if I were you.
Well done  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You having a bad day .. Snap
We just had o throw our 3 year old daughter as a van was reversing hit the leg of my wife called the police van drove off ,
Because my wife not in pain they can not do anything about this apart from find the driver and have a word with him about his driving,
So remember that all drivers if you knock someone with your car van etc an drive off you are ok the police will just have a word with you, an report it as information log only,
Great start to a good day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the problem is that most of us are scared of things that we don't understand ,I work for the company mentioned and have to say I would not have asked the lady to leave but offered assistance as well,however please take in to account was the employee following the instruction of a manager. Either way I apologize
to you and the lady with the child on a personal level and on behalf of Tesco. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bless you!!! Being a mother of a beautiful Autistic boy, I would love to think that if I was in a situation like that then someone would help me as u did for that lady!!
Well done to you, u should be so proud!! I just wish there were lots more people like u, thank u on behalf of all parents of special needs children xxxxx"
In the early years I used to be very scared of my own daughter and what others would say, but you do learn to not so much care what others think but you harden to the situation. Now she is 14 i can take on the world. She still gets people stare at her in the street and wondering that the hell is going on when she is flapping for England at maybe a piece of gravel that is in her way. Me.... I just stand and watch her and have a right ole giggle to myself !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You having a bad day .. Snap
We just had o throw our 3 year old daughter as a van was reversing hit the leg of my wife called the police van drove off ,
Because my wife not in pain they can not do anything about this apart from find the driver and have a word with him about his driving,
So remember that all drivers if you knock someone with your car van etc an drive off you are ok the police will just have a word with you, an report it as information log only,
Great start to a good day "
Sorry to hear that, and i am pleased that everyone is ok and i do hope they catch up with the bastard !!  |
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"You know when you get out of bed and know instantly that you shouldn't have, well today has been just like that.
First my alarm didn't go off then a company has lost a dress that i ordered. And last but not least i went into Tesco's to do some shopping and this what happened!!
I was in Tesco's when a shop assistant asked a mother to leave because her child was screaming and throwing things out of the trolley...... Yes that looks like a normal temper tantrum but the Mother was in tears when trying to explain why she couldn't enforce the child to behave.
I was disgusted and went over and told the assistant that if the lady couldn't finish her shopping I would go to every paper and have her's and Tesco's plastered all over the front page.
I then accompanied her around the shop to give her encouragement to finish her shopping, she just couldn't thank me enough and said that she gets told all the time to stop the child from doing what he does !!
The trouble is these children do wear t-shirts that say " HEY YOU I AM AUTISTIC I CAN'T HELP WHAT I DO" . But if you are trying to explain to someone then that person should have the common curtsy to LISTEN !!!!!
I pressed the wrong button before reading it back "Sorry" grrrrrrr !!
It should say "That these children do not wear t-shirts that say the above!!"
Guessed that as I read it  xx |
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"Bless you!!! Being a mother of a beautiful Autistic boy, I would love to think that if I was in a situation like that then someone would help me as u did for that lady!!
Well done to you, u should be so proud!! I just wish there were lots more people like u, thank u on behalf of all parents of special needs children xxxxx
In the early years I used to be very scared of my own daughter and what others would say, but you do learn to not so much care what others think but you harden to the situation. Now she is 14 i can take on the world. She still gets people stare at her in the street and wondering that the hell is going on when she is flapping for England at maybe a piece of gravel that is in her way. Me.... I just stand and watch her and have a right ole giggle to myself !! "
You parents are my heroes!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do we find a girl to meet us for naughtiness!!!!!! "
Perhaps learn to navigate the forums before haphazardly posting anything totally irrelevant to the thread in hand.
Welcome to the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think the problem is that most of us are scared of things that we don't understand ,I work for the company mentioned and have to say I would not have asked the lady to leave but offered assistance as well,however please take in to account was the employee following the instruction of a manager. Either way I apologize
to you and the lady with the child on a personal level and on behalf of Tesco. "
The question is that, How do you tell if there really is something wrong with the child or not?
The way i look at it is !!
If you take two ladies or gents with a child of the same age sitting in a trolley both kicking off at the same time. The person with a child that understands what you are saying will almost be saying to the child, "You wait till i get you home or you are not having such and such when we get home"
Where the other would know that the child almost has no understanding at all and would either ignore and try and remain calm and keep putting the items back that are being thrown around. Or in my case sign language or pec cards (cards with pictures on them).
Of course some Autistic children do understand what is being said but misbehave because of severe social reasons...
There's no need to be sorry if the day hadn't started as it did i might have done a different approach to the situation  |
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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago
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"Bless you!!! Being a mother of a beautiful Autistic boy, I would love to think that if I was in a situation like that then someone would help me as u did for that lady!!
Well done to you, u should be so proud!! I just wish there were lots more people like u, thank u on behalf of all parents of special needs children xxxxx
In the early years I used to be very scared of my own daughter and what others would say, but you do learn to not so much care what others think but you harden to the situation. Now she is 14 i can take on the world. She still gets people stare at her in the street and wondering that the hell is going on when she is flapping for England at maybe a piece of gravel that is in her way. Me.... I just stand and watch her and have a right ole giggle to myself !! "
Yeh my lad is the same lol we giggle together, it's part of him and he's part of me!!
I always tell him, sod what people think baby coz you're perfect to me x |
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"Bless you!!! Being a mother of a beautiful Autistic boy, I would love to think that if I was in a situation like that then someone would help me as u did for that lady!!
