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over a year ago
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"Unrequited love or a broken heart?
I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart. "
That's really hard to say, so many relative experiences were different, long, drawn out, embarrassing, painful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unrequited love or a broken heart?
I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart. "
The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell. |
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"Unrequited love or a broken heart?
I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart.
The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell."
Why do I like your avatar? I mean it's not all that is it? Makes me smile tho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unrequited love or a broken heart?
I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart.
The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell."
It is   |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"Unrequited love or a broken heart?
I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart. "
At least with a broken heart you know you have loved and been loved x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A broken heart.
With unrequited love you don't actually lose anything.
Although they can be the same thing, you get your heart broken because they no longer love you (one sided love). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of the above, but also falling for someone and then finding out they were involved with someone else.  "
That's happened to me recently, feel for a "single" guy, hook, line & sinker only to find out three months in he had a fiancée & kid he forgot to mention. Not sure what hurt most the lieing to my face or the fact he let me believe we might have a future. The worst bit is I can't turn the feelings off, so I'm still seeing him.
So I think the pain of a broken heart is probably the worst pain anyone can feel and I don't think your heart ever really recovers and always bears the cracks of been broken. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unrequited love or a broken heart?
I have experienced both. I find unrequited love harder to deal with than a broken heart.
The worst would be one leading to the other - that would be like hell.
It is "
Yup. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK then, next question - do you ever stop loving someone or do you just learn to deal with the love that is still there?"
You either change your outlook on life in time, resolve the feeling by yourself or find something better.
I think the more social creatures have more relationships to go with the latter.
Unfortunately, I just ended up with massive trust issues |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK then, next question - do you ever stop loving someone or do you just learn to deal with the love that is still there?"
I learn to deal with the love still there x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK then, next question - do you ever stop loving someone or do you just learn to deal with the love that is still there?"
It really depends on what side you are on (ie, the 'dumper' or 'dumpee').
In my experience if you love someone who doesn't love you back for whatever reason, your feelings will fade with time to a point where you can't actively say that you love them. The amount of time varies for different people and the circumstance.
Are you ruminating by any chance? Nothing good can come from that... |
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I have has my heart ripped out my a girl I loved so unconditionally and never reflected her, always put her first and adored every thing about her only to find she was seeing my best friend for months and then one day told me she was leaving me for him.
I was told by friends that I give too much and trust too easy and need to be selfish as its more attractive. But it's not in my nature to be like that.
So I had vowed never to love again. Just enjoy my sexuality without any attachment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have has my heart ripped out my a girl I loved so unconditionally and never reflected her, always put her first and adored every thing about her only to find she was seeing my best friend for months and then one day told me she was leaving me for him.
I was told by friends that I give too much and trust too easy and need to be selfish as its more attractive. But it's not in my nature to be like that.
So I had vowed never to love again. Just enjoy my sexuality without any attachment."
That's nasty, man, hope you're happier. Been there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A broken heart is harder to cope wiv.
When u r in love wiv sumone and u wld of done anything for them and they dump u. Then uve found out wot a cheat and a liar they r, then that hurts like hell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.
Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.
But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have has my heart ripped out my a girl I loved so unconditionally and never reflected her, always put her first and adored every thing about her only to find she was seeing my best friend for months and then one day told me she was leaving me for him.
I was told by friends that I give too much and trust too easy and need to be selfish as its more attractive. But it's not in my nature to be like that.
So I had vowed never to love again. Just enjoy my sexuality without any attachment."
You feel like that now but in time you will love someone again, you may not expect it, may even deny it but it will happen....as you say it's in your nature x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.
Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.
But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind "
Ah that's sad & very true, think I may change my mind to unrequited love |
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"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.
Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.
But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind "
Yup the dishonesty is hard to swallow, the trust & pain is hell & i don't think the heart ever really mends. Time makes it easier to keep it out your mind though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A broken heart.
With unrequited love you don't actually lose anything.
Although they can be the same thing, you get your heart broken because they no longer love you (one sided love)."
you can lose your sanity wondering what it would have been if the love had been requited. Yearning for someone can last forever |
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I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Are they that different? If your heart is broken your love is no longer requited. If you have been feeling one-sided love it hurts.
You can go on loving but you'll go insane if you stop living and let it stop you loving again. I love everyone I have ever loved as we were then. Time moves on, people change. If the change is mutual you can carry on, if it isn't things start to crack.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity. "
I am absolutely terrified of love. It scares the living daylights out of me. But before I met the man who left me in January I had shut my heart off and was happy with that. He melted it and now its hurt. Love is terrifying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity. "
Thought this was just me.  |
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"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.
Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.
But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind "
Yes, because if there deception involved too then that compounds the injury, in my opinion it is even more damaging. |
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity. "
I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity. "
The longer you live in fear of exposing your emotions the easier it is to live like that and the harder it is to break the habit. I speak from experience and it's not one I would recommend for any of you. |
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity.
