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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago
South Yorkshire |
I used to be terrible a few years ago, worried about the slightest thing!!!
My brother helped me get over a lot of it though(god rest his soul) he was my best friend aswell as my big brother, but he left me stronger and able to cope a lot better, when I start worrying I just think of what he would say- like he's always with me, if that makes sense x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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id worry about stuff i shouldnt and kinda ignore stuff i should be more concerned about..
like id panic if i ran outta tooth paste and just go 'oh well i've just spent my gas money'
those just given for examples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's the point in worrying.
Though I'm a little worried England turn up to a different game and the ghosts of 40 years ago haunt the Wembley pitch once again.
Bye bye Brazil, bye bye  |
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Not bug decisions or at work but I do sweat the small stuff.
I worry that people hate me all the time.
I worry people treat me like a twat.
I worry that comments I make will be taken the wring way.
I worry that people will think I'm interfering when I try to be helpful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?
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Yes and no.
Yes massively about most things (life/universe) but it is so intense it leads the worrying to almost a point of apathy, and a subsquent no. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"What's the point in worrying.
Though I'm a little worried England turn up to a different game and the ghosts of 40 years ago haunt the Wembley pitch once again.
Bye bye Brazil, bye bye "
Don't they know the way to Wembley? They were there last week.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?
What do you mean lickety? X"
Do they end up happening because you worry about them?
Like...er... worrying a bf will dump you and him ending up dumping you because you are a worried, neurotic wreck. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?
What do you mean lickety? X"
As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?
What do you mean lickety? X
As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.
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Ah I see. Well I only truly worry about my boy and he's bound to get in the odd scrape here and there but that's unavoidable I suppose. But I worry he will get something terrible wrong with him. Again that will happen wether I worry or not. Wish I could stop myself worrying but I can't |
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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago
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"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?
What do you mean lickety? X
As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.
Ah I see. Well I only truly worry about my boy and he's bound to get in the odd scrape here and there but that's unavoidable I suppose. But I worry he will get something terrible wrong with him. Again that will happen wether I worry or not. Wish I could stop myself worrying but I can't "
Bless u Hun, it's a mothers curse I'm afraid!!! I am the just the same x |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Do your worries become self-fulfilling?
What do you mean lickety? X
As an easy example, if you worry that you can't get up and speak in public then you get to the point where you stop yourself ever speaking in public and it becomes as self-fulfilling prophecy.
Ah I see. Well I only truly worry about my boy and he's bound to get in the odd scrape here and there but that's unavoidable I suppose. But I worry he will get something terrible wrong with him. Again that will happen wether I worry or not. Wish I could stop myself worrying but I can't "
Yes, we do worry about the children but it's really important not to put our worries onto them. Teach them to know what's dangerous and to avoid that but to take risks.
I have seen kids really fucked up by parents that excel at worrying about their children and how it has affected those children.
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I worry to much, little things start to slowly become headbangers, just isn't enough hours in the day sadly.
Got my kids going away on a school trip next week for 4 days, I'm dreading it. Will be the first time i've ever been that long apart from them, even when ex has them at weekends, i worry lol.
I just know i'll miss them like crazy and the house is gonna be so quiet.
I sound like a right sad cow, jealous of my kids school trip. Just highlights how all my time is based around them, gonna be very weird  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously this is not bravado or bullshit, but I don't really worry.
I'm VERY like my dad like that.
Mind you my mum is the same, she does worry a bit mostly about my older sister who used to be Anorexic, but never used show it.
But I don't really worry.
I don't choose to focus on bullshit that may or may not be going on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?
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no i dont but did used to write it down. i have been lucky with finances but there was once when i did get a bit scared and couldnt sleep.. wrote stuff down because i was ashamed to talk about it, but through writing it down acccepted i had a problem and the next day i took action on that problem. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?
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Not really sure how. Seems like trying to sit still and think of nothing - two things I am not very good at!
I'm definitely going to give yoga a try though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a mum so that goes without saying,I worry about my kids and family
I'm not a worrier when it comes to myself or other things,life is too short to worry |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?
Not really sure how. Seems like trying to sit still and think of nothing - two things I am not very good at!
I'm definitely going to give yoga a try though. "
You has helped me a lot. I have been looking at mindfulness too. My Buddhist nun friend says that the easiest way to start meditation is to just to spend a minute concentrating on your breath before going to sleep. You build up and then work on doing that without going to sleep.
I know that making my mind blank helped me get better when my Lupus first started. I couldn't walk or use my hands very well but I kept pushing myself to get better and it was making it worse. Learning to switch off then made a real difference.
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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I worry about my 2 boys.alot.but apart from that I cudnt give a shit if the world collapsed around me.I got that from my dad.he has always floated through life while everything could be goin to shit and he wouldnt care.altho I didnt get the worrying about my kids from him.he didnt care about us either. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?
Not really sure how. Seems like trying to sit still and think of nothing - two things I am not very good at!
I'm definitely going to give yoga a try though.
You has helped me a lot. I have been looking at mindfulness too. My Buddhist nun friend says that the easiest way to start meditation is to just to spend a minute concentrating on your breath before going to sleep. You build up and then work on doing that without going to sleep.
I know that making my mind blank helped me get better when my Lupus first started. I couldn't walk or use my hands very well but I kept pushing myself to get better and it was making it worse. Learning to switch off then made a real difference.
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A minute concentrating on one thing? Can I start with ten seconds?