Well done to you, u should be so proud!! I just wish there were lots more people like u, thank u on behalf of all parents of special needs children xxxxx
In the early years I used to be very scared of my own daughter and what others would say, but you do learn to not so much care what others think but you harden to the situation. Now she is 14 i can take on the world. She still gets people stare at her in the street and wondering that the hell is going on when she is flapping for England at maybe a piece of gravel that is in her way. Me.... I just stand and watch her and have a right ole giggle to myself !!
Yeh my lad is the same lol we giggle together, it's part of him and he's part of me!!
I always tell him, sod what people think baby coz you're perfect to me x"
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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well done ... my 26 year old has Aspergers syndrome ...which is a high functioning Autism and her behaviour has always caused problems but her main problem was ignorant people staring I used to tell them to please ask why shes like it as staring and tutting made things worse |
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"Bless you!!! Being a mother of a beautiful Autistic boy, I would love to think that if I was in a situation like that then someone would help me as u did for that lady!!
Well done to you, u should be so proud!! I just wish there were lots more people like u, thank u on behalf of all parents of special needs children xxxxx
In the early years I used to be very scared of my own daughter and what others would say, but you do learn to not so much care what others think but you harden to the situation. Now she is 14 i can take on the world. She still gets people stare at her in the street and wondering that the hell is going on when she is flapping for England at maybe a piece of gravel that is in her way. Me.... I just stand and watch her and have a right ole giggle to myself !!
Yeh my lad is the same lol we giggle together, it's part of him and he's part of me!!
I always tell him, sod what people think baby coz you're perfect to me x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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The question is that, How do you tell if there really is something wrong with the child or not?
The way i look at it is !!
If you take two ladies or gents with a child of the same age sitting in a trolley both kicking off at the same time. The person with a child that understands what you are saying will almost be saying to the child, "You wait till i get you home or you are not having such and such when we get home"
Where the other would know that the child almost has no understanding at all and would either ignore and try and remain calm and keep putting the items back that are being thrown around. Or in my case sign language or pec cards (cards with pictures on them).
Of course some Autistic children do understand what is being said but misbehave because of severe social reasons...
There's no need to be sorry if the day hadn't started as it did i might have done a different approach to the situation "
How can you tell? Sometimes you can't. Sometimes the parents are useless and the kids are just little shits running wild.
Please don't take this the wrong way, I don't know how to say it. But sometimes people don't know that a child is autistic.
I'm not saying you should forgive them for not knowing, but like you say, the child doesn't wear an "I am autistic" t-shirt.
I have friends with autistic kids but if I didn't know them, I'd probably be tutting at them too.
I hope tomorrow is a lovelier day. xx |
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The question is that, How do you tell if there really is something wrong with the child or not?
The way i look at it is !!
If you take two ladies or gents with a child of the same age sitting in a trolley both kicking off at the same time. The person with a child that understands what you are saying will almost be saying to the child, "You wait till i get you home or you are not having such and such when we get home"
Where the other would know that the child almost has no understanding at all and would either ignore and try and remain calm and keep putting the items back that are being thrown around. Or in my case sign language or pec cards (cards with pictures on them).
Of course some Autistic children do understand what is being said but misbehave because of severe social reasons...
There's no need to be sorry if the day hadn't started as it did i might have done a different approach to the situation
How can you tell? Sometimes you can't. Sometimes the parents are useless and the kids are just little shits running wild.
Please don't take this the wrong way, I don't know how to say it. But sometimes people don't know that a child is autistic.
I'm not saying you should forgive them for not knowing, but like you say, the child doesn't wear an "I am autistic" t-shirt.
I have friends with autistic kids but if I didn't know them, I'd probably be tutting at them too.
I hope tomorrow is a lovelier day. xx"
Sometimes its also a parent trying to teach their kids that however much they scream, they will not get their own way. This probably pisses folks off for a few mins.. but the parent has the long term goal in mind.. its a slow process throughout childhood! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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The question is that, How do you tell if there really is something wrong with the child or not?
The way i look at it is !!
If you take two ladies or gents with a child of the same age sitting in a trolley both kicking off at the same time. The person with a child that understands what you are saying will almost be saying to the child, "You wait till i get you home or you are not having such and such when we get home"
Where the other would know that the child almost has no understanding at all and would either ignore and try and remain calm and keep putting the items back that are being thrown around. Or in my case sign language or pec cards (cards with pictures on them).
Of course some Autistic children do understand what is being said but misbehave because of severe social reasons...
There's no need to be sorry if the day hadn't started as it did i might have done a different approach to the situation
How can you tell? Sometimes you can't. Sometimes the parents are useless and the kids are just little shits running wild.
Please don't take this the wrong way, I don't know how to say it. But sometimes people don't know that a child is autistic.
I'm not saying you should forgive them for not knowing, but like you say, the child doesn't wear an "I am autistic" t-shirt.
I have friends with autistic kids but if I didn't know them, I'd probably be tutting at them too.
I hope tomorrow is a lovelier day. xx"
No you don't know there are so many different strains of Autism that even the professionals have a hard job. I think when you actually live with Autism 24/7 can you pick up on signs that are characteristic to the problem. Todays problem was a classic mothers reaction by trying to explain why the child was behaving the way he was. 12 years after my daughters diagnoses. I still stand and explain to people that stare, when in actual fact I should ignore them.
We need more awareness in Schools so we don't get the ignorance that is around!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tesco sucks balls. Never supported me when my manager unfairly dismissed me, some seriously miserable workers, bad hygiene, seriously questionable practices behind the STAFF ONLY doors too |
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"Bless you!!! Being a mother of a beautiful Autistic boy, I would love to think that if I was in a situation like that then someone would help me as u did for that lady!!
Well done to you, u should be so proud!! I just wish there were lots more people like u, thank u on behalf of all parents of special needs children xxxxx"
Good for you Lorrierose x |
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