I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do."
Yes but sadly when you have tried so much and give all you have in your heart freely and ached for them so hard that you can't breath right, believe in anyone else as much as them and would melt at your core for just a loving smile on their lips and glimmer in their eyes your spent when they smash you and crash your world into a dark cold place where your love gets sealed away.
And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.
No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected  |
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity.
I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.
Yes but sadly when you have tried so much and give all you have in your heart freely and ached for them so hard that you can't breath right, believe in anyone else as much as them and would melt at your core for just a loving smile on their lips and glimmer in their eyes your spent when they smash you and crash your world into a dark cold place where your love gets sealed away.
And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.
No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected "
Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love. |
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity.
I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.
Yes but sadly when you have tried so much and give all you have in your heart freely and ached for them so hard that you can't breath right, believe in anyone else as much as them and would melt at your core for just a loving smile on their lips and glimmer in their eyes your spent when they smash you and crash your world into a dark cold place where your love gets sealed away.
And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.
No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected
Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love."
Only if you wish to expose your heart and I don't. No ones gonna get a second Stab at it, ever. |
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity.
I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.
Yes but sadly when you have tried so much and give all you have in your heart freely and ached for them so hard that you can't breath right, believe in anyone else as much as them and would melt at your core for just a loving smile on their lips and glimmer in their eyes your spent when they smash you and crash your world into a dark cold place where your love gets sealed away.
And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.
No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected
Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love.
Only if you wish to expose your heart and I don't. No ones gonna get a second Stab at it, ever."
Well, some people love and never stab. I still hope one finds me (and you regardless) but I hear what you are saying, it sounded vicious. x |
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"I am totally terrified of falling in love again and if someone did suddenly appear in my life that I should fall for, I think the pain and hardened caution and fear of heartbreak would cause me to turn away from the chance and opportunity.
I can understand that, but I hope you don't, it's so sad when that happens. They do say at the end of our lives we will most regret the things we didn't do.
Yes but sadly when you have tried so much and give all you have in your heart freely and ached for them so hard that you can't breath right, believe in anyone else as much as them and would melt at your core for just a loving smile on their lips and glimmer in their eyes your spent when they smash you and crash your world into a dark cold place where your love gets sealed away.
And you know you just could never ever survive that wrenching pain again.
No, I am safe and cozy with my heart securely hidden and protected
Yea, but in order to open your heart to BE loved, you first have to expose it. That's the point - we need to feel the love, not the pain. We may fear the pain, but we still need the love.
Only if you wish to expose your heart and I don't. No ones gonna get a second Stab at it, ever.
Well, some people love and never stab. I still hope one finds me (and you regardless) but I hear what you are saying, it sounded vicious. x"
I do admire people who are in love and do know it is the most wonderful consuming feeling your heart can know, but I do not trust that a person could love me and never break my heart again. It's called having faith and I don't have any left. But I will always cosmically pray that others find it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have "love like you'll never get hurt" tattooed on my back.
Despite the hurt I've experienced - almost to the point of ending it all - I couldn't live without love in my life. Ever.
Sometimes that's not good for me but the hurt fades and I know I've lived the only way I know how - being a loving person.
Sometimes it may be easier to not be but we all function differently |
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By *andWCouple
over a year ago
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I've never experienced unrequited love, but have a broken heart and it was awful, would never ever want to feel that way again, yet it hasn't stopped me falling completely in love again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Unrequited love everytime.
I have had my heart broken, yes its horrible and debilitating but the hurt fades with time and now i can look back with bittersweet fondness of the times we shared.
Unrequited just gnaws at your heart until the yearning is all consuming and unbearable and never truly leaves you, its also the most dangerous because you reach a point of desperation that you will do anything to get a scrap of attention from them, you start to disregard consequences entirely. |
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"I think unrequited love - when you thought they loved you - could even have told you so. But they didn't.
Ive had my heart broken a few times and that feeling fades after time.
But I'm not sure I will ever get over the one who didn't love me. He made me question my faith in mankind
Yes, because if there deception involved too then that compounds the injury, in my opinion it is even more damaging."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I thought that I would never love again after my ex played away, it took me to a place that I didnt know was there. But I climbed back up in time and met someone whom I let have my heart (looking back maybe it was far to soon) but because of all the hurt that I had suffered before kept flooding back into my life and on occassions made me impossible to be with. I decided that i couldnt put him through anymore and walked away without any really good reason.....
I know that I left a very broken heart behind me and that saddens me but sometimes I think our hearts have to be broken to make us stronger people. But it still hurts like hell !!
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I think there is broken, you can get over but also a broken, that you can't.
I'll go on with life, look for a relationship but never again will i let someone that close to me/my heart.
Caring for someone will be enough. I already have enough love in my life with my beautiful children. |
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