And what is this sleep thing you mention? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do any of you worriers meditate at all?
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I have relaxation exercises I was taught at hospital. They are ok for not so bad moments but the really bad days they don't get through the wall of worry. I go from a walk sometimes to tire myself out so I can sleep but adrenaline wakes my brain up |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
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A minute concentrating on one thing? Can I start with ten seconds?
And what is this sleep thing you mention? "
That's the thing - the meditation helps you fall asleep and remain asleep. The sleep helps you sort out your emotions and then you begin to worry less.
It's not easy - when I'm really stressed it takes a while for me to remember to do all of this but once I do I can feel the results after just a week.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
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A minute concentrating on one thing? Can I start with ten seconds?
And what is this sleep thing you mention?
That's the thing - the meditation helps you fall asleep and remain asleep. The sleep helps you sort out your emotions and then you begin to worry less.
It's not easy - when I'm really stressed it takes a while for me to remember to do all of this but once I do I can feel the results after just a week.
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I can't concentrate on my breathing for a minute without my mind wandering off on tangents. My brain doesn't have an off switch. |
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"I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me
Would you recommend it?
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yes, i guess so but it took me awhile to get into it but then im not good at concentrating. There are some good books.
Its quite easy once you get into it and it is theraputic. In fact it seems to be the new in thing therapy wise as a few people have mentioned it to me |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me
Would you recommend it?
yes, i guess so but it took me awhile to get into it but then im not good at concentrating. There are some good books.
Its quite easy once you get into it and it is theraputic. In fact it seems to be the new in thing therapy wise as a few people have mentioned it to me"
I went to a lecture earlier this year with Ruby Wax talking about it, and a therapist running a 10 minute session for us all to try. It struck me as being quite like Buddhism.
I have also been looking at its use with children and young people where the effects appear to be more immediate in addressing their worried behaviour.
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"I practice mindfullness my cpn taught me
Would you recommend it?
yes, i guess so but it took me awhile to get into it but then im not good at concentrating. There are some good books.
Its quite easy once you get into it and it is theraputic. In fact it seems to be the new in thing therapy wise as a few people have mentioned it to me
I went to a lecture earlier this year with Ruby Wax talking about it, and a therapist running a 10 minute session for us all to try. It struck me as being quite like Buddhism.
I have also been looking at its use with children and young people where the effects appear to be more immediate in addressing their worried behaviour.
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it is quite Buddhism, if I remember I will ring my nurse and get the names of the books she recommends
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"Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?
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My phylosophy in life is "why worry about something that you can do nothing about, what will be, will be"
but this way of thinking has recently been challenged when my daughter (who is currently volunteering in an orphanage in Peru) was bitten by a dog! Rabies is not widely spread where she is but when i received her email saying 'Mum, I dont want to die of rabies', my blood and heart suddenly stopped..what was I to say? what could I do to alleviate her concerns? Should I play it cool and be reassuring mum? or should I freak out and get her out of there (yes she would have had to fly to another country) and get her the vaccin jab?
All things considered (I called the doctor and the UK helpline) and taking into account the circumstances of the bite, I decided to comfort her, try and remove her fears in order to calm her down and all is well, as of today!
Now the little bugger wants to visit lake Titicaca on the border with Bolivia...did she have the Yellow Fever vaccin inoculation before she left??? Nope but what are the chances she will get it?...next to none.
I am not a worrier for myself but I care and worry for those I love and hold dear. Life is a merry go round...hop on and see where the ride takes you! but be prepared for all eventualities. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.
I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.
I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.
I worry about my partner sometimes.
Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not bug decisions or at work but I do sweat the small stuff.
I worry that people hate me all the time.
I worry people treat me like a twat.
I worry that comments I make will be taken the wring way.
I worry that people will think I'm interfering when I try to be helpful. "
Awwwww Evie... We dont hate you All the time...  |
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"I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.
I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.
I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.
I worry about my partner sometimes.
Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense?"
Yes. That makes sense to me!  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.
I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.
I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.
I worry about my partner sometimes.
Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense?"
That all sounds like reasonable worrying and within the confines of caring about people rather than worrying for the sake of worrying.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I do worry sometimes about upsetting other people through something I have to do.
I also worry about my children and their future sometimes.
I worry about my elderly relatives sometimes.
I worry about my partner sometimes.
Rationally I know worrying is not going to make the blindest bit of difference to the outcome... and I TRY not to let worrying affect my choice of behaviour and action. Does this make sense?
That all sounds like reasonable worrying and within the confines of caring about people rather than worrying for the sake of worrying.
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You could be right there - I do not usually worry about silly things, like whether my place is tidy I guess.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not bug decisions or at work but I do sweat the small stuff.
I worry that people hate me all the time.
I worry people treat me like a twat.
I worry that comments I make will be taken the wring way.
I worry that people will think I'm interfering when I try to be helpful. "
I worry about the exact same things!x |
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Why do we worry aout things that may happen?
Why do we worrry about things that have happened?
Why do we worry about anything?
We only have so many years on this earfth...do you really want to spend it worying?
I dont! |
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I used to worry about everything but since the ex left I've become me and that's a much more chilled person. As a mum I do have worries about my daughter but that's just natural. In general I just think positive and go with the flow |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Do you worry at a problem? Worry about life the universe and everything? Worry and don't know why?
You been following me around "
I wouldn't have to ask the question if I had been following you.
Try the breathing and meditation.
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